In re Marriage of Hogsett & Neale , 2021 CO 1 ( 2021 )


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    ADVANCE SHEET HEADNOTE
    January 11, 2021
    
    2021 CO 1
    No. 19SC44, In re Marriage of Hogsett & Neale—Common Law—Divorce—
    Marriage and Cohabitation.
    The supreme court revisits the test for proving a common law marriage that
    the court articulated over three decades ago in People v. Lucero, 
    747 P.2d 660
    (Colo.
    1987). Because many of the indicia of marriage identified in Lucero have become
    less reliable, particularly in light of the recognition of same-sex marriage and other
    social and legal changes, the court refines the test and holds that a common law
    marriage may be established by the mutual consent or agreement of the couple to
    enter the legal and social institution of marriage, followed by conduct manifesting
    that mutual agreement. The core inquiry is whether the parties intended to enter
    a marital relationship—that is, to share a life together as spouses in a committed,
    intimate relationship of mutual support and obligation.
    In this case, the court applies the refined Lucero test and concludes that no
    common law marriage existed. The court therefore affirms the judgment of the
    court of appeals.
    The Supreme Court of the State of Colorado
    2 East 14th Avenue • Denver, Colorado 80203
    
    2021 CO 1
    Supreme Court Case No. 19SC44
    Certiorari to the Colorado Court of Appeals
    Court of Appeals Case No. 17CA1484
    In re the Marriage of
    Petitioner:
    Edi L. Hogsett,
    v.
    Respondent:
    Marcia E. Neale.
    Judgment Affirmed
    en banc
    January 11, 2021
    Attorneys for Petitioner:
    Griffiths Law PC
    Ann Gushurst
    Littleto sn, Colorado
    Radman Law Firm, LLC
    Diane R. Radman
    Denver, Colorado
    Aitken Law, LLC
    Sharlene J. Aitken
    Denver, Colorado
    Attorneys for Respondent:
    Plog & Stein, P.C.
    Jessica A. Saldin
    Stephen J. Plog
    Greenwood Village, Colorado
    Attorneys for Amicus Curiae Family Law Section of the Colorado Bar
    Association:
    Polidori, Franklin, Monahan & Beattie, LLC
    Robin Lutz Beattie
    Lakewood, Colorado
    Sherr Puttmann Akins Lamb PC
    Courtney Radtke McConomy
    Greenwood Village, Colorado
    Epstein Patierno, LLP
    Christina Patierno
    Denver, Colorado
    Attorneys for Amici Curiae the Colorado LGBT Bar Association; the Colorado
    Women’s Bar Association; Lambda Legal Defense and Education Fund, Inc.;
    and the National Center for Lesbian Rights:
    Hogan Lovells US LLP
    Mark D. Gibson
    Denver, Colorado
    JUSTICE MÁRQUEZ delivered the Opinion of the Court.
    JUSTICE HART specially concurs.
    CHIEF JUSTICE BOATRIGHT concurs in the judgment only.
    JUSTICE SAMOUR concurs in the judgment only.
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    ¶1     In this case and two others announced today, In re Estate of Yudkin, 
    2021 CO 2
    , __ P.3d __, and In re Marriage of LaFleur & Pyfer, 
    2021 CO 3
    , __ P.3d __, we revisit
    the test for proving a common law marriage that we articulated over three decades
    ago in People v. Lucero, 
    747 P.2d 660
    (Colo. 1987). In Lucero, we held that a couple
    could establish a common law marriage “by the mutual consent or agreement of
    the parties to be husband and wife, followed by a mutual and open assumption of
    a marital relationship.”
    Id. at 663.
    We directed that evidence of such agreement
    and conduct could be found in a couple’s cohabitation; reputation in the
    community as husband and wife; maintenance of joint banking and credit
    accounts; purchase and joint ownership of property; filing of joint tax returns; and
    use of the man’s surname by the woman or by children born to the parties.
    Id. at 665.
    ¶2 
        Each of the three cases before us involves a disputed common law marriage
    claim. Together, they illustrate how much has changed since our decision in
    Lucero. Notably for purposes of this case and LaFleur, same-sex couples may now
    lawfully marry, see Obergefell v. Hodges, 
    576 U.S. 644
    (2015) (holding that states
    cannot deprive same-sex couples of the fundamental right to marry), though their
    right to do so was not recognized in Colorado until October 2014, see LaFleur, ¶ 30
    (describing the timeline of same-sex marriage recognition in Colorado). Yet the
    gender-differentiated terms and heteronormative assumptions of the Lucero test
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    render it ill-suited for same-sex couples. More broadly, many of the traditional
    indicia of marriage identified in Lucero are no longer exclusive to marital
    relationships.   At the same time, genuine marital relationships no longer
    necessarily bear Lucero’s traditional markers. The lower court decisions in these
    cases reflect the challenges of applying Lucero to these changed circumstances.
    ¶3    In this case, we refine the test from Lucero and hold that a common law
    marriage may be established by the mutual consent or agreement of the couple to
    enter the legal and social institution of marriage, followed by conduct manifesting
    that mutual agreement. The core query is whether the parties intended to enter a
    marital relationship—that is, to share a life together as spouses in a committed,
    intimate relationship of mutual support and obligation. In assessing whether a
    common law marriage has been established, courts should accord weight to
    evidence reflecting a couple’s express agreement to marry. In the absence of such
    evidence, the parties’ agreement to enter a marital relationship may be inferred
    from their conduct. When examining the parties’ conduct, the factors identified in
    Lucero can still be relevant to the inquiry, but they must be assessed in context; the
    inferences to be drawn from the parties’ conduct may vary depending on the
    circumstances. Finally, the manifestation of the parties’ agreement to marry need
    not take a particular form.
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    ¶4    Having refined the Lucero test in this case, we clarify in Yudkin that whether
    a common law marriage exists depends on the totality of the circumstances, and
    no single factor is dispositive. Yudkin, ¶ 3. We remand that case to the probate
    court for reconsideration of the common law marriage claim under the updated
    framework we announce today.
    Id. at ¶ 24.
    In LaFleur, we hold that a court may
    recognize a common law same-sex marriage entered in Colorado before the state
    recognized same-sex couples’ right to marry. LaFleur, ¶¶ 3–5. There, we apply the
    refined Lucero test and conclude that the parties did enter a common law marriage,
    but we set aside the property division and spousal maintenance award and
    remand for further proceedings.
    Id. at ¶ 6. ¶5
       In this case, we apply the refined Lucero test and conclude that the record
    supports the district court’s conclusion that no common law marriage existed.
    Accordingly, we affirm the judgment of the court of appeals.
    I. Facts and Procedural History
    A. Initial Petition and Separation Agreement
    ¶6    Edi L. Hogsett and Marcia E. Neale were in a thirteen-year relationship from
    November 2001 to November 2014. The two women never formally married (and
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    could not have done so in Colorado until October 2014).1 Nevertheless, in January
    2015, they jointly filed a pro se petition for dissolution of marriage in Arapahoe
    County District Court. The parties mediated a separation agreement stating that
    they had entered a common law marriage on December 1, 2002, and that their
    marriage was irretrievably broken.
    ¶7    The separation agreement included a division of the parties’ purported
    marital property, including their home, furniture and household goods, bank
    accounts, stock purchase plans, retirement plans, vehicles, pets, and other
    miscellaneous assets, and provided for the division of their debts and obligations.
    It also required Neale to pay Hogsett $1,000 in monthly “spousal maintenance” for
    about seven years.
    ¶8    At the initial status conference, the court explained that it would have to
    find that a marriage existed before it could address the petition for dissolution.
    The parties reported that they did not have a marriage or civil union license and
    stipulated to dismissal of the petition, explaining that, through mediation, they
    had “fully settled all issues they had wanted to address in a dissolution case,” and
    1 See LaFleur, ¶ 30 (describing the timeline of cases invalidating Colorado’s
    constitutional and statutory same-sex marriage exclusions).
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    that they “would be able to implement their [agreement] between themselves
    [without] court involvement.” The case was dismissed.
    ¶9    Hogsett later sought certain retirement assets and maintenance she believed
    Neale owed her under their separation agreement.         Neale communicated to
    Hogsett her position that no marriage existed between them. Hogsett then filed a
    second petition for dissolution of marriage that is the subject of this case. Neale
    moved to dismiss, asserting, as relevant here, that the parties were never married
    under common law.
    B. District Court’s Ruling
    ¶10   At a hearing on Neale’s motion to dismiss, the district court heard testimony
    from Neale, Hogsett, and several of their friends, relatives, and associates. The
    court also considered documentary and photographic evidence of the parties’
    relationship. It ultimately concluded that Hogsett had not met her burden to
    prove a common law marriage under the test in 
    Lucero, 747 P.2d at 663
    –65.
