William and Carleen Switzer v. Thomas Switzer, etc ( 2001 )


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  •                     COURT OF APPEALS OF VIRGINIA
    Present:   Judges Frank, Agee and Senior Judge Coleman
    THOMAS L. SWITZER
    v.   Record No. 0779-00-3
    SAMUEL SMITH, JODY BOTKIN,
    WILLIAM SWITZER AND CARLEEN SWITZER      MEMORANDUM OPINION * BY
    JUDGE ROBERT P. FRANK
    WILLIAM SWITZER AND CARLEEN SWITZER           JULY 31, 2001
    v.   Record No. 1159-00-3
    THOMAS SWITZER, PAULA SWITZER,
    SAMUEL SMITH AND JODY BOTKIN
    FROM THE CIRCUIT COURT OF AUGUSTA COUNTY
    Thomas H. Wood, Judge
    Thomas L. Switzer, pro se.
    Charles E. Garner; Jeffrey A. Link;
    Deborah A. Gartzke, Guardian ad litem for the
    minor child (Blue Ridge Legal Services, Inc.,
    on brief), for appellees Samuel Smith, Jody
    Botkin and Paula Switzer.
    Roland S. Carlton, Jr. (Carlton & Titus,
    P.L.C., on brief), for William Switzer and
    Carleen Switzer.
    In Record Number 0779-00-3, Thomas L. Switzer (father)
    appeals the decision of the trial court granting custody of his
    minor child, Daniel Wayne Switzer (Daniel), to Samuel Smith
    (Smith) and Jody Botkin (Botkin).   Proceeding pro se, father
    * Pursuant to Code § 17.1-413, this opinion is not
    designated for publication.
    raises the following issues in his brief:   1) Smith and Botkin are
    not the most appropriate people to raise his child; 2) Code
    §§ 16.1-241(A) and 20-124.1 are unconstitutional; 3) the trial
    court did not have jurisdiction to award custody of the child to
    unrelated third parties absent initial intervention by the
    Department of Social Services; 4) the trial court's award was void
    ab initio; 5) Smith and Botkin did not have a valid custody
    petition; 6) the non-parent parties failed to overcome the natural
    parent presumption and failed to present sufficient evidence of
    actual harm; 7) he was denied due process; 8) he was denied equal
    protection under the law regarding visitation; and 9) he was
    denied his "fundamental right" to have counsel appointed by the
    trial court.
    In Record Number 1159-00-3, William and Carleen Switzer
    (grandparents), father's parents and the paternal grandparents of
    the minor child, contend the trial court erred in:   1) finding
    that Smith and Botkin have standing to file petitions for custody
    "as persons with a legitimate interest"; 2) holding that Smith and
    Botkin had a valid petition for custody pending before the court;
    3) holding that grandparents come before the court equally with
    nonrelatives in determining child custody; 4) determining that a
    parent is unfit for custody when no party has made such an
    allegation; and 5) finding that Code §§ 16.1-241, 16.1-278.15 and
    20-124.1 are constitutional.
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    Upon reviewing the record and briefs of the parties, we
    conclude that these appeals are without merit.      Accordingly, we
    affirm the trial court.
    I.   BACKGROUND
    This case has an extensive procedural history that culminated
    in the trial court awarding custody of Daniel to Smith and Botkin.
    In June 1999, the grandparents filed pretrial motions to vacate
    and dismiss the juvenile court's order, alleging lack of
    jurisdiction and lack of standing.       Father joined in their
    motions.    By letter opinion dated October 26, 1999, the trial
    court overruled the pretrial motions.
    On November 29, 1999, the trial court heard de novo the
    petitions and cross-petitions filed by the parties.      The record on
    appeal does not contain a transcript of the hearing, but it does
    include a written statement of facts signed by the trial judge.
    Father testified he attended anger management classes and that he
    and Paula Switzer, Daniel's mother, had committed acts of violence
    against each other.   Father admitted he violated a juvenile court
    order by visiting Daniel at the grandparents' house before he
    finished anger management classes.       Father indicated the
    grandparents had twice served him with "'no trespass papers.'"
    Bonnie Shumaker, the Court Appointed Special Advocate (CASA)
    volunteer "responsible for this case since January of 1999,"
    conducted twenty visits at the residence shared by Smith and
    Botkin.    She also visited the grandparents' residence and father's
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    apartment.   Shumaker opined that Daniel "has been doing very well
    with" Smith and Botkin.    The trial court admitted into evidence
    CASA reports dated March 8, 1999 and August 4, 1999.   After the
    juvenile court hearing, grandmother "advised [Shumaker] not to
    visit [the grandparents'] mobile home any more and advised her,
    that, on the advice of counsel, she would not talk to [Shumaker]
    any more."
