IN THE MATTER OF THE ADOPTION OF A CHILD BY C.J. (FA-08-0012-17, GLOUCESTER COUNTY AND STATEWIDE) (RECORD IMPOUNDED) ( 2020 )


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  •                        RECORD IMPOUNDED
    NOT FOR PUBLICATION WITHOUT THE
    APPROVAL OF THE APPELLATE DIVISION
    SUPERIOR COURT OF NEW JERSEY
    APPELLATE DIVISION
    DOCKET NO. A-2593-17T4
    IN THE MATTER OF THE                 APPROVED FOR PUBLICATION
    ADOPTION OF A CHILD                         October 28, 2020
    BY C.J.                                  APPELLATE DIVISION
    _______________________
    Submitted March 18, 2020 – Remanded April 28, 2020
    Argued October 1, 2020 – Decided October 28, 2020
    Before Judges Fuentes, Whipple and Firko.
    On appeal from the Superior Court of New Jersey,
    Chancery Division, Family Part, Gloucester County,
    Docket No. FA-08-0012-17.
    Tracy Julian argued the cause for appellant G.D.
    (Pashman Stein Walder Hayden, PC, attorneys; Tracy
    Julian, of counsel; Linda Torosian and Timothy
    Malone, on the briefs).
    Lynn M. Castillo, attorney for respondent C.J.
    The opinion of the court was delivered by
    WHIPPLE, J.A.D.
    Appellant, G.D. (Gloria),1 appeals the January 5, 2018, judgment entered
    by the Chancery Division, Family Part terminating her parental rights to her
    daughter, G.J. (Gail), and granting adoption to C.J. (Cathy), Gail's stepmother,
    who is married to Gail's father, P.J. (Paul).        We reverse the decision to
    terminate Gloria's parental rights and vacate the judgment of adoption.
    Gail was born in January 2008. Her biological parents never married.
    Gloria was the parent of primary residence after the child's birth, while Paul
    had parenting time every other weekend. 2 And although early child support
    orders are not included, we deduce from the other orders in the record that
    Gloria sought child support from Paul.
    According to records of the Division of Child Protection and
    Permanency (Division), it became involved with this family in July 2007 when
    it substantiated Gloria for neglecting a different child prior to Gail's birth.
    Cathy first met and began caring for Gail while she was with Paul,
    around June 2008, when Gail was five months old. In July 2008, Paul filed an
    Order to Show Cause seeking emergency custody of Gail. He alleged that
    1
    Due to the confidential nature of records pertaining to the placement of a
    child, we use pseudonyms in lieu of actual names. See R. 1:38-3(d)(13).
    2
    The record does not reflect whether custody was arranged by the parties or
    by court order after an FD hearing.
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    Gloria failed to meet him to take custody of the child at the conclusion of a
    parenting time visit. Paul also asserted that the Division was "involved." At
    that time, the court did not remove Gail from Gloria's care. Further, in July
    2008, the Division investigated allegations of Gloria's inadequate supervision
    of Gail but found no basis to intervene.       The Division caseworker who
    investigated the matter noted that the couple is "separated and they are in the
    beginnings of a custody dispute. There is no evidence to support the
    allegations and there is documentation on the record that [Gloria] has been
    given random urine tests that have returned negative each time."
    In February 2009, the Division received a referral alleging substantial
    risk of physical injury or environment injurious to the health and welfare of
    Gail.     Gloria subsequently submitted diluted urine screens and was
    recommended for an intensive outpatient program.
    In August 2009, Paul married Cathy, and one month later, according to
    Cathy's testimony, she and Paul contacted the Division to present photos of an
    incident involving Gail and Gloria. Those photos depicted the then one-year-
    old Gail on a boat, holding a beer bottle and appearing to be drinking, while
    Gloria was present.       Based exclusively on this incident, the Division
    substantiated Gloria for neglect.
