A.M. VS. J.P.M. (FV-20-0408-21, UNION COUNTY AND STATEWIDE) (RECORD IMPOUNDED) ( 2021 )


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    SUPERIOR COURT OF NEW JERSEY
    APPELLATE DIVISION
    DOCKET NO. A-0900-20
    A.M.,
    Plaintiff-Appellant,
    v.
    J.P.M.,
    Defendant-Respondent.
    _________________________
    Argued March 3, 2021 - Decided September 10, 2021
    Before Judges Ostrer, Accurso and Enright.
    On appeal from the Superior Court of New Jersey,
    Chancery Division, Family Part, Union County, Docket
    No. FV-20-0408-21.
    Susan McCue argued the cause for appellant (Central
    Jersey Legal Services, Inc., attorneys; Susan McCue,
    on the briefs).
    Nicholas T. Delaney argued the cause for respondent
    (Law Office of Katherine G. Houghton, attorneys;
    Nicholas T. Delaney, on the brief).
    PER CURIAM
    Plaintiff A.M. appeals from the denial of her application for a final
    restraining order against her husband defendant J.P.M. pursuant to the
    Prevention of Domestic Violence Act (the Act), N.J.S.A. 2C:25 -17 to -35 and
    the dismissal of the temporary restraining order against him. 1 Although the
    judge found defendant committed the predicate act of harassment pursuant to
    N.J.S.A. 2C:25-19(a)(13), he failed to consider other acts alleged in plaintiff's
    complaint, including assault and criminal mischief. More important, he let
    plaintiff's subjective fear of defendant dictate whether an FRO was necessary to
    protect plaintiff from an immediate danger or to prevent further abuse instead
    of considering the statutory factors the Legislature established in N.J.S.A.
    2C:25-29(a)(1) to (6).
    Specifically, the judge declared "the plaintiff's fear is important and goes
    to the heart of whether or not even the plaintiff feels that she is in some
    immediate danger." He found "a plaintiff would know better than the court
    whether or not she actually is in any immediate danger." Because the judge
    determined plaintiff didn't "really believe[] that she's in some immediate danger
    1
    We granted plaintiff's emergent motion to stay the final order pending our
    resolution of this appeal and reinstated the temporary restraining order,
    remanding to the judge presiding over the parties' divorce for the limited purpose
    of deciding whether the order should be amended to permit defendant parenting
    time and, if so, under what conditions.
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    from the defendant," he found plaintiff "is [not] in any immediate danger from
    [defendant]," and, accordingly "conclude[d] that there is not a reason to have a
    restraining order going forward to protect her from further abuse."
    Because a plaintiff's subjective fear of the defendant is not the test under
    the second prong of Silver v. Silver, 
    387 N.J. Super. 112
    , 125-27 (App. Div.
    2006), and plaintiff is entitled to the court's consideration of every theory alleged
    in her complaint, we vacate the order denying the FRO, reinstate the TRO and
    remand for a new hearing before a different judge.
    The essential facts as to what happened to prompt plaintiff's application
    for a TRO are not in dispute. The parties' marriage was foundering. Defendant
    had filed for divorce, and the reconciliation they were attempting was not going
    well. Plaintiff was trying to sleep in on a Sunday morning having worked the
    night shift. The parties were arguing and plaintiff got up to be with the parties'
    three young children. Defendant had started in on a bottle of vodka by a little
    after noon.
    At some point, defendant texted plaintiff that he was leaving. Plaintiff
    started to walk through the house looking for him and saw him outside.
    According to plaintiff, defendant charged into the house, highly intoxicated,
    saying "f… this . . . I'm not f…ing doing this anymore, I'm gonna go kill myself."
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    Defendant had attempted to hang himself several months earlier, leading to a
    nine-day hospitalization. Plaintiff thus took his threat seriously and said she
    was going to call the police. 2 Defendant "came at [her]," attempting to wrest
    the phone from her grasp.