    Penny Critzer, a licensed clinical social worker at the James
    Madison University Shenandoah Valley Child Development Clinic,
    interviewed all parties in the case and prepared a "comprehensive
    evaluation" of Daniel.    The forty-page evaluation was "based on an
    assessment of the child's needs, potential, developmental status
    and observed behavior" with the parties in the case.   The trial
    court made the report "part of the record."   Critzer opined that
    "Daniel got along much better with Smith and Botkin" and that,
    although the grandparents "love the child[, they] cannot set
    limits with him."   As a result, Critzer feared Daniel might
    develop a "reactive attachment disorder."   Critzer testified
    "there was an anxiety in the relationship between [Daniel] and
    [the grandparents] that was not present in the relationship
    between [Daniel] and Smith and Botkin."   Finally, Critzer "was
    concerned that [father] might hurt [the grandparents]."
    Rebecca Prye, a part-time caseworker for the Valley Community
    Services Board, first worked with Paula Switzer when she was in a
    battered spouse shelter.   Prye helped Paula get temporary custody
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    of Daniel and "was involved in the temporary placement of Daniel
    with Smith and Botkin."   Prye explained that Paula suffers from
    "mental retardation and bipolar affective disorder."    Paula stays
    with a couple, Timothy and Vicki Banks, who provide foster care
    for adults.   Prye "testified that [Daniel] has flourished with
    Smith and Botkin."
    Frances Clark operated the child care center that Daniel
    attended "during a substantial portion [of the time] that he has
    lived with Smith and Botkin."   Clark noticed that when Daniel
    returned on Monday after visiting the grandparents, he acted
    withdrawn and "lethargic" and "she had problems" with him.
    Julia White, a worker with the LIFT program, a program
    designed to help "children under three who are developmentally
    delayed," stated that in January 1998, Daniel "was three to four
    months behind in his cognitive development and his speech.    With
    Smith and Botkin, [Daniel] caught up with respect to his cognitive
    development in less than a year."
    Saundra Crawford, a probation officer with the juvenile
    court, conducted a custody investigation and prepared a report
    that she filed with the trial court.
    Grandfather testified he does not have health or life
    insurance.    He described a physical altercation between himself
    and father in February 1999 when Daniel was visiting.
    Magdelena Cequeda testified that father offered her and her
    children a place to live so he could "show everyone what a
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    responsible person he is."   After she moved in, they constantly
    fought and father assaulted her, even after he completed an anger
    management course.    Cequeda said father "was 'hard' on the
    children."    She described an incident in which father performed a
    sexually explicit act in front of her while her children were in
    the residence.
    Botkin testified that she and Smith have lived together for
    four years.    "In December of 1997, Paula asked her and Smith to
    watch Daniel while [Paula] had surgery."   She and Smith "have had
    [Daniel] ever since."   Smith and Botkin work full-time for the
    same employer.    They both receive health and life insurance and
    are enrolled in an employer-sponsored 401K plan.
    By letter dated December 23, 1999, the trial court awarded
    custody to Smith and Botkin "[a]fter carefully considering the
    evidence, the statute involved, Sections 20-124.1 through
    20-124.3," the authorities cited and the arguments made by the
    parties.   The trial court indicated that a detailed letter opinion
    explaining its decision would be forthcoming.
    On January 6, 2000, the trial court issued a letter opinion
    confirming the ruling made in its December 23, 1999 letter.    The
    trial court discussed the "'primacy of the parent-child
    relationship'" and acknowledged that Code § 20-124.2 "gives rise
    to a presumption that the child's best interests will be served
    when in custody of its parents."   However, it also explained that
    in all child custody cases, "'the best interests of the child are
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    paramount . . . .'"   The trial court "afforded to [father] a
    presumption that the best interests of [Daniel] would be served by
    awarding [his] custody to him," and it "imposed upon Smith/Botkin
    the burden of proving by clear and convincing evidence that the
    best interests of [Daniel] dictated that [his] custody be awarded
    to someone other than [father]."   The trial court recalled the
    great amount of evidence establishing how well Daniel was
    progressing in Smith and Botkin's custody.
    The trial court noted that father "suffers from depression
    and an anxiety disorder, and has been diagnosed with a schizoid
    personality disorder . . . ."   The trial court found that father
    is unable "to hold any job for any length of time and his
    relationships with all people around him are marked by violence."
    The court further explained that father "has deep-seated and
    complex mental and emotional problems which cannot be resolved by
    a mere anger management course."   The court further stated that
    father "lacks the ability to control his conduct" and "to care for
    a three-year-old child."
    The trial court found that father and the grandparents "do
    not like each other."   In fact, "[t]his animosity surfaced in the
    Courtroom during the course of the trial and has been well
    documented by every individual who has studied this family."
    Despite this antagonism, the court noted that father has frequent
    contact with his parents and regularly eats meals with them.
    "After considering all the evidence in this case," the trial court
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    found that the grandparents "lack the ability to successfully
    raise this child."   The court wrote, "That lack of ability,
    coupled with the problems presented by [their] adult, retarded
    daughter, Tressa, and the frequent contact with [father]
    absolutely dictate that the custody of this child not be awarded
    to them."
    The trial court acknowledged it was troubled by the fact that
    Smith and Botkin, though indicating an intention to marry after
    the case was over, lived together "without benefit of marriage."
