Robinson v. Reif , 21 N.E.3d 787 ( 2014 )


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  •                                   Illinois Official Reports
    Appellate Court
    Robinson v. Reif, 
    2014 IL App (4th) 140244
    Appellate Court              PAUL W. ROBINSON and LINETTE R. ROBINSON, Plaintiffs-
    Caption                      Appellees, v. ANDREW REIF, Defendant-Appellant.
    District & No.               Fourth District
    Docket No. 4-14-0244
    Filed                        November 24, 2014
    Held                         In proceedings under the grandparent visitation statute arising from
    (Note: This syllabus         the death of the mother of two children and the severe injury of their
    constitutes no part of the   father in an automobile accident and the father’s 18-month
    opinion of the court but     rehabilitation while the children lived with plaintiffs, the children’s
    has been prepared by the     maternal grandparents, the trial court’s decision granting plaintiffs
    Reporter of Decisions        visitation was affirmed, since plaintiffs raised the children during their
    for the convenience of       father’s rehabilitation, and even though the subsequent contentious
    the reader.)                 court battle to retain custody soured the relationship between plaintiffs
    and the children’s father and his new wife and confused the children,
    the evidence supported the trial court’s finding that plaintiffs
    demonstrated that the children’s mental, physical, or emotional health
    was harmed by their father’s actions and decisions as to visitation
    times and that any harm that might result from regular visitation with
    plaintiffs was overcome by the harm that would result from
    terminating the bond that was created while the children lived with
    plaintiffs.
    Decision Under               Appeal from the Circuit Court of Macon County, No. 11-F-427; the
    Review                       Hon. James R. Coryell, Judge, presiding.
    Judgment                     Affirmed.
    Counsel on               Andrew D. Bourey, of Bourey Law Offices, of Decatur, for appellant.
    Appeal
    Michael K. Goldberg and Elizabeth E. Stubbins, both of Goldberg
    Law Group, LLC, of Chicago, for appellees.
    Panel                    JUSTICE STEIGMANN delivered the judgment of the court, with
    opinion.
    Presiding Justice Appleton and Justice Turner concurred in the
    judgment and opinion.
    OPINION
    ¶1          In March 2010, a car accident killed 22-year-old Casey Robinson-Reif and left her
    husband, defendant, Andrew Reif, severely injured and in need of prolonged hospitalization
    and rehabilitation. For 18 months thereafter, the couple’s minor children, G.R. (born October
    10, 2007) and E.R. (born August 5, 2009), lived with their maternal grandparents, Paul W.
    Robinson and Linette R. Robinson (collectively, plaintiffs). In August 2011, defendant–now
    recovered and remarried–successfully regained custody of his children after a contentious
    court battle. Defendant and his new wife moved with the children to New Mexico, cutting off
    all contact with plaintiffs.
    ¶2          In September 2011, plaintiffs filed a verified petition for permanent and temporary
    grandparent visitation pursuant to section 607(a-5) of the Illinois Marriage and Dissolution of
    Marriage Act (Act) (commonly known as the grandparent visitation statute) (750 ILCS
    5/607(a-5) (West 2010)). In March 2014, following a November 2013 hearing, the trial court
    granted plaintiffs’ petition and set a visitation schedule.
    ¶3          Defendant appeals, arguing that (1) plaintiffs lacked standing under section 607(a-5)(1) of
    the Act (750 ILCS 5/607(a-5)(1) (West 2010)) because defendant did not unreasonably deny
    visitation and (2) the trial court’s judgment was against the manifest weight of the evidence
    because plaintiffs failed to rebut the statutory presumption that defendant’s actions and
    decisions regarding grandparent visitation were not harmful to the children’s mental, physical,
    or emotional health. We disagree and affirm.
    ¶4                                        I. BACKGROUND
    ¶5        The following facts were gleaned from the parties’ pleadings and other supporting
    documents filed with the trial court, as well as the evidence presented at the November 2013
    hearing on plaintiffs’ petition.
    ¶6                              A. Events Preceding Plaintiffs’ Petition
    ¶7         In December 2006, defendant and Casey married in Decatur. In February 2007, Casey
    moved to El Paso, Texas, to live with defendant, who was stationed at the Army base at Fort
    Bliss. G.R. and E.R. were both born on the base. In March 2010, the family decided that Casey
    and the two children would move back to Illinois. During the drive to Illinois, the family’s
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    car–driven by defendant–was involved in a rollover accident, which resulted in Casey’s death
    and severe injuries to defendant. The children, who were uninjured, lived the next 18 months
    with plaintiffs in Decatur while defendant recovered. After defendant recovered and remarried,
    plaintiffs sought to keep custody of the children. The court battle for custody, which defendant
    ultimately won, caused seemingly irreparable damage to plaintiffs’ relationship with
    defendant. Once defendant settled in New Mexico with his new wife and the children, he
    ignored plaintiffs’ repeated attempts to contact him, eventually changing his phone number.
    ¶8                                B. Plaintiffs’ September 2011 Petition
    ¶9         In September 2011, plaintiffs filed their petition for grandparent visitation pursuant to
    section 607(a-5) of the Act, seeking a permanent visitation order. The petition alleged, in
    pertinent part, that (1) defendant cut off contact with plaintiffs and unreasonably denied
    plaintiffs visitation with the children; (2) the children developed significant mental and
    emotional bonds with plaintiffs; (3) defendant’s termination of plaintiffs’ relationship with the
    children was not in good faith; and (4) the termination of plaintiffs’ relationship with the
    children had caused, and will continue to cause, the children to suffer mentally and
    emotionally. Plaintiffs’ petition set forth 25 specific factual allegations to illustrate the bonds
    that had formed between plaintiffs and the children. (For example, plaintiffs alleged that “[t]he
    minor children enjoyed riding their bikes and planting flowers with [plaintiffs,]” and “[E.R.]
    sometimes called Grandmother, ‘Mommy.’ ”)
    ¶ 10       While plaintiffs’ petition was pending, the trial court allowed (1) weekly phone calls
    between plaintiffs and the children, (2) three personal visits in the Texas/New Mexico area,
    and (3) one personal visit in Decatur, which required plaintiffs to make two round-trip flights
    to El Paso to retrieve and drop off the children.