    Defendant ended up twisting plaintiff's arm behind her back and pinning
    her face down on the couch, causing her pain and difficulty breathing. She
    2
    Plaintiff's counsel attempted to explore this history with plaintiff in an effort
    to establish the predicate act of harassment. Defense counsel objected on the
    basis it was not relevant. The court asked whether plaintiff was attempting to
    establish that "I'm going to kill myself is a statement offered with purpose to
    alarm the other individual[?]" When plaintiff's counsel confirmed that was what
    she was arguing, the judge said, "I'll allow just a little bit more with respect to
    that but I sincerely doubt that a restraining order would ever be given to someone
    because the defendant threatened to kill himself."
    We do not agree with the judge that threats of suicide by a defendant
    would not support entry of a domestic violence restraining order. See Julie
    Saffren, Professional Responsibility in Civil Domestic Violence Matters, 24
    Hastings Women's L.J. 3, 19 (2013) (describing "threats of suicide and self-
    harm" as red flags for high lethality domestic violence cases); Sally F. Goldfarb,
    Reconceiving Civil Protection Orders for Domestic Violence: Can Law Help
    End the Abuse Without Ending the Relationship?, 29 Cardozo L. Rev. 1487,
    1539-40 (2008) (explaining researchers have identified "threats of homicide or
    suicide" as risk factors for future severe violence between perpetrators and
    victims of domestic violence); Catherine F. Klein & Leslye E. Orloff, Providing
    Legal Protection for Battered Women: An Analysis of State Statutes and Case
    Law, 21 Hofstra L. Rev. 801, 848 n.236, 863 (1993) (noting "[d]omestic
    violence consists of a wide range of behaviors, including . . . suicide threats or
    attempts" and describing how "[b]atterers often make threats of suicide as a
    method of exerting control over their battered intimate partner").
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    couldn't move. The children were present and the parties' four-year-old son
    jumped on defendant's back, hitting him and yelling at him to get off his mother.
    Plaintiff yelled to her daughter to run outside and scream for help. The child,
    seven years old, ran out the front door, crying and screaming for help. The
    neighbors heard the child's screams and entered the house, causing defendant to
    release plaintiff and run into the backyard. The parties' Ring doorbell captured
    some of the mayhem.
    When defendant let her go, plaintiff grabbed the children, ran to her
    neighbor's house and called the police. The son who had been trying to fight off
    his father, ran back into the house crying for him. Plaintiff followed the boy
    and the two saw defendant in the backyard standing on a stool with a rope around
    his neck. When police arrived, defendant ran inside and locked the doors. The
    day ended in a three-hour standoff between defendant and a SWAT team, some
    of which plaintiff could view on the Ring doorbell application on her phone,
    including defendant throwing what appeared to be a brick at police . While
    barricaded inside, defendant caused considerable damage, breaking two front
    windows, the front door, blinds and a ceiling lamp in the kitchen, the dining
    room table, and shattering picture frames in the upstairs hallway. He also set
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    fire to and burned the dining room chairs, the rug and every step of the stairway
    runner to the second floor.
    Plaintiff testified she was seeking a restraining order to ensure the safety
    of herself and their children and to prevent "[s]omething like this" from
    happening again.     Defendant's counsel did not question plaintiff about her
    complaint alleging assault, criminal restraint, criminal mischief and harassment.
    Instead, he focused on plaintiff having "expressed [her] willingness to others
    outside of this case to drop the DV, so long as [defendant] gave up the house."
    Plaintiff admitted having such conversations, but claimed defendant's friend
    reached out to her about dropping the charges. Counsel also asked whether
    plaintiff had a similar conversation with her sister, which plaintiff denied, saying
    "I don't even speak to my sister."
    Plaintiff's counsel objected to this line of questions on relevancy grounds.
