Bridget Lee Bofysil v. Sarah Lynne Bofysil ( 2020 )

If this opinion indicates that it is “FOR PUBLICATION,” it is subject to
revision until final publication in the Michigan Appeals Reports.
STATE OF MICHIGAN
COURT OF APPEALS
BRIDGET LEE BOFYSIL, FOR PUBLICATION
April 23, 2020
Plaintiff/Counterdefendant-Appellant, 9:05 a.m.
v No. 351004
Jackson Circuit Court
SARAH LYNNE BOFYSIL, LC No. 18-001635-DM
Defendant/Counterplaintiff-Appellee.
Before: CAVANAGH, P.J., and BECKERING and GLEICHER, JJ.
GLEICHER, J.
A recent Pew Research study reports that in 2016, 18% percent of parents in America
stayed home to raise their children. Twenty-seven percent of mothers elected stay-at-home
parenting. Livingston, Stay-At-Home Moms and Dads Account for About One-In-Five U.S.
Parents, FactTank: News in the Numbers, September 24, 2018, available at
(accessed April 10, 2020). For one parent to stay home to raise
the children, the other must go out into the world and generate an income to support the family.
Does working outside the home compromise a parent’s ability to forge and maintain a strong,
healthy relationship with her children? What if both parents work outside the home? Is the child
essentially without a parent truly committed to parenting and all that the job entails?
In this case, the trial court found that the young child had an established custodial
environment only with defendant Sarah Bofysil, largely because Sarah “was the stay at home mom
while the parties were together” and the child “is with her the majority of the time.” It was error
to discount the role of the child’s other parent, plaintiff Bridget Bofysil, simply because Bridget
worked outside the home to support her family. This error influenced the applicable burden of
proof and permeated the court’s assessment of the child’s best interests. Accordingly, we affirm
in part the judgment of divorce, but vacate the custody award and remand for further proceedings.
I. BACKGROUND
Bridget and Sarah married in April 2014. The couple decided to have a child, using
Bridget’s egg fertilized with a sperm donor and implanted in Sarah. Bridget and Sarah agreed that
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Sarah would stay home to raise their child for an unspecified period of time while Bridget would
continue to work outside the home as a canine officer with the Eastern Michigan University Police
Department. Sarah stopped working in December 2015, and the couple’s daughter, AB, was born
in January 2016.
Bridget and Sarah’s relationship began to deteriorate after AB’s birth. Money was tight
and Bridget claimed that Sarah rejected Bridget’s requests that she return to work. Sarah, on the
other hand, accused Bridget of belittling her role as a stay-at-home parent. Bridget worked
overtime when possible and was sometimes required to travel for work events. Bridget’s absence
put a strain on the relationship. Eventually, the couple’s arguments, suspicions, and verbal
mistreatment of each other took its toll and Bridget filed for divorce in June 2018.
Bridget testified that during their marriage, both she and Sarah served as “primary
caretaker[s]” for AB. Bridget asserted that she “picked [her] shift at work to make it so that [she]
could have the most amount of hours with [AB] during the day as possible.” Bridget described:
I was there everyday when [AB] woke up. I was there for lunch. I was there to
take her to do fun things like go to the park, go run around the mall. We went to
family outings together. We did bath time together as much as possible. Every day
I was home that I had off I put her to bed. I read her stories. I brushed her hair. I
painted her nails. I did everything that a parent does with a child. Cooked meals,
tried to get her to try new things. Everything.
Sarah described the family situation somewhat similarly. As Bridget worked the night
shift, she was still asleep when AB awoke at 7:30 a.m. Sarah asserted that she fed AB breakfast
and played with her until Bridget got up at 11. Sarah continued:
At that point in time, we would spend some family time together. One of us would
make lunch. It was typically Bridget because she enjoys to cook more than I do,
and I would continue playing with [AB], getting her dressed, um, just everyday
activities . . . for a toddler. We would have lunch together.
Sarah testified that Bridget took side jobs as a dog trainer some afternoons. Those jobs sometimes
“interrupted” family time after lunch. On other occasions, Sarah assisted and AB went with them.
Around 4 p.m. during the week, Bridget would prepare for work. Sarah described that Bridget
would go into the bedroom alone for 45 minutes to one hour to “get into warrior mode,” enabling
her to move from family time to a police mindset. Bridget denied ever using this term. When
Bridget left for work, she would flash the lights on her cruiser and sound the siren to say goodbye
to AB.