    However, the court noted that the guardian ad litem, the CASA
    volunteer, and the clinical social worker all recommended that
    custody be awarded to Smith and Botkin.       The trial court concluded
    as follows:
    After considering all of the evidence,
    all of the statutory provisions,
    particularly the factors to be considered by
    the Court in determining the best interests
    of the child as set forth in Section
    20-124.3, the Court is convinced that the
    custody of this child ought to be awarded to
    Samuel Smith and Jody Botkin. Not only do
    they have youth, intelligence and good
    health, they also love this child very
    deeply. They very clearly represent the
    best option to the Court in this case.
    The trial court entered a final order on March 7, 2000 in
    which it summarized all of its rulings.
    II.    ANALYSIS
    We first address father's contention that Smith, Botkin and
    Daniel's maternal grandmother, Edith Fridley, who lives with
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    Smith and Botkin, are materially and morally unfit to care for
    Daniel. 1   Specifically, father contends Smith and Botkin are
    first cousins "who live together in open fornication."
    "In matters of custody, visitation, and
    related child care issues, the court's
    paramount concern is always the best
    interests of the child." Farley v. Farley,
    
    9 Va. App. 326
    , 327-28, 
    387 S.E.2d 794
    , 795
    (1990). "In matters of a child's welfare,
    trial courts are vested with broad
    discretion in making the decisions necessary
    to guard and to foster a child's best
    interests." 
    Id. at 328, 387
    S.E.2d at 795
    (citing Eichelberger v. Eichelberger, 2 Va.
    App. 409, 412, 
    345 S.E.2d 10
    , 12 (1986)).
    "A trial court's determination of matters
    within its discretion is reversible on
    appeal only for an abuse of that
    discretion . . . and a trial court's
    decision will not be set aside unless
    plainly wrong or without evidence to support
    it." 
    Id. (citations omitted). Goldhamer
    v. Cohen, 
    31 Va. App. 728
    , 734-35, 
    525 S.E.2d 599
    , 602
    (2000).
    We will not again recite the evidence before the trial
    court, nor the trial court's finding of father's unfitness.      The
    trial court heard testimony and weighed it accordingly.
    In addition to testimony from witnesses and the parties,
    the trial court possessed extensive evidence from experts in the
    form of reports, observations and recommendations, all of which
    1
    Father failed to include this issue in   his questions
    presented, but addresses it in the "Facts and   Argument" section
    of his brief. Because he contested the trial    court's decision
    to award custody to Smith and Botkin, we will   address this
    argument.
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    supported its decision to award custody to Smith and Botkin.
    After reviewing the record, we cannot say that the trial court's
    decision was plainly wrong or without evidence to support it.
    We next address father's contention that Code
    §§ 16.1-241(A) and 20-124.1 2 are unconstitutional because they
    allow "non-parent parties to petition and win custody of a
    child."   He also claims the "legislature without due process of
    law has given the protected rights of parents and other close
    relatives of children to anyone who wants them."
    Code § 16.1-241(A)(3) grants jurisdiction to juvenile
    courts in all cases, matters and proceedings involving the
    "custody, visitation, support, control or disposition of a
    child . . . [w]hose custody, visitation or support is a subject
    of controversy or requires determination."
    The statute further provides:
    The authority of the juvenile court to
    adjudicate matters involving the custody,
    visitation, support, control or disposition
    of a child shall not be limited to the
    consideration of petitions filed by a
    mother, father or legal guardian but shall
    include petitions filed at any time by any
    party with a legitimate interest therein. A
    party with a legitimate interest shall be
    broadly construed and shall include, but not
    2
    Code § 20-124.1 simply defines "persons with a legitimate
    interest." Father makes no argument that the definition is
    unconstitutional. We, therefore, only address the
    constitutionality of Code § 16.1-241. Further, father did not
    challenge the constitutionality of Code § 20-124.2, which allows
    the court to give custody to "any other person with a legitimate
    interest."
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    be limited to, grandparents, stepparents,
    former stepparents, blood relatives and
    family members.
    Code § 16.1-241.
    Father relies on Williams v. Williams, 
    256 Va. 19
    , 
    501 S.E.2d 417
    (1998), in support of his argument that the trial
    court had no jurisdiction to award custody to "any party with a
    legitimate interest."    Father's reliance on Williams is
    misplaced.
    Williams involved court-ordered visitation for the
    grandparents pursuant to Code § 20-124.2 over both parents'
    objections.     See 
    Williams, 256 Va. at 20
    , 501 S.E.2d at 417.
    The Supreme Court upheld this Court's decision that Code
    § 20-124.2 did not unconstitutionally interfere with the rights
    of parents in raising their child, writing:
    [T]he right of parents in raising their
    child is a fundamental right protected by
    the Fourteenth Amendment. . . . [S]tate
    interference with a fundamental right must
    be justified by a compelling state interest,
    and that to constitute a compelling
    interest, "state interference with a
    parent's right to raise his or her child
    must be for the purpose of protecting the
    child's health or welfare."