    Defendant's counsel contended the questions went to plaintiff's credibility. The
    court overruled the objection, finding the question of whether plaintiff was
    willing to drop the restraining order in exchange for defendant signing over his
    interest in the house very relevant because it "would go to the heart of whether
    or not the plaintiff is truly fearful of the defendant."
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    Defense counsel also asked whether it was true defendant had gotten a
    restraining order against her a few months before this incident.        Plaintiff
    admitted he had, and that she had scratched his neck in the course of an argument
    between the two. Plaintiff also testified that defendant injured her in that
    argument and that she had attempted to get a restraining order against defendant
    but had been denied. Plaintiff admitted she had not been allowed to see their
    children for several weeks as a result of that order, causing her much anguish,
    and that defendant dismissed the TRO when the parties agreed to reconcile.
    Defendant called his friend and plaintiff's sister, both of whom testified
    briefly about conversations or texts with plaintiff in which she expressed a
    willingness to drop the restraining order, or the pending criminal charges (the
    witnesses were not clear about which) in exchange for defendant signing over
    his half of the house to her.
    Defendant testified in his own behalf. He claimed he drank an entire bottle
    of vodka in about four hours and had no recollection of much of the events o n
    the day of the standoff. He admitted he had no reason to doubt plaintiff's
    testimony about him twisting her arm and pinning her to the couch, but testified
    he had never hit or attempted to hurt her during their nine years of marriage.
    Defendant also testified he spent nine days in the hospital receiving treatment
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    after the standoff, including for alcohol dependency, that doctors increased his
    anti-depressant medication, and that he had since continued weekly outpatient
    treatment and joined Alcoholics Anonymous.         Defendant testified he was
    "embarrassed about the whole thing" and basically ashamed of himself.
    In his summation, defense counsel argued this was "a one-off" event, and
    plaintiff's conversations with her sister and defendant's friend "show[] there is
    no fear here" and thus no need for entry of an FRO, especially as defendant had
    no desire to reconcile with plaintiff.
    Plaintiff's counsel argued plaintiff had established the predicate act of
    assault and harassment and although asserting the extent of the damage
    defendant caused to their home could also qualify as criminal mischief, said she
    would focus her remarks on assault and harassment as plaintiff needed to
    establish only one predicate act under the statute.     Plaintiff's counsel also
    disagreed with defense counsel's focus on plaintiff's subjective fear of
    defendant, saying, "[t]he second prong of Silver is that the victim needs the
    protection because she is potentially subject to further abuse or the possibility
    of immediate danger from this particular abuser. It has absolutely nothing to do
    with fear, whether that's objective or subjective." Counsel argued plaintiff had
    easily established a predicate act and that "the extreme nature" of defendant's
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    conduct the day of the standoff, his psychiatric history, and his substance abuse
    history all indicate the potential for further abuse in the absence of an FRO.
    The judge, although noting the several predicate acts plaintiff had alleged
    in her complaint, stated that he was "going to focus on harassment." The judge
    stated he believed plaintiff's testimony about how the altercation between the
    parties happened, and concluded defendant had committed an act of harassment
    against plaintiff under N.J.S.A. 2C:33-4(b).          The judge acknowledged
    defendant's argument that plaintiff is "not fearful" and plaintiff's argument "that
    fear is not necessary," but said he "beg[ged] to differ with [plaintiff] on that."
    The judge opined "[t]he plaintiff's fear is important and it goes to the heart of
    whether or not even the plaintiff feels that she is in some immediate danger, and
    in [his] view a plaintiff would know better than the court whether or not she
    actually is in any immediate danger."
    Turning to the evidence in the record "to help the court decide if she is
    [fearful]," the judge noted
    a general vague statement [in the complaint] alluding to
    domestic violence and then I find out that there's a
    [temporary] restraining order that the defendant
    obtained against the plaintiff, so I have a plaintiff
    accused of previously attacking physically the
    defendant and he testified that he was injured in his
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    arm.[3] So, um, under what circumstance might
    someone find that this plaintiff actually is fearful and
    thinks that she's in some danger from the defendant?
