In the Interest of J.B., Minor Child ( 2022 )


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  •                     IN THE COURT OF APPEALS OF IOWA
    No. 21-1420
    Filed March 30, 2022
    IN THE INTEREST OF J.B.,
    Minor Child,
    T.B., Mother,
    Petitioner-Appellant,
    C.B., Father,
    Respondent-Appellee.
    ________________________________________________________________
    Appeal from the Iowa District Court for Polk County, Coleman McAllister,
    Judge.
    The mother appeals the dismissal of her petition to terminate the father’s
    rights in a chapter 600A proceeding.      REVERSED AND REMANDED WITH
    DIRECTIONS.
    Benjamin Folladori of Marberry Law Firm, P.C., Urbandale, for appellant.
    Jason T. Carlstrom, Des Moines, for appellee.
    Brittany Sandler of Stamatelos & Tollakson, West Des Moines, attorney and
    guardian ad litem for minor child.
    Considered by Tabor, P.J., Greer, J., and Potterfield, S.J.*
    *Senior judge assigned by order pursuant to Iowa Code section 602.9206
    (2022).
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    POTTERFIELD, Senior Judge.
    The mother of J.B. appeals the district court’s denial of her petition to
    terminate the father’s parental rights under Iowa Code chapter 600A (2021). She
    contends the petition should have been granted because the father abandoned
    J.B. within the meaning of section 600A.8(3)(b) and termination of his rights is in
    J.B.’s best interests. She also maintains she should not be required to pay for the
    father’s appellate attorney fees.
    I. Background Facts and Proceedings.
    The parents were in an on-again, off-again relationship for more than ten
    years; they never married. During that time, they had a child in 2005 and then
    J.B., who was born in 2013.1 The mother also had a child in 2010; this child is not
    the father’s.2 Both parents, J.B.’s two older siblings, and J.B. lived together from
    his birth until the parents’ relationship ended for good in April 2014—when J.B.
    was approximately one year old.
    In July 2015, the mother married W.B. He shares a close relationship with
    J.B. and would like to adopt the child.
    The mother filed a petition to terminate the father’s parental rights in March
    2021, and the termination trial took place over two days: June 14 and 25.
    The mother, the children, and the stepfather live together in Des Moines.
    The father—living with his grandmother—also resides in Des Moines. Still, the
    1  The mother did not petition to terminate the father’s rights to the oldest child,
    citing the fact that he was already sixteen years old at the time of the termination
    trial and the oldest child did not want the father’s rights to be terminated.
    2 While the middle child has a different biological father, the mother and the father
    reconciled while the mother was still pregnant with the middle child, and it seems
    the father and his relatives have always treated the middle child as family.
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    mother testified the father saw J.B. ten times or less in the year leading up to the
    trial.3 She testified the older two children go visit at the great-grandmother’s home
    more often than J.B., who would rather stay home with the mother and stepfather.
    When the children do visit the great-grandmother’s home, it is because the great-
    grandmother and the mother set up visits—the father takes only a passive role.
    The mother and stepfather both testified there are times the children return from
    visits—including visits J.B. attended—and report the father was either not present
    or was sleeping in the basement throughout their time there. J.B.’s guardian ad
    litem (GAL) reported to the court that the children made similar statements to her.
    In his testimony, the father agreed he does not contact the mother or
    stepfather for visits but testified his lack of contact is to avoid conflict. He claimed
    he saw the children from Friday through Monday every weekend for the first couple
    years after he and the mother ended their relationship before it went to alternating
    weekends. He maintained they continued alternating weekends until the mother
    filed the termination petition, at which time she cut off contact. The father testified
    that when he had the children for the weekends, he would take them to school on
    Monday mornings. But, when asked later, the father testified he only learned J.B.’s
    teacher’s name during the stepfather’s testimony and then admitted, “I don’t even
    know what school my kid even goes to.” The father agreed he never attended a
    parent/teacher conference and does not have any knowledge about J.B.’s grades.
    He also does not schedule or attend doctor appointments for J.B and testified he
    was not aware of any health issues with which J.B. may have been diagnosed.
    3There is no custody or visitation order in this case; visitation between the father
    and J.B. has been at the parents’ discretion.
