Kimberly Moehlmann v. Kelly M. Lambert , 191 Wash. App. 474 ( 2015 )


Menu:
  •                                                                        FILED
    DECEMBER 1, 2015
    In the Office of the Clerk of Court
    W A State Court of Appeals, Division III
    IN THE COURT OF APPEALS OF THE STATE OF WASHINGTON
    DIVISION THREE
    IN THE MATTER OF CUSTODY OF:                 )
    )         No. 32441-9-III
    ALD,                                         )
    )
    KIMBERL Y MOEHLMANN, and ROD                 )
    MOEHLMANN,                                   )
    )         PUBLISHED OPINION
    Respondents,             )
    )
    ood                                   )
    )
    KELLY M. LAMBERT, mother and                 )
    JUSTIN MAYFIELD, father,                     )
    )
    Appellants.              )
    )
    FEARING, J. - A most difficult and humbling decision for judges is determining
    who should be granted, among competing parties, custody of a young child. The decision
    shapes the child's entire lifetime. Rendering such a decision is similar to playing God.
    King Solomon suggested severing a baby in half in order to discern which of two women
    deserved custody of the child. Since we lack the wisdom of Solomon, we resort to
    ooother decision making process.
    No. 32441-9-III
    In re Custody ofALD
    This appeal concerns a dispute between the grandparents and mother of five-year­
    old Betty Sue as to who should have custody of the girl. Betty Sue is a fictitious name.
    Betty Sue's grandmother and step-grandfather are Kimberly and Rod Moehlmann. The
    trial court, after an evidentiary hearing, granted the grandparents' nonparental custody
    petition over the opposition of Betty Sue's mother, Kelly Lambert. We reverse the trial
    court and grant Lambert custody of her daughter, not because we are pleased with her
    parenting but because of the potent constitutional right to the care, custody and
    companionship of one's biological child. Due process demands that a parent receive
    custody of a child unless the parent is unfit or custody of the parent would cause actual
    detriment to the child's growth and development. After reviewing the trial record, we
    find a lack of evidence to establish either standard.
    FACTS
    Appellant Kelly Lambert is Kimberly Moehlmann's daughter and Rod
    Moehlmann's stepdaughter. The Moehlmanns are respondents. In May 2007, Kelly
    Lambert joined the army. At boot camp, Lambert fell from a rope tower and severely
    injured her back. Lambert developed clinical depression from the serious injury and the
    realization of her loss of a coveted military career. In 2007, Lambert attempted suicide.
    The army thereafter discharged Lambert with the twin disabilities of manic depressive
    disorder and chronic lower back spasms. Her medical discharge order noted that
    2
    No. 32441·9-III
    In re Custody ofALD
    Lambert's psychiatric history of chronic depressive symptoms began at age eleven and
    included multiple suicide attempts since 1999.
    As a disabled veteran, Kelly Lambert receives $2,900 a month. At trial, Lambert
    could not recall when she last worked. Since 2007, Lambert has participated in mental
    health counseling.
    Following her 2007 military discharge, Kelly Lambert resided in Utah. On
    December 19,2009, Lambert gave birth to Betty Sue in Ogden, Utah. The father, Justin
    Mayfield, has not participated in these proceedings. At the time of Betty Sue's birth,
    Lambert lived with boyfriend, James Decou. After Lambert learned of Decou's
    unfaithfulness in May 2010, she moved with Betty Sue to Olympia, to live with her
    mother and stepfather, Kimberly and Rod Moehlmann.
    Rod Moehlmann has never raised children. Nevertheless, he testified to Kelly
    Lambert's care for Betty Sue while Lambert resided with the Moehlmanns in Olympia.
    He opined that Lambert was unfit to parent. Kimberly Moehlmann, rather than Lambert,
    changed Betty Sue's diapers and bathed the infant. When Rod returned home from work
    in the evenings, Kelly was absent and Kimberly cared for Betty Sue. Sometimes Lambert
    sat for hours in a Denny's restaurant with Betty Sue strapped in a car seat next to her,
    while Lambert spoke to other customers.
    Kelly Lambert began courting Joe Favazza in June 2010. Favazza plays a major
    role in this litigation. Within a week of meeting Favazza, Lambert learned of Favazza's
    3
    No. 32441-9-III
    In re Custody ofALD
    past conviction for child molestation. Kelly's mother, Kimberly Moehlmann, also
    learned of Favazza's conviction.
    In 1999, Joseph Favazza was convicted of child molestation in the first degree.
    The superior court record lacks the facts underlying the conviction. On July 20, 2005,
    Joseph Favazza left prison after serving his sentence and undergoing treatment, but he
    remained labeled as a level one sex offender. On a scale of one through three, a level one
    sex offender is deemed the lowest risk for recidivism. RCW 72.09.345(6). Each year,
    Favazza must register with the local sheriff as a sex offender.
    In August 2010, Kelly Lambert and Betty Sue absented the Moehlmanns' Olympia
    home and resided with Joe Favazza in Bremerton. Betty Sue was then nine months of
    age. Rod Moehlmann contacted police and Child Protective Services (CPS) and asked
    about protecting Betty Sue from Favazza. The record provides no response from CPS or
    law enforcement to Moehlmann's inquiry.
    Joe Favazza, Kelly Lambert, and Betty Sue relocated to Utah in August 20 I O. At
    trial, Kimberly Moehlmann testified that Kelly Lambert, while in Utah, left Betty Sue
    with Kelly's friend Sabrina Badger for days at a time. The source of Moehlmann's
    information was Badger. Kimberly and Rod Moehlmann post mailed and electronically
    mailed Lambert's Utah landlord and informed the landlord of Joseph Favazza's sexual
    molestation conviction. The Utah landlord insisted Favazza move. In November 2010,
    Lambert, Betty Sue and Favazza returned to Bremerton.
    4
    No. 32441-9-III
    In re Custody ofALD
    Kelly Lambert, Betty Sue, and Joseph Favazza dwelled collectively in Bremerton
    until August 2011, when Lambert and Favazza separated. Lambert testified at trial that
    during cohabitation she never allowed Favazza unsupervised visitation with Betty Sue.
    She had two rules: Favazza could not change diapers or be alone with Betty Sue.
    In October 2011, Kimberly and Rod Moehlmann moved to Spokane. Kelly
    Lambert and Betty Sue soon followed to Spokane to live with the Moehlmanns.