    ¶ 11                       C. The November 2013 Hearing on Plaintiffs’ Petition
    ¶ 12       In November 2013, after more than two years of continuances, the trial court held a hearing
    on plaintiffs’ petition, at which the parties presented the following evidence.
    ¶ 13                                    1. Plaintiffs’ Evidence
    ¶ 14                                    a. Linette’s Testimony
    ¶ 15       Linette (born August 1969) testified that she and Paul (born June 1971) had been married
    for 20 years. Linette is employed as a clinical pharmacy technician and Paul is a trucking
    supervisor for Archer Daniels Midland Company. Prior to Casey’s death, plaintiffs were very
    close with defendant and the children. The parties would visit each other in El Paso and
    Decatur and make regular phone calls on holidays and birthdays.
    ¶ 16       At 4:45 a.m. on March 12, 2010, police called plaintiffs’ home to inform them that
    defendant, Casey, and the children had been in a rollover accident on Interstate 40 near
    Tucumcari, New Mexico. After plaintiffs pleaded for more information, the officer revealed
    that Casey had died. The children were fine, but defendant had been airlifted in critical
    condition to Amarillo, Texas, and the local authorities would be placing the children in foster
    care for the time being. Within a half hour, plaintiffs were on the road making the 15-hour
    drive from Decatur to Amarillo to retrieve the children. Plaintiffs spent three days in Texas
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    before returning to Decatur. During that time, they visited defendant in the hospital and
    purchased baby formula for E.R., who had until then been nursing from Casey.
    ¶ 17        Defendant suffered serious brain injuries in the accident, which required him to be placed
    in a medically induced coma for two weeks. For the next several months, while defendant was
    hospitalized in Amarillo and Chicago, G.R. would regularly ask plaintiffs where his mother
    was. Plaintiffs would explain that she had gone to heaven and that they missed her too.
    Plaintiffs traveled with the children to the hospital in Amarillo to visit defendant for Easter,
    then to the hospital in Chicago several times to visit defendant while he was in rehabilitation.
    Following his hospitalization in Chicago, defendant spent May and June living in plaintiffs’
    home. At the end of June, the Army recalled defendant to Fort Bliss. According to Linette,
    defendant wanted the children to remain in Decatur with plaintiffs because plaintiffs “were
    doing a great job with [the children] and [defendant] felt comfortable to leave them.”
    ¶ 18        Plaintiffs assumed complete care and parenting responsibilities for the children during the
    18 months following the car accident. This included feeding, toilet training, arranging day
    care, throwing birthday parties, traveling to visit extended family, and taking the children to
    activities such as pottery classes, festivals, children’s museums, and the zoo.
    ¶ 19        When defendant was living with plaintiffs during his recovery, he contributed little to basic
    parenting duties, such as changing diapers or feeding the children. Linette stated that defendant
    would “come and go all hours of the day and night,” and “he didn’t interact with [the children]
    a whole lot.” In late 2010 and the early months of 2011, after defendant had returned to Fort
    Bliss, Linette noticed a change in defendant’s mood. Specifically, defendant became
    “threatening” to plaintiffs and showed signs of depression, hallucinations, forgetfulness, and
    suicidal thoughts. (Linette gleaned much of this information from defendant’s Facebook page.)
    In late January 2011, defendant told plaintiffs that he was in a relationship and he intended to
    take the children with him to Texas. Linette told defendant, who was living in the Fort Bliss
    barracks at the time, that she was not comfortable giving the children to him.
    ¶ 20        In February 2011, defendant married his second wife, Tiffany. Shortly thereafter, plaintiffs
    filed for an emergency order of protection against defendant, which the trial court granted.
    However, plaintiffs soon dropped the emergency order of protection and instead filed a
    renewed petition for temporary guardianship, which the court also granted. (The record before
    us does not contain any pleadings or other court documents from the proceedings on the
    emergency order of protection or the petitions for temporary guardianship.)
    ¶ 21        After the trial court granted plaintiffs’ renewed petition for temporary guardianship in
    March 2011, the litigation over custody of the children continued, with plaintiffs taking the
    position that defendant was not competent to care for the children. In August 2011, after
    defendant took a court-ordered mental evaluation, the trial court returned the children to
    defendant’s custody. Linette testified that the children were upset and crying when they
    learned that they would be returned to defendant. After defendant took custody of the children,
    all his communication with plaintiffs ceased.
    ¶ 22        At the four visits during the pendency of plaintiffs’ petition for grandparent visitation, the
    children were very excited to see plaintiffs. During the Decatur visit in May 2012, defendant’s
    parents (who also lived in Decatur) came to plaintiffs’ home to visit with the children. The
    children slept in their old bedrooms, which plaintiffs had preserved for them. The children
    were upset when it came time to return to El Paso.
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    ¶ 23      At the conclusion of Linette’s testimony, the trial court admitted several pages of photos
    showing the children interacting with plaintiffs. (The photos, which appear to have been taken
    between G.R.’s infancy and the May 2012 visit, generally show the children appearing happy
    and content.)
    ¶ 24                                 b. Mary McMillan’s Testimony
    ¶ 25       Mary McMillan, who had been best friends with Casey, visited plaintiffs’ home almost
    daily after Casey’s death. McMillan testified that during the 18 months following Casey’s
    death, “[plaintiffs] were, for all intents and purposes, the parents.” The children were very
    close with plaintiffs, and they would run to the window whenever they saw Linette or Paul
    arrive home. According to McMillan, when the children visited plaintiffs’ home in May 2012
    after being away since August 2011, “they loved being there. It was as if they never left.”