    
    Id. at 21, 501
    S.E.2d at 418 (citations omitted).
    The Supreme Court further wrote:
    The Court of Appeals then interpreted
    Code § 20-124.2(B) to permit the state to
    interfere with the right of parents to raise
    their child by allowing a court to order
    nonparent visitation upon a showing by clear
    and convincing evidence that the best
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    interests of the child would be served by
    such visitation. [Williams v. Williams, 
    24 Va. App. 778
    ,] 784, 485 S.E.2d [651,] 654
    [(1997)]. However, the Court of Appeals
    said that the language in the foregoing
    statute that a court "shall give due regard
    to the primacy of the parent-child
    relationship," evinces the General
    Assembly's intent to require the court to
    find that a denial of nonparent visitation
    would be detrimental to the child's welfare
    before the court may interfere with the
    constitutionally protected parental rights.
    
    Id. In other words,
    the Court of Appeals
    said, "For the constitutional requirement to
    be satisfied, before visitation can be
    ordered over the objection of the child's
    parents, a court must find an actual harm to
    the child's health or welfare without such
    visitation." 
    Id. at 784-85, 485
    S.E.2d at
    654. A court reaches consideration of the
    "best interests" standard in determining
    visitation only after it finds harm if
    visitation is not ordered. 
    Id. at 785, 485
              S.E.2d at 654.
    
    Id. at 21-22, 501
    S.E.2d at 418.
    In Troxel v. Granville, 
    530 U.S. 57
    (2000), the United
    States Supreme Court held that a Washington statute was
    unconstitutional as violative of a mother's substantive due
    process rights because it placed no limits on who could petition
    for visitation or the circumstances under which the petition
    could be granted.   The Supreme Court held that the mother, who
    was a "fit parent," had the absolute right to control the
    visitation of her children.   See 
    id. at 68-69. -
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    The Court wrote:
    First, the Troxels did not allege, and
    no court has found, that Granville was an
    unfit parent. That aspect of the case is
    important, for there is a presumption that
    fit parents act in the best interests of
    their children. As this Court explained in
    Parham[v. J.R., 
    442 U.S. 584
    , 
    99 S. Ct. 2493
    , 
    61 L. Ed. 2d 101
    (1979)]:
    "[O]ur constitutional system long ago
    rejected any notion that a child is the mere
    creature of the State and, on the contrary,
    asserted that parents generally have the
    right, coupled with the high duty, to
    recognize and prepare [their children] for
    additional obligations. . . . The law's
    concept of the family rests on a presumption
    that parents possess what a child lacks in
    maturity, experience, and capacity for
    judgment required for making life's
    difficult decisions. More important,
    historically it has recognized that natural
    bonds of affection lead parents to act in
    the best interests of their 
    children." 442 U.S., at 602
    , 
    99 S. Ct. 2493
    (alteration in
    original) (internal quotation marks and
    citations omitted).
    Accordingly, so long as a parent
    adequately cares for his or her children
    (i.e., is fit), there will normally be no
    reason for the State to inject itself into
    the private realm of the family to further
    question the ability of that parent to make
    the best decisions concerning the rearing of
    that parent's children. See, e.g., [Reno
    v.] Flores, 507 U.S. [292,] 304, 
    113 S. Ct. 1439
    [, 
    123 L. Ed. 2d 1
    (1993)].
    
    Id. In Bottoms v.
    Bottoms, 
    249 Va. 410
    , 
    457 S.E.2d 102
    (1995),
    the Supreme Court of Virginia held:
    "In all child custody cases, including
    those between a parent and a non-parent,
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    'the best interests of the child are
    paramount and form the lodestar for the
    guidance of the court in determining the
    dispute.'" Bailes v. Sours, 
    231 Va. 96
    , 99,
    
    340 S.E.2d 824
    , 826 (1986) (quoting Walker
    v. Brooks, 
    203 Va. 417
    , 421, 
    124 S.E.2d 195
    ,
    198 (1962)). In a custody dispute between a
    parent and non-parent, "the law presumes
    that the child's best interests will be
    served when in the custody of its parent."
    Judd v. Van Horn, 
    195 Va. 988
    , 996, 
    81 S.E.2d 432
    , 436 (1954).
    Although the presumption favoring a
    parent over a non-parent is strong, it is
    rebutted when certain factors, such as
    parental unfitness, are established by clear
    and convincing evidence. 
    Bailes, 231 Va. at 100
    , 340 S.E.2d at 827. . . .
    In custody cases, the welfare of the
    child takes precedence over the rights of
    the parent. Malpass v. Morgan, 
    213 Va. 393
    ,
    399, 
    192 S.E.2d 794
    , 799 (1972). But, when
    the contest is between parent and
    non-parent, this rule is conditioned upon
    the principle that a parent's rights "are to
    be respected if at all consonant with the
    best interests of the child." 
    Id. at 400, 192
    S.E.2d at 799. Some of the foregoing
    principles have been codified recently by
    the General Assembly in Code §§ 20-124.1
    to -124.6. Acts 1994, ch. 769. . . .