    Kimberly Moehlmann testified that, in the fall of 2011, Lambert and Betty Sue lived with
    her and her husband for two weeks, during which time she cared for Betty Sue almost
    exclusively while Lambert drank coffee and visited with friends at coffee shops. Lambert
    testified to living with the Moehlmanns for two months at this time.
    Kelly Lambert, with Betty Sue, next relocated to Utah to live with Lambert's new
    beau, Jeffrey Pollard. Lambert testified she moved from the Moehlmann home because
    of stress resulting from Rod's drinking and his poor treatment of Kimberly. Both sides
    hurled mire at one another during the trial. According to Lambert, the alcohol drinking
    of her mother and her stepfather endangered Betty Sue. Lambert did not disclose to her
    parents the reason for her leaving.
    At trial, Kimberly Moehlmann testified about a phone call with Kelly Lambert
    after she returned to Utah:
    At one point I overheard [Kelly Lambert] and Jeff Pollard in a fight
    over the phone when they didn't know that they had called. That sounds
    like domestic violence to me when you heard slapping of a person....
    5
    No. 32441-9-III
    In re Custody ofALD
    From the sounds of the cry and the slap, it would have been Jeff slapping
    Kelly.
    Report of Proceedings (RP) at 151-52. Beyond Moehlmann's testimony, no evidence
    confirms any domestic violence between Lambert and Pollard.
    Kelly Lambert discovered infidelity by Jeff Pollard. Thus, in February 2012,
    Kimberly and Rod Moehlmann journeyed to Utah and assisted Lambert and Betty Sue in
    a return to Spokane. Lambert called the Moehlmanns for this help. Assuming she
    included Rod Moehlmann in the request for aid, Lambert did so because she had learned
    to forgive others.
    At trial, Rod Moehlmann criticized Kelly Lambert again for her parenting while
    Lambert and Betty Sue resided with the Moehlmanns in Spokane. Lambert rarely bathed
    or fed her daughter or changed the youngster's diapers. When Betty Sue screamed
    during the night, Kimberly awakened Lambert, but Lambert asked Kimberly to care for
    the baby. Rod Moehlmann last observed Kelly Lambert's parenting skills in the summer
    of2012.
    After residing with her mother and stepfather for several weeks in Spokane, Kelly
    Lambert, with her young daughter, relocated to reside with her friend, Jeri Ann Cozza,
    also a denizen of Spokane. Lambert and Betty Sue lived with Cozza until July 20, 2012.
    Lambert testified she moved from her parents' home because the home lacked room for
    Betty Sue and her. Lambert slept on a couch, while Betty Sue, at age two, slept in a
    6
    ---   ----   -----
    No. 32441-9-III
    In re Custody ofALD
    playpen.
    In her appeal brief, Kelly Lambert claims Jeri Ann Cozza is her stepsister. No
    testimony supports this claim. Lambert also refers to Cozza as Betty Sue's aunt, although
    the two lack any familial relationship. We know nothing about the length and nature of
    Lambert's and Cozza's friendship.
    Jeri Ann Cozza has felony convictions for identity theft and financial fraud.
    Cozza dated Jeffrey Hoffman, who resided elsewhere. Hoffman visited Cozza at her,
    Lambert'S, and Betty Sue's mutual home. Hoffman garnered a criminal conviction for
    threatening to kill someone. Kelly Lambert knew not of Hoffman'S and Cozza's criminal
    history until after Kimberly and Rod Moehlmann filed their nonparental custody petition.
    Kimberly and Rod Moehlmann continued to visit Betty Sue, while the two-year­
    old resided in Jeri Ann Cozza's home. According to Kimberly Moehlmann, she cared
    overnight for Betty Sue two to four nights a week. At the Cozza home, Rod Moehlmann
    observed Kelly Lambert sitting on the house's front steps smoking and texting, while
    Betty Sue sat in a playpen in a bedroom with the television playing. Cozza fed and
    bathed Betty Sue. Kimberly Moehlmann observed Lambert's lack of attention to her
    child. Lambert applauds herself for arranging a pediatrician and speech therapist for
    Betty Sue during this time.
    By March 2012, Kimberly and Rod Moehlmann observed Betty Sue           ``dry   hump" a
    stuffed animal. Clerk's Papers (CP) at 54. According to the Moehlmanns, each also
    7
    No. 3244l-9-III
    In re Custody ofALD
    observed Betty Sue masturbating and heard her experiencing night terrors. On one
    occasion, when Betty Sue engaged in sexualized behavior, Kimberly Moehlmann told her
    to stop. The child replied that she could not. Kimberly asked why, and the girl
    responded that "[daddy) says I have to." RP at 172. The Moehlmanns worried that Betty
    Sue's behavior portended that Joseph Favazza molested the young girl. Kimberly and
    Rod Moehlmann called the Spokane Valley police. The record does not confirm a call or
    disclose the response of the police. At trial, Rod Moehlmann stated that Kelly Lambert
    expressed no concern for her daughter despite Betty Sue's behavior.
    Kelly Lambert agreed during trial that Betty Sue "dry humped" her teddy bear.
    RP at 343. Lambert claimed that her daughter's behavior did not begin until Betty Sue
    resided at the Moehlmanns' Spokane house. Lambert had no explanation for the
    behavior. Lambert testified at trial that she offered CPS to examine Betty Sue. Lambert
    did not mention the date of the offer or disclose CPS' response.
    On the morning of March 28, 2012, Kimberly Moehlmann, Kelly Lambert, and
    Jeri Ann Cozza transported Betty Sue to Providence Holy Family Hospital emergency
    room, where Dr. Brett Enlow examined and evaluated the toddler. We do not know
    which of the three ladies initiated the hospital visit. According to Lambert, she went to
    the hospital with her mother and Betty Sue, not because she believed her daughter was
    molested, but to satisfY her mother. Betty Sue was then two years and three months old.
    On March 28, Kimberly Moehlmann informed the Providence Holy Family
    8
    No. 32441-9-III
    In re Custody ofALD
    emergency room that Betty Sue's genital area appeared odd and discolored. Dr. Enlow
    found Betty Sue to be "a cute little girl who does not appear to be in any acute distress."
    CP at 55. Dr. Enlow examined Betty Sue's vaginal and anal regions and found no
    abnormality. Enlow concluded that CPS intervention was unneeded but that a
    pediatrician should examine Betty Sue.
    The Holy Family Hospital March 28,2012 medical chart note reads that Betty
    Sue's immunizations were up to date. The medical record indicates that Betty Sue
    resides with her mother and grandmother, not her mother and Jeri Ann Cozza. The report
    also reads that Betty Sue is developing normally.