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    Later on, in February 2011, Paul and Cathy brought Gail to a
    McDonald's to return her to Gloria following Paul's parenting time. Gloria
    was not there to pick up Gail, but Gloria's older daughter and Gloria's
    boyfriend were there.        Cathy testified that she and Paul gave the child to
    Gloria's boyfriend, called the police, and then followed Gloria's boyfriend
    home. Cathy testified that when she confronted the boyfriend at the house, he
    "had alcohol on his breath," so she took Gail back to her and Paul's house.
    According to Division records, Gloria filed an emergency motion with the
    court after Gail was not returned to her, and Paul filed an emergency motion to
    modify the custody arrangements.
    In court on February 28, 2011, Gloria and Paul were both drug-tested;
    Gloria   tested   positive     for   cocaine,   while   Paul   tested   positive   for
    methamphetamines. He then underwent another drug screen the same day,
    which was negative for all substances. Afterward, the Division records reflect
    that a safety plan was implemented, and Paul was permitted to have contact
    with Gail supervised by Cathy until the arrangements were lifted by a Division
    worker approximately two weeks later. Eventually, the court granted Paul
    residential custody of Gail, where she remains today. Additionally, Gloria
    agreed to participate in a substance abuse evaluation and received court-
    ordered unsupervised visitation with Gail.
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    In September 2011, the court ordered parenting time for Gloria on
    Wednesdays from 6:00–8:00 p.m. and every other Saturday from 12:00–3:00
    p.m.   In June 2012, the court denied Paul's application for supervision of
    Gloria's parenting time. The court noted in the June order that Gloria was
    arrested on a child support warrant that was lifted before she was released.
    She also tested positive for benzodiazepine and opiates, which were her
    prescribed medications. As a precautionary measure, the court ordered her not
    to drive while Gail was in the car.
    Next, in March 2013, during a Division investigation of Gloria's son and
    his girlfriend, an allegation surfaced that Gloria was using heroin. A ten -day
    safety plan was put in place by the Division, which required Gloria's parenting
    time to be supervised. Gloria submitted to treatment, which she completed in
    August 2013, and the Division closed the case.
    A December 23, 2014, court order states the following:
    Dad present with counsel[.] Mom present. Mom's
    application for a reduction in child support is
    withdrawn by [M]om today.            Both parties[']
    applications to modify parenting time is granted.
    Mom's parenting time shall be modified to every other
    Saturday, [12:00–6:00 p.m.]. Pick up and drop off
    shall take place at the Monroe Twp[.] Police
    Department. The Wednesday afternoon/evening visit
    is now eliminated. Mom shall submit to a hair follicle
    test within [ten] days. Dad's application for an
    increase in child support is denied; however, the
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    [c]ourt acknowledges that Dad incurs fees for the
    child's daycare ($100/[week]) and medical coverage
    ($140/month). Parties are to share the fees 50%/50%,
    payable through probation. The cost is hereby added
    to the child support obligation and the obligation is
    modified to $110/[week]. . . . Request for counsel
    fees is granted. Mom is ordered to reimburse [father's
    attorney] a total of $500 within [thirty] days from
    today's order.
    According to a subsequent May 28, 2015, court order, Gloria was found
    $529.57 in arrears in child support. On that day the court ordered:
    Mom present. Dad present with counsel[.] Dad's
    application seeking strict enforcement, including two
    missed payment stipulation or a bench warrant shall
    issue is granted. His application seeking to suspend
    [M]om's parenting time is granted. Mom is ordered to
    complete a psychological evaluation by a licensed
    psychologist who specializes in child welfare issues.
    The psychologist shall be provided with the [Division]
    records and court orders as necessary to fully
    understand the dynamic of the family.             Dad's
    application seeking reimbursement for counsel fees
    for today's filing is granted and [M]om is ordered to
    pay the total fees of $500 within [thirty] days. Failure
    to pay within [thirty] days will result in fees being
    reduced to judgment.
    We have not been provided with a transcript of the May 28, 2015, court
    hearing. On its face, the order does not describe the factual basis for the
    court's decision to order Gloria to submit to a psychological evaluation .