    *      *      *      *       *    *      *
    Among the factors to be weighed in
    determining unfitness are the parent's
    misconduct that affects the child, neglect
    of the child, and a demonstrated
    unwillingness and inability to promote the
    emotional and physical well-being of the
    child. Other important considerations
    include the nature of the home environment
    and moral climate in which the child is to
    be raised. Brown v. Brown, 
    218 Va. 196
    ,
    199, 
    237 S.E.2d 89
    , 91 (1977).
    
    Id. at 413-19, 457
    S.E.2d at 104-07.
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    In this case, the trial court recognized the primacy of the
    parent-child relationship.   The trial judge, in his opinion
    letter, set forth his factual findings and concluded father was
    unfit.   Implicit in the court's ruling was that the child would
    be subjected to conduct that would harm the child.   Other
    evidence before the trial court supports the finding.    We see no
    need to repeat that evidence.
    The trial court also found that it was in the child's best
    interest to award custody to Smith and Botkin.   The evidence
    clearly supports that conclusion as well.
    Because there is sufficient evidence to show father is
    unfit, there is a compelling "state interest" for the court to
    award custody to a non-parent.    The child's health and welfare
    are at stake.   Father, therefore, was not deprived of
    substantive due process and Code § 16.1-241 is not
    unconstitutional.   We, therefore, hold that the trial court did
    not err.
    Father also contends the trial court did not have
    jurisdiction to award Smith and Botkin custody of the minor
    child.   He contends the judgment "joining Smith/Botkin as
    parties, recognizing them as having a legitimate interest in
    [his] child, and awarding . . . custody to them [is] void ab
    initio under constitutional law."
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    As explained above, we upheld the trial court's ruling that
    the custody and visitation statutes are constitutional.      That
    analysis disposes of this issue.
    We next address father's contention that the non-parent
    parties failed to overcome the natural parent presumption and
    failed to present sufficient evidence of actual harm.      "The
    Court of Appeals will not consider an argument on appeal which
    was not presented to the trial court."       Ohree v. Commonwealth,
    
    26 Va. App. 299
    , 308, 
    494 S.E.2d 484
    , 488 (1998) (citing Jacques
    v. Commonwealth, 
    12 Va. App. 591
    , 593, 
    405 S.E.2d 630
    , 631
    (1991) (citing Rule 5A:18)).
    Upon our review of the record, appellant first raised this
    argument in his notice of appeal, which was filed on April 4,
    2000.    Listing an issue in a notice of appeal does not properly
    bring the issue to the trial court's attention or preserve the
    issue for appeal.     See Rule 5A:18.    Accordingly, Rule 5A:18 bars
    our consideration of this question on appeal.      Moreover, the
    record does not reflect any reason to invoke the good cause or
    ends of justice exceptions.     See 
    id. Father next contends
    he was denied due process.    He argues
    that his visitation was changed by the grandparents without
    "trial or notice" and that he has "had only two or three
    unsupervised visits with" his son.       He also contends he was
    denied due process when "Smith/Botkin took [his] child without
    trial or notice, [and] again when Smith/Botkin refused to allow
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    [him] any more visitation without trial or notice, again in JDR
    Court, and finally in Circuit Court."   In his written closing
    argument, filed on December 14, 1999, father wrote, "Also,
    others involved have already admitted denying my rights to my
    son without due process (i.e., changes in custody and visitation
    without my knowledge or consent or my day in court!").
    "The Fourteenth Amendment to the United
    States Constitution provides that no person
    shall be deprived of life, liberty or
    property without due process of law."
    Jackson v. W., 
    14 Va. App. 391
    , 405, 
    419 S.E.2d 385
    , 393 (1992). "Procedural due
    process rules are meant to protect persons
    not from the deprivation, but from the
    mistaken or unjustified deprivation of life,
    liberty, or property." Carey v. Piphus, 
    435 U.S. 247
    , 259, 
    98 S. Ct. 1042
    , 1050, 
    55 L. Ed. 2d 252
    (1978).
    O'Banion v. Commonwealth, 
    33 Va. App. 47
    , 61, 
    531 S.E.2d 599
    ,
    606 (2000) (en banc).    In order to implicate the Due Process
    Clause of the Fourteenth Amendment, there must be state action.
    See Miller v. Commonwealth, 
    25 Va. App. 727
    , 739, 
    492 S.E.2d 482
    , 488 (1997).
    Here, the visitation and placement of the child until the
    trial court ruled on the matter did not involve state action and
    was, therefore, not a violation of due process.   Moreover, the
    record shows that father received notice of all pleadings and
    court hearings.    Finally, the statement of facts indicates that
    "[father] has been present in court when the custody order and
    visitation orders have been entered, but he refuses to endorse
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    any order."   Accordingly, the record fails to show father was
    denied due process as a result of state action.
    Father contends he was denied equal protection in violation
    of the Fourteenth Amendment because "in custody cases fathers
    are not treated the same as mothers."    He argues, "Paula,
    despite her apparent limitations, has been given more liberal
    visitation and the chance to care for my child (albeit under the
    supervision of others), which I haven't."