    Later on March 28, 2012, Kelly Lambert and Kimberly and Rod Moehlmann took
    Betty Sue to pediatrician Deborah Icenogle, of Providence Family Medicine, for the
    purpose of evaluating the young girl for possible molestation. Rod showed Dr. Icenogle
    a cell phone video of Betty Sue humping a stuffed animal. One family member reported
    that Betty Sue once handed him or her a naked Barbie doll with its legs spread wide
    apart. Dr. Icenogle wrote in her chart note: "Physical examination is without trauma or
    signs of infection at this time. The patient's behavior which has been concerning to the
    mother and the grandparents should be thoroughly evaluated and the patient will be
    referred to a child sexual abuse evaluation team for careful assessment." CP at 59.
    Icenogle also noted a family history of night terrors and the absence of any daytime
    screaming by or fear in Betty Sue. While Lambert was absent from the examination
    9
    No. 3244l-9-III
    In re Custody ofALD
    room, Kimberly Moehlmann deceptively told Dr. Icenogle that Lambert presently resided
    with Joe Favazza, but that Favazza was currently incarcerated in Kitsap County for child
    molestation. Contrary to the Providence Holy Family Hospital chart note, Icenogle
    concluded that Betty Sue had received no immunizations.
    Pediatrician Deborah Icenogle's March 28 charge notes reference a referral to
    CPS. The note states that Ginger Keeny will evaluate the safety of Betty Sue's home
    environment. Trial records reflect no later evaluation by CPS or Ginger Keeny.
    On April 3, 2012, Kelly Lambert returned Betty Sue to Providence Family
    Medicine, where pediatrician Anne Marie McCarthy performed a well child examination
    on the young girl. Dr. McCarthy concluded that Betty Sue was developing normally for
    her age.
    The April 3 notes of Dr. Ann Marie McCarthy read, in part, that Betty Sue was
    living with her mother and mother's "half-sister," who may be Jeri Cozza. The chart
    notes further declare that DSHS entered a plan concerning Betty Sue's care and the plan
    permits no one with a criminal background to reside in Betty Sue's home. The court
    record does not include a copy of the plan. Dr. McCarthy's chart notes also read that the
    girl's grandmother is excluded from the home.
    On June 18, 2012, Kelly Lambert delivered Betty Sue to Dr. Deborah Icenogle
    because of a concern for Betty Sue's hearing and speech. Lambert reported that she
    previously took her daughter to an ophthalmologist, who dismissed any sight deficiency.
    10
    No. 32441-9-III
    In re Custody ofALD
    Dr. Icenogle found Betty Sue's speech delayed and referred the youngster for a hearing
    test and speech therapy. Dr. Icenogle's record of the visit reports that CPS closed its
    investigation and Lambert resided with her sister.
    On July 9,2012, a court entered a protection order, at the request of Kelly
    Lambert, restraining Kimberly Moehlmann from contact with Lambert. Our court record
    does not include a copy of the restraining order. We do not know the duration of the
    restraint, although Kimberly Moehlmann testified the restraining order is no longer in
    effect. Kimberly Moehlmann testified to events leading to the protection order:
    CPS had just closed a case which involved [Betty Sue] with Joseph
    Favazza. Kelly was wanting to go back with Joseph Favazza and knew I
    would object with her taking [Betty Sue] back into that environment.
    RP at 127. Our court record lacks any records from this purported CPS case. Kelly
    Lambert testified she grew fearful that her mother intended totake Betty Sue from her.
    On July 10,2012, Kelly Lambert took Betty Sue to pediatrician Anna Barber, at
    Providence Family Medicine, because of a concern of allergies or Betty Sue having
    contracted whooping cough. Dr. Barber found nothing wrong. Dr. Barber's chart note
    records that Betty Sue's immunizations were "up to date." CP at 70.
    Also in July 2012, Kelly Lambert hired an attorney to draft pleadings to grant Jeri
    Ann Cozza custody of Betty Sue because of a fear that her mother would take Betty Sue
    from her. Cozza conceived the idea of petitioning for her to be custodian. Trial exhibit 1
    is the nonparental custody petition signed by Kelly Lambert to bestow custody in Cozza.
    11
    No. 32441-9-III
    In re Custody ofALD
    The parties did not transmit any of the exhibits to this appeals court. In the petition,
    Lambert falsely claimed that Cozza was Betty Sue's aunt. The petition also falsely
    declared that Betty Sue had only resided in the state of Washington.
    On July 27, 2012, Kelly Lambert relinquished custody of Betty Sue to Jeri Ann
    Cozza. Exhibit 3 is a copy of the order declaring Cozza to be temporary custodian. Once
    again, we have not seen the exhibits. After entry of the order, Lambert lived in
    Bremerton near but not with, Joe Favazza. The order granted Lambert visitation rights
    with her daughter. Between July 27 and October 2012, Lambert spoke with Betty Sue on
    the telephone, but had no physical contact with her daughter.
    Kelly Lambert declared at trial on the Moehlmanns' petition for custody that she
    did not intend custody in Jeri Ann Cozza to be permanent. She planned to regain custody
    of Betty Sue after her parents no longer interfered with her relationship with the young
    child and Joe Favazza. Lambert grew concerned about the Moehlmanns' repeated
    complaints to CPS. Lambert agrees that in hindsight giving custody to Cozza was
    inappropriate. Lambert wanted Cozza, rather than her parents, to hold custody of Betty
    Sue because Cozza had a comfortable home and Cozza and Lambert had developed a
    close relationship. Cozza and Lambert agreed to reassess custody of Betty Sue in a few
    months.
    In a declaration supporting her petition to grant Jeri Ann Cozza custody of Betty
    Sue, Kelly Lambert averred that she was an "unfit parent." The order of custody reads, in
    12
    No. 32441-9-III
    In re Custody ofALD
    part:
    "Adequate Cause": ... The mother has physical and mental health
    issues which do not allow her to provide proper care for the child at this
    point in the mother's life. The situation may change in the future.
    RP at 22. Lambert agreed to the language. At trial, Lambert testified that her mental
    health issues in July 2012 related to depression and "worry[ing] about [my parents]
    pounding on my doors." RP at 24.
    PROCEDURE
    On July 27,2012, Kimberly and Rod Moehlmann filed the petition for nonparental
    custody of Betty Sue that is the subject of this appeal. Thus, the Moehlmanns filed their
    petition on the same day that a trial judge signed an order granting Jeri Ann Cozza
    nonparental custody of Betty Sue. In their petition, the Moehlmanns alleged that both
    Justin Mayfield and Kelly Lambert were unsuitable custodians for the child. Among
    other allegations, the Moehlmanns averred Kelly Lambert's relationship with Joseph
    Favazza endangered Betty Sue and that Lambert was oblivious to this danger.