    The judge found "the other tricky part" to be that plaintiff
    actually makes sort of a back-door attempt to
    communicate with the defendant. She knows better
    than to contact him directly by phone, text, e-mail,
    whatever. She knows that that would indicate strongly
    that she has, in essence, . . . put him in a situation to
    violate the restraining order. She's not trying to do that.
    She would rather talk to her sister and, uh, the
    defendant's friend about whether or not the defendant
    would be willing to give up any rights in the house and
    in exchange for that she would dismiss charges.
    The judge stated he didn't "know what charges she's talking about," but
    found it difficult to believe she was "saying, well, . . . I'll ask the prosecutor in
    the criminal case to dismiss the criminal charges but I'm going to keep my
    restraining order." The judge found it "pretty clear . . . that what [plaintiff]
    meant was you give me the house and I'm going to let you walk away from this
    whole thing. That's what she was doing." The judge concluded:
    So would that indicate that the plaintiff really believed
    that she's in some immediate danger from the
    defendant? Not in my book. To me it says I don't really
    3
    Defendant did not testify about this incident. Plaintiff testified she was
    assaulted by defendant in the incident by defendant "grabbing [her] by [her]
    arms again" and "toss[ing] her to the floor." She claimed she accidentally
    inflicted "a scratch on his neck" when she snatched at a piece of paper belonging
    to her that he was "waving" around.
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    think anything like this is going to happen again and
    what I need to do is protect myself and my kids and I
    need to get that house and make sure that I can keep
    that house and that he understands that while we're not
    going to be together anymore, that his family should at
    least be able to live at peace in that house and I
    understand that, I understand that, but that's not the
    question here. That's a question for another day in
    another courtroom, [a] matrimonial judge will decide
    all of that, but I don't find that [plaintiff] is in any
    immediate danger from [defendant] and therefore I
    conclude that there is not a reason for her to have a
    restraining order going forward to protect her from
    further abuse.
    The judge stated he was "not considering that [defendant] went to a
    hospital, . . . [and] is in therapy, all of those things." He noted
    people can relapse, but does that mean [defendant] is
    going to get drunk or take drugs and go over to that
    house and attack [plaintiff]? Not at all when I consider
    the circumstances under which these allegations came
    about. [4] I don't think [defendant] is going to do that
    and I do believe he's contrite about what happened and
    he might be genuine in his attempt to make sure he
    doesn't fall off the edge with drugs and alcohol and end
    up hurting himself or others. So based upon all that I've
    said, I am dismissing the domestic violence complaint
    and corresponding temporary restraining order.
    4
    The judge did not make any specific findings about "the circumstances under
    which these allegations came about," and we cannot discern what he might have
    been referring to.
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    Notwithstanding the deference owed to the determinations made by family
    judges hearing domestic violence cases, Cesare v. Cesare, 
    154 N.J. 394
    , 411-12
    (l998), we think it plain the final order entered in this case cannot stand. While
    we normally defer to family court factfinding, 
    id. at 412,
     our scope of review is
    expanded where the focus of the dispute is on "the trial judge's evaluation of the
    underlying facts and the implications to be drawn therefrom." N.J. Div. of
    Youth & Fam. Servs. v. M.M., 
    189 N.J. 261
    , 279 (2007) (quotation omitted).
    We do not, of course, accord any special deference to the trial court's
    interpretation of a statute, which is where the error lies in this case.          See
    Manalapan Realty, L.P. v. Twp. Comm. of Manalapan, 
    140 N.J. 366
    , 378 (1995).
    The law is well-settled that a judge's finding of a predicate act of domestic
    violence is only the first of a two-step process; the second step requires a
    finding, "upon an evaluation of the factors set forth in N.J.S.A. 2C:25 -29(a)(1)
    to -29(a)(6)," that a restraining order is necessary "to protect the victim from an
    immediate danger or to prevent further abuse." Silver, 
    387 N.J. Super. at 127
    .