When Sarah left the marital home, she took AB and moved in with her parents in Montague.
Once the marital home sold, Bridget moved to Redford Township, more than two hours away from
Sarah and AB. Bridget asserted that she could not move closer to Sarah’s new home because she
continued to work in Ypsilanti. And Sarah asserted that as she was unemployed, moving to the
Muskegon area with her parents was her only option. Moreover, Sarah expressed her intent to
continue living with her parents and to remain unemployed indefinitely in order to maintain
consistency for AB.
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Bridget testified that Sarah kept AB from her for an entire month following their separation
and thereafter allowed her to take AB for just two days every other week. Sarah would allow
Bridget to take AB only when Bridget was off work. However, when Bridget suggested using
vacation time to spend more time with AB, Sarah refused. Bridget accused Sarah of arranging
parenting-time schedules that conflicted with Bridget’s work schedule and of being inflexible.
Ultimately, following a conciliation meeting, the parties received a definitive parenting-time
schedule from the Friend of the Court.
Sarah testified that AB spent “the majority of her time” with her since the separation. She
explained that Bridget had parenting time three weekends each month from Saturday evening
through Tuesday afternoon. Sarah wished to change that schedule from Friday evening to Monday
afternoon to allow AB an additional day to attend preschool. Sarah accused Bridget of denying
her requests to Facetime AB during parenting time. And Sarah testified that Bridget had
specifically refused to coparent, instead preferring to “parallel parent” with Sarah, exchanging
communication about AB in a notebook. Sarah conceded that shortly after the separation, she
denied parenting time to Bridget for approximately one month because Sarah required “a written
communication between our two lawyers.” Sarah testified that she insisted on this type of
confirmation before the entry of the FOC order because Bridget sent her an email “saying that she
would be keeping [AB] for an additional week.”
Ultimately, the court awarded sole legal and physical custody of AB to Sarah, with
“reasonable rights parenting time” to Bridget. The court began by finding that AB’s established
custodial environment was with Sarah alone. In this regard, the court reasoned:
[Sarah] was the stay at home mom while the parties were together and she had
primary physical custody continuously since they separated. [AB] naturally looks
currently to the parent she is with for love, affection and the necessities of life.
Since that parent is usually [Sarah], as she is with her the majority of the time, the
Court finds an established custodial environment exists with [Sarah].
The court held Sarah to “a preponderance of the evidence” standard to prove that it was in AB’s
best interests to award her sole physical custody while granting Bridget only “reasonable rights
parenting time,” but required Bridget to prove by clear and convincing evidence that she should
have physical custody of AB. However, the court couched, even if it
were to find that an established custodial environment exists with both parties,
changing primary physical custody to [Bridget], as she requests, would destroy the
established custodial environment with [Sarah], whereas, reducing [Bridget’s]
parenting time from three weekends per month to two is not such a drastic change
that it would destroy the established custodial environment with [Bridget], and
could be ordered even if only a preponderance of evidence supports the change.
However, regardless of which standard applies, the Court finds that the evidence
supporting the following custody determination is indeed clear and convincing.
The court then addressed legal custody. Throughout the proceedings, the parties had shared
joint legal custody. The court noted that the parties could not cooperate or agree on important life
decisions. The court faulted Bridget for refusing Sara’s “numerous attempts . . . to engage [her]
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in joint parenting” and for her insistence on parenting “independently in parallel, instead of in
cooperation.” The court further determined that Bridget had employed “harsh and abusive
communications” that “demonstrated that she is incapable of co-parenting.” Accordingly, the
court awarded Sarah sole legal custody of AB.
The court continued to consider the best-interest factors of MCL 722.23, weighing most in
favor of Sarah. In this analysis, the court expressed a decided preference for Sarah as the stay-at-
home caretaker. In finding that factor (a), “[t]he love, affection, and other emotional ties existing
between the parties involved and the child,” favored Sarah, the court found that Sarah “has closer
parental and emotional ties to [AB] than does [Bridget] by virtue of being able to spend
significantly more time with her.” The court further found that Sarah’s “commitment to remain
home with the child until she reaches school age, rather than place her in day care or the care of
another, will enable [Sarah] to be far better able to provide [AB] with love, affection and guidance
than [Bridget], who spends much of her days at work,” tipping the scales in Sarah’s favor under
factor (b), “[t]he capacity and disposition of the parties involved to give the child love, affection,
and guidance and to continue the education and raising of the child in his or her religion or creed,
if any.” And in analyzing “[t]he length of time the child has lived in a stable, satisfactory
environment” under factor (d), the court noted that “[a]lthough both parties have been involved in
the care of the child, . . . [Sarah] has been the primary caregiver.”