    Kimberly and Rod Moehlmann learned of the petition and order granting Jeri Ann
    Cozza custody after the Moehlmanns filed their petition. On September 19,2012, the
    Moehlmanns moved to consolidate Jeri Cozza's nonparental custody petition with their
    own, vacate the grant of custody to Cozza, establish adequate cause to continue their
    nonparental custody action, approve their proposed parenting plan, and appoint a
    guardian ad litem.
    13
    No. 32441-9-II1
    In re Custody ofALD
    On August 3,2012, Jeri Ann Cozza took Betty Sue to pediatrician Anna Barber, at
    Providence Family Medicine, because of the girls' swollen lip. Dr. Barber found Betty
    Sue's lip to be healing fine. Barber described Cozza as "extremely good" with the two­
    year-old.
    During trial, Kimberly Moehlmann testified that medical records from September
    7,2012 show Betty Sue to have a developmental delay. The record on appeal contains no
    medical records from September 7. The record before this court discloses that Jeri Ann
    Cozza also took Betty Sue to Dr. Anna Barber on September 13,2012. The September
    13 chart notes read, in part:
    Well appearing child, appropriate for age, no acute distress.
    CP at 77. Anna Barber further wrote:
    [Betty Sue] has been noted in the past to have some facial features
    suggestive of fetal alcohol syndrome. Dev delay: receiving all appropriate
    services. Aunt is doing a good job of caring for [Betty Sue] and
    demonstrates affection and appropriate actions.
    CP at 78.
    On October 26, 2012, a court commissioner found adequate cause supported
    Kimberly and Rod Moehlmanns' petition for nonparental custody. The commissioner
    also dismissed Kelly Lambert's petition to appoint Jeri Ann Cozza as Betty Sue's
    guardian and granted the Moehlmanns temporary custody of the young girl. The
    commissioner granted Lambert residential visitation twice per month in four-day
    14
    No. 32441-9-III
    In re Custody ofALD
    increments and an additional forty-eight hours of visitation per week in Spokane. Under
    the temporary order, the court commissioner prohibited Joe Favazza from contact with
    Betty Sue. The commissioner also ordered the appointment of a guardian ad litem.
    Unfortunately, the parties never proceeded to gamer a guardian ad litem.
    On July 13,2013, Kelly Lambert gave birth to her and Joseph Favazza's daughter,
    Sharon. Upon Sharon'S birth, CPS intervened. CPS interviewed Favazza, deemed him a
    fit parent, and allowed Lambert custody of her infant. CPS has not restricted Joseph
    Favazza's contact with Sharon. In January 2014, due to lead-based paint in her home,
    Kelly Lambert moved from one residence in Bremerton to another.
    Trial proceeded on February 18 and 19,2014. Between the Moehlmanns
    obtaining custody of Betty Sue in October 2012 and trial, Kelly Lambert had the
    opportunity for four-day visits in Bremerton thirty-two times but only visited Betty Sue
    seven times. Lambert met one or more ofthe Moehlmanns in Washington's principal
    exchange location, Vantage, to swap care for Betty Sue. No visits occurred in Spokane.
    Kelly Lambert blamed the lack of visitations on a want of a vehicle until July 2013, her
    pregnancy thereafter, and a lack of funds. Lambert did not wish Rod or Kimberly
    Moehlmann to see her pregnant for fear the Moehlmanns would also take her new baby.
    According to Lambert, her physicians also advised against traveling while she was
    pregnant. During the same window of time, Lambert sent no Christmas or birthday
    presents to Betty Sue.
    15
    No. 3244l-9-II1
    In re Custody ofALD
    Kelly Lambert testified at trial that Betty Sue "is most bonded" with her. RP at
    283. According to Lambert, when Betty Sue visits her, the daughter pays "close
    attention" to the mother. RP at 284. Betty Sue has seen Sharon twice and loves her little
    sister.
    Kelly Lambert claimed at trial that Betty Sue expresses displeasure when returned
    to the Moehlmanns. On one occasion, Lambert struggled for one half hour to place Betty
    Sue in Rod Moehlmann's car.
    According to Kimberly Moehlmann, the court commissioner did not allow her to
    be present during exchanges in Vantage because of the restraining order entered against
    her. Kimberly needed to remain at least two city blocks away from the situs of the
    exchange. Difficulties arose during one Vantage exchange and police were summoned.
    Kimberly insisted she sat in a restaurant at least two city blocks away. According to
    Moehlmann, Kelly Lambert took photos of her on that occasion.
    Not surprisingly, the Moehlmanns declared at trial that Betty Sue's visits with
    Kelly Lambert caused Betty Sue difficulties. According to Rod Moehlmann, Betty Sue
    screams for a week after visits. Betty Sue was happy to return to Spokane, but her
    behavior becomes aggressive.
    Kelly Lambert testified at trial that she continues to monthly visit a psychiatrist to
    treat her depression. Her mental health improves, except that the trial caused emotional
    problems. She is no longer manic depressive nor suicidaL Kelly takes the anti­
    16
    No. 32441-9-111
    In re Custody ofALD
    depressant Wellbutrin. Lambert is happier now because of the joy that Sharon brings.
    Lambert takes ibuprofen and tylenol for the muscle spasms in her back.
    Joe Favazza testified at trial that he has obeyed the proscription against his being
    near Betty Sue. He further testified that, if this action is dismissed, he would live with
    and marry Kelly Lambert. Lambert likewise envisions someday marrying Favazza.
    Lambert does not believe Joe Favazza was guilty of the crime of child molestation upon
    which he was convicted. Nevertheless, if a court ordered no contact between Betty Sue
    and Favazza, Lambert would willingly obey the order in order to regain custody of her
    daughter.
    Kelly Lambert allows Joe Favazza to visit with her and his daughter, Sharon,
    alone. She has no concern of Favazza being unsupervised with Sharon. Favazza sees
    Sharon every day. Lambert believes that Sharon thrives.
    Kelly Lambert testified that, every time that CPS contacted her, she let CPS agents
    inspect her home and review the condition of Betty Sue. We lack the specifics of any
    CPS investigation, other than Lambert's testimony that CPS last investigated her home in
    August 2013. No CPS records were introduced as exhibits, nor did any CPS employee
    testify at trial.
