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    15-P-848                                                Appeals Court
    REGINA ROSEN   vs.   SCOTT ROSEN.
    No. 15-P-848.
    Essex.       April 8, 2016. - November 22, 2016.
    Present:      Kafker, C.J., Wolohojian, & Maldonado, JJ.
    Divorce and Separation, Child support, Modification of judgment,
    Child custody. Parent and Child, Child support, Custody.
    Contempt.
    Complaint for divorce filed in the Essex Division of the
    Probate and Family Court Department on January 17, 2001.
    Complaints for modification and contempt, filed on August
    2, 2011, and October 12, 2012, respectively, were heard by Susan
    D. Ricci, J.; a motion for reconsideration, filed on July 7,
    2014 was heard by her, and judgment was entered by her.
    Mary-Ellen Manning for the mother.
    Mark A. Perkins for the father.
    WOLOHOJIAN, J.      Today we reach the question left open in
    T.M. v. L.H., 
    50 Mass. App. Ct. 856
    , 861 (2001), namely, whether
    "a judge, in compelling circumstances of an equitable nature,
    and without contravening G. L. c. 119A, § 13(a), may apply a
    2
    credit in calculating child support arrearages to reflect
    payments made in a manner other than as directed by the original
    [child support] order."1   We conclude that, despite the statutory
    prohibition against retroactive modification of child support
    judgments "except with respect to any period during which there
    is pending a complaint for modification," G. L. c. 119A,
    § 13(a), inserted by St. 1987, c. 714, § 1, a judge may -- in
    certain very limited circumstances -- grant and apply such an
    equitable credit to offset a child support arrearage accrued
    during a period when there was no pending complaint for
    modification.
    Background.   After fourteen years of marriage, the parties
    divorced on July 14, 2003, pursuant to a judgment of divorce
    which incorporated the parties' separation agreement.     The
    separation agreement provided, in pertinent part, that the
    1
    In Whelan v. Frisbee, a case decided more than a decade
    before T.M., this court discerned "no error in the entry of
    judgment for [the father] on [the mother's] complaint for
    contempt" where the trial judge "found that . . . although [the
    father] was determined to be in arrears in the amount of $5,190,
    he had accounted for these payments by his assumption of all
    college tuition and related expenses of the children." Whelan
    v. Frisbee, 
    29 Mass. App. Ct. 76
    , 82 (1990), citing Whitten v.
    Durkee, 
    327 Mass. 562
    , 562-564 (1951). Although our decision in
    Whelan could arguably be viewed as implicitly supporting the
    "equitable credit" concept, we were not asked in that case to
    decide whether the offset amounted to an impermissible
    retroactive modification of child support in violation of G. L.
    c. 119A, § 13(a). See Whelan, supra at 82 n.7. Therefore, in
    our view, Whelan did not decide the issue we confront here.
    3
    mother would have primary physical custody of the parties' three
    children, Elliot, Ari, and Hannah, and that the father would pay
    monthly child support in the amount of $4,500.   The separation
    agreement also contained several provisions relating to the
    children's college education.   In one of those provisions, the
    parties "agree[d] that the choice of college or other
    institutions shall be made jointly, with due regard to the
    children's wishes, welfare, needs and aptitudes, and the
    parties' respective financial circumstances.   Neither party
    shall make commitments to a . . . college . . . without first
    notifying the other and obtaining his or her approval . . . ."
    The parties also "agree[d] to contribute to the college costs of
    the children to the best of their financial ability."   The
    separation agreement's provisions relating to "custody, care,
    visitation, support, education and medical care of the parties'
    minor children" were merged with the judgment of divorce, while
    the remaining provisions survived and were not merged with the
    judgment.
    At the time of the divorce in 2003, all three children
    lived with the mother.   However, by January 1, 2007, the
    parties' oldest child, Elliot, had moved into the father's home.
    The father thereafter reduced his child support payments by one-
    third, to $3,000 per month, without court approval.
    4
    More than two years later, on April 4, 2009, the parties
    entered into a signed and notarized "Agreement for Judgment on
    Modification" (2009 agreement), which provided that the father
    would pay monthly child support of $3,400, along with a lump sum
    of $2,500 upon the court's approval of the 2009 agreement, and
    an additional $2,900 over the next six months.   On April 9,
    2009, the father filed the 2009 agreement with the Probate and
    Family Court; however, it was returned to him without being
    docketed due to certain procedural deficiencies.2   Those
    deficiencies were not cured, and the 2009 agreement was never
    refiled with the Probate and Family Court.
    By August, 2011, the parties' second child, Ari, had also
    moved into the father's home.   In early August, 2011, the father
    filed another complaint for modification (2011 complaint for
    modification), which he served on the mother on August 11, 2011.
    In the 2011 complaint for modification, the father requested (1)
    a reduction in his child support in light of the fact that two
    of the three children were living with him, and (2) an order
    requiring the mother to contribute to the children's college
    expenses.   On October 13, 2011, a judge of the Probate and
    2
    The "Rejection Notice" accompanying the returned filings
    indicated that the parties' "Joint Petition for Modification"
    could not be processed due to "deficiencies in the form of the
    petition," and the absence of both a "Child Support Guidelines
    Worksheet" and a financial statement for the mother.
    5
    Family Court allowed the father's motion for temporary orders,
    reducing the father's child support payments from $4,500 per
    month to $200 per week.
    In December, 2011, the parties' third child, Hannah, moved
    into the father's home, at which point all three children were
    living with the father and principally dependent on him for
    support and maintenance.   On May 4, 2012, the judge allowed the
    father's motion to terminate child support.
    On October 12, 2012, the mother filed a complaint for
    contempt asserting that the father was approximately $103,701 in
    arrears for child support that accrued before the court's
    October 13, 2011, temporary order.
    On July 17, 2014, following a six-day trial on the
    consolidated modification and contempt proceedings, the Probate
    and Family Court entered an "Amended Judgment of Modification,"
    an "Amended Judgment on Contempt," and supporting "Amended . . .