    However, the record reflects an allegation arising from a February 2014 drop-
    off, wherein Gloria allegedly told Cathy "remember when you're kissing [Gail]
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    whose p**** she came out of" and "just remember when you're laying in your
    bed who your husband is f****** in your bed" as Gloria was "walking away
    with [Gail] who's covering her ears."
    According to Cathy, after this visit, Gail told her that Gloria said "that
    her father didn't want her, that her father wanted her [mother] to go to the
    hospital . . . and have them cut her out of her belly and kill her because he
    didn't want her."    A few days after this, Gail's school guidance counselor
    reported that Gail had told the counselor Gloria said "that daddy made her
    have a baby cut out of her and that he was trying to do that to her when she
    was pregnant w[ith] [Gail]." Gail was six years old at the time.
    As a result of having parenting time suspended, Gloria's last physical
    contact with Gail was in April 2015. Cathy filed a complaint for adoption on
    October 13, 2016, and Gloria filed an objection.        Regarding Gloria, the
    complaint alleged that she had not seen the child since April 2015; she had a
    long history of drug and alcohol abuse; her parenting time was suspended until
    she completed a psychological evaluation; she did not provide medical support
    even though her share of medical expenses are calculated into her child
    support obligations, which were in arrears; and she had a suspended driver's
    license. The complaint similarly alleged Gloria had abandoned Gail pursuant
    to N.J.S.A. 9:6-1.
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    The trial court appointed a Guardian ad Litem to represent the child's
    interest in the matter on December 2, 2016. Counsel from the New Jersey
    Public Defender Office of Parental Representation was assigned to represent
    Gloria, after the court determined she was indigent. Gloria's counsel arranged
    for her to undergo a psychological evaluation to address her ability to parent
    Gail. But despite requests, the court denied Gloria any parenting time pending
    the adoption trial. Although the judge granted Gloria's application to have
    Gail examined by an expert, the record lacks any explanation as to why that
    examination apparently did not happen.
    In March 2017, Ronald Gruen, EdD, completed his comprehensive
    psychological evaluation, including a battery of tests, ultimately concluding
    that "[Gloria] has personality weaknesses but no significant psychopathology
    which would render her unfit to parent." Dr. Gruen reported "[Gloria] was
    convinced that [Paul] was using the courts and [the Division] to wrest custody
    of their child away from her" and "[Gloria] is not interested in taking [Gail]
    away from her father and step-mother. . . . [S]he is basically interested in
    maintaining her parental rights and securing some parenting time." He noted
    "[Gloria] is capable of parenting her daughter if given the opportunity."
    In May 2017, after reviewing Division records, Dr. Gruen issued a
    supplemental report, finding that the Division never considered Gloria's
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    parenting to be deficient enough to file a Guardianship Complaint against h er:
    "[i]n my opinion, review of the [Division] records does not support termination
    of [Gloria's] parental rights to her daughter, [Gail]."    On July 27, 2017,
    Adoptions from the Heart issued an adoption home study report recommending
    Cathy adopt Gail. The adoption report contained embedded hearsay provided
    by Cathy, again reciting the alleged comment from Gloria to Gail that "[y]our
    father wanted to cut you out of my belly and kill you," and reported that Gail
    was treated in psychotherapy due to Gloria's comments. Adoptions from the
    Heart conducted no independent psychological evaluation of the child and
    recommended that Cathy was an appropriate caregiver for Gail.
    The Guardian ad Litem also issued a comprehensive report in October
    2017, expressing various concerns about Gloria's sobriety and a concern that
    Gloria had not completed the court-ordered psychological evaluation. That
    report made no mention of Dr. Gruen's evaluative reports from March 2017
    and May 2017, and offered the legal determination that Gloria had "forsaken
    her parental duties" to Gail, asserting Gloria had not maintained a relationship
    or communicated with her daughter since May 2015. The Guardian ad Litem's
    report also based its conclusion on an unsupported assertion that Gloria had
    not provided "any form of financial support" for Gail.