    A plaintiff's fear of the defendant is not among the six factors the Legislature
    included in N.J.S.A. 2C:25-29(a)(1) to -29(a)(6). 5
    5
    N.J.S.A. 2C:25-29(a) provides in part:
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    The only time a plaintiff's fear has received particular attention in a Silver
    analysis is when fear or alarm is an element of the underlying offense, as, for
    example, with terroristic threats, N.J.S.A. 2C:12-3(b), or subsection (a) or (c) of
    the harassment statute, N.J.S.A. 2C:33-4(a) or (c), none of which was at issue in
    this case. See Cesare, 
    154 N.J. at 402-05
     (discussing relevance of plaintiff's fear
    in considering offenses of terroristic threats or harassment in the context of a
    domestic violence matter). But even those cases are instructive here as they
    teach that "[s]ome people are braver than others and less likely to be subject to
    intimidation," and thus that "[t]he criminality of the perpetrator's conduct"
    should not be "depend[ent] on the courage or timidity of the intended victim."
    
    Id. at 403
     (quoting State v. Nolan, 
    205 N.J. Super. 1
    , 4 (App. Div. 1985)
    (explaining that judges presiding over domestic violence cases alleging
    The court shall consider but not be limited to the
    following factors [in determining whether to grant a
    final restraining order]: (1) The previous history of
    domestic violence between the plaintiff and defendant,
    including threats, harassment and physical abuse; (2)
    The existence of immediate danger to person or
    property; (3) The financial circumstances of the
    plaintiff and defendant; (4) The best interests of the
    victim and any child; (5) In determining custody and
    parenting time the protection of the victim's safety; and
    (6) The existence of a verifiable order of protection
    from another jurisdiction.
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    terroristic threats or harassment should employ an objective standard and
    therefore "not consider the victim's actual fear")).
    What our Supreme Court has deemed critical in fulfilling the Legislature's
    intent in enacting the Prevention of Domestic Violence Act is that the judge
    consider the plaintiff's individual circumstances and the past history of the
    parties, within the context of the specific allegations of the complaint,
    "weigh[ing] the entire relationship" and "specifically set[ing] forth their
    findings of fact in that regard." 
    Id. at 405
    . That was not done here. Instead of
    focusing on the factors in N.J.S.A. 2C:25-29(a)(1) to (6) and weighing the
    parties' entire relationship in conducting the second-prong Silver analysis, the
    court substituted its own test — the plaintiff's subjective fear of defendant. That
    was a plain error.
    We do not hold that a court can never consider a plaintiff's fear, measured
    objectively, in determining whether the plaintiff is in immediate danger from
    the defendant. The factors in N.J.S.A. 2C:25-29(a)(1) to (6) are a non-exclusive
    list of considerations for a court to weigh in determining whether to grant an
    FRO. But a court is certainly not free to ignore "the statutory command to
    consider the previous history, if any, of domestic violence between the parties"
    and to substitute its own test for the second-prong Silver analysis as was done
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    here. See J.D. v. M.D.F., 
    207 N.J. 458
    , 479 (2011). Contrary to N.J.S.A. 2C:25-
    29(a)(1), the court did not make any findings about the parties' previous history
    of domestic violence, although there was obviously some history, and truncated
    the plaintiff's effort to elicit further testimony of defendant's prior threat to kill
    himself, his suicide attempt and subsequent hospitalization because it,
    erroneously, considered it irrelevant to the inquiry. Nor did the judge consider
    the existence of immediate danger to property, N.J.S.A. 2C:25-29(a)(2), or the
    best interests of plaintiff and the parties' three children, N.J.S.A. 2C:25-29(a)(4),
    notwithstanding that both appear relevant to the inquiry.