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    When the father was asked specifically about whether J.B. has been diagnosed
    with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, the father said he knew about that. The
    father admitted he did not buy J.B. a birthday or Christmas present in the year
    leading up to the trial and agreed he only communicates with J.B. at visits—no
    phone calls, emails, or letters.
    The mother introduced into evidence the father’s child support payment
    record, which showed the father was $3275 in arrears—for his combined obligation
    for the oldest child and J.B. At the first day of the trial, the father testified he was
    employed for the last three months and was working fifty to sixty hours per week,
    earning $14 per hour. However, he had not updated the Child Support Recovery
    Unit regarding his recent employment, made any payments toward his back child
    support, or otherwise financially assisted the mother for J.B.’s needs. This was
    the father’s first job since he was employed for a short stint in 2020; the child-
    support record shows the father had wages withheld from only two paychecks in
    2020. During cross-examination, the father testified:
    Q. Okay. You’d agree that you have the ability to work right
    now? You don’t have any physical ailments? A. No, I don’t.
    Q. Don’t have any mental disabilities that prevent you from
    working? A. No, I don’t.
    Q. And in the past, have you ever suffered from any physical
    disabilities that have prevented you from working? A. No, I haven’t.
    Q. If you can quantify since 2015, have you been employed
    more often than not or less often? A. It’s in between.
    In the eleven days between the first and second day of trial, the father was
    arrested for possession of methamphetamine, second offense; possession of drug
    paraphernalia; and a probation violation. He was held in jail a number of days and
    lost his job as a result.          The father admitted to previously purchasing
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    methamphetamine. But when asked about the new, outstanding charges, the
    father denied that the methamphetamine found in the vehicle belonged to him.
    And when the mother’s attorney began to ask the father about the drug
    paraphernalia, the father’s attorney interjected, and the father spoke with his
    attorney off the record. When he returned, the father invoked his right not to
    incriminate himself. The court confirmed the father would not answer any further
    questions about the pending charges, and then the mother’s attorney moved onto
    a different topic.
    The paternal grandmother also testified at trial, stating she and J.B.’s
    mother had been close friends before the mother filed the petition to terminate the
    father’s rights—which took place in March 2021. She testified she no longer gets
    along with the mother “since this custody issue stuff, but before that, she was like
    my best friend, and then her whole attitude changed. We would do garage sales,
    barbecues, I’ve went to her mom’s house . . . , but since all this, no. We don’t have
    no contact. We don’t talk. We don’t do nothing.” Yet she also testified the mother
    contacted her in April and asked her to figure out how much it would cost for the
    mother to divorce the stepfather.
    The GAL filed a report with the court, in which she supported granting the
    mother’s petition to terminate. She noted the father was “behind on his child
    support obligation and has made minimal efforts since 2019 to stay current and/or
    get caught up on” the obligation. She explained that J.B. sees his stepfather as
    his “dad” and calls him that. J.B. expressed that he wants to be adopted by his
    stepfather and take his stepfather’s name; the stepfather “has been the constant
    in [J.B.’s] life since he was approximately one-year old.”
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    In a written ruling, the district court denied the mother’s petition to terminate
    the father’s rights, stating in part:
    In general, the three boys ([J.B.] and his two brothers) would go to
    [their paternal great-grandmother’s] residence on a once a month or
    perhaps more frequent basis. Sometimes not all three of the boys
    would go on each visitation.
    ....
    [The mother] argues that the facts establish that [the father]
    has abandoned [J.B.] in several respects. First, [she] contends that
    [the father] has not financially contributed toward [J.B.’s] support by
    paying his court ordered child support obligation in full. In reviewing
    the evidence presented, while it is clear that [the father] has not paid
    100% of the child support he owes, he has paid approximately 90%
    of his child support obligation. [The mother] correctly points out that
    [the father’s] payments are irregular and mostly the result of withheld
    tax refunds. As a result, [she] does not have the benefit of regular
    payments. Nevertheless, the Court concludes that [the father] has
    substantially complied with paying for the reasonable support of
    [J.B.] Consequently, [the mother] has not proved by clear and
    convincing evidence that [the father] has failed to reasonably
    financially support [J.B.]