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    At trial, the first witness was Gail's preschool teacher, who testified
    generally that Cathy brings Gail to school and Gail is a good student. Paul
    testified about his concerns regarding Gloria's history of substance abuse and
    the longstanding custody dispute over Gail. He also testified regarding the
    photographs showing Gail holding a beer bottle on a boat. Cathy also testified
    about her relationship with Gail and Gail's attendance at therapy. The parties
    stipulated to the Adoptions from the Heart report and evidence from the
    Division record, exclusive of embedded hearsay.             Dr. Gruen testified
    consistent with his written evaluation, and Gloria herself testified.
    On January 5, 2018, the trial court terminated Gloria's parental rights
    after finding:
    [Gloria] has not fulfilled her financial obligations for
    the care of this child. Currently according to court
    records, she owes $7,271.57 in child support arrears as
    of December 2017.         [Gloria] testified on cross-
    examination that she is unable to work due to injury
    sustained in a car accident [ten] years ago. She has
    applied, according to her testimony, for Social
    Security disability but her claim was denied. There
    was no proof of that admission into Social Security
    application. In addition to that, [Gloria] failed to
    submit any medical evidence to substantiate her claim
    for not being able to work and support the child.
    However, [Gloria] has testified that she currently
    supports herself by cleaning apartments which
    includes bending, lifting and scrubbing floors.
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    [Gloria] has not showed a continued interest in the
    child nor demonstrated a genuine effort to maintain
    communication with the child. [Gloria]'s parenting
    time was suspended on May 27th, 2015, pending a
    psychological evaluation. That was court ordered
    under FD-08-865-08 and that was dated as noted May
    27th, 2017 [sic].          [Gloria] did not complete a
    psychological evaluation until March of 2017 when
    this -- after this litigation had been enacted.
    Because of that, she has had two years of parenting
    time which has been suspended. The last time
    [Gloria] saw the child according to her was April of
    2015. [Gloria] testified that she had no phone contact
    with the child, she has not sent letters, cards or gifts to
    her daughter in over two and a half years. Prior to
    [Gloria]'s visits being suspended, she had six hours of
    parenting time on Saturday every other week. That
    was from December 23rd, 2014, until visitation had
    been suspended as noted in May of 2015.
    [Gloria] has not established or maintained a place of
    importance in the child's life. In the report that was
    submitted as evidence from Adoptions [f]rom the
    Heart, the report in numbers of places indicates the
    relationship or lack thereof between the child and the
    biological mother.
    One important aspect that the [c]ourt found was that
    when the child was asked about her perception of her
    biological mother's feelings towards her, the child
    stated, she hasn't seen me in two and a half years. She
    doesn't care about me.
    Although the [c]ourt has not -- has followed the best
    interest standard under the statute, the [c]ourt also
    examined standards in N.J.S.A. 30:4C for additional
    guidance on the best interest of the child. The factors
    under Title 30 are whether the child's safety, health or
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    development has been or will continue to be
    endangered by parental relationship, the parent is
    unwilling or unable to eliminate the harm facing the
    child or is unable or unwilling to provide a safe and
    stable home for the child and the delay of permanent
    placement will add to that harm. A factor also
    considered under Title 30 is whether or not the
    Division has made reasonable efforts. That does not
    apply in this case. And, fourth, termination of
    parental rights will not do more harm than good.
    The reasonable efforts prong is not relevant in this
    case. However, the other factors as noted provide
    additional support in the [c]ourt's consideration.
    The child's safety, health or development has been or
    will continue to be endangered by the parental
    relationship because there was testimony provided by
    the plaintiff that [Gail], that's the child, was upset
    after her last visit with [Gloria] because [Gloria] told
    [Gail] that her father, [Paul], wanted to essentially
    have an abortion, to cut [Gail] from [Gloria]'s
    stomach. Plaintiff further testified that [Gail] reported
    the incident to her teacher and [Gail] is in therapy to
    address that trauma. The [c]ourt finds that the
    plaintiff's testimony is credible and finds [Gloria]'s
    conduct endangered the safety, health and
    development of [Gail].