    ¶11   In its detailed oral ruling, the district court first acknowledged what we
    confirm today in LaFleur: that it could recognize a common law same-sex marriage
    entered in Colorado before the state recognized same-sex couples’ fundamental
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    right to marry. See LaFleur, ¶ 3.2 But the court also acknowledged the difficulty of
    applying Lucero to the parties’ same-sex relationship:
    [T]he elements set forth in Lucero for the [c]ourt to consider, in many
    ways, do not reflect the reality of the situation for same-sex couples
    prior to [Obergefell]. Gay marriage was illegal so no matter if a couple
    intended to be married, they couldn’t take advantage of the many
    privileges that were afforded to heterosexual couples. They couldn’t
    use the word spouse on taxes; on financial documentation; they
    couldn’t mark the other partner as spouse or wife on medical forms.
    The court remarked that additional guidance from higher courts in these
    circumstances would be “very helpful,” but in the absence of such guidance, the
    court proceeded to apply Lucero.
    ¶12   In doing so, the court observed that certain Lucero factors were of limited or
    no use in the context of a same-sex relationship, while others were less relevant
    today than when Lucero was decided. The court acknowledged, for example, that
    the parties bought a custom home together, but it accorded that factor less weight
    given that cohabitation between unmarried partners is far more prevalent today.
    The court also observed that in a same-sex marriage, there would be no use of a
    husband’s surname by a wife, but it reasoned that this factor was not particularly
    relevant in any event, given that many spouses today elect not to change their
    2Because neither party here contests Obergefell’s retroactive application, that
    question is not before us in this case.
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    names. The court further noted that it did not believe the parties had any option
    to file joint tax returns before same-sex couples could legally marry.
    ¶13   The court then turned to conflicting evidence related to a marriage
    ceremony and exchange of rings. Hogsett testified that she and Neale exchanged
    custom wedding rings in a “very intimate close marriage ceremony” at a bar. In
    contrast, Neale testified that she believed they were merely exchanging
    commitment rings, and that there were no family members or friends present. The
    court concluded there was “evidence of [an] agreement of a committed
    relationship” but reasoned that the parties might have had different
    understandings of the significance of the ceremony and exchange of rings. The
    court noted that neither party referred to the other as wife or mentioned marriage
    in the letters and cards they exchanged. The question, the court reasoned, was
    whether the parties did not use the words “married” or “wife” because of the state
    of the law at the time, or because they had no intention of being married.
    ¶14   Turning to other evidence, the court observed that the parties had joint
    ownership of property, had joint banking and credit card accounts, and had
    worked with a financial advisor as a couple to manage and preserve their assets.
    It also found that Hogsett had listed Neale as a primary beneficiary and domestic
    partner on her 401(k) and as next of kin and life partner on a medical record. But
    Hogsett had also certified on a health insurance form that she was “not married.”
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    ¶15     The court disagreed with Hogsett’s argument that the parties’ initial joint
    petition for dissolution of marriage served as conclusive evidence that the parties
    were married. It credited Neale’s testimony that she had acted on bad advice that
    she had to file for divorce in order to separate the parties’ significantly intertwined
    finances. The court also noted that the date of marriage specified on the petition
    did not match the date the parties had consistently celebrated as their anniversary
    and found it significant that the parties jointly dismissed the case shortly after
    filing it. Ultimately, the court concluded that the original petition for dissolution
    “cut[] both ways.”
    ¶16     Turning to reputation in the community, the court found that only Hogsett
    had described the relationship as a marriage or had ever referred to Neale as her
    wife.    However, the court again wondered whether this could have been
    attributable to marriage being unrecognized for same-sex couples at the time.
    ¶17     In the end, the court found “credible evidence . . . that [Hogsett] believed
    that she was married to [Neale].” But it also found “credible evidence that [Neale]
    did not believe that she was married” to Hogsett. It noted that Neale testified that
    she “do[esn’t] believe in marriage” because she “do[esn’t] believe two people can
    promise each other that they’re going to love each other for the rest of their lives.”
    Moreover, Neale “never referred to [Hogsett] as her wife; never told anyone she
    was married; [and] never listed married or intent to be married on any legal,
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    financial, or medical documents.” Accordingly, although it acknowledged the
    case was “extremely difficult,” the court held that Hogsett had not met her burden
    to establish a common law marriage by a preponderance of the evidence and
    granted Neale’s motion to dismiss.
    C. Court of Appeals’ Ruling
    ¶18   The court of appeals affirmed, concluding that the district court did not err
    in applying Lucero to find that no common law marriage existed. In re Marriage of
    Hogsett & Neale, 
    2018 COA 176
    , ¶¶ 3, 11, __ P.3d __.
    ¶19   The division noted that record evidence supported both Hogsett’s belief that
    she was married and Neale’s belief that she was not.
    Id. at ¶ 20.
    It acknowledged
    Hogsett’s argument that many indicia of marriage were present, including the
    parties’ intertwined finances, the existence of joint accounts, and their joint
    ownership of a home.
    Id. at ¶ 21.
    But it also pointed out that other evidence
    showed there was no common law marriage, including the parties’ joint dismissal
    of the initial petition for dissolution, Neale’s testimony that she didn’t believe in
    marriage, and the absence of references to marriage in the parties’ private
    correspondence.
    Id. at ¶¶ 19, 21.
    It also noted that the parties did not attempt to
    marry in a state where same-sex marriage had been legalized.
    Id. at ¶ 21.
    Ultimately, the division affirmed the lower court’s judgment, reasoning that the
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    district court had discretion in weighing this evidence and that its findings were
    supported by the record.
    Id. at ¶¶ 15, 21. ¶20
      In reaching this conclusion, the division reasoned that Obergefell applies
    retroactively in determining the existence of a common law marriage.
    Id. at ¶¶ 22–25.
    It also acknowledged that “the only reason that many of Lucero’s indicia
    of marriage were unavailable to the parties is because of unconstitutional laws
    forbidding same-sex marriage.”
    Id. at ¶ 22.
    But it concluded that the district court
    had “appropriately recognized and accorded less weight to [the Lucero] factors that
    were less relevant” in the context of the parties’ same-sex relationship
    , id. at ¶ 20,
    and that competent record evidence supported the crucial finding that Neale did
    not consent to a marriage
    , id. at ¶ 25. ¶21
      In a special concurrence, Judge Furman wrote separately “to encourage our
    legislature to abolish common law marriage, in conformity with the majority of
    jurisdictions.” In re Marriage of Hogsett & Neale, 
    2018 COA 176
    , ¶ 35, __ P.3d __
    (Furman, J., specially concurring).       He argued that common law marriage
    determinations place a needlessly heavy burden on the parties and our courts.
    Id. He also reasoned
    that, because Colorado citizens have physical and legal access to
    licensed marriage and because children born to unmarried parents are now
    afforded the same rights and privileges as those born to married parents, common
    law marriage is no longer practically or legally necessary.
    Id. at ¶ 36. 12 ¶22
        We granted Hogsett’s petition for a writ of certiorari to address how courts
    should determine the existence of a common law marriage between same-sex
    partners.3 In considering that question and those posed by the two other cases
    before us, we necessarily revisit our common law marriage jurisprudence more
    broadly.
    II. Analysis
    ¶23     We begin by observing that marriage carries not only a great array of legal
    rights, benefits, and obligations, but also bears personal, social, expressive, and
    religious meanings. We next explain the two legal paths to marriage in Colorado,
    distinguishing common law marriage from licensed marriage. We acknowledge
    that Colorado is one of the few remaining states to recognize common law
    marriage and that there is some skepticism of its current utility. After reviewing
    the test for proving a common law marriage set forth in Lucero, we examine how
    social and legal changes since that decision have eroded its usefulness in
    distinguishing marital from nonmarital unions. Finally, we refine the Lucero test
    3   We granted certiorari to review the following issues:
    1. What factors should a court consider in determining whether a
    common law marriage exists between same-sex partners?
    2. Whether the court of appeals erred in affirming the trial court’s
    conclusion that no common law marriage existed between the
    same-sex couple here.
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    to account for these changed circumstances and, applying the new framework
    here, we conclude that there was no common law marriage in this case.
    A. Background
    1. The Significance of Marriage
    ¶24   Marriage touches both life and death.           Courts have catalogued the
    numerous significant protections, benefits, and obligations that flow from civil
    marriage. See, e.g., United States v. Windsor, 
    570 U.S. 744
    , 771–74 (2013) (discussing
    some of the more than 1,000 federal laws and regulations referencing marriage);
    Goodridge v. Dep’t of Pub. Health, 
    798 N.E.2d 941
    , 955–57 (Mass. 2003) (discussing
    benefits and obligations that turn on marital status under Massachusetts law).