    Findings of Fact."3   In the amended judgment of modification, the
    3
    The original judgment on contempt and judgment of
    modification were dated June 9, 2014, and were docketed on June
    20, 2014. However, the father filed a motion for
    reconsideration seeking, among other things, correction of a
    mathematical error with respect to his child support arrearages,
    and contribution from the mother toward the children's college
    expenses. On July 17, 2014, the judge allowed the father's
    motion in part and entered the amended judgments reflecting the
    corrected child support arrearages and requiring the mother to
    reimburse the father for a portion of the children's college
    expenses.
    6
    judge reduced the father's child support obligation to $280 per
    week, retroactive to August 11, 2011, the date on which the
    mother had been served with the 2011 complaint for modification.
    The judge terminated the father's child support obligation
    retroactive to December 31, 2011, the date upon which "[all]
    three children were solely dependent upon and residing with
    [the] [f]ather."   The judge further ordered the mother to
    reimburse the father for "approximately seventeen percent (17%)
    of the college education expenses of the three children either
    paid or undertaken in the form of a loan by [the] [f]ather" from
    August 11, 2011, through December 31, 2011, and ten percent of
    the college expenses "[f]rom January 1, 2012 going forward."
    In the amended judgment on contempt, the judge acknowledged
    that while she could not "validate" the 2009 agreement as a
    defense to contempt, see Quinn v. Quinn, 
    49 Mass. App. Ct. 144
    ,
    145-148 (2000), she did not find the father in "wilful contempt"
    of his child support obligation.   The judge found that, from
    January 1, 2007, to December 31, 2011, the father's total child
    support obligation was $254,697, taking into account the
    retroactively modified child support beginning on August 11,
    2011.   The judge determined that from January, 2007, to May,
    2012, the father made child support payments to the mother
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    totaling $190,737.4       The judge found that the father was
    "entitled to an equitable credit" of $500 per month "for his
    sole support of Elliot from January 1, 2007 to August 11, 2011."
    After applying the total equitable credit of $28,177, the judge
    determined that the father had child support arrearages of
    $35,783.    The judge ordered the father to pay the arrearages to
    the mother within thirty days, "minus the college educational
    expenses" owed by the mother under the amended judgment of
    modification.    This appeal followed.
    Discussion.5    1.    Equitable credit.   The mother challenges
    the $28,177 equitable credit the judge used to offset some of
    the father's child support arrearage for the period from January
    1, 2007, to August 11, 2011, when Elliot was living with him.
    The mother argues that this equitable credit effectively
    constitutes a retroactive modification of child support that was
    4
    The total should have been $191,137.    See note 21, infra.
    5
    As a threshold matter, the mother contends that the judge
    did not have the power to modify the separation agreement
    because it survived the divorce judgment. See Whelan v.
    
    Frisbee, 29 Mass. App. Ct. at 80-81
    , quoting from Ames v. Perry,
    
    406 Mass. 236
    , 240 (1989) ("'[A] separation agreement, which
    survives a divorce judgment and is valid at the time of the
    entry of that judgment [that is free from fraud and coercion and
    fair and reasonable] should be specifically enforced,' absent
    changed circumstances which give rise to countervailing
    equities"). The mother's argument fails because the child-
    related provisions contained in the separation agreement,
    including those pertaining to the children's "support" and
    "education," were expressly merged with the divorce judgment and
    did not survive.
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    outside the judge's power to award because no complaint for
    modification was pending.6   See G. L. c. 119A, § 13(a).   The
    father contends that there was no retroactive reduction of his
    support obligation; rather, the credit merely reflected that he
    had satisfied a portion of his child support obligation by
    providing direct or actual support to Elliot while Elliot was
    living with him.
    In weighing the parties' arguments, we must also consider
    the broader context in which G. L. c. 119A, § 13(a), was
    enacted.   "The Federal Government has created an elaborate
    procedural mechanism designed to help both the government and
    custodial parents to secure the payments to which they are
    entitled."   Turner v. Rogers, 
    564 U.S. 431
    , 444 (2011), citing
    Blessing v. Freestone, 
    520 U.S. 329
    , 333 (1997).   To that end, a
    6
    The mother further argues that the judge erred by granting
    the father an equitable credit for his payment of the children's
    college expenses. The argument is factually incorrect; the
    judge did not award the father an equitable credit for his
    payment of the children's college expenses. Although the judge
    considered the amount of college expenses paid by the father on
    behalf of all three children as one of many equitable factors
    weighing in favor of granting the father a credit for his
    support of Elliot, the equitable credit was not based on those
    payments but rather on the father's sole support of Elliot,
    including Elliot's "housing, food, clothing, insurance,
    transportation, and medical expenses." We note that, had the
    judge credited the father for his payment of the children's
    college expenses (as the mother argues), the equitable credit
    would have substantially exceeded the father's child support
    arrearages. Since this is not the case, it is clear that the
    amount of the equitable credit was not based on the college
    expenses.
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    State's eligibility for certain Federal grants7 is conditioned on
    the operation of a child support enforcement program that
    conforms to the Child Support Enforcement Act (CSEA), Title IV,
    Part D of the Social Security Act, 42 U.S.C. §§ 651-669b (2012).8
    See Blessing v. 
    Freestone, supra
    .     See also Doucette v. Ives,
    
    947 F.2d 21
    , 24 (1st Cir. 1991).    As a participating State,
    Massachusetts has enacted G. L. c. 119A, §§ 1 et seq., which
    "provides for child support enforcement services in accordance
    with the provisions of [the CSEA]."     Morales v. Morales, 
    464 Mass. 507
    , 510 n.5 (2013).
    General Laws c. 119A, § 13(a), provides that "[a]ny payment
    or installment of support under any child support order issued
    by any court of this commonwealth . . . shall be on or after the
    7
    Participating States receive funds from the Aid to
    Families with Dependent Children (AFDC) program, which "provides
    subsistence welfare benefits to needy families." Blessing v.