    Kelly Lambert testified that she recently completed a parenting class, despite no
    requirement that she participate in a class. During the class, she learned Biblical
    principles of disciplining a child.
    17
    No. 32441-9-111
    In re Custody ofALD
    Kimberly Moehlmann testified that, when she gained custody of Betty Sue in
    September 2012, the young girl had speech delays. According to, Moehlmann, Betty Sue
    no longer has delays. Moehlmann applauds herself for Betty Sue having no medical
    problems or developmental delays. Kimberly Moehlmann insisted at trial that, when she
    gained placement of Betty Sue, Betty Sue lacked some of her immunizations. The
    youngster is now current on immunizations.
    Without any support in the records, Kimberly Moehlmann testified that recently
    CPS ordered no contact between Betty Sue, on the one hand, and Kelly Lambert or Joe
    Favazza, on the other hand, until the police and CPS complete an investigation. In other
    words, Lambert is no longer permitted contact with her daughter. We are given no
    details of the investigation. Moehlmann testified that Exhibit 16 supports her allegation.
    Again, the parties forwarded this court no exhibits.
    At trial, Kimberly Moehlmann testified that she observed mental health issues
    with Lambert. According to Moehlmann, Lambert is depressed, sleeps all day, is
    emotional, and cries. Moehlmann saw Lambert take antipsychotic and psychotropic
    drugs. Moehlmann testified that her daughter's back pain impacts her mobility. Lambert
    lies on the floor to adjust her back. Moehlmann insists that Lambert's physical and
    mental difficulties have not resolved completely. Moehlmann has no medical report to
    confirm that Kelly Lambert is unfit to parent. Moehlmann admitted that Lambert might
    be a fit mother in the future. At trial, Moehlmann was unaware of Lambert's condition,
    18
    No. 32441-9-Ill
    In re Custody ofALD
    since Moehlmann had not seen her for more than one year and a half.
    By the time of trial, Kelly Lambert had moved ten times since 2009. During the
    same four years, the Moehlmanns moved four times.
    Kimberly Moehlmann conceded taking anti-depressants in the past. Moehlmann
    has suffered depression more than once.
    Rod Moehlmann testified that he believes with one hundred percent certainty that
    Joseph Favazza molested Betty Sue. Kimberly Moehlmann testified that she believes Joe
    Favazza sexually abused Betty Sue, although she conceded her belief amounts only to
    SusplcIOns.
    At the conclusion of trial, the superior court granted Kimberly and Rod
    Moehlmann's petition for nonparental custody of Betty Sue. The court acknowledged
    RCW 26.10.100 that directs a court to consider the best interests of the child when
    awarding custody. The trial court, however, recognized the inapplicability of the best
    interests standard established in the statute and acknowledged the need for the
    Moehlmanns to prove that Kelly Lambert is either an unfit parent or placement with
    Lambert would result in actual detriment to the child's growth and development. The
    trial court concluded both that Kelly Lambert was an unfit parent and custody in Lambert
    would result in actual detriment to the growth and development of Betty Sue.
    The trial court entered, in part, the following findings of fact:
    19
    No. 32441-9-111
    In re Custody ofALD
    2.7 ... The respondent, KELLY LAMBERT, gave custody of the .
    minor child to a neighbor and known felon. After giving custody of the
    child to a known felon, Ms. Lambert moved to Bremerton, WA to live with
    Mr. Favazza, a known sex offender.
    Neither parent is a suitable custodian for the child, because:
    The mother has abandoned the child and refused to perform
    parenting functions as listed in the Verbatim Report of Proceedings.
    2.9 ... The following reasons exist for limiting visitation of
    Respondent KELLY LAMBERT:
    Willful abandonment that continues for an extended period of time
    or substantial refusal to perform parenting functions.
    CP at 199.
    Because the trial court incorporated its oral ruling into its findings of fact, we
    quote some of the oral ruling:
    Ms. Lambert suffers from mental health problems, namely
    depression, as evidenced by her discharge from the military, her sworn
    statement stating as such, her testimony at trial, and her history in being
    treated by two psychiatrists. Her mental health problems affect her ability
    to parent [Betty Sue] in that when she is at her lows, she lacks motivation
    and spends a great deal of time sleeping.
    In [Betty Sue's] first 32 months of life, Ms. Lambert moved from
    Utah to Olympia, from Olympia to Bremerton, from Bremerton to Utah,
    from Utah to Bremerton, from Bremerton to Spokane, from Spokane to
    Utah, from Utah to the Moehlmanns, from the Moehlmanns to Ms.
    Cozza's, and from Ms. Cozza's to Bremerton. The constant moving among
    cities and states is unstable, to say the least. Children need consistency and
    stability. In this account the Court did not recite Ms. Lambert's moves
    within the same city.
    Ms. Lambert has shown a willful and consistent failure to protect
    [Betty Sue's] welfare and safety. Ms. Lambert spontaneously entered a
    temporary order granting nonparental custody to Ms. Cozza. Not only is
    Ms. Cozza a five-time felon, her roommate, her boyfriend, Mr. Hoffman,
    20
    No. 32441-9-III
    In re Custody ofALD
    had just been convicted of harassment - threat to kill while Ms. Lambert
    was residing with Ms. Cozza. Ms. Lambert counters this as she did not
    know that either Ms. Cozza or Mr. Hoffman were felons. This is the issue.
    Ms. Lambert either knew or should have known both Ms. Cozza and Mr.
    Hoffman were felons prior to petitioning for temporary nonparental custody
    in Ms. Cozza's favor. Either way, Ms. Lambert disregarded [Betty Sue's]
    welfare and safety by leaving her alone with Ms. Cozza and Mr. Hoffman.
    In addition to Ms. Lambert's mental health issues, unstable lifestyle,
    and carelessly granting [Betty Sue's] custody to Ms. Cozza, Ms. Lambert
    has maintained an intimate relationship with Mr. Favazza, a person
    convicted of first-degree child molestation. During the course of their
    relationship, there have been allegations that [Betty Sue] may have been
    abused. At the time of trial, all of the allegations, with the exception of the
    pending allegation, was found to be unfounded by CPS. Even though CPS
    found these allegations to be unfounded, the Court can still consider the
    facts that led to the allegations being made.
    In response to the allegations that [Betty Sue] may have been
    abused, Ms. Lambert simply confirms her commitment to Mr. Favazza. In
    fact, Ms. Lambert goes a step further and asserts that Mr. Favazza provides
    better care for [Betty Sue] than either Mr. or Ms. Moehlmann. Ms.