    Indeed, the legal ramifications of a couple’s marital status are abundant; they arise
    under federal, state, and local law and span the civil and criminal realm. A
    couple’s marital status has implications in civil, domestic, and probate cases, and
    even plays a role in some criminal offenses.4
    4For just a few examples of the legal consequences of marriage, see 8 U.S.C. § 1154
    (2018) (permitting married U.S. citizens to petition for immigration status for their
    foreign-born spouses); 26 U.S.C. § 6013 (2018) (allowing married couples to file
    federal taxes jointly); 42 U.S.C. § 416 (2018) (providing federal old-age, survivors,
    and disability insurance benefits to spouses); § 13-90-107(1)(a), C.R.S. (2020)
    (establishing scope of the marital privilege); § 14-10-113, C.R.S. (2020) (requiring
    equitable division of marital property upon divorce); § 15-11-102, C.R.S. (2020)
    (providing for spousal intestate succession); § 18-5-102(1)(d), C.R.S. (2020)
    (prohibiting forgery of false tax returns); § 18-6-201(2), C.R.S. (2020) (specifying
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    ¶25   Of course, “marriage is more than a routine classification for purposes of
    certain statutory benefits.” 
    Windsor, 570 U.S. at 769
    . The right to marry has been
    recognized as fundamental, Loving v. Virginia, 
    388 U.S. 1
    , 12 (1967), and marriage
    has been the wellspring of other constitutionally protected rights, see, e.g.,
    Skinner v. Oklahoma ex rel. Williamson, 
    316 U.S. 535
    , 541 (1942) (procreation);
    Griswold v. Connecticut, 
    381 U.S. 479
    , 485 (1965) (contraception). As “a far-reaching
    legal acknowledgment of the intimate relationship between two people,” 
    Windsor, 570 U.S. at 769
    , marriage “bestows enormous private and social advantages on
    those who choose to marry,” 
    Goodridge, 798 N.E.2d at 954
    . Marriage represents “a
    deeply personal commitment to another human being . . . and the decision
    whether and whom to marry is among life’s momentous acts of self-definition.”
    Id. at 954–55.
    Indeed, for many couples, marriage is a sacred religious bond.
    
    Obergefell, 576 U.S. at 656
    –57 (“Marriage is sacred to those who live by their
    religions and offers unique fulfilment to those who find meaning in the secular
    realm.”).
    that bigamy is a class 6 felony); § 18-6-301(1), C.R.S. (2020) (making it a class 4
    felony to knowingly marry an ancestor or descendant); § 19-4-105, C.R.S. (2020)
    (presuming parentage of both spouses for child born to married couple); and
    Denver Rev. Mun. Code § 18-412 (providing group health insurance coverage for
    retirees’ spouses).
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    ¶26   Because marriage triggers a cascade of legal rights, benefits, and obligations,
    and is laden with great historical, social, religious, and personal meaning, the
    determination of a couple’s marital status is of great consequence.
    2. Licensed Marriage and Common Law Marriage
    ¶27   Courts have long viewed marriage as a civil contract requiring the parties’
    mutual agreement. Meister v. Moore, 
    96 U.S. 76
    , 78 (1877) (“Marriage is everywhere
    regarded as a civil contract.”); Taylor v. Taylor, 
    50 P. 1049
    , 1049 (Colo. App. 1897)
    (“By the statutes of Colorado, marriage is declared to be a civil contract; and there
    is only one essential requirement to its validity, between parties capable of
    contracting, viz. the consent of the parties.”).
    ¶28   In Colorado, a legally recognized marriage can be achieved two ways:
    formally, by fulfilling the statutory requirements of licensed marriage, or
    informally, by entering a common law marriage through mutual agreement of the
    parties followed by assumption of a marital relationship. See In re Peters’ Est.,
    
    215 P. 128
    , 129 (Colo. 1923) (“The statutes provide a method of contracting
    marriage. That method is not exclusive.”); see also 
    Lucero, 747 P.2d at 665
    (setting
    forth essential requirements of a common law marriage). Couples seeking a
    licensed marriage must pay a marriage license fee, obtain approval of the license,
    and return the marriage certificate and license within sixty-three days of
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    solemnization. §§ 14-2-105 to -109, C.R.S. (2020). Common law marriage, by
    contrast, lacks these formalities solemnizing the relationship.
    ¶29   Historically, recognition of common law marriage allowed children of such
    unions to be treated as legitimate and prevented abandoned or widowed women
    from turning to the public fisc for their support. Ariela R. Dubler, Wifely Behavior:
    A Legal History of Acting Married, 100 Colum. L. Rev. 957, 969–71 (2000). The
    doctrine protected vulnerable spouses, typically women, who invested in and
    relied on long-term relationships that were never formalized and whose
    “contributions of labor and commitment . . . were not embodied in money,
    property, or title.” Cynthia Grant Bowman, A Feminist Proposal to Bring Back
    Common Law Marriage, 
    75 Or. L
    . Rev. 709, 711 (1996); see also 
    Lucero, 747 P.2d at 664
    (observing that common law marriage “serves mainly as a means of protecting the
    interests of parties who have acted in good faith as husband and wife”).
    ¶30   Common law marriage also provides a path to marriage for marginalized
    groups such as undocumented immigrants who, as noted by amicus curiae
    Colorado Legal Services in Yudkin, may wish to avoid divulging information to
    government authorities implicating their immigration status. And as pointed out
    by amici the Colorado LGBT Bar Association, et al. in LaFleur, common law
    marriage may be particularly important for same-sex partners who lived as
    married couples for years but could not marry formally.
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    ¶31   Conversely, as Judge Furman described in his special concurrence below,
    many believe the doctrine has outlived its usefulness given the general
    accessibility of licensed marriage, the trend toward more egalitarian marriages,
    and the law’s equal treatment of children born to unmarried parents. See Hogsett,
    ¶¶ 35–36 (Furman, J., specially concurring); see also Stone v. Thompson, 
    833 S.E.2d 266
    , 267 (S.C. 2019) (concluding that the foundations of common law marriage
    “have eroded with the passage of time”). Certainly, as the record here reflects, the
    inquiry is fact-intensive and invasive and forces judges to assess the degree to
    which a couple’s conduct conforms to a marital ideal. Indeed, the common law
    marriage doctrine holds relationships to standards that some licensed marriages
    might not meet if similarly scrutinized.5
    ¶32   Although abolition of common law marriage is not before us today, we note
    that a majority of states have abolished the doctrine.        See, e.g., Ala. Code
    § 30-1-20(a) (1975) (prohibiting parties from entering into a common law marriage
    on or after January 1, 2017); 23 Pa. Cons. St. § 1103 (declaring that common law
    5 The substantive limitations on licensed marriage are few: Colorado prohibits
    marriages between parties under eighteen years of age (except with judicial
    approval), § 14-2-106(1)(a)(I), C.R.S. (2020), and marriages that involve one party
    who is in another valid marriage or civil union; marriages between a descendant
    and ancestor; marriages between siblings; and marriages between an uncle or aunt
    and their niece or nephew, § 14-2-110, C.R.S. (2020). Beyond these limitations, the
    state simply accepts a licensed marriage as valid.
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    marriages contracted after January 1, 2005 are invalid); 
    Stone, 833 S.E.2d at 87
    (prospectively abolishing common law marriage in South Carolina through
    judicial decision). Indeed, Colorado and only nine other jurisdictions continue to
    allow for the formation of common law marriages.6
    B. People v. Lucero
    ¶33   We set forth the prevailing test for establishing a common law marriage in
    Colorado more than three decades ago in People v. Lucero, a criminal case in which
    the defendant objected to the admission of testimony from his alleged common
    law wife on grounds that it violated the marital privilege codified at
    section 13-90-107(1)(a), C.R.S. 
    (1973). 747 P.2d at 661
    –62. Although the defendant
    made an offer of proof consisting of his putative wife’s testimony that she
    considered herself married to him and that the couple held themselves out as
    married, the trial court overruled the objection, deeming the proffered testimony
    insufficient to prove the common law marriage.
    Id. at 662. ¶34
      On review, we held that a common law marriage is established by “the
    mutual consent or agreement of the parties to be husband and wife, followed by a
    6 Eight other states (Iowa, Kansas, Montana, New Hampshire, Oklahoma, Rhode
    Island, Utah, and Texas) and the District of Columbia still recognize common law
    marriage. 1 Karen Moulding & National Lawyers Guild, Sexual Orientation and the
    Law § 2:9 n.15 (2020 Update).
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    mutual and open assumption of a marital relationship.”
    Id. at 663.
    We observed
    that the “very nature of a common law marital relationship makes it likely that in
    many cases express agreements will not exist,” and thus held that when “the
    agreement is denied or cannot be shown, its existence may be inferred from
    evidence of cohabitation and general repute.”
    Id. at 664.
    ¶35 
      Our opinion emphasized that “[a] determination of whether a common law
    marriage exists turns on issues of fact and credibility, which are properly within
    the trial court’s discretion.”
    Id. at 665.
    For guidance, we identified certain conduct
    reflecting a couple’s agreement, pointing foremost to cohabitation and the couple’s
    general reputation in the community as husband and wife.
    Id. at 664.