    
    Freestone, 520 U.S. at 333
    , citing Title IV, Part A of the
    Social Security Act, 42 U.S.C. §§ 601-617.
    8
    "The collection and distribution by the state of child
    support payments . . . is governed by the Child Support
    Enforcement Act, 42 U.S.C. §§ 651-666, Title IV-D of the Social
    Security Act. The CSE program is designed both to assist
    parents in collecting child support from absent parents and to
    reduce state and federal government AFDC expenditures, which are
    often necessitated by the failure of noncustodial parents to
    meet their support obligations. All states participating in the
    AFDC program are required to have child support collection
    programs, 42 U.S.C. § 602(a)(27), through which they assist
    families in establishing paternity, locating parents, and
    collecting support through wage withholding, liens on property,
    and withholding from unemployment compensation and tax refunds."
    Doucette v. Ives, 
    947 F.2d 21
    , 24 (1st Cir. 1991).
    10
    date it is due, a judgment by operation of law . . . [and] shall
    not be subject to retroactive modification except with respect
    to any period during which there is pending a complaint for
    modification, but only from the date that notice of such
    complaint has been given."9   In enacting § 13(a), "the
    Legislature limited the power of a judge to reduce retroactively
    any arrearages in child support except for any period during
    which there is a pending complaint for modification."     T.M. v.
    9
    General Laws c. 119A, § 13(a), was enacted in response to
    42 U.S.C. § 666(a)(9), which went into effect on Oct. 21, 1986,
    and prescribed the following:
    "(a) [E]ach State must have in effect laws requiring the
    use of the following procedures . . . to increase the
    effectiveness of the program which the State administers
    under [the CSEA]:
    . . .
    "(9) Procedures which require that any payment or
    installment of support under any child support order . . .
    is (on and after the date it is due) --
    "(A) a judgment by operation of law, with the
    full force, effect, and attributes of a judgment of the
    State, including the ability to be enforced,
    "(B) entitled as a judgment to full faith and
    credit in such State and in any other State, and
    "(C) not subject to retroactive modification by
    such State or by any other State;
    "except that such procedures may permit modification with
    respect to any period during which there is pending a
    petition for modification, but only from the date that
    notice of such petition has been given . . . ."
    11
    
    L.H., 50 Mass. App. Ct. at 859
    , citing Quinn v. Quinn, 49 Mass.
    App. Ct. at 147-148.    "The object of § 13(a) was to give support
    orders the finality of other judgments, to assist the
    [Department of Revenue] in its enforcement efforts."     T.M. v.
    
    L.H., supra
    , quoting from Smith-Clarke v. Clarke, 44 Mass. App.
    Ct. 404, 406 (1998).    By implicitly prohibiting extra-judicial
    modifications of child support, § 13(a) furthers the
    Commonwealth's policy of requiring court oversight for all
    agreements pertaining to child support.    See White v. Laingor,
    
    434 Mass. 64
    , 67 (2001), citing Massachusetts Child Support
    Guidelines, G. L. c. 208, § 28, and G. L. c. 119A, § 1
    ("Selected enactments of the Legislature convey the importance
    of judicial review of child support agreements between
    parents").   See also Quinn v. 
    Quinn, 49 Mass. App. Ct. at 146
    ,
    quoting from Knox v. Remick, 
    371 Mass. 433
    , 437 (1976)
    ("[B]ecause '[p]arents may not bargain away the rights of their
    children to support from either one of them,' . . . the
    Legislature has placed certain limits on the ability of parents
    to enter into binding contracts relating to child support").       It
    is for this reason that we have previously held that an
    agreement to reduce child support that has not received judicial
    approval does not constitute a defense to a complaint for
    contempt.    Quinn v. 
    Quinn, 49 Mass. App. Ct. at 148
    .
    12
    Here, although the parties evidenced an intent to jointly
    seek modification of the child support order by executing and
    filing10 the 2009 agreement with the Probate and Family Court,
    that filing was rejected on procedural grounds and the matter
    was not further pursued.   As such, there was no "pending"
    complaint for modification in 2009 for purposes of G. L.
    c. 119A, § 13(a), and the judge was prohibited from
    retroactively reducing the father's child support obligation.
    As the judge correctly determined, she did not obtain authority
    to reduce retroactively the father's child support obligation
    until 2011, when the mother was served with the second complaint
    for modification.11
    That said, as we acknowledged in T.M. v. L.H., "[A] number
    of [other] jurisdictions" with statutory provisions similar to
    G. L. c. 119A, § 13(a), "have recognized . . . special
    circumstances of an equitable nature . . . that justify the
    grant of a credit to a support obligor for payments or
    expenditures made that were not in strict compliance with the
    support order or 
    judgment." 50 Mass. App. Ct. at 861
    , citing
    10
    While the 2009 agreement was apparently never docketed in
    the Probate and Family Court, the judge found that it was indeed
    filed on April 9, 2009.
    11
    To the extent that the 2009 agreement may have been
    separately enforceable in a contract action, see Ratchford v.
    Ratchford, 
    397 Mass. 114
    (1986), the father did not bring such
    an action.
    13
    Alaska Dept. of Rev. v. Campbell, 
    931 P.2d 416
    , 419-420 (Alaska
    1997), Goold v. Goold, 
    11 Conn. App. 268
    , 274-275 (1987), Baer
    v. Baer, 
    263 Ga. 574
    , 575-576 (1993), and Griess v. Griess, 
    9 Neb. Ct. App. 105
    , 112-113 (2000).   The father urges us to follow
    those jurisdictions and to rule that "a judge, in compelling
    circumstances of an equitable nature, and without contravening
    G. L. c. 119A, § 13(a), may apply a credit in calculating child
    support arrearages to reflect payments made in a manner other
    than as directed by the original order."   T.M. v. L.H., 50 Mass.