    Even were we to allow, as we do, that a court might consider a plaintiff's
    fear, measured objectively, among other factors, in determining whether the
    plaintiff was subject to immediate danger from the defendant, that doesn't
    address the separate question of whether the plaintiff needs protection from
    further abuse. 6 The inquiries are not identical, especially considering that the
    6
    Although plaintiff's counsel did not object to the testimony of defendant's two
    witnesses about plaintiff's alleged offer to dismiss the restraining order in
    exchange for defendant giving plaintiff defendant's share of the house in the
    divorce on the basis of N.J.R.E. 408, we question whether such discussions were
    admissible under that rule, which generally bars evidence of settlement offers or
    negotiations. See N.J.R.E. 408 ("When a claim is disputed as to validity or
    amount, evidence of statements or conduct by parties or their attorneys in
    settlement negotiations, . . ., including offers of compromise or any payment in
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    settlement of a related claim, is not admissible either to prove or disprove the
    liability for, or invalidity of, . . . the disputed claim."). Although such evidence
    may be admitted for other purposes, see, e.g., Burns v. Burns, 
    223 N.J. Super. 219
    , 233 (Ch. Div. 1987) (holding in a suit brought by the plaintiff to require
    former husband to secure a "get," that 1967 rule 52(1) did not bar evidence that
    husband had offered to do so in exchange for wife's payment of funds to the
    parties' daughter, thus countering husband's claim his refusal was bas ed on
    religious reasons), it was not properly admitted for the purpose it was proffered
    — plaintiff's lack of fear of defendant — as plaintiff's subjective fear is
    irrelevant to a second prong Silver analysis for reasons already explained.
    Although it arguably might be admissible to show plaintiff's motivation in
    seeking a restraining order was not to protect herself and the parties' children
    from further incidents like the one on the day of the standoff as she testified, but
    instead to secure a leg up in the divorce action, see Murray v. Murray, 
    267 N.J. Super. 406
    , 410 (App. Div. 1993), the allegations here were certainly "not
    ordinary domestic contretemps." Corrente v. Corrente, 
    281 N.J. Super. 243
    , 250
    (App. Div. 1995). As plaintiff properly notes, the cases in which we have
    cautioned trial courts against giving "unfair advantage to a matrimonial litigant,"
    have largely been harassment cases in which the plaintiff was attempting to have
    trivial allegations branded domestic violence, see, e.g., Peranio v. Peranio, 
    280 N.J. Super. 47
    , 56 (App. Div. 1995) (holding defendant's statement "I'll bury
    you," uttered in the course of an argument during divorce not domestic
    violence), not cases such as this one involving a physical altercation between
    the parties in which their young children were also involved and ending with a
    three-hour stand-off with a SWAT team during which defendant set fires inside
    the parties' home.
    If on remand defendant again contends these alleged discussions about
    settlement are in some way relevant to the issues the court must decide, the judge
    should weigh the probative value of the evidence against its prejudicial effect as
    required by N.J.R.E. 403, see Shankman v. State, 
    184 N.J. 187
    , 207 (2005),
    taking into account that victims of domestic violence often "bargain" with their
    abusers in order to maintain their safety and the safety of their children. See
    Herbert, Silver & Ellard, Coping with an Abusive Relationship: I. How and Why
    do Women Stay?, 53 J. Marriage & the Family 311 (1991) (cited in Planned
    Parenthood of Se. Pennsylvania v. Casey, 
    505 U.S. 833
    , 892 (1992)). Even were
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    purpose of the Act is "to assure the victims of domestic violence the maximum
    protection from abuse the law can provide."        N.J.S.A. 2C:25 -18; State v.
    Hoffman, 
    149 N.J. 564
    , 584 (1997) (noting "[a]t its core, the 1991 Act
    effectuates the notion that the victim of domestic violence is entitled to be left
    alone," which "is, in essence, the basic protection the law seeks to assure these
    victims"); H.E.S. v. J.C.S., 
    175 N.J. 309
    , 329 (2003) (noting "[t]he law is clear
    that acts of actual violence are not required to support a finding of domestic
    violence"). Victims may be entitled to protection against further abuse even
    when the defendant does not pose an immediate threat to the plaintiff's safety.