    [The mother] next contends that [the father] has abandoned
    [J.B.] by failing to visit [him] at least monthly and by failing to regularly
    communicate with [him]. The evidence was clear that [the parents’]
    relationship is strained. They do not effectively co-parent. [The
    mother] responsibly provides for all [J.B.’s] healthcare and
    educational needs without any assistance from [the father] who
    seems to have little interest in [the child’s] healthcare and
    educational needs. [The father] attempted to explain this disinterest
    in two ways. First, he testified that he trusts [the mother] to
    appropriately provide for [J.B.’s] needs. Secondly, [he] explained
    that due to his poor relationship with [the mother], and in an effort to
    avoid further confrontations with her, he simply allows [the mother]
    to take care of such matters to her satisfaction and he does not
    question her. While perhaps not the most responsible choice, the
    Court found [the father’s] explanation to be a credible explanation
    albeit a misguided view of his responsibilities as a co parent.
    . . . It seems clear that within the past year, [the father] has
    seen [J.B.] less frequently than one time a month, however, it may
    be approaching once a month on average that he sees [the child].
    ....
    [The mother] has the burden of proof in this case. After
    hearing all of the evidence, the Court cannot conclude that [she] has
    shown by clear and convincing evidence that [the father] has
    abandoned his child within the meaning of § 600A.8(3)(b). [The
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    father] certainly has had contact with [J.B.], limited though it may be.
    [He] loves and cares for [J.B.]. Therefore, on the record presented,
    the Court cannot conclude that clear and convincing evidence
    supports a finding that [the father] has not maintained “substantial
    and continuous or repeated contact with the child.” . . .
    ....
    In this case, [the mother’s] main argument for finding that
    termination is in [the child’s] best interest is that [he] considers his
    stepfather his “Dad” and he wants his stepfather to adopt him.
    However, the stability of [the mother’s] and [stepfather’s] marriage
    was seriously called into question by the testimony of [the paternal
    grandmother]. She indicated that as recently as a few months ago
    [the mother] was exploring getting a divorce from [the stepfather].
    While [the mother] unequivocally denied this allegation, [the
    grandmother] was firm in her testimony and the Court cannot
    conclude that she was not credible. The possibility that [the
    stepfather] will not be a part of [J.B.’s] future certainly cuts against a
    finding that termination of parental rights is in [J.B.’s] best interests.
    In analyzing the best interest of the child in this case, the Court
    finds dispositive the forward-looking component of the analysis.
    Looking to [the father’s] future prospects, even though his recent
    arrest caused him to lose his job, he has done a good job in the past
    finding new employment. Accordingly, the Court believes [the father]
    will be able to quickly secure another job and be able to continue
    supporting [the child] financially. This conclusion is supported by [the
    father’s] past positive work history and history of substantial
    compliance with satisfying his child support obligation. However, a
    child needs more than financial assistance. A child needs to have
    his emotional needs met as well.
    In considering [the father’s] ability to provide for [J.B.’s]
    emotional needs in the future, the Court finds significant that [the
    father] has been able to maintain a positive relationship with [the
    oldest child]. In fact, the evidence was clear that when [J.B.’s] older
    brother was asked by [the mother] if he wanted to also ask to have
    his father’s right terminated, he refused. It seems probable that as
    [J.B.] grows older he will follow his brother’s lead and develop a
    closer bond with his father. [The father] certainly has room to
    improve in his interactions with [J.B.], but as [his] positive relationship
    with his older son makes clear, [the father] is capable of developing
    a closer bond with [J.B.]
    Finally, the Court is gravely concerned that termination will
    result in a severance of [J.B.’s] positive relationship with his paternal
    grandmother and great-grandmother. There was no evidence
    presented to suggest that [the father’s] mother and grandmother
    have been anything but a positive influence in [J.B.’s] life. They are
    clearly bonded with [him]. However, after these proceedings were
    initiated, contact between [J.B.] and his extended family ceased. The
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    Court cannot conclude that cutting off contact with his extended
    family is in [the child’s] best interests. Especially given the fact that
    his older brother plans to continue to maintain contact with his
    extended family in the future.
    ....