    App. Ct. at 861.
    Although, as we have noted, a number of other jurisdictions
    have recognized the concept of equitable credits, they have not
    done so on uniform grounds.   As a general proposition, we can
    only say that the concept is clearly rooted in equity and its
    application is driven by equitable considerations.   Beyond that,
    we discern three primary strands of analysis:   (1) some courts
    grant an equitable credit when the elements of equitable
    estoppel are established; (2) some courts grant an equitable
    credit when the support obligation has been fulfilled by an
    alternative method; and (3) some courts simply apply general
    equitable principles to determine whether an equitable credit is
    in order.   Regardless of the approach used, the jurisdictions
    that allow credit on an equitable basis largely agree that the
    adjustment of support must not be unilateral, the child's need
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    for adequate support and maintenance must be met through the new
    arrangement, and the circumstances under which a credit is to be
    granted must be narrowly construed.12   We briefly describe each
    of the three analytical approaches in more detail.
    The jurisdictions that invoke, or rely on, the elements of
    equitable estoppel -- either to allow credit or to bar recovery
    of support arrearages -- generally require the support payor to
    demonstrate that (1) the parties agreed to modify child support;
    (2) the payor detrimentally relied on the agreement by changing
    his or her position, such as by assuming physical custody or by
    assuming additional expenses on behalf of the child; and (3) the
    agreement is not contrary to the child's welfare.13   In our view,
    12
    See notes 13-15, infra.
    13
    See, e.g., In re Marriage of Webber, 
    191 Ill. App. 3d 327
    , 330-331 (1989) (equitable estoppel applied where [1] the
    mother agreed to transfer custody to the father, [2] the court
    credited the father's testimony that the mother also agreed to
    suspend child support during that period, and [3] the father
    reasonably relied on the agreement to his detriment by taking
    custody of child and providing directly for his needs); In re
    Marriage of Duerr, 
    250 Ill. App. 3d 232
    , 237 (1993) (custodial
    mother estopped from seeking arrearages where parties agreed to
    children moving in with noncustodial father, mother provided no
    support to children during that period, and father reasonably
    relied on the agreement to his detriment by financially
    supporting the children, purchasing a larger house, and hiring a
    nanny); In re Marriage of Harvey, 
    523 N.W.2d 755
    , 757 (Iowa
    1994) (Equitable estoppel was available where the father
    demonstrated that [1] the mother orally agreed to transfer
    custody to the father and to terminate child support, [2] the
    father relied on the agreement to his detriment by providing all
    of the child's financial support, and [3] any arrearages
    recovered by the mother "would not inure for [the child's]
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    the appeal of this approach is that it draws upon the
    established legal principles of the existing doctrine of
    equitable estoppel, requires proof of objectively verifiable
    facts, and does not recognize or reward unilateral action.
    Those jurisdictions that allow a credit when a payor has
    "satisfied" the original child support obligation by an
    alternative method in essence create an exception to the
    support, but solely for [the mother's] benefit"); In re Marriage
    of Sabo, 
    224 Mont. 252
    , 256 (1986) (Equitable estoppel applied
    where, "[b]y her assent and conduct, [the custodial parent]
    consented to the shift in custody and support. We cannot
    equitably allow [the custodial parent] to reap a windfall of
    support payments, if she never made the support expenditures");
    Truman v. Truman, 
    256 Neb. 628
    , 635-636 (1999) (equitable
    estoppel applied where [1] custodial parent agreed to transfer
    custody to noncustodial parent and terminate child support, [2]
    noncustodial parent relied on the agreement in good faith and
    changed his position "by assuming responsibility for the custody
    and care" of the child, and [3] "[t]here is no evidence that the
    agreement of the parties was in any way detrimental to the
    welfare" of the child); State v. Stephen Leo S., 
    198 W. Va. 234
    ,
    240 (1996) ("[T]wo issues [must] be determined in deciding
    whether to apply the doctrine of equitable estoppel to arrearage
    child support: [1] will the welfare of the child be negatively
    affected, and [2] has there been detrimental reliance?").
    Compare In re Marriage of Beatty, 
    279 P.3d 1225
    , 1230 (Col. Ct.
    App. 2012) (equitable estoppel not available where the parties
    agreed to reduce the noncustodial parent's support payments, but
    the noncustodial parent did not take action to his detriment in
    reliance on the agreement, such as incurring additional
    expenses); Matzen v. Matzen, 
    69 Ill. App. 3d 69
    , 72-73 (1979)
    (equitable estoppel not available where the noncustodial parent
    failed to demonstrate "by clear, precise and unequivocal
    evidence" that the custodial parent agreed to the custody change
    and suspension of child support; the court noted that
    "[e]quitable estoppel is not created by [the custodial parent's]
    failure to demand payment of support arrearages . . . or by the
    mere passage of time").
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    "general rule" that "a support obligor must make his or her
    payments in the manner required by the support order or
    judgment."   T.M. v. 
    L.H., 50 Mass. App. Ct. at 860
    , citing
    Thacker v. Thacker, 
    710 N.E.2d 942
    , 944 (Ind. Ct. App. 1999).