    We
    explained that courts may also consider other behavior, including “maintenance
    of joint banking and credit accounts; purchase and joint ownership of property;
    the use of the man’s surname by the woman; the use of the man’s surname by
    children born to the parties; and the filing of joint tax returns.”
    Id. at 665.
    We
    nevertheless made clear that “any form of evidence that openly manifests the
    intention of the parties that their relationship is that of husband and wife will
    provide the requisite proof.”
    Id. Because it was
    unclear by what criteria the trial
    court evaluated the existence of the common law marriage, we remanded the case
    for reconsideration under the clarified standard.
    Id. 20 C.
    Challenges Presented by Lucero
    ¶36   Although Lucero sought to provide a flexible framework for evaluating the
    existence of a common law marriage, the factors we identified in 1987 have
    become, over time, less reliable markers to distinguish marital from nonmarital
    relationships. Of particular relevance here, some of the evidence called for in
    Lucero is of limited use in evaluating a same-sex relationship, particularly one
    predating Colorado’s recognition of same-sex marriage. But more broadly, as the
    three cases before us today make clear, many of the traditional indicia of marriage
    identified in Lucero are no longer exclusive to marital relationships, while at the
    same time, bona fide marriages today do not always bear Lucero’s traditional
    markers. In short, social and legal changes since Lucero make its factors less
    helpful in sorting out who is “acting married,” and who is not.
    1. Lucero Is Underinclusive of Common Law Same-Sex
    Marriages
    ¶37   First, by its gendered language, Lucero precludes recognition of same-sex
    relationships. It requires a finding that the parties agreed to be “husband and
    wife” and, for evidence of such agreement, looks to factors including the parties’
    reputation in the community as “husband and wife” and the use of the “man’s
    surname by the woman” or by children born to the parties.
    Id. at 663–65.
    Lucero’s
    heteronormative view of marriage can no longer stand. 
    Obergefell, 576 U.S. at 675
    –76 (holding invalid state laws “to the extent they exclude same-sex couples
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    from civil marriage on the same terms and conditions as opposite-sex couples”);
    LaFleur, ¶ 5 (holding Obergefell applies retroactively). To their credit, the lower
    courts in this case and in LaFleur took pains to apply Lucero to the same-sex
    relationships before them in gender-neutral terms.
    ¶38   But the mismatch between the Lucero test and the claims of same-sex
    spouses is not limited to its gendered terms. We agree with amici the Colorado
    LGBT Bar Association, et al. that several of the Lucero factors raise a barrier to the
    recognition of bona fide common law same-sex marriages given the history of
    same-sex couples’ inability to marry and the continuing risks faced by many
    individuals for being in a same-sex relationship openly. Moreover, our holding
    today in LaFleur that same-sex partners may show that they entered a common
    law marriage before the state recognized their right to marry does not alter the
    reality that such a marriage may be difficult to prove under the factors identified
    in Lucero.
    ¶39   For example, same-sex couples will be unable to show that they filed taxes
    as a married couple or listed their partners as “spouses” on beneficiary
    designations or other formal documents before same-sex marriage was legally
    recognized. And although other Lucero criteria are not impossible for same-sex
    couples to meet, they may be unrealistic, impracticable, or even dangerous. Most
    notably, Lucero’s “holding out” requirement that couples publicly affirm their
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    marital status fails to account for the precarious legal and social status LGBTQ
    people and their relationships have occupied for most of this nation’s history.7
    ¶40   Given this reality, for some same-sex couples, “[a] truthful declaration . . . of
    what was in their hearts had to remain unspoken,” 
    Obergefell, 576 U.S. at 660
    , or
    their marital intent was conveyed in non-traditional ways, see, e.g., Br. for Resp’t
    at 3, Windsor v. United States, 
    570 U.S. 744
    (2013), (No. 12-307) (noting that Windsor
    had proposed to her late wife with a diamond brooch instead of a diamond ring
    to “avoid unwelcome questions about the identity of [her] ‘fiancé’”). In short, the
    7 As the U.S. Supreme Court recognized in Obergefell, until recently, “[s]ame-sex
    intimacy remained a crime in many [s]tates. Gays and lesbians were prohibited
    from most government employment, barred from military service, excluded under
    immigration laws, targeted by police, and burdened in their rights to 
    associate.” 576 U.S. at 661
    . Same-sex intimacy was not decriminalized across the country until
    2003, see Lawrence v. Texas, 
    539 U.S. 558
    , 578 (2003); nationwide recognition of
    same-sex marriages came only in 2015, see 
    Obergefell, 576 U.S. at 644
    ; and it was not
    until this past summer that the Court ruled that to fire someone on the basis of
    their sexual orientation or gender identity violates Title VII, see Bostock v. Clayton
    Cnty., 
    140 S. Ct. 1731
    , 1737 (2020).
    Colorado is no exception to this history. In 1992, Colorado voters approved
    an amendment to the state constitution, later invalidated by the U.S. Supreme
    Court in Romer v. Evans, 
    517 U.S. 620
    (1996), that sought to prevent any branch or
    political subdivision of the state from protecting persons against discrimination
    based on sexual orientation. It was not until 2008 that LGBTQ Coloradans found
    protection in state law from discrimination in employment, housing, and public
    accommodations, see § 14-15-102, C.R.S. (2020), and not until the Designated
    Beneficiaries Agreements Act of 2009 that same-sex relationships were bestowed
    any formal recognition by the state, see § 15-22-102, C.R.S. (2009).
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    Lucero test is ill-adapted to assess whether a same-sex couple has entered into a
    common law marriage.
    2. The Lucero Factors No Longer Mark a Reliable Boundary
    Between Marital and Nonmarital Unions
    ¶41   Second, and more broadly, public norms have evolved since 1987. As a
    result, the factors we offered in Lucero to distinguish between marital and
    nonmarital relationships have become less reliable markers of that boundary.
    ¶42   Today, many unmarried couples live together. 
    Stone, 833 S.E.2d at 269
    (“[N]on-marital cohabitation is exceedingly common and continues to increase
    among Americans of all age groups.”). Indeed, this court recognized the growing
    frequency of nonmarital cohabitation two decades ago.       Salzman v. Bachrach,
    
    996 P.2d 1263
    , 1267 (Colo. 2000) (noting the number of unmarried-couple
    households had increased 571% from 1970 to 1993 (citing Bureau of the
    Census, Marital Status and Living Arrangements: March 1993, VII–VIII, tbl.D (May
    1994))).    In response to that sea change in social norms, we announced the
    enforceability of contracts between unmarried cohabitating couples
    , id., while at the
    same time cautioning that “mere cohabitation does not trigger any marital
    rights,”
    id. at 1269
    (emphasis added). In other words, since Lucero, we have
    recognized that cohabitation is no longer synonymous with marriage.
    ¶43   The trend we observed two decades ago in Salzman has continued: The share
    of adults living with an unmarried partner has more than doubled since 1995, and
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    majorities across age groups now share the view that it is acceptable for a couple
    to live together even if they never plan to marry. Juliana Menasce Horowitz, Nikki
    Graf, & Gretchen Livingston, Marriage and Cohabitation in the U.S., Pew Rsch. Ctr.,
    (Nov. 6, 2019), https://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2019/11/06/marriage-and-
    cohabitation-in-the-u-s/#fn-26816-1 [https://perma.cc/RR6Z-25MK].              At the
    same time, it is becoming more common and technologically feasible for spouses
    to live apart. Sue Shellenbarger, The Long-Distance Marriage That’s Built to Last,
    Wall St. J. (Aug. 14, 2018), https://www.wsj.com/articles/the-long-distance-
    marriage-thats-built-to-last-1534252845 [https://perma.cc/8F87-RZUB]
    (describing recent census data indicating the practice of married people living
    apart has risen 44% since 2000 to 3.96 million). In sum, we can no longer assume
    that cohabitation “clearly show[s] an intention to be married,” 
    Lucero, 747 P.2d at 665
    , or that living apart necessarily disproves the existence of a marriage.
    ¶44   Nor is marriage today necessarily a prerequisite to procreation.
    Childrearing outside marriage has become increasingly common.              Gretchen
    Livingston, The Changing Profile of Unmarried Parents, Pew Rsch. Ctr., (April 25,
    2018), https://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2018/04/25/the-changing-profile-of-
    unmarried-parents/ [https://perma.cc/NFH9-ALM9] (“One-in-four parents
    living with a child in the United States today are unmarried.”). And, as Judge
    Furman observed, children born to unmarried parents are no longer denied the
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    rights of children born to married parents. Hogsett, ¶ 36 (Furman, J., specially
    concurring); see also, e.g., § 19-4-103, C.R.S. (2020) (providing that for purposes of
    the Uniform Parentage Act, “[t]he parent and child relationship extends equally to
    every child and to every parent, regardless of the marital status of the parents”);
    ch. 96, sec. 1, 2018 Colo. Sess. Laws 752, 752 (“eliminat[ing] and moderniz[ing] the
    outdated use of the terms ‘illegitimate child’ or ‘legitimate child’ or related terms”
    in the Colorado Revised Statutes). For that matter, parentage today takes many
    forms; married or not, many parents have children through adoption, §§ 19-5-201
    to -203, C.R.S. (2020) (permitting individual, marital, stepparent, and second-
    parent adoption), or assisted reproductive technologies, see In re Marriage of Rooks,
    
    2018 CO 85
    , 
    429 P.3d 579
    . Finally, just as having shared biological or genetic
    children is not an indicator of marriage, it is also not a requirement of marriage.