    Lambert is also convinced that Mr. Favazza is not guilty of first-degree
    child molestation; therefore, she does not have any concerns with Mr.
    Favazza being around either [Betty Sue] or [Sharon]. In light of the
    allegations of abuse and this pending nonparental custody action, Ms.
    Lambert still asserts her desire to wed Mr. Favazza.
    In her decision-making process about Mr. Favazza's past, as well as
    her current trust of him, Ms. Lambert is not focusing on [Betty Sue's]
    safety and welfare. Regardless of Ms. Lambert's opinion as to Mr.
    Favazza's gUilt or innocence, Ms. Lambert is not providing proper
    protection for her four-year-old daughter by minimizing Mr. Favazza's
    criminal past and believing that he would be a better caretaker than her own
    mother.
    RP at 393-96. The trial court did not mention, either in its oral ruling or the written
    findings of fact or conclusions of law, the burden of proof it imposed on the
    grandparents' claims.
    21
    No. 32441-9-III
    In re Custody ofALD
    LAW AND ANALYSIS
    Kelly Lambert contends the trial court employed the wrong legal standard when
    awarding third party custody to Kimberly and Rod Moehlmann. Lambert also contends
    insufficient evidence supports the trial court's finding that she is unfit to parent Betty
    Sue. In support of her twin arguments, Lambert maintains that the trial court failed to
    presume parental fitness, the trial court erroneously employed a best interest standard, the
    trial court failed to focus on her current fitness to parent, and the trial court relied on
    improper facts to support its finding of unfitness. Those unsuitable facts include her
    relationship with Joseph Favazza and her failure to exercise her visitation rights under the
    temporary custody order leading up to trial.
    We assume the trial court employed the correct legal standard. We, however,
    conclude that the trial court utilized an erroneous burden of proof, or at least the trial
    court failed to expressly adopt the correct burden of proof. We also hold that, based on
    the sanctioned burden of proof, the evidence is insufficient to overcome Kelly Lambert's
    constitutional rights to parent Betty Sue. Stated differently, clear, cogent and convincing
    evidence does not support a required finding that Lambert is an unfit mother or that
    placement of Betty Sue with Lambert would cause actual detriment to the child's growth
    and development.
    Nonparental custody cases often involve a young parent who struggles with an
    addiction or financial independence and gives one or more children to grandparents or
    22
    No. 32441-9-III
    In re Custody ofALD
    other relatives to temporarily raise. Eventually, the relatives seek formal legal custody.
    Although she occasionally lived in her mother and stepfather'S home during which time
    the grandparents helped care for Betty Sue, Kelly Lambert never left Betty Sue
    permanently with Kimberly and Rod Moehlmann or consented to custody of Betty Sue
    by the Moehlmanns. When Betty Sue lived in the Moehlmanns' home, Lambert also
    resided in the dwelling. Lambert has a small, but adequate, income and she suffers no
    addiction. These factors boost Lambert's position on appeaL
    The trial court's award of custody of Betty Sue to her grandparents over the
    objection of her mother prompts a preliminary discussion of constitutional rights. Parents
    have a fundamental right to autonomy in child rearing decisions. In re Custody ofSmith,
    
    137 Wn.2d 1
    , 13,
    969 P.2d 21
     (1998), aff'd sub nom. Troxel v. Granville, 
    530 U.S. 57
    ,
    
    120 S. Ct. 2054
    , 
    147 L. Ed. 2d 49
     (2000) (Plurality Opinion). The United States Supreme
    Court has long recognized a constitutionally protected interest of parents to raise their
    children without state interference. Wisconsin v. Yoder, 
    406 U.S. 205
    ,235-36,
    92 S. Ct. 1526
    ,
    32 L. Ed. 2d 15
     (1972); Pierce v. Soc y ofthe Sisters ofthe Holy Names ofJesus &
    Mary, 
    268 U.S. 510
    , 534, 
    45 S. Ct. 571
    , 
    69 L. Ed. 1070
     (1925); Meyer v. Nebraska, 
    262 U.S. 390
    , 399, 
    43 S. Ct. 625
    , 
    67 L. Ed. 1042
     (1923). The liberty interest of parents may
    be the oldest of the fundamental liberty interests recognized by the Supreme Court.
    Troxel v. Granville, 
    530 U.S. 57
    , 65, 
    120 S. Ct. 2054
    , 
    147 L. Ed. 2d 49
     (2000). Freedom
    of personal choice in matters of family life is a fundamental liberty interest protected by
    23
    No. 32441-9-III
    In re Custody ofALD
    the due process clause of the Fourteenth Amendment, the Equal Protection Clause of the
    Fourteenth Amendment, and the Ninth Amendment. Santosky v. Kramer, 
    455 U.S. 745
    ,
    753,
    102 S. Ct. 1388
    ,
    71 L. Ed. 2d 599
     (1982); Stanley v. Illinois, 
    405 U.S. 645
    , 651, 
    92 S. Ct. 1208
    , 
    31 L. Ed. 2d 551
     (1972).
    Despite many parents being untrained, unprepared, and inept in the art and science
    of raising a child, American law recognizes a natural right attached to the biological
    processes of siring and bearing a child. This right precedes law. The rights to conceive
    and to raise one's children are deemed "essential," '''basic civil rights of man.'" Stanley
    v. Illinois, 
    405 U.S. at 651
     (1972) (quoting Skinner v. Oklahoma, 
    316 U.S. 535
    , 541, 
    62 S. Ct. 1110
    ,
    86 L. Ed. 1655
     (1942)). The custody, care and nurture of the child reside
    first in the parents, whose primary function and freedom include preparation for
    obligations the State can neither supply nor hinder. Stanley v. Illinois, 
    405 U.S. at 651
    .
    Since the custody of a child is a fundamental, constitutional right, state
    interference is justified only if the State can show that it has a compelling interest and
    such interference is narrowly drawn to meet only the compelling state interest involved.
    Custody ofSmith, 137 Wn.2d at 15 (1998); In re Welfare ofSumey, 
    94 Wn.2d 757
    , 762,
    
    621 P.2d 108
     (1980). This standard is known as the strict scrutiny test. In re Parentage
    ofCA.MA., 
    154 Wn.2d 52
    ,57, 
    109 P.3d 405
     (2005).