    Some jurisdictions refer to this as credit for "nonconforming"
    support payments.   See, e.g., Smith v. Smith, 
    793 N.E.2d 282
    ,
    285 (Ind. Ct. App. 2003); Meyer v. Block, 
    123 S.W.3d 316
    , 326
    (Mo. Ct. App. 2003).   Regardless of the nomenclature used, these
    jurisdictions typically limit the credit to expenditures that
    substantially comply with the "spirit and intent" of the
    original support order, such as "direct" support of a child
    living in the payor's home.14   In our view, this approach does
    14
    See, e.g., McCreless v. McCreless, 
    673 So. 2d 438
    , 440
    (Ala. Civ. App. 1995) ("The trial court does have the discretion
    . . . to give the obligated parent credit for money and gifts
    given to the child, or for amounts expended while the child
    lived with the obligated parent or a third party"); In re
    Marriage of Trainotti, 
    212 Cal. App. 3d 1072
    (1989) (statutory
    bar against retroactive modification does not prohibit judge
    from allowing credit based on determination that noncustodial
    parent assumed custody of child and fulfilled his child support
    obligation by directly supporting child); Brown v. Georgia Dept.
    of Human Resources, 
    263 Ga. 53
    , 54 (1993) (credit appropriate
    where "payee consents to payor's voluntary expenditures as an
    alternative to payor's child support obligation; and payor has
    substantially complied with the spirit and intent of the divorce
    decree by discontinuing child support payments while payor has
    the care and custody of the children and supported the children
    at the payee's request"); Smith v. 
    Smith, 793 N.E.2d at 285
    (credit may be granted to noncustodial parent in the event of
    nonconforming child support payments, if "noncustodial parent
    has, by agreement with the custodial parent, assumed custody and
    has provided food, clothing, shelter, medical attention, and
    school expenses and has exercised parental control for an
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    not contain sufficiently objective criteria and could encourage
    payors having superior economic leverage to unilaterally
    substitute one form of support for another even where the
    substitution is not substantially equivalent.
    Several other jurisdictions have simply relied on general
    equitable considerations, taking a variety of factors into
    extended period"); Meyer v. 
    Block, 123 S.W.3d at 326
    , and cases
    cited ("Equitable principles may permit credit for a
    nonconforming payment, when those payments were made under the
    compulsion of the circumstances. . . . Those nonconforming
    payments must nevertheless substantially comply with the spirit
    and intent of the terms of the original child support judgment
    . . . [and] the assent or acquiescence of a custodial parent to
    the nonconforming payment must be established"); Curtis v.
    Curtis, 
    11 S.W.3d 466
    , 472 (Tex. Ct. App. 2000) (to receive
    credit for support provided directly to the child while the
    child was living with the obligor, the obligor must show: [1]
    that the custodial parent relinquished custody of the child; [2]
    that relinquishment was for a time period in excess of any
    court–ordered periods of possession of and access to the child;
    [3] that actual support was provided to the child; and [4] the
    value of the support provided must be proven); Schafer v.
    Schafer, 
    95 Wash. 2d 78
    , 82 (1980) (When determining whether to
    allow credit, the court should consider: "[1] whether the
    noncustodial parent [a] intended the expenditures for care to be
    in satisfaction of child support, [b] exerted undue influence
    over the child to obtain or retain custody, [c] continued to
    retain custody as a form of retribution; [2] whether the
    custodial parent [a] was willing and able to provide necessary
    care for the child, [b] expressly or impliedly consented to the
    noncustodial parent's continued custody of the child, [c] was
    relieved of any or all of the reasonable expenses of child
    support while the child was in the custody of the noncustodial
    parent; [3] the length of time the child was in the custody of
    the noncustodial parent; and [4] whether a compelling reason
    exists requiring the noncustodial parent not only to pay for the
    child's care while in that parent's custody, but also to comply
    with the support order to make child support payments to the
    custodial parent").
    18
    account, to determine whether to apply a credit against a child-
    support arrearage.15   This approach concerns us because it does
    not specify core requirements and thus, over time, could become
    15
    See, e.g., Goold v. 
    Goold, 11 Conn. App. at 274-275
    , and
    cases cited ("Although there is no general rule as to when
    circumstances require the allowance of [a credit against past
    due child support], factors which have been considered by
    various courts . . . include [1] whether the father brought a
    motion for modification of the support order; [2] whether the
    parties expressly provided in their separation agreement that
    the father may deduct or adjust support payments when the child
    is no longer in the mother's custody; and [3] whether the mother
    has in some manner consented to accept the father's direct
    support of the child as an alternative method of payment of
    child support"); Nolte v. Nolte, 
    544 So. 2d 1146
    , 1147 (Fla.
    Dist. Ct. App. 1989) (Where the custodial parent expelled the
    child from her home, causing the child to live with noncustodial
    parent, the court viewed the child's "expulsion from [the
    custodial parent's] home as a legitimate equitable reason
    warranting the [noncustodial parent's] cessation of [child
    support] payments"); Heflin v. Heflin, 
    1 So. 3d 820
    , 826 (La.
    Ct. App. 2009) (noncustodial parent was not liable for child
    support arrearages where the parties had an "implied agreement
    to suspend child support payments after [the custodial parent]
    voluntarily delivered physical custody of [the child] to [the
    noncustodial parent] and for 10 years thereafter made no attempt
    to take custody of [the child] pursuant to the original custody
    decree"); Griess v. 
    Griess, 9 Neb. Ct. App. at 116
    (court granted
    equitable relief by crediting the father for his overpayment of
    child support for nearly two years due to "grossly incorrect"
    order; court noted that there was "clear evidence that granting
    [the father] some sort of credit against his future child
    support payments will not work a hardship on the children in
    [the mother's] custody"); Acree v. Acree, 
    2 Va. App. 151
    , 157
    (1986) ("Where . . . the custodial parent has by his or her own
    volition entered into an agreement to relinquish custody on a
    permanent basis and has further agreed to the elimination of
    support payments and such agreement has been fully performed, we
    hold that the purpose to be served by application of an
    inflexible rule denying credit for nonconforming payments is
    outweighed by the equities involved. . . . [T]he purpose of the
    [original] support decree in this case has been fulfilled")
    (emphasis omitted).
    19
    so amorphous as to swallow the general prohibition against
    retroactive modification in the absence of a pending
    modification complaint.
    Consistent with the views of other jurisdictions, we
    conclude that a judge is not foreclosed by G. L. c. 119A,
    § 13(a), from determining whether "compelling circumstances of
    an equitable nature" warrant the allowance of a credit for the
    payor's fulfillment of his or her child support obligation "in a
    manner other than as directed by the original order" but which
    nevertheless accomplishes the maintenance of the child as
    envisioned by the original order.   T.M. v. L.H., 50 Mass. App.