    McMillan never heard plaintiffs talk poorly about defendant in front of the children.
    ¶ 26                                 c. Shirley Cooper’s Testimony
    ¶ 27       Shirley Cooper, Linette’s mother, was present for the August 2011 transfer of the children
    from plaintiffs’ custody to defendant’s custody. Both children were crying and screaming as
    defendant and Tiffany strapped them into their car seats.
    ¶ 28                                    d. Defendant’s Testimony
    ¶ 29       Defendant, testifying as an adverse witness, stated that he was 26 years old and lived in Las
    Cruces, New Mexico. Defendant acknowledged that plaintiffs and the children love each other.
    However, when asked if he would allow plaintiffs to visit the children if they dismissed their
    petition for grandparent visitation, defendant stated, “we’re in court right now, so I can’t
    answer that question. I have no idea.”
    ¶ 30       On cross-examination by his own counsel, defendant testified that in August 2011, after he
    regained custody of the children, he sent an e-mail to plaintiffs informing them that he had
    changed his phone number and was discontinuing all contact between his family and plaintiffs
    “for the time being.”
    ¶ 31       Defendant also noted that when he and Tiffany retrieved the children after the December
    2011 visit, G.R. was wearing a diaper, despite being completely toilet trained. Following that
    visitation, G.R. began having nightmares and wetting the bed. G.R. would also become scared
    and have nightmares after the weekly phone calls with plaintiffs. Before the children visited
    plaintiffs, defendant would attempt to “hype up” the children and get them excited for the visit.
    However, G.R. would react by becoming sad and having emotional outbursts.
    ¶ 32                                          e. Paul’s Testimony
    ¶ 33       Paul testified that prior to the car accident, he and Linette would video-chat with Casey and
    the children several times each week.
    ¶ 34       Paul further stated that defendant sent his August 2011 e-mail, which informed plaintiffs
    that he was cutting off visitation, to an unused e-mail address belonging to plaintiffs’ adult son,
    Pauley. Paul never received defendant’s August 2011 e-mail.
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    ¶ 35                                   f. Dr. Judy Osgood’s Testimony
    ¶ 36        Dr. Judy Osgood, a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in children and families,
    testified that she believed it was important for plaintiffs to have visitation with the children and
    that a lack of visitation would harm the emotional well-being of the children. Osgood based
    this opinion on (1) her review of the records of the legal proceedings; (2) pictures and videos of
    plaintiffs interacting with the children throughout their lives; (3) entries that defendant posted
    on Facebook in 2011; (4) clinical interviews with Linette, Paul, and Pauley; and (5) the
    evidence depositions of defendant’s expert witnesses (discussed in further detail, below).
    ¶ 37        Osgood opined that plaintiffs are high-functioning, stable, and responsible people. Neither
    presented any risk factors–such as substance abuse, criminal history, domestic violence, or
    mental disorders–to cause Osgood concern regarding visitation. Osgood acknowledged that
    she had never directly spoken with or observed the children. However, the consensus in the
    psychological community is that young children develop attachments to their caregivers, who
    provide consistency, security, trust, and comfort. Based upon her review of photos and videos,
    Osgood concluded that the children understood plaintiffs as their primary caregivers and
    attachment figures during the 18 months following the car accident, which was a “critical
    development stage” for both children. If the children were cut off from plaintiffs, it would
    cause a major disruption in their lives. Further, at least for G.R., who remembers Casey, the
    permanent loss of visitation with plaintiffs would constitute a second major disruption in his
    life after the death of his mother.
    ¶ 38        Osgood further testified that children who have healthy relationships with grandparents
    and other extended family are much more capable of having healthy relationships with others
    as they grow older. On the other hand, according to Osgood, children who experience multiple
    losses of caregivers–such as children in and out of foster care–tend to develop reactive
    attachment disorder, which causes them difficulty in establishing and maintaining new healthy
    relationships.
    ¶ 39        On cross-examination, Osgood acknowledged that it would have been beneficial for her to
    meet the children to determine whether an attachment between plaintiffs and the children
    existed. Ideally, a practitioner would be able to observe the children interacting with both the
    grandparents and the parents for an extended period of time before forming such an opinion.
    Osgood clarified that, assuming plaintiffs’ representations of the facts were accurate, she could
    form an expert opinion as to visitation.
    ¶ 40        At the conclusion of Osgood’s testimony, the trial court admitted without objection a
    12-page “visitation evaluation” prepared by Osgood (dated October 30, 2012), which was
    largely consistent with her testimony. Osgood noted in her report that, according to plaintiffs,
    defendant was not in contact with his own parents (the children’s paternal grandparents).
    ¶ 41                                     2. Defendant’s Evidence
    ¶ 42                                    a. Defendant’s Testimony
    ¶ 43       Defendant testified that plaintiffs disparaged him during the 2011 court proceedings. (We
    again note that the record contains no pleadings, transcripts, or other court documents from
    those proceedings.) In June 2011, on the morning after the trial court ordered plaintiffs to
    return the children to defendant, plaintiffs and defendant sat down for a meeting to discuss the
    transition. Although the court had ordered a 60-day transition period, plaintiffs told defendant
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    that they did not intend to return the children until the evening of the 59th day. Linette further
    told defendant that he “had not suffered enough” and that he remarried too soon. Linette told
    Tiffany that “she would never be a mommy,” and “she would never be able to take care of the
    children” because she was too young and she did not give birth to them. The animosity
    between the parties prevented any agreement as to the terms of the transition.
    ¶ 44       According to defendant, visits and phone calls with plaintiffs were harmful to the children.