    In conclusion, the Court determines [the mother] has not
    established by clear and convincing evidence that the best interests
    of [J.B.] will be served by terminating his father’s parental rights. The
    Court’s finding is not to suggest that [the father] does not have
    deficiencies in his parenting that need to be addresse[d]. [The father]
    clearly needs to take a more active role in arranging for visitation with
    his son. [He] needs to become more invested in [J.B.’s] healthcare
    and education. [He] needs to work to develop a stronger bond with
    [J.B.] His failure to do so going forward may lead the Court, upon
    proper petition, from reaching a different result.
    The mother moved the court to reconsider, which the court denied.
    The father’s appointed attorney filed an invoice for his attorney fees, totaling
    $2937.17, which the mother resisted. She argued the father lied to the court, as
    his May 13, 2021 financial affidavit claimed he earned zero dollars in the prior
    twelve months, while his June 14 testimony was that he had been employed the
    last three months, working fifty to sixty hours per week and earning $14 an hour.
    She also claimed the father’s late request for counsel caused her to incur additional
    fees and miss additional work and that this fact, combined with the father being
    more than $3000 behind in child support, meant it was not reasonable for her to
    pay his attorney fees. Finally, in the alternative, she asked the court to cap her
    responsibility at the court-appointed rate of $63 per hour.
    Citing Iowa Code section 600A.6B(1), the court ruled it was “clear that [the
    mother] is required to pay [the father’s] attorney fees in this case. The Court has
    no discretion to order otherwise.” The court set the attorney fee hourly rate at $63
    per hour and ordered the mother to pay $1017.17 for the father’s attorney fees
    plus expense. The mother appeals.
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    II. Standard of Review.
    “Private termination proceedings under chapter 600A are reviewed de
    novo.” In re B.H.A., 
    938 N.W.2d 227
    , 232 (Iowa 2020). “The Iowa legislature
    requires the best interest of the child to ‘be the paramount consideration in
    interpreting’ the private termination of parental rights.” 
    Id.
     (quoting Iowa Code
    § 600A.1).
    III. Discussion.
    A. Termination.
    Private termination proceedings are a two-step process. Id. First, the
    petitioning parent must prove by clear and convincing evidence the statutory
    ground for termination of parental rights. Id. And second, the parent must prove
    termination is in the child’s best interests. Id.
    1. Abandonment.
    The mother claimed the father abandoned J.B. pursuant to section
    600A.8(3)(b), which provides that a parent has abandoned their child, who is six
    months of age or older, unless
    the parent maintains substantial and continuous or repeated contact
    with the child as demonstrated by contribution toward support of the
    child of a reasonable amount, according to the parent’s means, and
    as demonstrated by any of the following:
    (1) Visiting the child at least monthly when physically and
    financially able to do so and when not prevented from doing so by
    the person having lawful custody of the child.
    (2) Regular communication with the child or with the person
    having the care or custody of the child, when physically and
    financially unable to visit the child or when prevented from visiting
    the child by the person having lawful custody of the child.[4]
    4There is a third subsection, which is inapplicable here, as it involves cases when
    a parent has openly lived with the child within the one-year period immediately
    preceding the termination trial.
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    (Emphasis added.)
    Under this subsection, “the threshold element of ‘substantial and continuous
    or repeated contact’ is economic contributions.” In re K.W., No. 14-2115, 
    2015 WL 6508910
    , at *3 (Iowa Ct. App. Oct. 28, 2015). In other words, a parent who has
    failed to “contribut[e] toward support of the child of a reasonable amount” has
    abandoned their child.     See 
    id.
     (“Because [the father] is deemed to have
    abandoned his child under the financial support element, we need not consider
    whether [the mother] prevented [him] from visiting or              having regular
    communication with [the child] under subparagraphs (b)(1) and (2).”).
    Here, the district court looked more favorably on the father’s financial
    contributions than we do. The court decided the fact the father has paid 90% of
    what he owes for his court-ordered child-support obligation means the father “has
    substantially complied with paying for the reasonable support of” J.B. Relying on
    this, the court concluded the mother failed to prove by clear and convincing
    evidence that the father failed to reasonably support the child.