    Ct. at 861.   That said, because of the clear purpose and policy
    behind G. L. c. 119A, § 13(a), and to avoid potential abuse, we
    favor a clearly delineated standard that relies on objectively
    verifiable facts in order to allow an equitable credit.      This
    means that, although we have drawn from the various
    considerations and factors present in the three analytical
    strains we set out above, we conclude that a more rigorous set
    of clearly identified requirements is appropriate in
    Massachusetts.   Therefore, to receive an equitable credit
    against a child support arrearage, the support payor must
    demonstrate that (1) the support recipient agreed (a) to
    transfer custody of the child to the payor for an extended
    period of time not contemplated in the original custody order,
    20
    and (b) to accept the payor's direct support of the child as an
    alternative method of satisfying the payor's child support
    obligation; (2) the custody transfer was not the result of
    duress, coercion, or undue influence exerted by the payor
    against either the recipient or the child; (3) the payor
    provided the child with adequate support and maintenance while
    the child was principally domiciled in the payor's home; (4) the
    recipient was relieved of supporting the child during the period
    in question; (5) the alternative support arrangement was not
    contrary to the child's best interests; and (6) granting a
    credit to the payor for his or her direct support of the child
    would not result in injustice or undue hardship to the
    recipient.
    Where these factors are present, a judge may find
    "compelling circumstances of an equitable nature" warranting an
    equitable credit.   We stress that the concept of equitable
    credit is an extremely narrow exception to the general rule that
    support must be paid in the manner originally ordered.     The
    exception is necessarily narrow so as to prevent a support payor
    from "modify[ing] unilaterally a support order or interfer[ing]
    with the right of the custodial parent to decide how support
    money should be spent," T.M. v. 
    L.H., 50 Mass. App. Ct. at 860
    ,
    citing Alaska Dept. of Rev. v. 
    Campbell, 931 P.2d at 420
    , and
    Goold v. 
    Goold, 11 Conn. App. at 274
    , while also ensuring that
    21
    the child, rather than the support recipient who has been
    relieved of supporting the child, is the beneficiary of the
    payor's support.     "This is consistent with the articulated
    public policy of the Commonwealth that 'dependent children shall
    be maintained, as completely as possible, from the resources of
    their parents.'"     Lombardi v. Lombardi, 
    68 Mass. App. Ct. 407
    ,
    415 (2007), quoting from G. L. c. 119A, § 1, and citing L.W.K.
    v. E.R.C., 
    432 Mass. 438
    , 446 (2000).     See Boulter-Hedley v.
    Boulter, 
    429 Mass. 808
    , 813 (1999), citing G. L. c. 119A, §§ 1,
    13(c), and G. L. c. 208, § 28 ("Two central policies furthered
    by the Massachusetts child support scheme are [1] caring for the
    best interests of children, and [2] ensuring that the taxpayers
    are secondary to the parents in meeting the financial needs of
    children").   Moreover, by confining this exception to its
    narrowest scope, we promote the general principle that judges --
    rather than the parties -- are vested with the responsibility to
    determine what is in the best interests of the child.     See White
    v. 
    Laingor, 434 Mass. at 68
    , citing, inter alia, McCarthy v.
    McCarthy, 
    36 Mass. App. Ct. 490
    , 493 (1994) ("[J]udges must be
    satisfied that the best interests of the child are not
    compromised. . . .     [T]he presence of a negotiated agreement
    between the parents does not exempt judges from the need to
    protect children").
    22
    Applying the principles we have just set out to the facts
    of this case, we conclude that the judge was warranted in
    allowing an equitable credit of $500 per month for the father's
    direct support of Elliot from January 1, 2007, to August 11,
    2011.     It is undisputed that Elliot moved into the father's home
    no later than January 1, 2007.     There is no indication or
    contention that Elliot's move was the result of duress,
    coercion, or undue influence exerted by the father.16    It is also
    undisputed that Elliot received adequate support from the father
    while living in the father's home, and that the mother was
    relieved of supporting Elliot during that period.
    It is clear that the mother consented to accept the
    father's direct support of Elliot as an alternative method of
    fulfilling his support obligation no later than April 4, 2009,
    when, as the judge found, she "willingly, freely and
    voluntarily" executed the 2009 agreement.     What remains,
    therefore, is the question whether the evidence warranted the
    judge's finding that the mother consented even earlier, in 2007,
    when Elliot went to live with his father.     We conclude that the
    evidence supports such a finding.     The judge credited the
    father's testimony that "after Elliot moved in with [the
    16
    While not addressed in the judge's findings, it appears
    that the mother was living in Connecticut at the time and
    Elliot, an aspiring musician, wanted to live with the father in
    order to pursue musical opportunities in the Boston area.
    23
    father], the parties agreed to reduce the child support to
    $3,000.00 [per] month."   Although the mother testified that she
    agreed with the move, but not with the reduction in child
    support, the judge apparently did not find the mother credible
    in this regard because the mother later "confirmed" that she
    "requested a change to [the parties'] child support agreement"
    in early 2009, by seeking "an increase from $3,000.00 [per]
    month to $3,400.00 [per] month," which was consistent with the
    father's testimony.   The mother also testified that she did not
    believe the father owed her any "back child support" when he
    filed the 2011 complaint for modification.17    Accordingly, the
    judge's determination that the parties agreed to the alternative
    support arrangement in 2007 was "based on an assessment of [each
    party's] credibility" -- an assessment that is "quintessentially
    the domain of the trial judge" and "close to immune from
    reversal on appeal except on the most compelling of showings."
    Johnston v. Johnston, 
    38 Mass. App. Ct. 531
    , 536 (1995), citing
    Goddard v. Dupree, 
    322 Mass. 247
    , 248 (1948), and Palmer v.