    See 
    Obergefell, 576 U.S. at 646
    (“Precedent protects the right of a married couple not
    to procreate, so the right to marry cannot be conditioned on the capacity or
    commitment to procreate.”). In short, whether a couple has or raises children
    together is not necessarily indicative of a marriage.
    ¶45   The same is true for couples’ name-changing practices. The custom cited in
    Lucero of a woman adopting her husband’s surname dates back to the doctrine of
    coverture, wherein “the very being or legal existence of the woman [was]
    suspended during the marriage.” 1 William Blackstone, Commentaries *430.
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    Today, the choice to take a partner’s surname, combine surnames, or share a newly
    created surname together remains common and meaningful among both different-
    sex and same-sex spouses. See, e.g., Vicki Valosik, For Same-Sex Couples, Changing
    Names      Takes   on   Extra   Significance,   The   Atlantic   (Sept.   27,   2013),
    https://www.theatlantic.com/national/archive/2013/09/for-same-sex-couples-
    changing-names-takes-on-extra-significance/279841/ [https://perma.cc/LBA3-
    LNVV]; Suzannah Weiss, Creating a Name for Themselves, N.Y. Times (March 11,
    2020),         https://www.nytimes.com/2020/03/11/fashion/weddings/name-
    change-after-marriage-not-always-easy.html        [https://perma.cc/F6HC-WT72].
    But there may be any number of reasons, including cultural ones, that spouses and
    children do not take one partner’s name at marriage. See Suzanne A. Kim, Marital
    Naming/Naming Marriage: Language and Status in Family Law, 85 Ind. L.J. 893,
    910–12 (2010) (discussing studies demonstrating that major determinants of name
    change upon marriage include age at marriage, geographical region, gender role
    traditionalism, career orientation, and educational attainment).
    ¶46      A couple’s financial arrangements may also be less telling these days than
    before. “[C]ouples make varying arrangements regarding their finances, such that
    the maintenance of ‘largely separate finances’ is a far less salient consideration
    than it might have been in years past.” Gill v. Nostrand, 
    206 A.3d 869
    , 882 (D.C.
    2019); see also Caroline Kitchener, Why More Young Married Couples Are Keeping
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    Separate    Bank      Accounts,     The      Atlantic     (Apr.      20,     2018),
    https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/04/young-couples-
    separate-bank-accounts/558473/      [https://perma.cc/4ZTG-8J6P]       (discussing
    generational changes in spouses’ choices to intermingle finances). Moreover, as
    noted by amicus curiae Colorado Legal Services in Yudkin, low-income individuals
    may not have bank accounts or own a home and therefore may be unable to prove
    a common law marriage through a joint deed or mortgage. Similarly, low-income
    couples may choose to title property in only one spouse’s name because of credit
    issues.
    ¶47   Finally, the traditions and symbols that mark marital and nonmarital
    commitments are not uniform. Not every expression of commitment to a partner
    constitutes an agreement to enter a marital relationship. Nor does every marriage
    ceremony involve an officiated exchange of vows before family and friends at a
    place of worship.8
    ¶48   In sum, the markers identified in Lucero have become less reliable indicators
    of a marital relationship. On the one hand, the Lucero factors may be overinclusive
    8 In Colorado, for example, a couple could formally marry by self-solemnizing at
    the top of Sugarloaf Mountain, placing their pet’s paw print on the witness
    signature to the union, and identifying the wedding location on the marriage
    certificate in GPS coordinates.
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    of couples who lack intent to be married yet engage in conduct once associated
    only with spouses. On the other hand, the factors may be underinclusive of
    genuine marriages that don’t conform to a traditional model.
    D. Proving a Common Law Marriage in Colorado
    ¶49   Given these significant social and legal developments since our decision in
    Lucero, the test and its factors require refinement. We therefore hold that a
    common law marriage may be established by the mutual consent or agreement of
    the couple to enter the legal and social institution of marriage, followed by conduct
    manifesting that mutual agreement. The key question is whether the parties
    mutually intended to enter a marital relationship—that is, to share a life together
    as spouses in a committed, intimate relationship of mutual support and mutual
    obligation. In assessing whether a common law marriage has been established,
    courts should give weight to evidence reflecting a couple’s express agreement to
    marry. In the absence of such evidence, the parties’ agreement to enter a marital
    relationship may be inferred from their conduct. When examining the parties’
    conduct, the factors identified in Lucero can still be relevant to the inquiry, but they
    must be assessed in context; the inferences to be drawn from the parties’ conduct
    may vary depending on the circumstances. Finally, the manifestation of the
    parties’ agreement to marry need not take a particular form.
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    ¶50   Our refinement retains the core parts of the Lucero test: the centrality of the
    couple’s mutual consent or agreement to marry, the requirement of some
    manifestation of that consent, and a flexible inquiry into the totality of the
    circumstances that relies on the factfinder’s credibility determinations and
    weighing of the evidence. We emphasize that, as was true under Lucero, a mutual
    agreement to marry does not alone suffice; there must be some evidence of
    subsequent conduct manifesting that agreement. 
    See 747 P.2d at 663
    .
    ¶51   But in light of the Supreme Court’s decision in Obergefell, we discard Lucero’s
    gendered language. In addition, we conclude that the conduct manifesting the
    parties’ agreement to marry need not take the form of “mutual public
    acknowledgment,”
    id., or “open marital
    cohabitation” in every case
    , id. at 664
    (quoting Homer Clark, Law of Domestic Relations 48 (1968)). There may be cases
    where, particularly for same-sex partners, a couple’s choice not to broadly
    publicize the nature of their relationship may be explained by reasons other than
    their lack of mutual agreement to be married. We are satisfied that in such cases,
    a general requirement to introduce “some objective evidence of the relationship”
    will sufficiently guard against fraudulent assertions of marriage.
    Id. (quoting Clark, supra,
    at 48).
    ¶52   Finally, the refined test reflects that it is more difficult today to say that a
    court will know a marriage when it sees one. Indeed, Colorado recognizes in civil
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    unions a legal relationship wholly separate from marriage notwithstanding that
    civil unions entail virtually the same “benefits, protections, and responsibilities
    afforded by Colorado law to spouses.” § 14-15-102, C.R.S. (2020).
    ¶53   Given this reality, the refined test emphasizes the importance of the parties’
    mutual agreement to enter a marital relationship. Whatever deep transformations
    marriage has undergone, see 
    Obergefell, 576 U.S. at 660
    , we have consistently
    recognized it as a civil contract requiring the mutual assent of the parties.
    ¶54   Parties asserting a common law marriage need not prove that they had
    detailed knowledge of and intent to obtain all the legal consequences that attach
    to marriage.   As we hold today in LaFleur, ¶¶ 32, 37, a same-sex couple in
    particular need not show intent to enter a marriage the state would have
    recognized at the time as lawful. Instead, the essential inquiry is whether the
    parties mutually intended to enter a marital relationship. As noted, courts should
    accord weight to evidence of the couple’s express agreement to marry, but in the
    absence of such evidence, the couple’s mutual intent may be inferred from their
    conduct, albeit judged in context.9
    9 Discerning the intent of a same-sex couple may require particular care. Before
    formal same-sex marriage was recognized, many same-sex couples expressed their
    commitment through the exchange of rings or in ceremonies ranging from the
    simple to the elaborate. But such acts of commitment varied widely; to
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    ¶55   The conduct we identified in Lucero can still be relevant to this inquiry.
    Although we disavow Lucero’s heteronormative terms like “husband and wife,”
    other factors, such as the parties’ cohabitation, reputation in the community as
    spouses, maintenance of joint banking and credit accounts, purchase and joint
    ownership of property, filing of joint tax returns, and use of one spouse’s surname
    by the other or by children raised by the parties may still be considered as evidence
    manifesting the couple’s intent to be married.
    ¶56   In addition, a court should consider: evidence of shared financial
    responsibility, such as leases in both partners’ names, joint bills, or other payment
    records; evidence of joint estate planning, including wills, powers of attorney,
    beneficiary and emergency contact designations; and symbols of commitment,
    such as ceremonies, anniversaries, cards, gifts, and the couple’s references to or
    labels for one another. Courts should also consider the parties’ sincerely held
    beliefs regarding the institution of marriage.
    ¶57   While the inquiry should focus on the couple’s conduct and attitude during
    the relationship, a party’s behavior when a relationship ends may be instructive.