    See, e.g., Pazienza v. Camarata, 
    381 N.J. Super. 173
    , 182 (App. Div. 2005)
    (finding plaintiff required FRO to prevent defendant from continuing to send
    unwanted communications intended to seriously annoy plaintiff "after he has
    the court to find the discussions admissible and that plaintiff was willing to
    barter away a protective order, we would not deem that fact barred a finding that
    a final restraining order was necessary "to protect the victim from an immediate
    danger or to prevent further abuse." Silver, 
    387 N.J. Super. at 127
    . As we have
    before reminded, "in domestic violence matters, judges are more than mere
    referees." J.S. v. D.S., 
    448 N.J. Super. 17
    , 21 (App. Div. 2016). "[T]he integrity
    of the justice system and the fact-finding process is not subordinate to the
    singular interests of the parties." State v. Garron, 
    177 N.J. 147
    , 180 (2003).
    That a domestic violence plaintiff might be willing to barter away a restraining
    order, or later dismiss one in exchange for some financial security, is not
    determinative of whether that plaintiff is entitled to the protection of a final
    restraining order in accordance with the Prevention of Domestic Violence Act,
    a decision entrusted by the Legislature to the trial judge.
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    been told no"). The trial court erred in not considering whether plaintiff needed
    an FRO to either protect her from immediate danger or to prevent further abuse,
    considering the entirety of the parties' relationship, their continued need for
    further contact into the future given the ages of their children, the couple's past
    history of domestic violence as well as all of what occurred on the day of the
    standoff. See Silver, 
    387 N.J. Super. at 128
    .
    That brings us to our final point of error — the court's failure to consider
    each basis plaintiff alleged in her complaint to support the entry of a restraining
    order. Although plaintiff alleged assault, harassment, criminal restraint and
    criminal mischief, the court considered only harassment. It was not free to do
    so. A plaintiff is entitled to have the court consider and rule on each theory of
    her complaint. Although plaintiff's counsel focused on assault and harassment
    in her summation, there was no indication that plaintiff was waiving other
    pleaded grounds for relief. The court's failure to consider each predicate act
    alleged and to "focus" only on harassment, had the predictable effect of the court
    failing to consider all of what occurred on the day of the standoff in considering
    the second Silver prong. Indeed, the court never mentioned defendant's suicide
    attempt in the backyard within sight of his family, or that defendant's attack on
    plaintiff involved the parties' three young children, or his three-hour-standoff
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    with the SWAT Team, or the extensive damage, including fire damage, that
    plaintiff caused to the parties' home that day.
    Because the court's failure to consider the other acts beyond harassment
    alleged in plaintiff's complaint and its misapprehension of the test of the second
    Silver prong appear from our review of the record to have pervaded the whole
    of its findings, we vacate the order dismissing plaintiff's domestic violence
    complaint, reinstate the TRO as amended by the judge presiding over the parties'
    divorce, and remand for a new hearing.
    Although plaintiff urges us to find her entitled to entry of a final
    restraining order as a matter of law, we hesitate because the judge so limited the
    testimony about the prior history of domestic violence between the parties and
    made no real credibility findings. Accordingly, in an abundance of caution and
    respectful of the Family Part's "special jurisdiction and expertise in family
    matters," Cesare, 
    154 N.J. at 413,
     we remand for a new hearing with evidence
    to be admitted and evaluated consistent with the principles expressed herein.
    Because the judge who heard the matter may have a commitment to his
    findings, the hearing should take place before a different judge. See N.J. Div.
    of Youth & Fam. Servs. v. A.W., 
    103 N.J. 591
    , 617 (1986).
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    Vacated and remanded for further proceedings not inconsistent with this
    opinion. We do not retain jurisdiction.
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