    "The Court of Appeals will not consider an argument on
    appeal which was not presented to the trial court."    
    Ohree, 26 Va. App. at 308
    , 494 S.E.2d at 488 (citing 
    Jacques, 12 Va. App. at 593
    , 405 S.E.2d at 631 (citing Rule 5A:18)).
    The record fails to show that appellant made an equal
    protection argument to the trial court regarding visitation.
    See Rule 5A:18.   Accordingly, Rule 5A:18 bars our consideration
    of this question on appeal.    Moreover, the record does not
    reflect any reason to invoke the good cause or ends of justice
    exceptions to Rule 5A:18.     See 
    id. Father argues he
    was denied his "fundamental right" to
    counsel because the trial court did not appoint counsel for him.
    "The Court of Appeals will not consider an argument on appeal
    which was not presented to the trial court."    
    Ohree, 26 Va. App. at 308
    , 494 S.E.2d at 488 (citing 
    Jacques, 12 Va. App. at 593
    ,
    405 S.E.2d at 631 (citing Rule 5A:18)).
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    The record does not establish that father ever requested or
    was denied court-appointed counsel.       See Rule 5A:18.
    Accordingly, Rule 5A:18 bars our consideration of this question
    on appeal.    Moreover, because the right to court-appointed
    counsel does not extend to civil domestic cases of divorce and
    child custody, see M.L.B. v. S.L.J., 
    519 U.S. 102
    , 123 (1996)
    ("[C]ounsel at state expense . . . is a constitutional
    requirement . . . only when the defendant faces time in
    confinement."), the record does not reflect any reason to invoke
    the good cause or ends of justice exceptions to Rule 5A:18.        See
    Rule 5A:18.
    We now address the grandparents' arguments.    First, the
    grandparents contend that Smith and Botkin were not persons with
    a legitimate interest under Code §§ 16.1-241, 16.1-278.15 and
    20-124.1.
    Code § 20-124.1 does not specifically define a "person with
    a legitimate interest" but requires that the term be "broadly
    construed to accommodate the best interest of the child."      Code
    § 20-124.1.   However, we addressed "a party with a legitimate
    interest" in a standing context in Thrift v. Baldwin, 23 Va.
    App. 18, 
    473 S.E.2d 715
    (1996).
    In Thrift, three of the five Thrift children were adopted
    by the Baldwins.     See 
    Thrift, 23 Va. App. at 19
    , 473 S.E.2d at
    715.   The children's paternal grandparents adopted one of the
    five children.     See 
    id. Subsequently, the paternal
    grandparents
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    and the child they adopted petitioned for visitation of the
    three children adopted by the Baldwins.   See 
    id. In finding that
    the paternal grandparents had standing to petition for
    visitation, we held:
    The statute enjoins a broad
    construction of the term "[a] party with a
    legitimate interest." We hold that this
    term means not only a party possessed of
    legal rights with respect to the child, but
    also any party having a cognizable and
    reasonable interest in maintaining a close
    relationship with the child. The statute
    expressly provides that the term shall
    include "grandparents and other blood
    relatives." Although the adoption of the
    children by the Baldwins extinguished the
    Thrifts' legal grandparental and sibling
    relationship, see Code § 63.1-233; see also
    Cage v. Harrisonburg Dep't of Social
    Services, 
    13 Va. App. 246
    , 
    410 S.E.2d 405
              (1991), the blood relationship continues.
    Code § 16.1-241(A) expressly confers
    standing to seek visitation.
    
    Id. at 20, 473
    S.E.2d at 716.
    Therefore, we review the facts to determine whether Smith
    and Botkin had a "cognizable and reasonable interest" in
    maintaining a close relationship with the child.
    Thomas and Paula Switzer were married on June 12, 1993 and
    separated for the last time in October 1997, after a marriage
    marred by repeated incidents of abuse of Paula by Thomas.   Upon
    separation, Paula spent almost two months in an emergency
    battered spouse shelter with the child.   Smith and Botkin agreed
    to care for the child in January 1998, and he has been in their
    custody since that time.   At the time of the de novo hearing in
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    circuit court on November 29, 1999, the child had been living
    with them for almost two years.
    Evidence further indicated that the child is flourishing
    under the care of Smith and Botkin.     We agree with the trial
    court's finding that Smith and Botkin are "persons with a
    legitimate interest."   The evidence clearly indicates that they
    have a close relationship with the child and a reasonable
    interest in maintaining that relationship.    The trial court did
    not err in finding that Smith and Botkin were "persons with a
    legitimate interest."
    Both the grandparents and father contend that because Smith
    and Botkin asked the court to withdraw their custody petition,
    there was no valid custody petition pending to enable the trial
    court to award them custody.
    We address this argument as put forth in the brief of the
    grandparents because father indicated his intention to rely on
    their arguments.   In his pretrial motion to dismiss, he failed
    to independently argue the issue.