    For example, a partner who asserts a common law marriage years after the couple
    automatically ascribe marital intent to them without examining other
    circumstances of the relationship fails to appreciate the diversity of attitudes in the
    LGBTQ community toward the institution of marriage.
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    broke up has a less credible claim than one who promptly asserts spousal status
    for dissolution or probate purposes.      In addition, conduct inconsistent with
    marriage that occurs as a relationship is breaking down does not negate a finding
    of common law marriage where there is evidence of the parties’ earlier mutual
    agreement to be married. In other words, infidelity, physical separation, or other
    conduct arising as the relationship is ending does not invalidate a couple’s prior
    mutual agreement to enter a common law marriage.
    ¶58   Finally, a court generally must establish the date of any common law
    marriage.   We note that ordinarily, where a legal impediment prevents an
    otherwise valid marriage (e.g., where one of the parties is already married to
    another person), the effective date of the marriage is the date the legal impediment
    is removed. However, the former exclusion of same-sex couples from marriage
    cannot constitute a legal impediment because that exclusion has been held
    unconstitutional. See LaFleur, ¶¶ 4, 33–35.
    ¶59   In sum, courts may continue to look to the parties’ conduct for evidence of
    an implied agreement to marry. But Lucero’s assumption that the presence of a
    particular factor necessarily supports a finding of marriage (or that its absence
    necessarily weighs against a finding of marriage) can no longer hold. Instead, the
    inferences to be drawn from the parties’ conduct will vary depending on the
    circumstances. In some cases, the presence of a factor is persuasive evidence of
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    marriage (e.g., the taking of a partner’s last name following a ceremony), while its
    absence is of no significance. In other cases, the absence of a factor is telling (e.g.,
    the fact that a couple never cohabitated), while the presence of that factor is
    unhelpful. Finally, the significance of a given factor will depend on the individual,
    the relationship, and the broader circumstances, including cultural differences.
    For example, one same-sex couple’s use of the label “partner” may convey
    “spouse,” while another’s may not. In Spanish-speaking communities, a person’s
    use of the reference “mujer” may or may not convey “wife.” Mujer, Real Academia
    Española, Diccionario de la Lengua Española, 23d ed., https://dle.rae.es/mujer
    [https://perma.cc/84A9-4YNQ] (defining “mujer” as both “person of the female
    sex” and “wife or female partner”). The court must consider the evidence in all its
    context. See, e.g., 
    Gill, 206 A.3d at 879
    –80 (explaining the trial court’s finding that
    the absence of a ceremony or honeymoon supported an inference against
    marriage, not because those celebrations are traditional, but in light of evidence of
    how the parties and their community signified important events).
    ¶60    We recognize that common law marriage determinations present difficult,
    fact-intensive inquiries. But we have full faith that our judges, who interact daily
    with Colorado families in all their diversity, can fairly make these sensitive
    assessments.
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    E. Applying the Refined Framework, the Parties Did Not
    Mutually Intend to Enter into a Common Law Marriage
    ¶61   Applying our revised framework for evaluating a common law marriage to
    this case, we conclude that the record supports the trial court’s conclusion that the
    parties did not mutually intend to enter a marital relationship and thus, Hogsett
    failed to meet her burden to establish the existence of a common law marriage.
    ¶62   We begin by reviewing evidence of an express agreement to marry. Hogsett
    testified that the parties exchanged custom wedding rings before friends and
    patrons at a bar, but later “backtracked and agreed” that only bar patrons were
    present. She was unable to confirm the exact date of the ring exchange. Neale, in
    contrast, testified that the parties merely exchanged rings “[t]o express
    commitment to the relationship,” that it was “nothing significant,” and that there
    were no family or friends present. As noted above, the traditions and symbols that
    mark marital commitments are not uniform; it is possible that an impromptu,
    intimate exchange of rings in a bar can be a marriage ceremony if the parties
    mutually intend it to be. Here, the district court found the evidence of this
    ceremony only partially helpful; it found there was evidence of a committed
    relationship but that the parties had different interpretations of the significance of
    the ring exchange.
    ¶63   Because the evidence of an express agreement to marry is inconclusive, we
    turn to evidence of the parties’ conduct to determine if such an agreement may be
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    inferred. Considering the totality of the circumstances and viewing the evidence
    in context, we conclude that the record supports the district court’s determination
    that there was no mutual agreement of the parties to enter into a marital
    relationship.
    ¶64    Hogsett and Neale never celebrated the date of the ring exchange as an
    anniversary; they did not wear their rings consistently; and they never referred to
    each other as wife or mentioned marriage in letters and cards they exchanged.
    True, it is possible that the couple did not celebrate the ring exchange as an
    anniversary or refer to each other as spouses because they were not and could not
    be formally married at the time. But they never privately celebrated the ring
    exchange as a key date in their relationship, and in communications with third
    parties, including family and long-time friends, only Hogsett ever referred to
    Neale as her wife or described the relationship as a marriage. Here, there is no
    evidence that the parties chose to hide the true nature of their relationship for fear
    of disapproval or discrimination.
    ¶65   The parties did cohabitate and bought a custom home together, had joint
    banking and credit accounts, and went to a financial advisor to manage and
    preserve their assets as a couple. This evidence tends to demonstrate a committed
    relationship of mutual support and obligation, but it is not necessarily dispositive
    proof of a marital relationship, given the modern trends noted above regarding
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    unmarried couples’ varying financial arrangements. Hogsett also listed Neale as
    a primary beneficiary and domestic partner on her 401(k) and as next of kin and
    life partner on a medical record, indicating an intent to have a legally recognized
    relationship. Neale, however, did not make any similar designations.
    ¶66   Some of the evidence does not point in either direction. For example,
    Hogsett’s certification on a health insurance form that she was “not married” is of
    little significance, as the option to be formally married in Colorado was not legally
    available at the time. For the same reason, the parties’ failure to file joint tax
    returns during that time contributes little to the inquiry. Notably, we disagree
    with the court of appeals’ suggestion that the parties’ failure to attempt to get
    married in a state where same-sex marriage was legal weighs against a finding of
    common law marriage. Hogsett, ¶ 21. A couple’s decision not to formally marry
    does not reflect lack of intent to enter a common law marriage.
    ¶67   As discussed above, the parties’ behavior after the relationship ends may be
    instructive.   Here, Hogsett points to the parties’ petition for dissolution of
    marriage and their mediated separation agreement as evidence that they had
    agreed to be married. It is true that Neale was the one to suggest “divorce” to
    Hogsett and that Neale signed the petition and separation agreement without
    refuting the existence of a marriage. That said, the district court credited Neale’s
    testimony that she “was given bad advice” and thought she was required to file
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    for dissolution in order to separate their finances.        Moreover, the parties
    acknowledged at their initial status conference in that proceeding that they had
    “no marriage or civil union license” and then jointly and promptly dismissed the
    action. In short, the filing of the initial petition for dissolution and the parties’
    separation agreement is not conclusive evidence that the parties intended to enter
    a common law marriage.10
    ¶68   Returning to the core query, it is clear that both parties were in a committed,
    intimate relationship for thirteen years. Nevertheless, to establish a common law
    marriage, there must be mutual intent to enter a marital relationship. Although
    Hogsett testified that she had such intent, the record reflects that Neale did not.
    ¶69   Neale testified that she “do[es]n’t believe in marriage.       [She] do[es]n’t
    believe two people can promise each other that they’re going to love each other
    for the rest of their lives.”   And importantly, Hogsett confirmed that Neale
    expressed to her that “she doesn’t believe in marriage because she believes that
    there’s . . . a higher power than that.” The district court thus made a credibility
    determination that Neale “never asked to be married, . . . doesn’t believe in
    10We reject Hogsett’s reliance on appeal on the parol evidence rule. The court of
    appeals declined to consider this contention because it was raised for the first time
    on appeal. Hogsett, ¶¶ 26–27. Even assuming that this contention was preserved,
    the trial court properly considered the extrinsic evidence proffered by both parties
    to determine whether there was a mutual agreement to be married.
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    marriage[, and] doesn’t believe that two people can be in . . . love their whole life.”
    In sum, while Hogsett may have intended to be married, there is insufficient
    evidence to conclude such intent was mutual, despite both parties’ clear
    commitment to each other and other indicia of a marital relationship. Accordingly,
    we conclude that there was no common law marriage and affirm the court of
    appeals’ judgment.11
    III. Conclusion
    ¶70   Today we refine the test from Lucero and hold that a common law marriage
    may be established by the mutual consent or agreement of the couple to enter the
    legal and social institution of marriage, followed by conduct manifesting that
    mutual agreement. The key inquiry is whether the parties intended to enter a
    marital relationship—that is, to share a life together as spouses in a committed,
    intimate relationship of mutual support and obligation. In assessing whether a
    common law marriage has been established, courts should accord weight to
    evidence reflecting a couple’s express agreement to marry. In the absence of such
    evidence, the parties’ agreement may be inferred from their conduct. When
    examining the parties’ conduct, the factors identified in Lucero can still be relevant
    11We decline to consider Hogsett’s “estoppel by contract” argument as we agree
    with the court of appeals that this contention was not properly preserved. Hogsett,
    ¶ 27.