    But “section 600A.8(3) is not limited to court-ordered support payments;
    those types of payments are the subject of a separate provision.” In re W.W., 
    826 N.W.2d 706
    , 711 (Iowa Ct. App. 2012) (citing Iowa Code § 600A.8(4)); see also In
    re T.K., No. 16-0029, 
    2016 WL 4384869
    , at *2–3 (Iowa Ct. App. Aug. 17, 2016)
    (finding the father, who consistently paid court-ordered child support of $10 per
    month, did not contribute reasonable support under section 600A.8(3).). Instead,
    the analysis under section 600A.8(3) is whether the parent has provided
    “contribution toward support of the child of a reasonable amount.” In making this
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    decision, we believe we should consider both the parent’s contribution in relation
    to the cost of raising a child and the parent’s reasons for not providing that level of
    support. Cf. In re C.M.-G., No. 16-0718, 
    2016 WL 7393929
    , at *4 (Iowa Ct. App.
    Dec. 21, 2016) (concluding mother’s support of unemployed paramour while
    making only four, sporadic child-support payments “fell well short of a reasonable
    contribution to the support” of the child); T.K., 
    2016 WL 4384869
    , at *2–3
    (concluding consistent support of $10 each month was not reasonable, even
    though father was not “fully employed” and noting father’s recognition that “[$10] a
    month is well below the amount needed to financially support a child”).
    In this case, the father’s child-support obligation was reduced to $50 per
    month in March 2017 at his request.5 The father’s obligation is small because he
    is not consistently employed, even though—according to his own testimony—there
    is nothing preventing him from it. Even though his obligation was limited to $600
    per year for the more than four years leading up to the termination trial, the father
    was still approximately $3000 in arrears as of June 2021.6 And the father testified
    his only financial support of J.B. is through his child-support obligation; he does
    not voluntarily send the mother money.
    At the first day of the June 2021 trial, the mother introduced into evidence
    the child support payment record. It showed the father had paid only $71 in child
    support in 2021 through April 21, all of which came from his federal tax refund that
    5 We recognize this is the father’s support payment based on two children, only
    one of whom is at issue in this termination-of-parental-rights case.
    6 From August 2014 (when the first child-support order was entered) until February
    2017, the father was ordered to pay $762 per month total for both of his biological
    children. After the father lost his steady employment in 2017, he asked to have
    his obligation reduced.
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    was intercepted and none from employment.            Yet the father testified he was
    employed and working fifty to sixty hours per week in the three months leading up
    to the hearing. The father agreed he was earning approximately $2800 a month
    during this time period. But he did not contact the Child Support Recovery Unit to
    provide his updated employment information, and he had made no child support
    payments during this time period. He also did not provide the mother any financial
    assistance outside of his child-support payments. By the second date of the
    termination trial, June 25, the father had been fired from his job after being arrested
    and spending a number of days in jail.
    Unlike the district court, we do not find the father’s minimal, sporadic child-
    support payments constitutes “contribution toward support of the child of a
    reasonable amount.”7 A parent is deemed to have abandoned their child unless
    they both make reasonable financial contributions and maintain monthly contact,
    so the mother only needed to prove the father failed at one of the two prongs to
    show he abandoned J.B. See Iowa Code § 600A.8(3)(b); K.W., 
    2015 WL 6508910
    ,
    at *3.
    However, we consider the father’s contact with J.B. just to point out that the
    district court made a factual finding “that within the past year, [the father] has seen
    [J.B.] less frequently than once a month.” The court then concluded the mother
    failed to prove the father abandoned J.B. because the father “certainly has had
    contact with [J.B.], limited though it may be. [He] loves and cares for [J.B.].” But
    7 From September 1, 2019 to April 21, 2021, the father made only four child-
    support payments. One of these payments was the collection of a $1200 stimulus
    payment in 2020 and another was the collection of his 2021 tax refund. Only two
    payments came from wage withholding.