    G.R.’s nightmares and bed-wetting always coincided with visits and phone calls with
    plaintiffs. Shortly after the December 2011 visit, defendant placed G.R. in counseling. G.R.’s
    nightmares and bed-wetting became more intense after the May 2011 visit in Decatur. Soon,
    G.R. was seeing a counselor at least once per week. On one occasion, plaintiffs failed to abide
    by defendant’s instructions that E.R. wear a certain brand of diapers and use a certain type of
    medication for diaper rash. When plaintiffs returned E.R. to defendant, she had a diaper rash
    that required a visit to the doctor. During the most recent visit in New Mexico, however, the
    children were allowed to sleep in defendant’s home each night after spending the day with
    plaintiffs. Defendant noticed a “substantial decrease” in G.R.’s nightmares and bed-wetting
    after that visit.
    ¶ 45                                     b. Tiffany’s Testimony
    ¶ 46       Tiffany, who became the adoptive mother of the children in February 2013, testified that
    plaintiffs returned G.R. after the December 2011 visit wearing a diaper, which he had
    completely soiled. At the time, G.R. had already been toilet trained and was used to wearing
    regular underwear. Following the May 2012 visit, as plaintiffs and the children were walking
    toward defendant and Tiffany in the El Paso airport, G.R. wet himself. For several days
    following that visit, G.R. was withdrawn and E.R. was “more sensitive to sounds.”
    ¶ 47                               c. Dr. Robert DelCampo’s Testimony
    ¶ 48       Dr. Robert DelCampo–a marriage and family therapist licensed in New Mexico–testified
    in December 2012 by means of evidence deposition, the transcript of which the trial court
    admitted at the November 2013 hearing.
    ¶ 49       DelCampo testified that between April 2012 and December 2012, he met with defendant,
    Tiffany, and the children together on four or five separate occasions. During those meetings,
    DelCampo would observe defendant and Tiffany interact with the children. DelCampo
    characterized defendant and Tiffany’s parenting as “very positive.”
    ¶ 50       DelCampo admitted that most of his knowledge about the children’s reactions and attitudes
    toward plaintiffs was based upon information provided to him by defendant and Tiffany. In
    summer 2012, defendant informed DelCampo that the children “were having night terrors and
    not wanting to go with [plaintiffs].” According to what DelCampo learned from defendant, the
    children’s problems–specifically, night terrors and bed-wetting–would occur for
    approximately one week before and after visits with plaintiffs. In October 2012, while
    DelCampo was playing a game with G.R., G.R. “in no uncertain terms expressed a reticence to
    want to interact with [plaintiffs].”
    ¶ 51       Based upon his knowledge of the situation, DelCampo opined that “it is traumatic at this
    point in time for the kids to be consorting with [plaintiffs].” Specifically, given the age of the
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    children, it is “grossly inappropriate” for them to stay with plaintiffs for a week at a time with
    no ability to interact with defendant or Tiffany.
    ¶ 52       Contrary to Osgood’s testimony, DelCampo stated that it is “highly improbable” for
    children between six months and four years of age–roughly the ages of E.R. and G.R. when
    they lived with plaintiffs–to develop attachments to primary caregivers. Accordingly,
    DelCampo opined that it would not be harmful for the children to be deprived of visitation with
    plaintiffs. (We note that during the evidence deposition, DelCampo expressed his
    understanding that the children had lived with plaintiffs for less than one year.)
    ¶ 53       On cross-examination, DelCampo acknowledged that (1) he did not observe the children
    interact with plaintiffs and (2) doing so might have affected his opinion.
    ¶ 54                                  d. David Linares’s Testimony
    ¶ 55       David Linares, a licensed professional clinical counselor from New Mexico, worked as a
    therapist for children and families at Fort Bliss. Linares testified in January 2013 by means of
    evidence deposition, the transcript of which the trial court admitted at the November 2013
    hearing. At the time of the deposition, Linares had been meeting with G.R. on a weekly basis
    since July 2012.
    ¶ 56       Tiffany originally brought G.R. in for counseling because he was suffering from night
    terrors and bed-wetting, which Tiffany reported would occur shortly after G.R. spoke with
    plaintiffs. (Defendant attended G.R.’s first therapy session, but none thereafter.) Linares
    diagnosed G.R. with nightmare disorder. G.R.’s nightmares usually involved plaintiffs “trying
    to chase him or get him.” At a session in late July 2012, G.R. reported that in one of his dreams,
    the Flash–a comic book hero–”saved him from the Robinsons.” Linares noted that G.R. calls
    plaintiffs “the Robinsons” instead of grandma and grandpa, or some similar title. When
    Linares asked G.R. why he does this, G.R. stated “that he doesn’t like them and he just wants to
    call them ‘the Robinsons.’ ” G.R. also reported to Linares that plaintiffs tell him that (1) his
    mother is dead and (2) plaintiffs–not Tiffany and defendant–are his real mother and father.
    G.R. told Linares that plaintiffs often tell him to “shut up” and “be quiet,” which hurts his
    feelings and makes him angry.
    ¶ 57       As a treatment goal for G.R., Linares wanted G.R. to express his feelings and explore his
    “inner world.” However, Linares stated that this goal “has been a little bit complicated by his
    mother, Tiffany, not wanting to reveal to him that she is the stepmother.” Linares elaborated, as
    follows: “[G.R.] has this question that directly crosses his feelings regarding ‘why are
    [plaintiffs] in my life?’ And the most that he knows is that they’re the grandparents. But he
    relates grandparents to the Reifs [(defendant’s parents)]. So that creates confusion.” Early in
    G.R.’s therapy, Linares “noticed that Tiffany would talk about [plaintiffs] kind of negatively in
    that she would sigh when talking about them. She didn’t smile or have any kind of positive
    affect toward them.” Because children can assimilate those negative attitudes for themselves,
    Linares encouraged Tiffany and defendant to present a positive attitude when speaking with
    the children about plaintiffs. Tiffany and defendant reported to Linares they have taken his
    advice, and it is helping.