Bridget subsequently filed a motion for reconsideration, arguing in part that the evidence
established that AB had resided primarily with Sarah since the separation only because Sarah had
withheld and alienated AB from her. Bridget further asserted that the court awarded Sarah
“primary physical custody largely because the Court assumed that [Bridget] would be forced to
use third party child care givers because of her employment.” Bridget contended that this
assumption was erroneous and asked the court “to reopen the proofs” to allow her to “present
additional evidence as to her work schedule and to prove that [Sarah] plans to enroll the minor
child in unnecessary pre-school although [Sarah] is still unemployed.” The court denied the
motion.
Bridget now appeals.
II. STANDARDS OF REVIEW
“All custody orders must be affirmed on appeal unless the trial court committed a palpable
abuse of discretion, made findings against the great weight of the evidence, or made a clear legal
error.” Mitchell v Mitchell, 296 Mich. App. 513, 517; 823 NW2d 153 (2012). “The great weight
of the evidence standard applies to all findings of fact. A trial court’s findings . . . should be
affirmed unless the evidence clearly preponderates in the opposite direction.” Phillips v Jordan,
241 Mich. App. 17, 20; 614 NW2d 183 (2000). Further, the “abuse of discretion standard applies
to the trial court’s discretionary rulings such as custody decisions.” Id. Finally, this Court reviews
questions of law for clear legal error. Id. “A trial court commits clear legal error when it
incorrectly chooses, interprets, or applies the law.” Id.
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III. ESTABLISHED CUSTODIAL ENVIRONMENT
Before making a custody determination, the trial court must determine whether the child
has an established custodial environment with one or both parents, Kessler v Kessler, 295 Mich
App 54, 61; 811 NW2d 39 (2011), which “is an intense factual inquiry.” Foskett v Foskett, 247
Mich. App. 1, 6; 634 NW2d 363 (2001). An established custodial environment is one
of significant duration in which a parent provides care, discipline, love, guidance,
and attention that is appropriate to the age and individual needs of the child. It is
both a physical and psychological environment that fosters a relationship between
custodian and child and is marked by security, stability, and permanence. [Berger
v Berger, 277 Mich. App. 700, 706; 747 NW2d 336 (2008).]
“An established custodial environment may exist with both parents where a child looks to both . . .
for guidance, discipline, the necessities of life, and parental comfort.” Id. at 707.
Determining a child’s established custodial environment is a pivotal step in a custody battle
because it installs the burden of proof. If a proposed change would modify the child’s established
custodial environment, the proponent must demonstrate by clear and convincing evidence that the
proposed change is in the child’s best interests. Pierron v Pierron, 486 Mich. 81, 92; 782 NW2d
480 (2010). If the proposed change would not modify the established custodial environment, the
proponent need only demonstrate by a preponderance of the evidence that the proposed change is
in the child’s best interests. Id. at 92-93. If a child has an established custodial environment with
both parents, neither parent’s custody may be disrupted absent clear and convincing evidence that
the change is in the child's best interests. Powery v Wells, 278 Mich. App. 526, 529; 752 NW2d 47
(2008).
Here, the court determined that AB had an established custodial environment exclusively
with Sarah. Therefore, Sarah was only required to establish by a preponderance of the evidence
that granting her sole physical custody was in AB’s best interests, and Bridget had to prove by
clear and convincing evidence that granting her sole physical custody would be best for her child.
Left unsaid was that Bridget would have to prove by clear and convincing evidence that even
shared custody would serve AB’s best interests.
The evidence preponderates against the circuit court’s established-custodial-environment
finding. Both parties agreed that from AB’s January 2016 birth until Sarah left the home with AB
in the middle of June 2018, both parents shared in the care of AB. Although Bridget worked
outside of the home, she arranged her schedule to maximize her time home during AB’s waking
hours. Even Sarah conceded the Bridget was usually the one to make lunch for the family and that
the whole family often would be present when Bridget took on side jobs training dogs. AB clearly
had a homelife in which both of her parents provided for her care and needs. Although AB may
have looked to her parents to fulfill different needs and likely understood at some level their
distinct household roles, both provided her with “security, stability, and permanence.”