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    the statute requires a parent to maintain monthly contact to not have abandoned
    the child. See Iowa Code § 600A.8(3)(b)(1). The father does not get the benefit
    of the doubt because he sees the child once in a while; abandonment under section
    600A.8(3) does not require total desertion. See In re Goettsche, 
    311 N.W.2d 104
    ,
    105 (Iowa 1981); see also Iowa Code § 600A.2(20) (defining “to abandon a minor
    child” to mean “that a parent . . . rejects the duties imposed by the parent-child
    relationship, . . . which may be evinced by the person, while being able to do so,
    making no provision or making only a marginal effort to provide for the support of
    the child or to communicate with the child” (emphasis added)). Plus the father’s
    subjective feelings toward J.B., when not backed up by perceivable actions, are
    inapposite. See Iowa Code § 600A.8(3)(c) (“The subjective intent of the parent,
    whether expressed or otherwise, unsupported by evidence of acts specified in
    paragraph ‘a’ or ‘b’ manifesting such intent, does not preclude a determination that
    the parent has abandoned the child.”).
    The mother proved the father abandoned J.B.
    2. Best Interests.
    Next, we must determine whether terminating the father’s parental rights is
    in J.B.’s best interests.
    The best interest of a child requires that each biological parent
    affirmatively assume the duties encompassed by the role of being a
    parent. In determining whether a parent has affirmatively assumed
    the duties of a parent, the court shall consider, but is not limited to
    consideration of, the fulfillment of financial obligations,
    demonstration of continued interest in the child, demonstration of a
    genuine effort to maintain communication with the child, and
    demonstration of the establishment and maintenance of a place of
    importance in the child’s life.
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    Iowa Code § 600A.1(2). In determining what is in J.B.’s best interests, we look to
    the father’s past performance, “for that performance may be indicative of the
    quality of the future that parent is capable of providing.” B.H.A., 938 N.W.2d at
    233 (citation omitted).
    Up to this point, the father’s involvement with J.B. appears to be limited to
    the times the great-grandmother schedules a visit and J.B. visits her home to see
    her. The district court gave the father credit for using his family members as
    “intermediaries” to set up his visits with the child so as to avoid conflict with the
    mother, but the GAL’s report stated the father “does not know that the child is
    coming over until someone else tells him.” And the grandmother, when asked,
    testified the father never asked her to set up visits with J.B. so he could see him.
    The father’s lack of interest in parenting J.B. was also apparent when he testified
    that though he lives in the same city as J.B., he does not know what school J.B.
    attends. The father also could not name J.B.’s teacher or testify about his progress
    in school. The father’s lack of knowledge about some of the basics of J.B.’s day-
    to-day life supports the testimony of the mother and stepfather and statements
    made in the GAL’s report that, even when J.B. does visit the great-grandmother’s
    home, the father is not always present or involved with J.B.
    The district court noted the father’s recent arrest and charges for
    possession of methamphetamine, second offense, and possession of drug
    paraphernalia but pointed out that the father is innocent until proven guilty; the
    court noted it had no evidence before it to establish the father’s guilt. But “[a] trial
    court may infer in a civil case that a party’s refusal to answer based on a claim of
    privilege against self-incrimination that the answer would be adverse to the party.”
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    Craig Foster Ford, Inc. v. Iowa Dep’t of Transp., 
    562 N.W.2d 618
    , 623–24 (Iowa
    1997) (citation omitted). We do not opine as to the father’s ultimate guilt or
    innocence on the outstanding charges, but we also do not ignore his recent arrest
    for possession of methamphetamine—especially when the father admitted to past
    methamphetamine purchase and use—and also the impact it had on the father’s
    employment when considering J.B.’s best interests.
    The district court seemed to believe that J.B. would “grow” into a
    relationship with the father because J.B.’s oldest brother sees the father more often
    and communicates with him via phone between in-person visits; it seemed hesitant
    to deprive J.B. and the father of this opportunity. But we think the relationship
    between the oldest child and the father is less likely a product of the sixteen-year-
    old’s age and more likely due to the fact that the oldest child was approximately
    nine when the father moved out of the family home for the last time, while J.B. was
    one. Using the past as a predictor for the future, we cannot assume the father will
    take an interest in a parenting relationship with J.B. See B.H.A., 938 N.W.2d at
    234 (“Aside from speculation that Dad may develop an active relationship with [the
    child] in years to come, the record is virtually devoid of any meaningful evidence
    that terminating Dad’s parental rights would be detrimental to [the child] due to any
    alleged closeness of relationship.”). “Small gestures to sustain a relationship with
    a child are [not] enough to show that termination of parental rights is not in the
    child’s best interests.” In re L.H., No. 16-1653, 
    2017 WL 1278336
    , at *3 (Iowa Ct.