    ¶ 58       Although G.R. has made improvements in his therapy, he still regresses after having
    contact with plaintiffs. Linares also noted, however, that until approximately one or two
    months before the January 2013 evidence deposition, G.R. was under the impression that
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    plaintiffs were trying to gain full custody over him and E.R. G.R. did not understand that the
    instant court case involved only visitation rights.
    ¶ 59       In September 2012, Linares decided to make phone contact with plaintiffs, which he
    explained, as follows:
    “I typically don’t do mediation, but I thought maybe if I could talk to the
    grandparents, I could refer them to a mediator with [defendant and Tiffany]. And I
    spoke to [plaintiffs] on the phone, and they seemed to be very pleasant people. They
    wanted to meet me. I was agreeable to that. They came down for a visit.
    However, between the time that I spoke to them and the time they came down for a
    visit, [defendant] forbade me from being able to meet with them. He had felt that I had
    fallen into their trap, so to speak, and I have been taken in by them. And he informed
    me that after going through such a long court process and spending so much money,
    that he would want to get this resolved. He did not want to mediate anything.”
    ¶ 60       Contrary to DelCampo’s testimony, Linares testified that children the ages of G.R. and
    E.R. do form attachments to caregivers. Research indicates that attachments take between two
    months and two years to form. Although Linares opined that G.R. formed an attachment to
    plaintiffs, Linares concluded that whatever attachment existed was either very poor or
    altogether broken because G.R. clearly dislikes plaintiffs and does not want to see them.
    Because contact with plaintiffs “hurts” G.R., Linares recommended that no visitation between
    plaintiffs and G.R. occur for “at least a period of a few years.”
    ¶ 61       Linares acknowledged that although he has had no direct interaction with E.R., his
    recommendation would likely be the same for her.
    ¶ 62       On cross-examination, Linares admitted that if G.R. formed an attachment to plaintiffs,
    defendant’s and Tiffany’s negative comments about plaintiffs–if any–could have a “moderate
    to a very heavy effect on that bond *** because [G.R.] is so young that he can still be
    indoctrinated for certain beliefs.” In any event, regardless of whether G.R.’s attitude toward
    plaintiffs is justified, or the product of defendant and Tiffany’s indoctrination, Linares was
    certain that G.R. viewed his relationship with plaintiffs in a very negative light.
    ¶ 63                                     3. The Trial Court’s Ruling
    ¶ 64       In February 2014, after reviewing the transcripts of the evidence depositions and hearing
    the parties’ arguments, the trial court granted plaintiffs’ petition for grandparent visitation. The
    court found–based upon “common sense” and Osgood’s testimony (which the court found
    credible)–that the children had formed an attachment to plaintiffs during the 18 months that
    they lived together. Accordingly, plaintiffs had rebutted the presumption that defendant’s
    decision to cut off visitation was not harmful to the children.
    ¶ 65       In March 2014, the trial court entered a written order, which provided that plaintiffs shall
    have the following visitation rights as to the children: (1) a weekly, unsupervised phone call;
    (2) a seven-day visit every June in Decatur; and (3) weekend visits in New Mexico once every
    April, October, and December.
    ¶ 66       This appeal followed.
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    ¶ 67                                         II. ANALYSIS
    ¶ 68       Defendant argues that (1) plaintiffs lacked standing under section 607(a-5)(1) of the Act
    because defendant did not unreasonably deny visitation; and (2) the trial court’s judgment was
    against the manifest weight of the evidence because plaintiffs failed to rebut the statutory
    presumption that defendant’s actions and decisions regarding grandparent visitation were not
    harmful to the children’s mental, physical, or emotional health. We address defendant’s
    arguments in turn.
    ¶ 69                          A. Standing Under Section 607(a-5)(1) of the Act
    ¶ 70       Defendant argues that plaintiffs lack standing under section 607(a-5)(1) of the Act, which
    provides, in pertinent part, as follows:
    “Except as otherwise provided in this subsection (a-5), any grandparent,
    great-grandparent, or sibling may file a petition for visitation rights to a minor child if
    there is an unreasonable denial of visitation by a parent and at least one of the following
    conditions exists:
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    (a-5) the child’s other parent is deceased or has been missing for at least 3
    months.” 750 ILCS 5/607(a-5)(1) (West 2010).
    Although defendant concedes that the children’s other parent (Casey) is deceased, he contends
    that plaintiffs lack standing because no “unreasonable denial of visitation” existed. Plaintiffs
    argue that defendant forfeited this standing argument by failing to raise it in a timely manner in
    the trial court. We agree with plaintiffs.
    ¶ 71       “Under Illinois law, lack of standing is an affirmative defense, which is the defendant’s
    burden to plead and prove.” Lebron v. Gottlieb Memorial Hospital, 
    237 Ill. 2d 217
    , 252, 
    930 N.E.2d 895
    , 916 (2010). “[A] lack of standing will be forfeited if not raised in a timely manner
    in the trial court [citations].” 
    Id. at 252-53
    , 
    930 N.E.2d at 916
    .
    ¶ 72       In this case, defendant waited until closing arguments in February 2014–2½ years after
    plaintiffs filed their petition for grandparent visitation–before arguing that visitation was not
    unreasonably denied. Even then, defendant did not couch his argument in terms of “standing”
    (he never uttered the word). Instead, defendant contended that an unreasonable denial of
    visitation was a “part of the test” for obtaining grandparent visitation, which plaintiffs had
    failed to prove. By the time of closing arguments in February 2014, the parties had (1) filed
    multiple pretrial motions, (2) hired expert witnesses, (3) conducted two evidence depositions,
    and (4) engaged in a full evidentiary hearing. Even if defendant’s closing argument could be
    construed as raising an objection to plaintiffs’ standing, that objection was clearly untimely.