    In addition, on cross-examination [Gloria] denied
    making such statements to [Gail] but she also stated
    that it was possible [Gail] overheard [Gloria] talking
    to someone else and [Gloria] believed [Gail] lied
    about those statements.      The [c]ourt finds that
    [Gloria]'s testimony reflects that [Gloria] would
    continue to endanger [Gail]'s safety, health and
    development.
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    Pursuant to N.J.S.A. 9:3-46(a) and the aforementioned
    factors including case law, this [c]ourt finds by clear
    and convincing evidence that adoption is in the best
    interests of the child.
    In concluding the preliminary hearing pursuant to
    N.J.S.A. 9:3-48(c), the [c]ourt finds . . . [Gloria]'s
    objection to this adoption has been contravened
    pursuant to N.J.S.A. 9:3-46. The child is fit for
    adoption and the plaintiff is fit to adopt the child.
    A stay was granted. This appeal followed. 3
    Our scope of review is limited in assessing the factual findings of the
    Family Part. N.J. Div. of Youth & Fam. Servs. v. M.M., 
    189 N.J. 261
    , 278
    (2007). We are obliged to accord deference to the trial court's sensibilities of
    the case based upon its opportunity to see and hear the witnesses, Cesare v.
    Cesare, 
    154 N.J. 394
    , 412 (1998), and defer to the trial court's factual and
    credibility determinations. In re Adoption of a Child by J.D.S., 353 N.J. Super
    378, 394 (App. Div. 2002). Indeed, we are precluded from disturbing "the trial
    court's findings unless they are 'so manifestly unsupported by or inconsistent
    with the competent, relevant and reasonably credible evidence as to offend the
    interests of justice.'"
    Id. (first quoting Rova
    Farms Resort, Inc. v. Invs. Ins.
    3
    This is the second time this appeal has been before this court. On April 28,
    2020, we sua sponte determined Gloria's appellate counsel was ineffective and
    adjourned the disposition of this appeal for the appointment of new counsel.
    In re Adoption of a Child by C.J., 
    463 N.J. Super. 254
    (App. Div. 2020).
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    Co. of Am., 
    65 N.J. 474
    , 484 (1974); and then citing Fagliarone v. Twp. of N.
    Bergen, 
    78 N.J. Super. 154
    , 155 (App. Div. 1963)).
    However, a trial court's "interpretation of the law and the consequences
    that flow from established facts are not entitled to any special deference."
    State v. Pomianik, 
    221 N.J. 66
    , 80 (2015) (quoting Manalapan Realty v. Twp.
    Comm., 
    140 N.J. 366
    , 378 (1995)). We note the burden of proof is with the
    plaintiff, not the objecting biological parent. Santosky v. Kramer, 
    455 U.S. 745
    , 747-48 (1982).
    On appeal, Gloria argues the court erred terminating her parental rights
    and granting adoption because the evidence did not support the finding she
    failed to affirmatively assume the duties of a parent. We agree.
    In In re Baby M., 
    109 N.J. 396
    , 445 (1988), our Supreme Court stated:
    the mere fact that a child would be better off with one
    set of parents than with another is an insufficient basis
    for terminating the natural parent's rights . . . the
    interests of the child are not the only interests
    involved when termination issues are raised. The
    parent's rights, both constitutional and statutory have
    their own independent vitality.
    Terminating parental rights implicates fundamental liberty interests that are
    protected by the United States Constitution. In re Adoption of Children by
    G.P.B., Jr., 
    161 N.J. 396
    , 404 (1999) (citing 
    Santosky, 455 U.S. at 753
    ).
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    The Adoption Act, N.J.S.A. 9:3-46, contemplates two distinct types of
    adoptions: one where a child has been placed for adoption, N.J.S.A. 9:3-46(a),
    and one where a child has not been placed for adoption. The two provisions
    have different time frames for the court to assess the objecting parent's
    conduct.     Under N.J.S.A. 9:3-46(a), no time limit applies to assessing the
    objecting parent's behavior in the best interest of the child analysis when, like
    here, the child has not been placed for adoption. G.P.B., 
    Jr., 161 N.J. at 411
    .