    Palmer, 
    23 Mass. App. Ct. 245
    , 252 (1986).     As there is nothing
    in the record that would warrant disturbing the judge's
    credibility assessment, especially in light of the mother's own
    17
    Moreover, the "parties acknowledge[d]" in the 2009
    agreement that "neither party currently owes anything else to
    the other," apart from the $5,400 sum the father agreed to pay
    upon executing the 2009 agreement.
    24
    internally contradictory testimony, we are satisfied that the
    evidence supports the judge's finding that the mother consented
    to the alternative support arrangement in January, 2007.
    Finally, there is no indication that the alternative
    support arrangement was contrary to Elliot's best interests, or
    that granting the credit to the father would result in injustice
    or undue hardship to the mother.   The mother was not required to
    return a portion of the child support previously paid by the
    father.   We note also that the equitable credit was only $500
    per month, even though it appears that the parties themselves
    allocated $1,500 per child per month.18
    We therefore conclude that the facts of this case present
    "compelling circumstances of an equitable nature," T.M. v. 
    L.H., 50 Mass. App. Ct. at 861
    , warranting the allowance of a $28,177
    equitable credit to the father for his direct support of Elliot
    in conformance with the maintenance of the child as provided in
    the original support order.   Compare 
    id. at 862
    (identifying
    several factors that rendered the credit inappropriate,
    including that the child was already emancipated when the father
    paid for his funeral expenses, the fact that the mother did not
    18
    Although the parties agreed to a monthly reduction of
    $1,500 from 2007 to 2009, and $1,100 from 2009 onward, the judge
    was not bound by those figures in calculating the credit. The
    amount of the credit was within the judge's discretion to
    determine, and we discern no error in the judge's decision to
    allow a credit of $500 per month.
    25
    agree "to accept the father's payment of funeral expenses as an
    alternative method of payment of child support," and that it was
    "difficult to perceive how the father's payment of funeral
    expenses constitute[d] 'substantial compliance' with the child
    support order," as "the purpose of the order was to provide for
    the support of the children during their dependency, a duty that
    the father failed absolutely to fulfill").
    2.    Contempt.   The mother contends that the father should
    have been found to be in contempt because it was undisputed that
    (1) the father's child support obligation had not been modified
    by the 2009 agreement, and (2) the father had the ability to pay
    the full amount of child support required by the divorce
    judgment.
    "[A] civil contempt finding [must] be supported by clear
    and convincing evidence of disobedience of a clear and
    unequivocal command."   Birchall, petitioner, 
    454 Mass. 837
    , 853
    (2009).   It is well settled that an agreement to reduce child
    support that has not been approved by the court cannot
    constitute a defense to a complaint for contempt.   See Quinn v.
    
    Quinn, 49 Mass. App. Ct. at 148
    .   Here, the judge acknowledged
    that, in light of Quinn, the 2009 agreement could not "be used
    as a bar . . . or a defense" to the mother's complaint for
    contempt.   However, the judge found that "it was not undoubted
    disobedience for [the] [f]ather to direct a one-third portion of
    26
    his support toward the care of Elliot, who was residing with
    [the] [f]ather and entirely economically dependent on [the]
    [f]ather."    The judge concluded that, because "Elliot actually
    benefitted from [the] [f]ather's support," the father was not in
    contempt of his original child support obligation.     It is
    undisputed that the father directly supported Elliot from
    January, 2007, until Elliot's emancipation in May, 2013.
    Accordingly, the judge could properly have found a lack of
    evidence that the father sought to avoid his support obligation
    with respect to Elliot, and we discern no error in the judge's
    conclusion that there was no clear and convincing evidence of
    contempt.    Birchall, 
    petitioner, 454 Mass. at 853
    .
    3.     Termination of the father's child support obligation.
    The mother argues that it was error to terminate the father's
    child support obligation as of December 31, 2011, as there was
    "no evidence adduced at trial" to support the judge's finding
    that the parties' daughter, Hannah, had moved out of the
    mother's home by that date.19
    "A trial court's findings of fact will be upheld unless
    shown to be clearly erroneous."    Martin v. Martin, 70 Mass. App.
    Ct. 547, 548-549 (2007), citing Mass.R.Dom.Rel.P. 52(a).       "A
    19
    The mother does not challenge the judge's conclusion that
    the other two children, Elliot and Ari, began residing with the
    father prior to December 31, 2011.
    27
    finding is 'clearly erroneous' when, although there is evidence
    to support it, the reviewing court on the entire evidence is
    left with the definite and firm conviction that a mistake has
    been committed."   Martin, supra at 549, quoting from C. C. & T.
    Constr. Co. v. Coleman Bros. Corp., 
    8 Mass. App. Ct. 133
    , 135
    (1979).   Here, the judge found that Hannah had moved into the
    father's home by late December, 2011, a finding that was
    supported by the father's trial testimony.    There is nothing in
    the record to cause us to disturb the judge's assessment of the
    father's credibility in this regard.20   See Johnston v. 
    Johnston, 38 Mass. App. Ct. at 536
    .   We therefore discern no abuse of
    discretion with respect to the termination date of the father's
    child support payments.
    4.   Calculation of child support arrearages.   The mother
    argues that the father's child support arrearages were
    artificially decreased due to the judge's erroneous calculation
    of the father's total child support payments.    The judge
    determined that the father had paid a total of $190,737 in child
    support from January, 2007 to May, 2012.     In arriving at that
    figure, the judge found that the parties stipulated that the
    20
    The mother testified that Hannah did not move out of her
    home until the summer of 2012. However, the judge was not
    required to credit the mother's testimony, Baccanti v. Morton,
    
    434 Mass. 787
    , 791 (2001), especially where the mother later
    acknowledged that she did not have suitable living
    accommodations for Hannah as of May, 2012.