    The State may interfere and override a decision of a parent when the decision
    would harm the child. Prince v. Massachusetts, 
    321 U.S. 158
    , 165,
    64 S. Ct. 438
    ,
    88 L. 24
    No. 32441-9-III
    In re Custody 0/ALD
    Ed. 645 (1944); Custody o/Smith, 137 Wn.2d at 15-16 (1998). Both the State's parens
    patriae power and police power provide the State with the authority to act to protect
    children lacking the guidance and protection of fit parents of their own. Custody 0/
    Smith, 137 at 16. Conversely, short of preventing harm to the child, the standard of "best
    interest of the child" is insufficient to serve as a compelling state interest overruling a
    parent's fundamental rights. Custody o/Smith, 137 Wn.2d at 20. Only under
    "extraordinary circumstances" does there exist a compelling state interest that justifies
    interference with parental rights. In re Custody o/Shields, 
    157 Wn.2d 126
    , 145, 
    136 P.3d 117
     (2006) (quoting In re the Marriage    0/Allen, 
    28 Wn. App. 637
    , 649, 
    626 P.2d 16
    (1981)). The State lacks authority to redistribute infants to provide each child with the
    "best family." Custody o/Smith, 137 Wn.2d at 20. The State also lacks the power to
    make significant decisions concerning the custody of children merely because it could
    make a "better decision." Custody o/Smith, 137 Wn.2d at 20.
    In Custody o/Smith, 
    137 Wn.2d 1
     (1998), the Washington Supreme Court
    declared unconstitutional a statute that permitted third parties visitation rights to a child if
    visitation served the best interest of the child. The United States Supreme Court
    affirmed. Troxel v. Granville, 
    530 U.S. 57
     (2000). In In re Parentage o/eA.MA., 
    154 Wn.2d 52
     (2005), our state high court also held a grandparent visitation rights statute
    unconstituti onal.
    25
    No. 32441-9-III
    In re Custody 0/ ALD
    Arising from the clash between state authority and a parent's constitutional right is
    a standard that controls this appeal and all nonparental custody petition suits. The
    superior court may ultimately issue a custody order granting nonparental placement only
    if the court finds that the parent is unfit or placement with the parent would result in
    actual detriment to the child's growth and development. In re Custody o/B.MH., 
    179 Wn.2d 224
    , 235, 
    315 P.3d 470
     (2013); In re Custody 0/ E.A.T. W, 
    168 Wn.2d 335
    , 344­
    45,227 PJd 1284 (2010); Custody a/Shields, 157 Wn.2d at 142-43. This standard is
    necessary in order to adhere to the constitutional mandate that deference be accorded
    parents in child custody disputes with nonparents. Custody 0/ E.A.T. W, 
    168 Wn.2d at 344
    ; Custody a/Shields, 157 Wn.2d at 142.
    With this constitutional background, we address Washington's nonparental
    custody petition act, upon which Kimberly and Rod Moehlmann initiated this action. In
    1987, the Washington Legislature enacted the Parenting Act of 1987, chs. 26.09, 26.10
    RCW, which redesigned RCW 26.09, the parenting chapter for marital dissolution
    actions. LAWS OF 1987 ch. 460. In tum, the legislature reenacted and continued the law
    relating to third party actions involving custody of minor children by adopting Chapter
    RCW 26.10 in order to distinguish third party actions from parental disputes concerning
    placement of children. RCW 26.10.010. The marital dissolution section of the Parenting
    Act replaced the term "custody" with "residential placement," to dispel the notion that
    children are chattel and property. The word custody remains in the nonparental custody
    26
    No. 32441-9-II1
    In re Custody ofALD
    petition chapter.
    Under RCW 26.10.030(1), a third party may file a nonparental custody petition "if
    the child is not in the physical custody of one of its parents or if the petitioner alleges that
    neither parent is a suitable custodian." Upon filing a petition, the third party must submit
    affidavits and obtain a court order of adequate cause before proceeding further with the
    action. RCW 26.10.032. In other words, a court adjudicating a nonparental custody
    petition must make a threshold determination that adequate cause justifies a hearing on
    the petition. RCW 26.10.032(2); In re Custody ofE.A.T        w., 
    168 Wn.2d at 342
    .
    Kimberly and Rod Moehlmann obtained an order of adequate cause. Kelly Lambert does
    not challenge the order of adequate cause, but the lack of a challenge to the initial order
    does not preclude her appealing the final order granting the nonparental custody petition.
    One of the key provisions of the nonparental custody act is RCW 26.10.100. This
    section reads:
    The court shall determine custody in accordance with the best
    interest of the child.
    Thus, the nonparental custody act incorporates the best interest standard declared
    unconstitutional in other settings.
    In Custody ofShields, 
    157 Wn.2d 126
     (2006), the Washington Supreme Court
    withheld a declaration that RCW 26.10.100 is unconstitutional, and instead inserted
    additional requirements into the nonparental custody petition setting. The court
    27
    No. 32441-9-III
    In re Custody ofALD
    recognized that the best interest standard fails to afford the natural parent required
    constitutional protections. But the statute is constitutional when adding the requirement
    that the parent be unfit or placement with the parent causes actual detriment to the child's
    growth and development. The Supreme Court reversed the trial court's grant of the child
    to a stepparent because, although the trial court referred to an actual detriment standard,
    the record reflected that the trial court applied a best interest standard. The requisite
    showing by the nonparent is substantial. Custody ofShields, 157 Wn.2d at 145.
    Washington affords two alternative tests to the third party seeking child custody:
    (I) the natural parent is unfit, or (2) the parent causes actual detriment to the child's
    growth and development. One might equate a parent's actual detriment to a child's
    growth and development as being an unfit parent. In other words, one might question
    whether the second of the alternate tests is needed. A worthwhile distinction between the
    tests may focus on the characteristics and capabilities of the child. The second alternative
    may assume the child has some handicaps or special needs that even a fit parent cannot
    handle or fulfill.
    The phrase "parental unfitness" employs vacuous words. Some Washington cases
    introduce other vocabulary to assist lower courts in resolving custody disputes, although
    the alternative terminology still affords minimal particularity in determining unfitness. In
    the context of a termination proceeding when the State must also show current unfitness,
    the State must prove that the parent's parenting deficiencies prevent the parent from
    28
    No. 32441-9-III
    In re Custody ofALD
    providing the child with "basic nurture, health, or safety" by clear, cogent, and
    convincing evidence. RCW 13.34.020; In re Welfare ofA.B., 
    181 Wn. App. 45
    , 58-59,
    
    323 P.3d 1062
     (2014). The Evergreen State Supreme Court has also defined parental
    unfitness as being unable to meet a child's basic needs, In re Custody ofB.MR, 179
    Wn.2d at 236 (2013), or lacking the necessary capacity for giving parental care. In re
    Welfare ofAschauer, 
    93 Wn.2d 689
    , 694, 
    611 P.2d 1245
     (1980).