    However, where a child is placed up for adoption, under N.J.S.A. 9:3-
    46(a)(2)(c), the timeframe is fixed. Therefore, because Gail was not placed for
    adoption, there is no statutory time limit.
    N.J.S.A. 9:3-46(a) permits adoption over the objection of a biological
    parent under a "best interest of the child standard," and requires the court to
    consider whether the parent whose parental rights are targeted for termination
    has "affirmatively assumed the duties encompassed" in being a parent. This is
    not the same "best interest" standard courts utilize when terminating parental
    rights for purposes of adoption under N.J.S.A. 30:4C-15(c), which focuses on
    four different inquiries to terminate parental rights. 4 Under N.J.S.A. 9:3-46(a),
    4
    Under Title 30, the "best interests" test requires the Division to show that:
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    [i]n a contest between a person who is entitled to
    notice pursuant to section 9 of P.L.1977, c.367 (C.9:3-
    45) objecting to the adoption and the prospective
    adoptive parent, the standard shall be the best interest
    of the child. The best interest of a child requires that a
    parent affirmatively assume the duties encompassed
    by the role of being a parent. In determining whether
    a parent has affirmatively assumed the duties of a
    parent, the court shall consider, but is not limited to
    consideration of, the fulfillment of financial
    obligations for the birth and care of the child,
    demonstration of continued interest in the child,
    demonstration of a genuine effort to maintain
    communication with the child, and demonstration of
    (continued)
    (1) The child's safety, health, or development
    has been or will continue to be endangered by the
    parental relationship;
    (2) The parent is unwilling or unable to
    eliminate the harm facing the child or is unable or
    unwilling to provide a safe and stable home for the
    child and the delay of permanent placement will add
    to the harm. Such harm may include evidence that
    separating the child from his foster parents would
    cause serious and enduring emotional or psychological
    harm to the child;
    (3) The [D]ivision has made reasonable efforts
    to provide services to help the parent correct the
    circumstances which led to the child's placement
    outside the home and the court has considered
    alternatives to termination of parental rights; and
    (4) Termination of parental rights will not do
    more harm than good.
    [In re Guardianship of Jordan, 
    336 N.J. Super. 270
                  (App. Div. 2001) (citing N.J.S.A. 30:4C-15.1).]
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    the establishment and maintenance of a place of
    importance in the child's life.
    The Supreme Court, in G.P.B. 
    Jr., 161 N.J. at 404
    , instructed the court to
    first evaluate whether grounds for termination have been sufficiently
    established. The Court made it clear that the issue was "whether the biological
    parent has failed to fulfill his or her duties."
    Id. at 413;
    see also In re Adoption
    of Children by D., 
    61 N.J. 89
    , 95 (1972).
    Accordingly, the court herein based this termination, under N.J.S.A.
    9:13-46(a), on a finding that Gloria did not fulfill her financial obligations
    toward the child because of her child support arrears at the time of trial, among
    other considerations. Notably, we are troubled by the court's reliance on this
    finding because termination of parental rights has never been an authorized
    enforcement tool—even in egregious cases involving child support arrears.
    To be sure, the obligation of a parent to provide support is considered to
    be independent of the parent's right to parenting time. Wagner v. Wagner, 
    165 N.J. Super. 553
    , 556 (App. Div. 1979); see also Fiore v. Fiore, 
    49 N.J. Super. 219
    , 225-27 (App. Div. 1958) (citing Bruguier v. Bruguier, 
    12 N.J. Super. 350
    ,
    354 (Ch. Div. 1951)) (overturning an order that abated child support payments
    if mother or her family interfered with the father's visitation rights and stating
    that the "duty of a father to support his children and the right of a father to
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    visitation and overnight custody are not dependent upon or connected with
    each other"); Ryan v. Ryan, 
    246 N.J. Super. 376
    , 383-84 (Ch. Div. 1990)
    (citing 
    Fiore, 49 N.J. Super. at 227
    ) (concluding that the court was not bound
    by an agreement whereby the father gave up his visitation rights in exchange
    for being relieved of his support obligations and stating that "[i]n the best
    interests of the child, support and the right of visitation cannot be dependent
    upon or connected with each other.").