    App. Apr. 5, 2017).
    The district court decided termination of the father’s rights is not in J.B.’s
    best interests. The court seemed to rest its decision entirely on the potential
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    relationship it believed J.B. and the father could have; the court was reluctant to
    foreclose that possibility.   But in determining what is in J.B.’s best interests,
    section 600A.1(2) requires that we consider whether the father has affirmatively
    assumed the duties of being a parent. And he has not. For that reason, and all of
    the other reasons we discussed, we conclude termination of the father’s rights is
    in J.B.’s interests.
    In reaching this decision, we note the mother testified that even if the
    father’s rights were terminated, she would continue to allow J.B. to have a
    relationship with the paternal grandmother and great-grandmother. We believe
    the mother will follow through with this claim, as the oldest brother will continue to
    share legal ties and a personal relationship with the father and his family. Plus the
    middle child has always shared a relationship with the father’s family in spite of the
    fact the child is not technically related to them. While the relationship between the
    mother and the paternal relatives seemed to sour after the mother filed the
    termination petition, we have often recognized that relationships that were strained
    during family law litigation will likely improve once the case is finished. See, e.g.,
    Dietz v. McDonald, No. 08-0129, 
    2008 WL 5234524
    , at *7 (Iowa Ct. App. Dec. 17,
    2008) (“We, like the district court, believe that the parties’ communication will
    rebound and their level of conflict will decrease as the stress of . . . this litigation
    ends.”).
    Because the mother proved the father abandoned J.B. and that termination
    of the father’s parental rights is in J.B.’s interest, we reverse the district court’s
    denial of the mother’s petition.
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    B. Appellate Attorney Fees.
    The mother maintains she should not be required to pay for the father’s
    appellate attorney fees. Iowa Code section 600A.6B(1) states:
    A person filing a petition for termination of parental rights
    under this chapter shall be responsible for the payment of reasonable
    attorney fees for services provided by counsel appointed pursuant to
    section 600A.6A in juvenile court or in an appellate proceeding
    initiated by the person filing the petition unless the person filing the
    petition is a private child-placing agency licensed under chapter 238
    or the court determines that the person filing the petition is indigent.
    (Emphasis added.) And section 600A.6A(1) gives the parent identified in a chapter
    600A termination petition—in this case, the father—the right to counsel. “If the
    parent against whom the petition is filed desires but is financially unable to employ
    counsel, the court shall appoint counsel for the person if the person requests the
    appointment of counsel and the court determines the person is indigent.” Iowa
    Code § 600A.6A(2). Here, the father was appointed counsel in the district court
    proceedings and, as far as we can tell, the same counsel continues to represent
    him. So if the father incurred fees in this appellate proceeding, the mother would
    be required to pay for the reasonable fees; the matter is not within our discretion.
    See Id. § 600A.6B(1) (providing the petitioner “shall be responsible for the payment
    of reasonable attorneys fees” incurred “in an appellate proceeding” (emphasis
    added)); In re Detention of Fowler, 
    784 N.W.2d 184
    , 187 (Iowa 2010) (“In a statute,
    the word ‘shall’ generally connotes a mandatory duty.”); State v. Klawonn, 
    609 N.W.2d 515
    , 522 (Iowa 2000) (“[W]e have interpreted the term ‘shall’ in a statute
    to create a mandatory duty, not discretion.”).
    However, the father filed neither an appellate brief nor a waiver of briefing.
    And oral argument was not heard in this case. Without an appellate brief or oral
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    argument—and where the father made no request for appellate fees—we conclude
    there are no reasonable appellate attorney fees for the mother to pay.
    IV. Conclusion.
    We reverse the district court's denial of the termination petition and remand
    for entry of an order consistent with this opinion. See B.H.A., 938 N.W.2d at 236
    (concluding “chapter 600A’s best-interest factors weigh in favor of terminating
    Dad’s parental rights” and “revers[ing] the judgment of the juvenile court and
    remand[ing] for entry of an order consistent with this opinion”). We conclude there
    are no reasonable appellate attorney fees for the mother to pay.
    REVERSED AND REMANDED WITH DIRECTIONS.