    On February 24, 1998, Smith and Botkin filed a petition in
    the juvenile court for the court to determine custody of the
    child.   They indicated that Paula left the child in their care
    on January 6, 1998, and they requested custody.    On August 10,
    1998, the guardian ad litem for the child moved the juvenile
    court to "consolidate [Smith and Botkin's] petition for
    custody," "make [them] parties in this matter," and order
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    "temporary custody to" Smith and Botkin "pending a full custody
    hearing."
    On September 14, 1998, the juvenile court found that "the
    best interest of [the] child" would be best served by
    "preserving the status quo."   It then ordered that the child
    "temporarily remain in the care of" Smith and Botkin.
    On February 24, 1999, Smith and Botkin filed a letter with
    the juvenile court indicating they "[would] no longer be
    pursuing [their] petition for custody."   They expressed
    dissatisfaction with the way in which the parties have acted and
    agreed with the CASA recommendation that the child be put up for
    an open adoption.   The record contains no documentation that
    Smith and Botkin followed up on their request, nor is there an
    order in the record granting the request to withdraw their
    petition.   To the contrary, subsequent to the letter, they
    participated in the custody proceeding and were awarded custody.
    The juvenile court conducted a hearing on April 14, 1999.     On
    May 4, 1999, the juvenile court awarded Smith and Botkin legal
    and physical custody of Daniel and denied the custody petitions
    of father and the grandparents.   Paula's petition for custody
    "was voluntarily withdrawn" prior to the hearing.
    In its August 26, 1999 opinion letter, the trial court
    wrote:
    There is no question but that Samuel Smith
    and Judy Botkin filed a Petition for
    Custody. There is no question but they sent
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    a letter to the court indicating they did
    not intend to pursue that petition.
    However, there is no order in the file
    dismissing the petition or indicating that
    the court ever took any action on the
    letter.
    We agree with the trial court's ruling that "the petition
    was still pending and validly before the court at the time of
    the April 14, 1999 trial."   The petition had not been dismissed
    and removed from the docket.   There was no order removing the
    case from the docket.   "A court speaks only through its orders."
    Cunningham v. Smith, 
    205 Va. 205
    , 208, 
    135 S.E.2d 770
    , 773
    (1964).   Accordingly, the trial court did not commit reversible
    error.
    The grandparents next contend the trial court erred in
    treating grandparents and non-relatives equally in a custody
    determination.   They cite no cases, nor do we find any, to
    support their position.    While acknowledging this issue is a
    matter of first impression in Virginia, they cite no case from
    any other state.
    The grandparents rely on Code § 16.1-283(A), which requires
    that the court, in cases involving the termination of residual
    parental rights, "shall give a consideration to granting custody
    to relatives of the child, including grandparents."     This
    reference is not persuasive.
    "The termination of parental rights is a grave, drastic,
    and irreversible action.   When a court orders termination of
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    parental rights, the ties between the parent and child are
    severed forever, and the parent becomes 'a legal stranger to the
    child.'"   Lowe v. Dep't of Public Welfare of City of Richmond,
    
    231 Va. 277
    , 280, 
    343 S.E.2d 70
    , 72 (1986) (quoting Shank v.
    Dep't Social Services, 
    217 Va. 506
    , 509, 
    230 S.E.2d 454
    , 457
    (1976)).
    The very nature of a custody proceeding is quite different
    than termination because parental rights are not lost and
    custody is subject to modification upon "'a material change in
    circumstances justifying a modification of the decree.'"     Ohlen
    v. Shively, 
    16 Va. App. 419
    , 424, 
    430 S.E.2d 559
    , 561 (1993)
    (quoting Yohay v. Ryan, 
    4 Va. App. 559
    , 565-66, 
    359 S.E.2d 320
    ,
    324 (1987)).   Therefore, we hold the language, relied upon by
    the grandparents, in Code § 16.1-283(A) is limited to a
    termination proceeding.
    Further, the argument that relatives be granted preference
    in a custody context belies the unambiguous language of Code
    § 20-124.1.
    "Where a statute is unambiguous, the
    plain meaning is to be accepted without
    resort to the rules of statutory
    interpretation." Last v. Virginia State Bd.
    of Med., 
    14 Va. App. 906
    , 910, 
    421 S.E.2d 201
    , 205 (1992). "'Courts are not permitted
    to rewrite statutes. This is a legislative
    function. The manifest intention of the
    legislature, clearly disclosed by its
    language, must be applied.'" Barr v. Town &
    Country Properties, Inc., 
    240 Va. 292
    , 295,
    
    396 S.E.2d 672
    , 674 (1990) (quoting Anderson
    v. Commonwealth, 
    182 Va. 560
    , 566, 29 S.E.2d
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    838, 841 (1944)). Accordingly, we must
    "'take the words as written'" in Code
    § [20-124.1] and give them their plain
    meaning. Adkins v. Commonwealth, 27 Va.
    App. 166, 169, 
    497 S.E.2d 896
    , 897 (1998)
    (quoting Birdsong Peanut Co. v. Cowling, 
    8 Va. App. 274
    , 277, 
    381 S.E.2d 24
    , 26
    (1989)).