    Ordinarily, only economic sanctions or compulsive incarceration,
    following due process procedural protections, are imposed upon a parent who
    violates an order respecting custody or parenting time under Rule 5:3-7(a)(2).
    Considering this bedrock principle, it would be anathema to suggest the failure
    to fulfill financial obligations for the birth and care of the child under N.J.S.A.
    9:13-46(a) can be based simply on insufficient financial resources. We hold
    such a finding requires reliable proof of intentional abandonment of financial
    obligations.
    Pertinently,   N.J.S.A.   9:3-46(a)'s   best   interest   analysis   requires
    consideration of whether the objecting parent assumed "the fulfillment of
    financial obligations for the birth and care of the child."         And although
    abandonment of financial obligations is not the language of N.J.S.A. 9:3-46(a),
    our courts have examined abandonment of parental function in other contexts,
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    such as requiring an intent or willfulness that is not evident in the present case.
    We have said before that abandonment does not mean "that the parent has
    deserted the child, or even ceased to feel any concern for [his or her]
    interests." In re Estate of Fisher, 
    443 N.J. Super. 180
    , 197 (App. Div. 2015)
    (first quoting Lavigne v. Family & Children's Soc'y, 
    11 N.J. 473
    , 480 (1953);
    and then quoting Winans v. Luppie, 
    47 N.J. Eq. 302
    , 304 (E. & A. 1890)). We
    have defined abandonment as "conduct on the part of the parent which evinces
    a settled purpose to forego all parental duties and relinquish all parental claims
    to the child." 
    Lavigne, 11 N.J. at 480
    (quoting 
    Winans, 47 N.J. Eq. at 304
    ).
    We defined the term "forsaking" in the child abandonment context "as a
    permanent giving up or relinquishment of the child." State v. N.I., 349 N.J.
    Super. 299, 312 (App. Div. 2002). Our focus has always been on willful,
    intentional or purposeful, as distinguished from inadvertent or accidental
    conduct. For example, we said a parent can be found to have abandoned a
    child, thus losing the right to intestate succession, by "willfully forsaking" the
    child. 
    Fisher, 443 N.J. Super. at 192
    . A parent's failure to fulfill financial
    obligations must therefore be intentional, evincing an intent to forgo that
    obligation. See
    id. at 200.
    Here, the trial court found Gloria did not fulfill her financial obligation
    for Gail's care because she owed child support arrears, in the amount of
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    $7,271.57, and that she was voluntarily unemployed due to her inability to
    work, as a result of her injuries.   Our review of the record indicates that
    although Gloria accrued child support arrears, she actually paid child support.
    Thus, the court erred when it found that Gloria did not fulfill her financial
    obligations for Gail's care. And further, the record does not support a finding
    that Gloria intentionally avoided paying child support.
    We also reject the court's conclusion that Gloria was voluntarily
    unemployed.     Without explanation, the court dismissed her unrebutted
    testimony that injuries from two motor vehicle accidents have rendered her
    unable to work and that she is currently unemployed. Division records and
    prior court orders provided some support for Gloria's claim she legitimately
    used prescription medications for her pain management. But the court was
    critical of Gloria's lack of proof that she applied for Social Security benefits
    and that she did not provide medical evidence beyond her testimony regarding
    her not being able to work as she had in the past. She testified that she
    currently supports herself by cleaning apartments in exchange for housing
    from a family member.
    If this had been Gloria's motion for modification of child support,
    indeed, we might agree with the trial judge's criticism. However, the United
    States Constitution requires a plaintiff to assume a specific burden of proof to
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    terminate a defendant's parental rights. For example, in Santosky, the United
    States Supreme Court warned "at a parental rights termination proceeding, a
    near-equal allocation of risk between the parents and the State is
    constitutionally intolerable." 
    Santosky, 455 U.S. at 768
    . The fact that these
    are private parties does not change that. The burden, by clear and convincing
    evidence, of proving Gloria's intentional inability to pay remained with Cathy
    and was not met.