    Accordingly, defendant has forfeited his objection to plaintiffs’ standing under section
    607(a-5)(1) of the Act. (We note that defendant declined to file a reply brief responding to
    plaintiffs’ forfeiture argument.)
    ¶ 73       We also note that even if defendant had preserved his objection under section 607(a-5)(1)
    of the Act, the record contains sufficient evidence to support a finding that defendant
    unreasonably denied visitation. Although both parties could have approached the situation
    more diplomatically, defendant terminated all visitation after plaintiffs had spent the past 18
    months taking on full parenting responsibilities for defendant’s children, even after defendant
    had returned to health. Given Casey’s death, as well as the intimate relationship that must have
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    existed between the children and plaintiffs for 18 months, the court could have concluded that
    it was unreasonable for defendant to completely cut ties with plaintiffs immediately upon
    obtaining custody of the children.
    ¶ 74                         B. Visitation Under Section 607(a-5)(4) of the Act
    ¶ 75        Defendant next argues that the trial court’s judgment was against the manifest weight of
    the evidence. Specifically, defendant contends that plaintiffs failed to rebut the statutory
    presumption that defendant’s actions and decisions regarding grandparent visitation were not
    harmful to the children’s mental, physical, or emotional health. That presumption is contained
    in section 607(a-5)(3) of the Act, which provides as follows:
    “In making a determination under this subsection (a-5), there is a rebuttable
    presumption that a fit parent’s actions and decisions regarding grandparent,
    great-grandparent, or sibling visitation are not harmful to the child’s mental, physical,
    or emotional health. The burden is on the party filing a petition under this Section to
    prove that the parent’s actions and decisions regarding visitation times are harmful to
    the child’s mental, physical, or emotional health.” 750 ILCS 5/607(a-5)(3) (West
    2010).
    ¶ 76        This statutory presumption reflects the United States Supreme Court’s decision in Troxel v.
    Granville, 
    530 U.S. 57
    , 68 (2000), which recognized “a presumption that fit parents act in the
    best interests of their children.” That presumption derives from the due process clause of the
    fourteenth amendment to the United States Constitution (U.S. Const., amend. XIV), which
    “protects the fundamental right of parents to make decisions concerning the care, custody, and
    control of their children.” Troxel, 
    530 U.S. at 66
    ; see Flynn v. Henkel, 
    227 Ill. 2d 176
    , 181, 
    880 N.E.2d 166
    , 169 (2007).
    ¶ 77        In Troxel, the Supreme Court struck down a Washington state statute that allowed any
    person to seek court-ordered visitation with a child if visitation would “serve the best interest
    of the child.” (Internal quotation marks omitted.) Troxel, 
    530 U.S. at 67
    . The Supreme Court
    held that the Washington statute contravened the presumption that a fit parent makes decisions
    in the best interest of the child because it placed the best interest determination solely in the
    hands of a judge, without affording any special weight to the parent’s determination. 
    Id.
     In so
    holding, the Troxel Court further noted that the grandparents in that case never alleged that the
    fit parent altogether denied visitation. 
    Id. at 71
    . The Court cited visitation statutes from other
    states requiring a showing that the parent had denied visitation (or unreasonably denied
    visitation) to the concerned third party. 
    Id. at 70
    .
    ¶ 78        In the wake of Troxel, the Illinois Supreme Court struck down section 607(b)(1) of the
    Act–this state’s former grandparent visitation statute–because, like the Washington statute at
    issue in Troxel, it “expose[d] the decision of a fit parent to the unfettered value judgment of a
    judge and the intrusive micromanaging of the state.” Wickham v. Byrne, 
    199 Ill. 2d 309
    , 320,
    
    769 N.E.2d 1
    , 8 (2002). In response to Wickham, the General Assembly passed Public Act
    93-911 (eff. Jan. 1, 2005), which amended section 607 of the Act to reflect the constitutional
    requirements set forth in Troxel and Wickham. Specifically, Public Act 93-911 added (1) the
    statutory presumption that a fit parent’s decisions regarding visitation are not harmful to the
    child (750 ILCS 5/607(a-5)(3) (West 2010)), (2) the requirement that the concerned third party
    be unreasonably denied visitation before filing a petition (750 ILCS 5/670(a-5)(1) (West
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    2010)), and (3) the following list of factors that the trial court “shall consider” in determining
    whether to grant visitation:
    “(A) the preference of the child if the child is determined to be of sufficient
    maturity to express a preference;
    (B) the mental and physical health of the child;
    (C) the mental and physical health of the grandparent, great-grandparent, or sibling;
    (D) the length and quality of the prior relationship between the child and the
    grandparent, great-grandparent, or sibling;
    (E) the good faith of the party in filing the petition;
    (F) the good faith of the person denying visitation;
    (G) the quantity of the visitation time requested and the potential adverse impact
    that visitation would have on the child’s customary activities;
    (H) whether the child resided with the petitioner for at least 6 consecutive months
    with or without the current custodian present;
    (I) whether the petitioner had frequent or regular contact or visitation with the child
    for at least 12 consecutive months;
    (J) any other fact that establishes that the loss of the relationship between the
    petitioner and the child is likely to harm the child’s mental, physical, or emotional
    health; and
    (K) whether the grandparent, great-grandparent, or sibling was a primary caretaker
    of the child for a period of not less than 6 consecutive months.” 750 ILCS 5/607(a-5)(4)
    (West 2010).
    With the pertinent provisions and the constitutional underpinnings of the grandparent
    visitation statute in mind, we now turn to the trial court’s judgment in this case.