    Krampen v. Commonwealth, 
    29 Va. App. 163
    , 168, 
    510 S.E.2d 276
    ,
    278 (1999).
    In Code § 20-124.2(B), the legislature expressed its
    intention that a trial court "give due regard to the primacy of
    the parent-child relationship . . . ."   However, that same code
    section authorizes the trial court to "award custody or
    visitation to any other person with a legitimate interest" "upon
    a showing by clear and convincing evidence that the best
    interest of the child would be served thereby."   Code
    § 20-124.2(B).
    Code § 20-124.1 provides:
    "Person with a legitimate interest" shall be
    broadly construed and includes, but is not
    limited to grandparents, stepparents, former
    stepparents, blood relatives and family
    members provided any such party has
    intervened in the suit or is otherwise
    properly before the court. The term shall
    be broadly construed to accommodate the best
    interest of the child.
    By expressly distinguishing parents from non-parents and by
    including relatives and non-relatives as persons with a
    legitimate interest, the legislature evinced its desire that all
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    non-parents, whether relatives or not, come before the court
    equally.    Accordingly, the trial court did not err in so ruling.
    Finally, we address the grandparents' constitutional
    arguments.    First, they contend the trial court violated the Due
    Process Clause of the Fourteenth Amendment when it held that
    father was unfit, there being no allegation of unfitness in the
    written petition.    They maintain that the initial pleading, the
    petition for custody, was deficient in that it did not
    sufficiently put father on notice that he would need to defend
    himself against allegations of unfitness.    Next, they challenge
    the constitutionality of Code §§ 16.1-241, 16.1-278.15 and
    20-124.1.    They challenge the concept in these statutes that
    "any party with a legitimate interest" may file a petition for
    custody.    They assert that parents have a "liberty interest,
    their right to raise their children."
    We do not address the merits of these contentions because
    the grandparents are asserting the constitutional rights of
    another.
    [W]e note that generally, a litigant
    may challenge the constitutionality of a law
    only as it applies to him or her. Grosso v.
    Commonwealth, 
    177 Va. 830
    , 839, 
    13 S.E.2d 285
    , 288 (1941). That the statute may apply
    unconstitutionally to another is irrelevant;
    one cannot raise third party rights. An
    exception to this rule is in the area of
    first amendment challenges. Broadrick v.
    Oklahoma, 
    413 U.S. 601
    , 611-12, 
    93 S. Ct. 2908
    , 2915-16, 
    37 L. Ed. 2d 830
    (1973).
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    Coleman v. City of Richmond, 
    5 Va. App. 459
    , 463, 
    364 S.E.2d 239
    , 241-42 (1988).
    In Wright v. Alexandria Div. of Social Services, 16 Va.
    App. 821, 
    433 S.E.2d 500
    (1993), we held that a child has
    standing to raise the issue of whether her mother's
    constitutional rights were violated in a termination of parental
    rights case.
    We wrote:
    A party has standing in a case if he or
    she "allege[s] such a personal stake in the
    outcome of the controversy as to assure that
    concrete adverseness which sharpens the
    presentation of issues upon which the court
    so largely depends for illumination of
    difficult constitutional questions." Duke
    Power Co. v. Carolina Env. Study Group, 
    438 U.S. 59
    , 72, 
    98 S. Ct. 2620
    , 2630, 
    57 L. Ed. 2d 595
    (1978) (quoted in Cupp v. Board
    of Supervisors, 
    227 Va. 580
    , 589, 
    318 S.E.2d 407
    , 411 (1984)) (emphasis added in Cupp).
    In cases involving parental rights, the
    rights of the child coexist and are
    intertwined with those of the parent. The
    legal disposition of the parent's rights
    with respect to the child necessarily
    affects and alters the rights of the child
    with respect to his or her parent. Boronica
    Wright has a "personal stake in the outcome"
    of the proceeding to terminate her mother's
    parental rights and, therefore, has standing
    to challenge the propriety of the trial
    judge's decision to terminate those rights.
    
    Id. at 825, 433
    S.E.2d at 502-03.
    In the present case, the rights of the grandparents and
    those of father do not co-exist and are not intertwined.    To
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    some extent, their interests were adverse because each sought
    custody of the child.
    By law, their interests are not co-extensive.     Grandparents
    are not entitled to visitation over the parent's objection
    unless the court finds "'actual harm to the child's health or
    welfare without such visitation.'"      
    Williams, 256 Va. at 22
    , 501
    S.E.2d at 418.
    In 
    Troxel, 530 U.S. at 68-69
    , the United States Supreme
    Court held that a Washington state statute was unconstitutional
    because it infringed on the mother's fundamental right to make
    decisions concerning the care, custody and control of her
    children by granting the grandparents more visitation than was
    agreeable to the mother.
    We, therefore, conclude that the grandparents have no
    standing to complain of constitutional violations of father's
    rights.
    For these reasons, we find the trial court did not err in
    awarding custody to Smith and Botkin.     We, therefore, affirm the
    judgment of the trial court.
    Affirmed.
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