    The trial court also found Gloria did not show a continued interest in
    Gail, nor demonstrated a genuine effort to maintain communication with her.
    But this result was unavoidable for Gloria, as the court suspended her
    parenting time on May 27, 2015, pending a psychological evaluation that she
    did not complete until March 2017. Notwithstanding a desire to do so, it was
    not Gloria's choice not to see her child, and she testified the waiting period
    was a consequence of insufficient resources.    Therefore, to use the court's
    barrier as a basis to find a failure to express continued interest is
    impermissible.
    Prior to the suspension, Gloria had parenting time every other Saturday
    from December 23, 2014, until May of 2015.        From September 21, 2011,
    through December 23, 2014, she had parenting time as per the September 16,
    2011, order: every Wednesday from 6:00–8:00 p.m. and every other Saturday
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    from 12:00–3:00 p.m. Prior to September 2011, Gail resided primarily with
    Gloria.   The court ignored the ongoing custody dispute with Paul and the
    motions she filed to enforce her right to exercise parenting time and requests
    for assistance of the police.
    Moreover, Gail had no phone for Gloria to call directly. And Gloria
    testified she did not send letters or cards or gifts in over two years due to
    Paul's history of throwing away items she gave Gail during parenting time and
    his refusal to let Gail come to the phone when she called. The trial court also
    ignored Gloria's testimony that the reasons she had not completed the required
    $700 psychological evaluation were financial, and ignored testimony about her
    attempt to see Gail outside of her daycare center after the court's May 27,
    2015, order. Furthermore, upon completion of the psychological evaluation,
    Gloria made requests to reinstate her parenting time, which the trial court
    denied.   The trial court also made no mention whatsoever of Dr. Gruen's
    testimony and expert report.
    In termination of parental rights proceedings for contested private
    adoptions, trial courts should consider "whether the custodial parent ha s
    contributed to that inability by blocking the objecting parent's access to the
    child." G.P.B., 
    Jr., 161 N.J. at 412
    . The trial court here made no factual
    findings as to whether Paul blocked Gloria's access to the child despite Gloria's
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    testimony that she believed he would. Dr. Gruen's report confirms Gloria
    believed this, and there are references throughout the record that plausibly
    supported her assertion.    It was impermissibly erroneous to rely—without
    further inquiry—on the Guardian ad Litem's report that Gloria failed to
    maintain a relationship with Gail.
    Based on our review of the record, the evidence does not support that
    Gloria failed to show a continued interest in Gail and failed to demonstrate a
    genuine effort to maintain communication with Gail under the clear and
    convincing standard.
    We also reject the use of hearsay evidence to support the termination of
    Gloria's parental rights. In this case, the trial court erroneously made findings
    based on hearsay statements within the Adoptions from the Heart report, which
    the court found "indicates the relationship or lack thereof between the child
    and the biological mother." Specifically, the court relied on a portion of the
    adoption agency's report that stated "when the child was asked about her
    perception of her biological mother's feelings towards her, the child stated, she
    hasn't seen me in two and a half years. She doesn't care about me."
    It was also error for the court to import the test from N.J.S.A. 30:4C-15
    for additional guidance on the best interest of the child. And it was further
    error to then make findings based upon Cathy's uncorroborated hearsay
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    testimony that Gloria told Gail that Paul essentially wanted to have an
    abortion, to cut Gail from Gloria's stomach.        In particular, this Title 30
    standard does not apply to a private action where a party is seeking adoption
    over parental objection.
    These are certainly disturbing remarks, which is precisely why we
    require certain indicia of reliability before making a determination of
    trustworthiness. It should be emphasized that the child did not testify at trial,
    and the record includes no independent psychological evaluation of the child.
    As a result of the foregoing, it was error for the trial court to find clear
    and convincing evidence to terminate Gloria's parental rights to Gail, and
    consequently, that it was in the child's best interest to grant the adoption to
    Cathy.
    Reversed and vacated.
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