    ¶ 79                                       1. Standard of Review
    ¶ 80       The supreme court has explained the standard of review applicable to the trial court’s
    judgment under section 607(a-5) of the Act, as follows:
    “Section 607(a-5)(3) [of the Act] places the burden on the party filing the visitation
    petition to prove that the parent’s actions and decisions regarding visitation times are
    harmful to the child’s mental, physical, or emotional health. A trial court’s
    determination that a fit parent’s decision regarding whether grandparent visitation is or
    is not harmful to the child’s mental, physical, or emotional health will not be disturbed
    on review unless it is contrary to the manifest weight of the evidence.” Flynn, 
    227 Ill. 2d at 181
    , 
    880 N.E.2d at 169
    .
    “A finding is against the manifest weight of the evidence only if the opposite conclusion is
    clearly evident or if the finding itself is unreasonable, arbitrary, or not based on the evidence
    presented.” Best v. Best, 
    223 Ill. 2d 342
    , 350, 
    860 N.E.2d 240
    , 245 (2006).
    ¶ 81                       2. The Evidence Presented and the Statutory Factors
    ¶ 82       Initially, we note that plaintiffs’ evidence and defendant’s evidence painted two drastically
    different pictures of the children’s relationship with plaintiffs. If plaintiffs’ witnesses are to be
    believed, the children greatly enjoy being with their loving, nurturing grandparents. On the
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    other hand, if defendant’s witnesses are to be believed, plaintiffs are so nasty to the children
    that G.R. has nightmares just from talking to them on the phone. The trial court heard live
    testimony from defendant, Tiffany, both plaintiffs, and two witnesses who observed the
    children interact with plaintiffs. The court read the evidence-deposition transcripts of both of
    defendant’s expert witnesses, and it heard the live testimony of plaintiffs’ expert witness.
    When presented with a record such as this, we are mindful that “[b]ecause the trial court has
    the best opportunity to observe the demeanor and conduct of the parties and witnesses, it is in
    the best position to determine the credibility and weight to be given to the witnesses’
    testimony.” In re Stephen K., 
    373 Ill. App. 3d 7
    , 20, 
    867 N.E.2d 81
    , 94 (2007).
    ¶ 83       Defendant relies upon the supreme court’s decision in Flynn, which reversed the trial and
    appellate courts, concluding that the grandmother in that case failed to rebut the presumption
    that the fit mother’s denial of visitation was not harmful to the child. Specifically, defendant
    cites the following passage from Flynn:
    “Neither denial of an opportunity for grandparent visitation, *** nor a child ‘never
    knowing a grandparent who loved him and who did not undermine the child’s
    relationship with his mother,’ *** is ‘harm’ that will rebut the presumption stated in
    section 607(a-5)(3) [of the Act] that a fit parent’s denial of a grandparent’s visitation is
    not harmful to the child’s mental, physical, or emotional health.” Flynn, 
    227 Ill. 2d at 184
    , 
    880 N.E.2d at 171
    .
    ¶ 84       In Flynn, however, “the trial court did not make any specific findings as to how [the
    grandmother] had overcome the statutory presumption that [the mother’s] decisions regarding
    grandparent visitation were not harmful to [the child’s] mental, physical, or emotional health.”
    
    Id. at 180
    , 
    880 N.E.2d at 168
    . This is a critical distinction between Flynn and the facts of the
    case before us. In Flynn, the trial court made the following general statement at the close of
    evidence and arguments:
    “ ‘Based on the testimony presented[,] the Court finds that the petitioner has met her
    burden. The harm in this case is not something that you can put in the sense of a direct
    emotional harm. It’s a direct denial of an opportunity that every grandparent according
    to this statute is entitled to.’ ” 
    Id. at 179
    , 
    880 N.E.2d at 168
    .
    The Second District appellate court affirmed the trial court’s judgment in Flynn, holding as
    follows:
    “The harm that [the child] would suffer if there were no visitation can be inferred
    from the evidence. As the trial court stated, it ‘is not something that you can put in the
    sense of a direct emotional harm.’ However, [the grandmother’s] love for [the child] is
    manifest in the record. *** If [the grandmother] were denied visitation, [the child]
    would be harmed by never knowing a grandparent who loved him and who did not
    undermine the child’s relationship with his mother.” Flynn v. Henkel, 
    369 Ill. App. 3d 328
    , 335, 
    859 N.E.2d 1063
    , 1068 (2006), rev’d, 
    227 Ill. 2d 176
    , 
    880 N.E.2d 166
    (2007).
    ¶ 85       Rejecting this reasoning, the supreme court in Flynn noted that the grandmother “did not
    present any evidence to show that denial of visitation with her would result in harm to [the
    child’s] mental, physical, or emotional health. The only evidence pertaining to harm [the child]
    would experience from the denial of visitation with his grandmother came from [the mother],
    who was asked, ‘Do you believe it would be harmful for [the child] not to see [the
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    grandmother] and visit with her?’ and she answered, ‘No.’ ” Flynn, 
    227 Ill. 2d at 184
    , 
    880 N.E.2d at 170
    .
    ¶ 86       In this case, however, plaintiffs presented expert testimony from Osgood, who explained
    the psychological community’s consensus that young children develop attachments to primary
    caregivers. Because E.R. and G.R. spent 18 months with plaintiffs during a “critical
    development stage,” Osgood opined that the children formed an attachment to plaintiffs.
    Osgood based this opinion, in part, on her clinical interviews with plaintiffs and her review of
    photos and videos of the children interacting with plaintiffs. Given the existence of this
    caregiver attachment, Osgood concluded that depriving the children of all visitation with
    plaintiffs would cause a major disruption in their lives that would be damaging emotionally.
    ¶ 87       Osgood further described how terminating the children’s relationship with plaintiffs could
    lead to reactive attachment disorder, which could cause them difficulty in establishing and
    maintaining new healthy relationships in the future. The trial court, noting that Osgood’s
    testimony was credible, specifically found that (1) the children had formed a bond with
    plaintiffs and (2) it would be harmful to the children if their relationship with plaintiffs ceased
    to exist.