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    to the inquiry but must be assessed in context; the inferences to be drawn from the
    parties’ conduct may vary depending on the circumstances.             Finally, the
    manifestation of the parties’ agreement to marry need not take a particular form.
    Applying this refined test here, we hold the record supports the trial court’s
    conclusion that there was no mutual intent of the parties to enter into a common
    law marriage. Accordingly, we affirm the judgment of the court of appeals.
    Hogsett’s request for attorney’s fees and costs is denied.
    JUSTICE HART specially concurs.
    CHIEF JUSTICE BOATRIGHT concurs in the judgment only.
    JUSTICE SAMOUR concurs in the judgment only.
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    JUSTICE HART, specially concurring.
    ¶71   I fully join the majority opinion in this case, as well as in In re Estate of Yudkin,
    
    2021 CO 2
    , __ P.3d __, and In re Marriage of LaFleur & Pyfer, 
    2021 CO 3
    , __ P.3d __,
    because the opinions offer helpful refinement of the common law marriage test to
    be applied to those common law marriages that have already been entered. I write
    separately to express my concerns regarding the validity of common law marriage
    going forward. The historic conditions that once justified the need for the doctrine
    are no longer present, its application is often unpredictable and inconsistent, and
    it ties parties and courts up in needlessly costly litigation. It is my view that
    Colorado should join the overwhelming majority of states and abolish it.
    ¶72   Common law marriage travelled to colonial America from England, where
    it had been a creature of English common law. See Cynthia Grant Bowman, A
    Feminist Proposal to Bring Back Common Law Marriage, 
    75 Or. L
    . Rev. 709, 719–20
    (1996). While not recognized in every jurisdiction, it was recognized in many
    American states and territories, including Colorado.              There are numerous
    explanations for the wide acceptance of common law marriage in the early decades
    of the nation. Many posit that frontier America was difficult to travel and sparsely
    populated, making it unduly complicated for a couple wishing to marry to reach
    a religious or government official who could perform a formal wedding. See
    id. at 722–24.
    Common law marriage was also deemed necessary because of prevailing
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    moral judgments about unwed mothers and children born out of wedlock. And it
    was used as a way to situate financial responsibility for indigent women with their
    common law husbands rather than with the “public fisc.” See maj. op. ¶ 29.
    ¶73   Today’s world looks very different—socially, legally, and practically—than
    the world did when common law marriage was a majority rule among the states.
    “The paternalistic motivations underlying common-law marriage no longer
    outweigh the offenses to public policy the doctrine engenders.” Stone v. Thompson,
    
    833 S.E.2d 266
    , 269 (S.C. 2019). Acceptance in society is no longer dependent on
    one’s marital status or that of one’s parents. See Marriage of Hogsett, 
    2018 COA 176
    ,
    ¶ 36, __ P.3d __ (Furman, J., specially concurring). And Colorado is hardly the
    frontier state it once was. Even residents in our most rural counties have ready
    access to the legal infrastructure for a licensed marriage. The process is quick and
    simple with minimal cost. See §§ 14-2-104 to -109, C.R.S. (2020).
    ¶74   As the justifications for common law marriage have receded, social norms
    surrounding romantic relationships and childrearing have changed and the
    acceptance of non-marital cohabitation and co-parenting has increased. See maj.
    op. ¶¶ 42–43. Moreover, many couples choose to cohabit or otherwise enter long-
    term partnerships that look very much like marriages, but with absolutely no
    desire or intention to participate in the institution of marriage. The majority
    opinion refines our common law marriage analysis to account for these and other
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    developments.
    Id. at ¶¶ 49–59.
    But there is no doubt these modern trends have
    made it more difficult for a layperson to understand what constitutes a common
    law marriage. In prospectively abolishing common law marriage in its state, the
    South Carolina Supreme Court noted that this confusion has transformed the
    doctrine into a “mechanism which imposes marital bonds upon an ever-growing
    number of people who do not even understand its triggers.” 
    Stone, 833 S.E.2d at 270
    ; see also Br. of Amicus Curiae Colorado Legal Services, at 24, In re Estate of
    Yudkin, 
    2021 CO 2
    (noting the confusion surrounding common law marriage, as a
    result of which “common law marriage is ‘over-diagnosed’ by many supportive
    services entities, who may recommend that individuals be safe and file a court case
    that may necessitate court and lawyers’ fees that might never have been
    required”). As modern relationship trends evolve, the incongruity between the
    doctrine and the behavior and expectations of the public will become only greater
    and it will grow increasingly difficult “to say that a court will know a marriage
    when it sees one.” Maj. op. ¶ 52.
    ¶75   Perhaps not surprisingly, then, although many states once recognized
    common law marriage, today Colorado is one of only ten jurisdictions to do so.
    See
    id. at ¶ 32.
    Most of those states have prospectively eliminated common law
    marriage through legislative enactment, though in some states the courts have
    weighed in to disapprove this common law doctrine. See id.; see, e.g., Stone,
    
    3 833 S.E.2d at 270
    (noting both that many states had abolished the doctrine
    legislatively and that the elimination of common law marriage in South Carolina
    would be prospective only); PNC Bank Corp. v. Workers’ Comp. Appeal Bd., 
    831 A.2d 1269
    , 1279 (Pa. Commw. Ct. 2003) (explaining the court’s view that common law
    marriage should no longer be recognized). In Colorado, common law marriage
    has been incorporated into statutory law only to the limited extent that section
    14-2-109.5, C.R.S. (2020), requires that parties to a common law marriage be at least
    eighteen years old and that the marriage not violate any of the prohibitions set
    forth in section 14-2-110, C.R.S. (2020). Given these limited statutory provisions, I
    believe that the courts could take up the question of whether to continue to
    recognize common law marriage. The better course, however, would be for the
    General Assembly to consider whether the doctrine should be prospectively
    abolished in the state. See Marriage of Hogsett, ¶¶ 35–36.
    ¶76   A guiding principle of our system of justice should be to promote consistent,
    predictable, and just outcomes. First Nat’l Bank v. Rostek, 
    514 P.2d 314
    , 318 (Colo.
    1973). Our common law marriage analysis is often at odds with this commitment.
    As we see in the trilogy of cases we decide today, “courts struggle mightily to
    determine if and when parties expressed the requisite intent to be married.” 
    Stone, 833 S.E.2d at 269
    . Further, the fact-intensive inquiry required is lengthy and
    expensive and delves into sensitive areas of the parties’ lives. Requiring those who
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    wish to be married in Colorado to obtain a marriage license would remedy these
    issues and provide a bright-line rule for courts to rely on.
    ¶77   For these reasons, I urge the legislature to abolish the common law marriage
    doctrine.
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    CHIEF JUSTICE BOATRIGHT, concurring in the judgment only.
    ¶78   “[T]he cardinal principle of judicial restraint [is that] if it is not necessary to
    decide more, it is necessary not to decide more.” PDK Lab’ys Inc. v. U.S. Drug Enf’t
    Admin., 
    362 F.3d 786
    , 799 (D.C. Cir. 2004) (Roberts, J., concurring in part and
    concurring in the judgment). Today, the majority announces new factors for
    establishing common law marriage even though those factors are ultimately
    irrelevant under the circumstances of this case: Both Marcia Neale and Edi Hogsett
    testified that Neale did not intend to be married, and the district court made a
    credibility determination that Neale “never asked to be married, . . . doesn’t
    believe in marriage[, and doesn’t] believe that two people can be in . . . love their
    whole life [sic].” Therefore, the couple’s relationship indisputably did not satisfy
    the fundamental common law marriage requirement of “mutual intent to enter a
    marital relationship,” maj. op. ¶ 68, and no factors—new or old—can change that
    reality. Thus, in my view, the majority decides more than is necessary because the
    record clearly evinces—without considering any factors—that no common law
    marriage existed. And in deciding what it need not, the majority also potentially
    broadens the definition of marriage in a way that I fear will only further confuse
    the already complex concept of common law marriage. Because I agree, however,
    with the majority’s ultimate conclusion that Neale and Hogsett did not enter into
    a common law marriage, I respectfully concur in the judgment only.
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    ¶79   The majority repeatedly affirms the long-held principle that a common law
    marriage exists only with “mutual consent or agreement of the couple to enter the
    legal and social institution of marriage.”
    Id. at ¶ 3;
    see also 52 Am. Jur. 2d Marriage
    § 39 (2020) (“For a common-law marriage to be formed, there must be a mutual
    intent to be married, as well as a mutual consent.” (emphasis added) (footnote
    omitted)). Intent to be married forms the cornerstone of every marriage, common
    law or otherwise—in fact, it is “[t]he core query” in proving a common law
    marriage. Maj. op. ¶ 3. In that regard, the majority is correct.