The circuit court apparently contemplated that its established-custodial-environment
determination might not withstand appellate scrutiny. The court noted, “regardless of which
standard applies, the Court finds that the evidence supporting the following custody determination
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is indeed clear and convincing.” However, the court perpetuated its erroneous approach to the
working parent throughout the judgment, faulting Bridget for her full-time employment outside
the home by treating her as less than a full parent.
IV. BEST INTEREST FACTORS
A trial court must consider the factors outlined in MCL 722.23 in determining a custody
arrangement in the best interests of the children involved. The statute provides:
As used in this act, “best interests of the child” means the sum total of the following
factors to be considered, evaluated, and determined by the court:
(a) The love, affection, and other emotional ties existing between the parties
involved and the child.
(b) The capacity and disposition of the parties involved to give the child love,
affection, and guidance and to continue the education and raising of the child in his
or her religion or creed, if any.
(c) The capacity and disposition of the parties involved to provide the child with
food, clothing, medical care or other remedial care recognized and permitted under
the laws of this state in place of medical care, and other material needs.
(d) The length of time the child has lived in a stable, satisfactory environment, and
the desirability of maintaining continuity.
(e) The permanence, as a family unit, of the existing or proposed custodial home or
homes.
(f) The moral fitness of the parties involved.
(g) The mental and physical health of the parties involved.
(h) The home, school, and community record of the child.
(i) The reasonable preference of the child, if the court considers the child to be of
sufficient age to express preference.
(j) The willingness and ability of each of the parties to facilitate and encourage a
close and continuing parent-child relationship between the child and the other
parent or the child and the parents. A court may not consider negatively for the
purposes of this factor any reasonable action taken by a parent to protect a child or
that parent from sexual assault or domestic violence by the child’s other parent.
(k) Domestic violence, regardless of whether the violence was directed against or
witnessed by the child.
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(l) Any other factor considered by the court to be relevant to a particular child
custody dispute.
“A trial court’s findings regarding each best interests factor are reviewed under the great
weight of the evidence standard.” McIntosh v McIntosh, 282 Mich. App. 471, 475; 768 NW2d 325
(2009). And just as when determining AB’s established custodial environment, the court’s
findings on many factors preponderated against evidence that Bridget was regularly and routinely
involved in AB’s daily care despite that she worked outside the home.
The court erroneously weighed factor (a) in Sarah’s favor after finding that Sarah “has
closer parental and emotional ties to [AB] than does [Bridget] by virtue of being able to spend
significantly more time with her.” The court similarly erred in weighing factor (b) in Sarah’s favor
based on its conclusion that Sarah “has been the primary caregiver and that her commitment to
remain home with the child until she reaches school age, rather than place her in day care or the
care of another, will enable her to be far better able to provide her with love, affection and guidance
than [Bridget], who spends much of her days at work.” The fact that the parties agreed before
conceiving that one parent would stay at home to raise the child while the other would financially
support the family does not equate with one parent loving the child more or having more affection
for the child. Nor should that decision foreclose the result of a custodial disagreement if a
relationship ends.
Despite treating Bridget as a less viable parent because she chose to work outside the home,
the court declined to credit Bridget for her ability and willingness to earn an income and provide
health insurance for her child. The court treated the parties equally under factor (c) after deeming
child support and “the additional support [Sarah] receives from her family” as “more than
sufficient to meet [AB’s] material needs.” We discern no rational reason to both punish and yet
fail to credit a parent for financially supporting his or her family.
The court also erred throughout its best-interest analysis by focusing heavily on Bridget’s
new romantic relationship. The parties presented evidence that since the separation, Bridget had
moved on romantically while Sarah had not. In focusing on this factor, the court repeatedly
emphasized that Bridget was not yet divorced and her new girlfriend was married, although
separated. The court described this relationship as “illicit,” expressed that it took “a very dim view
of extra-marital relationships” because they “show[] a lack of candor and fidelity,” and implied
that Sarah therefore had a superior moral character.
Michigan courts have repeatedly held that infidelity cannot be used to measure a parent’s
moral fitness under MCL 722.23(f) unless that infidelity actually interferes with the parent’s ability
to parent his or her child. See Fletcher v Fletcher, 447 Mich. 871, 886-887; 526 NW2d 889 (1994);
Berger, 277 Mich. App. at 712-713. The court in this case did not consider Bridget’s relationship
with a married woman before her divorce was finalized in analyzing factor (f). However, it made
those exact same judgments in analyzing factors (d) and (e). This was improper under any factor.