    ¶ 88       Defendant argues that the trial court should have based its ruling on the testimony of his
    experts, who actually met the children. However, although plaintiff’s expert, Osgood, may
    have been better informed if she had met the children, we believe (and the trial court could
    have concluded) that defendant’s experts may have been better informed if they had met
    plaintiffs. Indeed, all of the three experts acknowledged to some degree that their opinions
    were based on limited information because they did not have an opportunity to observe all the
    relevant parties interacting together. This case presents a classic example of a “battle of the
    experts.” The experts, all qualified in their respective fields, gave differing statements of fact
    and opinion regarding whether the children would be harmed if they were deprived of
    visitation with plaintiffs. As the supreme court has warned, “a ‘battle of the experts’ is a
    situation in which reviewing courts are especially loathe to second-guess the findings made by
    the trier of fact.” Avery v. State Farm Mutual Automobile Insurance Co., 
    216 Ill. 2d 100
    , 216,
    
    835 N.E.2d 801
    , 870 (2005).
    ¶ 89       In his brief to this court, defendant further asserts–as if it were an undisputed fact–that
    plaintiffs caused G.R. to suffer from nightmares and bed-wetting. However, DelCampo and
    Linares both admitted that most of their knowledge about G.R.’s reactions to plaintiffs was
    based upon the reports of defendant and Tiffany. In other words, neither DelCampo nor
    Linares had personal knowledge that G.R.’s nightmares and bed-wetting corresponded in time
    with visits or phone calls from plaintiffs. Yet DelCampo and Linares based their ultimate
    conclusions, in part, on the assumption that defendant and Tiffany were accurately reporting
    the timing and severity of G.R.’s nighttime problems. At the hearing, the trial court was able to
    judge the credibility of defendant and Tiffany’s claims regarding G.R.’s nightmares and
    bed-wetting. Although the court did not address whether it found defendant or Tiffany
    credible, our standard of review counsels against our blindly accepting defendant and
    Tiffany’s assertions as true, especially when those assertions may be inconsistent with the trial
    court’s ultimate decision.
    ¶ 90       Assuming G.R.’s nighttime problems did actually correspond in time with visits and phone
    calls from plaintiffs, the trial court could have reasonably concluded that plaintiffs were not the
    primary cause of those problems. By all accounts, the children were happy and healthy during
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    the 18 months they lived with plaintiffs. It was not until defendant regained custody of the
    children and visits with plaintiffs became contentious that G.R. began suffering from
    nightmares and bed-wetting. Osgood stated that “messages by [defendant and Tiffany]
    probably have a lot to do with [G.R.] having nightmares.” Linares acknowledged the
    possibility that indoctrination by defendant and Tiffany contributed to G.R.’s negative feelings
    toward plaintiffs. Notably, Linares described his only interaction with plaintiffs (his
    September 2012 phone call to Linette) as follows:
    “It was a pleasant conversation. The grandmother informed me that the things that
    [G.R.] was saying just weren’t true, that things might be misconstrued or thoughts put
    into his head by [defendant and Tiffany]. She informed me she was working a second
    job to pay for her lawyer. And I thought that was very, very sweet. She was very
    pleasant. We had a good conversation overall. And I informed them how the dynamic,
    how this might be hurting [G.R.]”
    ¶ 91       In this case, the trial court heard evidence that defendant and Tiffany said and did things
    which caused the children to view plaintiffs in a negative light. When defendant and Tiffany
    took Linares’s advice that they present a positive attitude of plaintiffs to the children, things
    changed for the better. This suggests that defendant and Tiffany’s actions and decisions–not
    just those of the plaintiffs–were partially to blame for the mental and emotional harm to the
    children.
    ¶ 92       The trial court had an opportunity to observe both parents and grandparents in person,
    study their demeanor, and listen to their testimony. The court was in a better position than
    Linares or DelCampo (or this court, for that matter) to judge whether defendant’s actions and
    decisions regarding visitation were harmful to the children. Implicit in the court’s judgment is
    the finding that whatever harm might come to the children from regular visitation with
    plaintiffs is overcome by the harm that would result from terminating the unique
    grandparent-grandchild relationship at issue in this case.
    ¶ 93       The evidence presented, although conflicting in many important respects, clearly
    established that plaintiffs raised the children, as if their own, for 18 months following Casey’s
    tragic death and defendant’s hospitalization. Plaintiffs’ reluctance to give up the children,
    coupled with the ensuing court battle to retain custody, understandably soured defendant’s
    relationship with plaintiffs. Perhaps unintentionally, the negativity between defendant and
    plaintiffs was impressed upon the children, who were undoubtedly overwhelmed and confused
    as to the true makeup of their family. The bad blood between plaintiffs and defendant affected
    the children’s mental and emotional health. The parties blame each other for this. Although a
    father’s actions and decisions concerning the care, custody, and control of his children are
    presumptively valid, defendant’s actions and decisions in this case were animated by factors
    other than the children’s best interests. Although both parties might have good reasons for
    resenting each other, section 607(a-5) of the Act focuses on the harm to the children.
    ¶ 94       The trial court in this case found that plaintiffs met their burden of demonstrating that
    defendant’s “actions and decisions regarding visitation times are harmful to the child[ren]’s
    mental, physical, or emotional health” (750 ILCS 5/607(a-5)(3) (West 2010)). The court found
    that the children had formed an attachment to plaintiffs, which, if broken, would cause the
    children emotional harm. Based upon our thorough review of the record, we conclude that the
    court’s judgment was not against the manifest weight of the evidence.
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    ¶ 95                                   III. CONCLUSION
    ¶ 96   For the reasons stated, we affirm the trial court’s judgment.
    ¶ 97   Affirmed.
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