    28
    father had made total child support payments of $188,637
    (including a $3,500 "lump sum" payment), and that the father had
    made an additional $2,500 child support payment21 in April, 2009,
    when the parties executed the 2009 agreement.   The mother
    contends that the $190,737 figure is clearly erroneous, as the
    parties stipulated only to payments totaling $185,137, and there
    is nothing in the record that supports the additional amounts
    included by the judge.   While we discern no error with respect
    to the inclusion of the $2,500 payment made in April, 2009,22 it
    was indeed error to include the $3,500 "lump sum" as a
    "stipulated" child support payment.   As the mother correctly
    asserts, the parties stipulated only to payments totaling
    $185,137.   While the parties agreed that the father made the
    $3,500 lump sum payment, they disagreed as to whether the
    payment was made for the purpose of settling past due child
    support or old marital debt.   Because the parties did not agree
    regarding the nature of the $3,500 payment, it was error for the
    judge to treat it as a child support payment on the basis of the
    21
    Due to a typographical error, the judge added the $2,500
    payment to $188,237 (rather than $188,637, a difference of
    $400), resulting in the $190,737 figure. Without the
    typographical error, the total would be $191,137. This error
    carried through into the amended judgments, and must be
    corrected.
    22
    The record adequately supports the judge's finding that
    the father made a $2,500 child support payment in connection
    with the execution of the 2009 agreement.
    29
    parties having stipulated to same.     Accordingly, because the
    amount the father should have been credited for child support
    payments should have totaled $187,637 ($185,137 plus $2,500),
    his child support arrearages (after applying the $28,177
    equitable credit and correcting for the $400 typographical
    error, see note 
    21, supra
    ) should have been $38,883, rather than
    $35,783, and the amended judgments must be modified
    accordingly.23
    5.   College expenses.    The mother argues that the judge
    erred by ordering the mother to contribute to the children's
    "future" college expenses.     To the extent that the mother is
    raising a prematurity argument, it is unpersuasive.     Generally,
    "support orders regarding the future payment of post-high school
    educational costs are premature and should not be made,"
    Passemato v. Passemato, 
    427 Mass. 52
    , 54 (1998), until college
    is "imminent" for the child.     Ketterle v. Ketterle, 61 Mass.
    App. Ct. 758, 765 (2004), citing Cabot v. Cabot, 55 Mass. App.
    Ct. 756, 765 (2002), and Lang v. Koon, 
    61 Mass. App. Ct. 22
    , 26
    n.11 (2004).     In the present case, all three children were
    23
    The mother also argues that the judge used a flawed
    formula that incorrectly credited the father twice for his
    $6,008 "overpayment" of child support from August 11, 2011,
    through May, 2012. However, as the father points out in his
    brief, the mother appears to be relying on the judge's somewhat
    confusing explanation of the math, rather than on the math
    itself, which was correct. Accordingly, there was no error.
    30
    already enrolled in college when the judge ordered the mother to
    contribute to their college expenses.   Accordingly, the judge's
    order was not premature.24
    The mother further argues that the judge erred by ordering
    the mother to contribute to the children's college expenses
    where the mother was excluded from the college selection
    process.   We are unpersuaded.   The judge found that the children
    selected their respective colleges "without regard to either
    parent's ability to contribute to college tuition."25   Although
    the separation agreement contemplated that the parties would
    jointly participate in the choice of which college the children
    would attend, it did not explicitly make payment of either
    parent's obligation to contribute to the children's college
    expenses contingent upon being included in the college selection
    process.   Moreover, the judge was well within her discretion to
    24
    The cases cited by the mother are distinguishable as they
    involve young children for whom college was not imminent. See,
    e.g., L.W.K. v. 
    E.R.C., 432 Mass. at 452-454
    (order for payment
    of post-high school education costs for ten year old child was
    premature); Lang v. Koon, 
    61 Mass. App. Ct. 22
    (2004) (order for
    payment of post-high school education costs for eleven- and
    fifteen year old children was premature).
    25
    While the mother did not participate in the college
    selection process, there is no indication in the judge's
    findings that the mother objected to the colleges selected by
    the children. Indeed, the mother appears to have consented to
    Hannah's choice of college, as she agreed in the spring of 2011
    to pay for Hannah's education, and she contributed to Hannah's
    tuition for the spring 2012 semester.
    31
    make an order relative to the payment of college expenses, even
    if the parties had not previously agreed to contribute to them.
    See Massachusetts Child Support Guidelines § II-F (2013) ("In
    establishing support orders for children over age 18 . . . the
    Court shall exercise its discretion in ordering support and/or
    college contribution").   As such, we discern no abuse of
    discretion in making the mother "responsible for her
    proportionate share of the college education costs of the
    children,"26 in lieu of paying child support to the father.    See
    J.S. v. C.C., 
    454 Mass. 652
    , 660 (2009) (child support orders
    are reviewed for abuse of discretion).
    Conclusion.27   The amended judgment on contempt is modified
    as follows:    In par. 1, by striking "$35,793.00" and inserting
    "$38,883.00"; and by striking "$69,968.00" and inserting
    "73,068.00."    In par. 2, by striking "$35,783.00" and inserting
    "$38,883.00."
    The amended judgment of modification is modified as
    follows:   In par. 3, by striking "$41,791.00" and inserting
    26
    See also Massachusetts Child Support Guidelines,
    principles (The Guidelines are intended "[2] to promote joint
    parental responsibility for child support in proportion to, or
    as a percentage of, income").
    27
    To the extent that we do not address the parties' other
    contentions, "they 'have not been overlooked. We find nothing
    in them that requires discussion.'" Department of Rev. v. Ryan
    R., 
    62 Mass. App. Ct. 380
    , 389 (2004), quoting from Commonwealth
    v. Domanski, 
    332 Mass. 66
    , 78 (1954).
    32
    "$44,891.00"; and by striking "69,968.00" and inserting
    "$73,068.00."   As so modified, the amended judgments are
    affirmed.
    So ordered.