    ¶80   Despite the majority’s repeated emphasis on the vital nature of marital
    intent, however, it glosses over the reality that the factors for establishing common
    law marriage need only be employed when there exists credible disagreement as
    to the parties’ intent. Indeed, the very purpose of using factors to examine the
    parties’ conduct is to ascertain their intent. See
    id. at ¶ 54
    (“[I]n the absence of [an
    express agreement to marry], the couple’s mutual intent [to enter a marital
    relationship] may be inferred from their conduct . . . .”); see also Estate of Yudkin,
    
    2021 CO 2
    , ¶ 23, __ P.3d __ (“The purpose of examining the couple’s conduct
    is . . . to discover their intent.”). If one party claims, for example, that both she and
    her partner intended to be married, but her partner denies such intent, then a court
    should look at the parties’ relevant conduct to determine whether the denying
    partner actually possessed such intent. In other words, the factors for establishing
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    common law marriage become relevant only when there exists a credible
    disagreement between the parties about their intent to be married. If, however,
    there exists no credible disagreement, then the factors are irrelevant.
    ¶81    Here, the record makes clear that there exists no credible disagreement
    about Neale and Hogsett’s mutual intent to be married—a fact the majority
    acknowledges when it says that the court “found ‘credible evidence that [Neale]
    did not believe that she was married’ to Hogsett.” Maj. op. ¶ 17. In point of fact,
    Neale testified that she never believed in marriage, and Hogsett admitted that she
    was aware of this belief throughout the duration of her relationship with Neale,
    testifying that “[Neale] doesn’t believe in marriage because she believes that
    there’s something, a higher power than that.” Although many of the factors under
    the now-superseded Lucero standard weighed in favor of finding a common law
    marriage, the district court correctly concluded that no common law marriage
    existed because it found credible Neale’s assertion that she “never asked to be
    married, . . . doesn’t believe in marriage[, and doesn’t] believe that two people can
    be in . . . love their whole life [sic].”
    ¶82    In my view, the district court’s finding should obviate any further inquiry
    into whether Neale and Hogsett entered into a common law marriage. This is
    particularly true considering that the determination of parties’ intent to marry
    “relies on the factfinder’s credibility determinations and weighing of the
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    evidence.”    Maj. op. at ¶ 50.      The district court made those credibility
    determinations, weighed the evidence, and found no mutual intent to be married.
    That absence of mutual intent to be married is dispositive. The inquiry should
    end. The majority, however, presses on.
    ¶83   The structure of the majority’s analysis, itself, speaks against applying the
    factors on these facts. After finding evidence of an express agreement to marry
    “inconclusive,” the majority evaluates evidence under several of the new factors.
    Id. at ¶¶ 63–67.
    This exercise yields little: only the undisputed conclusion that
    “both parties were in a committed, intimate relationship for thirteen years.”
    Id. at ¶ 68.
    Then, circling back to the beginning and “[r]eturning to the core query,” the
    majority re-emphasizes that “there must be mutual intent to enter a marital
    relationship.”
    Id. Then, relying not
    on the factors but on Neale’s testimony that she
    did not believe in marriage and Hogsett’s testimony acknowledging Neale’s
    views, the majority ultimately explains that, “while Hogsett may have intended to
    be married, there is insufficient evidence to conclude such intent was mutual,
    despite both parties’ clear commitment to each other and other indicia of a marital
    relationship.”
    Id. at ¶ 69.
    Therefore, the majority finds that Neale and Hogsett did
    not enter into a common law marriage.
    Id. ¶84
      To announce new factors on these facts—which, as the majority
    demonstrates, do not require application of the factors—violates the cardinal
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    principle of judicial restraint. To be clear, I take no issue with the new factors
    announced by the majority, themselves, and I appreciate the majority’s desire to
    update the test for establishing common law marriage. But what I do take issue
    with is that the majority’s announcement of those factors on these facts obscures
    and confuses the purpose of applying common law marriage factors: to help a
    court determine whether the parties intended to be married. It is a futile exercise
    to apply factors to determine such intent when every party—including the party
    who has the burden of proving common law marriage—agrees that the intent to
    be married never existed. I worry that the majority needlessly directs courts to
    engage in a factor-based analysis, even in cases with—as here—an undisputed lack
    of “mutual consent or agreement of the couple to enter the legal and social
    institution of marriage.”
    Id. at ¶ 3. ¶85 I
    also worry that the majority potentially broadens the definition of marriage
    in a way that will cause additional confusion. The majority equates intent to enter
    into a marital relationship with intent to be together “in a committed, intimate
    relationship of mutual support and obligation.”
    Id. But while a
    marital
    relationship and a “committed, intimate relationship of mutual support and
    obligation” certainly overlap, they are not necessarily the same.          In fact,
    relationships in which one or both of the parties do not intend to be married could
    potentially satisfy this definition of marriage. The majority, itself, acknowledges
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    as much. Indeed, while reasoning that Neale and Hogsett’s cohabitation, purchase
    of a home, and joint financial accounts “tend[] to demonstrate” a “committed,
    intimate relationship of mutual support and obligation,” the majority ultimately
    concludes that these factors “[are] not necessarily dispositive proof of a marital
    relationship,”
    id. at ¶ 65
    (emphasis added), and finds that the parties did not enter
    into a common law marriage.
    Id. at ¶ 69.
    ¶86   In addition to causing confusion, further defining marriage is also
    unnecessary. As the Supreme Court of New Jersey recognized, when partners
    announce they are married, no further explanation is necessary, because “[w]hen
    you say that you are married . . . everyone can instantly relate to you and your
    relationship [and others] don’t have to wonder what kind of relationship it is or
    how to refer to it or how much to respect it.” Lewis v. Harris, 
    908 A.2d 196
    , 226
    (N.J. 2006). In other words, marriage is marriage.
    ¶87   In sum, I do not think it appropriate for the majority to announce new
    factors for establishing common law marriage on these facts. Neale and Hogsett’s
    relationship indisputably did not satisfy the fundamental requirement of mutual
    intent, and I worry that the factors announced by the majority as well as the
    potential broadening of the definition of marriage will only further confuse the
    already complex concept of common law marriage. Because I agree, however,
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    with the majority’s ultimate conclusion that Neale and Hogsett did not enter into
    a common law marriage, I respectfully concur in the judgment only.
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    JUSTICE SAMOUR, concurring in the judgment only.
    ¶88   For the reasons articulated in my dissenting opinion in the companion case
    of In re Marriage of LaFleur & Pyfer, 
    2021 CO 3
    , __ P.3d __ (Samour, J., dissenting),
    I respectfully concur in the judgment only. I recognize that Obergefell v. Hodges,
    
    576 U.S. 644
    (2015), requires us to treat our state’s ban on same-sex marriage
    during the relevant timeframe as though it never existed. But even so, and even
    assuming, alternatively, Obergefell’s retroactive application, I would conclude that
    Edi L. Hogsett and Marcia E. Neale could not have mutually intended or agreed
    to enter into the legal relationship of marriage in Colorado between December 2002
    and November 2014. See LaFleur, ¶ 76. Because Obergefell was not announced until
    June 2015, Hogsett and Neale could not have intended or agreed to be in a legally
    sanctioned marriage. As a matter of law, neither Obergefell’s effect on our state law
    nor Obergefell’s retroactive application can transform Hogsett and Neale’s mutual
    intent and agreement at the time they exchanged rings in 2002.
    ¶89   Only after Obergefell rendered our state’s prohibition on same-sex marriage
    unconstitutional in June 2015 could Hogsett and Neale have mutually intended
    and agreed to enter into the legal relationship of marriage.1 See LaFleur, ¶ 77. And,
    1The majority notes in In re Marriage of LaFleur & Pyfer, 
    2021 CO 3
    , __ P.3d __, that
    in 2014, eight months before Obergefell, two Tenth Circuit cases out of Utah and
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    because common law marriage in Colorado requires mutual intent and agreement
    to enter into the legal relationship of marriage, I would hold that, as a matter of
    law, Hogsett and Neale could not have entered into a common law marriage
    during the relevant timeframe. See
    id. at ¶¶ 76–77. ¶90 I
    would therefore affirm the court of appeals’ judgment on different
    grounds than the majority. Accordingly, I concur in the judgment only.
    Oklahoma had effectively declared Colorado’s prohibition on same-sex marriage
    unconstitutional.
    Id. at ¶ 30
    (indicating that “Colorado began to recognize same-
    sex marriages” in October 2014, just days before Hogsett and Neale ended their
    relationship). Be that as it may, given the way we framed the question we agreed
    to review in LaFleur, I assume for purposes of this dissent that Colorado’s
    prohibition on same-sex marriage became unconstitutional when Obergefell was
    penned in June 2015.
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