See Fletcher, 447 Mich. at 886-887 (“Factor f (moral fitness), like all the other statutory factors,
relates to a person’s fitness as a parent.”). Moreover, the circuit court treated the parties
disparately. The evidence established that Sarah was married when she began her romantic
relationship with Bridget. Surely that “illicit relationship” equally “shows a lack of candor and
fidelity” on Sarah’s part.
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Bridget also challenges the circuit court’s analysis of factor (j)—willingness to foster the
other parent’s continuing parent-child relationship. The court commenced its analysis by
committing a factual error: “the undisputed testimony of both parents indicated that even in the
absence of a court order for parenting time, Sarah ‘immediately’ set a ‘reasonable rights’ parenting
time schedule for Bridget.” In fact, Bridget testified that Sarah purposely scheduled parenting
time to conflict with her schedule, refused requests for additional days to coincide with her
vacation time, and withheld AB for one month. During that long absence, Bridget asserted, Sarah
interfered with her FaceTime conversations with AB. However, the remainder of the court’s
findings related to factor (j) were a fair resolution of conflicting evidence presented by the parties.
We may not interfere with the court’s assessment in that regard. See Sinicropi v Mazurek, 273
Mich. App. 149, 155; 729 NW2d 256 (2006).
Finally, Bridget challenges the court’s factual findings related to factor (k), domestic
violence. The court acknowledged that “Sarah slapp[ed] Bridget during an emotional exchange.”
But the court minimized that act as “angry exchanges appear to have been commonplace between
the parties, with Bridget being the aggressor.” The court continued by describing evidence of
Bridget’s verbal aggression toward Sarah in front of AB. The parties’ tales of aggression
conflicted, but Sarah presented text messages (and Bridget presented a video) both supporting
Sarah’s version of events. In any event, we may not interfere with the court’s assessment of the
parties’ credibility in this regard, either.
Given the circuit court’s improper reliance on Bridget’s relationship with a married woman
and its bias against Bridget’s role as a working parent, we cannot hold that the court acted within
its discretion in awarding sole physical custody to Sarah with such limited parenting time to
Bridget. Further proceedings with up-to-date information will be required to consider the custodial
arrangement that best serves AB’s best interests.
V. LEGAL CUSTODY
On this record, it also appears that the circuit court abused its discretion in awarding sole
legal custody to Sarah. Pursuant to MCL 722.26a(1)(b), in determining whether joint legal custody
is in the best interest of the child, the court must consider “[w]hether the parents will be able to
cooperate and generally agree concerning important decisions affecting the welfare of the child.”
As stated in Fisher v Fisher, 118 Mich. App. 227, 232-233; 324 NW2d 582 (1982):
In order for joint custody to work, parents must be able to agree with each other on
basic issues in child rearing—including health care, religion, education, day to day
decision-making and discipline—and they must be willing to cooperate with each
other in joint decision-making. If two equally capable parents whose marriage
relationship has irreconcilably broken down are unable to cooperate and to agree
generally concerning important decisions affecting the welfare of their children, the
court has no alternative but to determine which parent shall have sole custody of
the children. [Citations omitted.]
There was no clear record indication that the parties could not agree on major decisions for
AB. Sarah asserted that Bridget did not approve of her plan to baptize AB; Bridget’s testimony
showed only a desire for more information about Sarah’s chosen church’s stance on same-sex
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marriage and the date of the ceremony. Sarah asserted that Bridget did not cooperate with potty
training; however, it appears that Bridget simply handled potty training differently.
The larger concern in this case was the parties’ ability and willingness to communicate.
Evidence established that the parties’ direct communications were not civil. Accordingly, the
parties agreed to communicate about issues relevant to AB in a notebook. Sarah did believe this
method was inadequate. However, it is not uncommon for the FOC to recommend or courts to
order parents to use a computer program or notebook system to share information or to otherwise
communicate. Through these indirect communication methods, parents can interact without
danger of hostility, easing their ability to cooperate and agree on major issues. The incivility
present in this case ran both ways. Under such circumstances, socially distancing parental
interactions may be an appropriate method for maintaining a safe and efficient approach to shared
parenting responsibilities.
On remand, the court must also reconsider its award of legal custody based on up-to-date
information and must take into account alternative communication methods, if feasible.
We affirm in part the judgment of divorce but vacate the custody award and remand for
further consideration consistent with this opinion. We do not retain jurisdiction.
/s/ Elizabeth L. Gleicher
/s/ Mark J. Cavanagh
/s/ Jane M. Beckering
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