    The expression "actual detriment to a child's growth and development" also lacks
    concreteness, but the Washington courts supply no alternative terminology. The State
    Supreme Court has observed that whether placement with a parent will result in actual
    detriment to a child's growth and development is a highly fact-specific inquiry, and
    precisely when actual detriment outweighs parental rights must be determined on a case-
    by-case basis. Custody ofShields, 157 Wn.2d at 143 (2006). When this heightened
    standard is properly applied, the requisite showing required by the nonparent is
    substantial and a nonparent will be able to meet this substantial standard in only
    "extraordinary circumstances." Custody ofShields, 157 Wn.2d at 145.
    This appeal's trial court did not announce whether it based its decision on a
    preponderance of evidence or a clear, cogent, and convincing burden of proof.
    Employment of the correct burden of proof can be critical to the outcome of a
    nonparental custody petition. In In re Custody ofC.C.M, 
    149 Wn. App. 184
    ,
    202 P.3d 971
     (2009), this court confronted the issue of the burden of proof. We noted that a third
    29
    No. 32441-9-III
    In re Custody ofALD
    party custody action places a parent's interest in the custody and care of a child at stake
    and thus the action is equivalent to a parental termination proceeding. A natural parent
    subject to a nonparental custody petition risks permanent deprivation of control over the
    supervision of the parent's child. Because of the severe consequences of an erroneous
    deprivation of a parent's custody rights, we held that a court must apply a more rigorous
    standard of proof in resolving third-party custody petitions. Thus, the petitioning party
    must prove his or her case by clear and convincing evidence. "This burden [of proof] is
    so substantial that, when properly applied, it will be met in only extraordinary
    circumstances." Custody ofC.C.M, 149 Wn. App. at 204 (internal quotation marks
    omitted).
    Reviewing and comparing the facts in other nonparental custody appeals assists us
    in deciding whether the facts presented by Kimberly and Rod Moehlmann show by clear,
    cogent, and convincing evidence that Kelly Lambert was either an unfit parent or
    placement with Lambert would cause actual detriment to Betty Sue's growth and
    development. We start with decisions in which the court denied the third-party custody
    petition before moving to decisions where the court granted the petition.
    In In re Custody ofB.MH, 
    179 Wn.2d 224
     (20l3), a stepfather sought contact
    with his stepson through a de facto parentage petition. The Supreme Court held that the
    stepfather qualified as a de facto parent, but that he failed to meet "the high burden
    imposed on those seeking third party custody." 179 Wn.2d at 229. The stepfather
    30
    No. 32441-9-111
    In re Custody ofALD
    claimed the mother sought to prevent visitations, despite the stepfather having been the
    only father the child knew. He also claimed that the mother moved frequently in
    romantic relationships such that the child could not adjust to new men in his life. The
    stepfather averred that the mother's choices were "detrimental" to the son. In re Custody
    ofB.MH., 179 Wn.2d at 238. Our high court noted that, in each case when appellate
    courts upheld a finding of actual detriment to the child, the child "had significant special
    needs" that a parent could not fulfill. In re Custody ofB.MH., 179 Wn.2d at 239.
    In Custody ofC.C.M, 
    149 Wn. App. 184
     (2009), this court affirmed the trial
    court's denial of the grandparents' petition for custody and award of placement to the
    father. The child lived with the grandparents since her birth and until the filing of the
    petition. The record showed no visits by the father until after the filing of the petition.
    In Custody ofShields, 
    157 Wn.2d 126
     (2006), the lower court awarded third party
    custody to a stepmother over the biological mother's objection. The trial court
    emphasized the child's desire to stay in the stepmother's home, the child's longstanding
    relationship with the stepmother, siblings, and extended family in Washington. Our
    Supreme Court reversed and remanded for a new hearing because none of these
    considerations pertained to the biological mother's fitness and contravened the
    presumption that she will act in her child's best interests.
    Cases in which the court granted a third party petition illustrate what the case on
    appeal is not. In re Marriage ofAllen, 
    28 Wn. App. 637
    , 
    626 P.2d 16
     (1981) was decided
    31
    No. 32441-9-III
    In re Custody ofALD
    before the 1987 act and based on the assumption that a stepmother was a parent of a child
    for purposes of a child custody decision during a marriage dissolution. The assumption
    that a stepparent is a parent for purposes of child placement no longer rings true.
    Nevertheless, the decision illustrates an instance when a nonparental custody petition
    might be granted. Joshua Edward Allen was born profoundly deaf. After his birth and
    when Joshua's father Joe held custody of the boy, Joe married Jeannie, who had three
    children older than Joshua. The four children resided with Jeannie and Joe. During the
    marriage, Jeannie engaged in extraordinary efforts to accommodate Joshua's disability,
    including learning sign language and teaching sign language to her three other children.
    All four used sign language as fluently as ordinary speech and communicated only in sign
    language in the presence of Joshua. Joe, the father, had minimal sign language
    capability. Joe was fatalistic toward Joshua's disability, while Jeannie believed in
    Joshua's unlimited development. This court affirmed the trial court's award to Jeannie of
    custody of Joshua. In affirming, we noted that, despite the custody statute referring to the
    best interest of the child, there must be a showing of actual detriment to the child. We
    confirmed the trial court because of the singular and usual circumstances of the case.
    In re Parentage ofJ.A.B., 
    146 Wn. App. 417
    , 
    191 P.3d 71
     (2008) was a suit for
    establishment of de facto parentage status rather than a nonparental custody petition.
    This court affirmed the granting of parentage to a stepfather over the objection of the
    mother. In so ruling, we agreed with the trial court that the mother was an unfit parent.
    32
    --   --   -------
    No. 32441-9-III
    In re Custody ofALD
    The mother became delusional after being imbued with frenetic energy and speaking in
    rhyme. Eventually she grew mute and communicated only through written notes.
    Doctors diagnosed the mother with bipolar affective disorder and prescribed mood
    stabilizing and antipsychotic medication. The mother disliked the side effects of her
    medication and ceased taking them. She became paranoid and began speaking in rhyme
    again. Instead of writing poems, she threatened suicide. In passing, this court mentioned
    that the third-party custody statute aims at protecting children without fit parents or
    children whose "extraordinary circumstances," render placement with a fit parent
    detrimental to the child's growth and development. In re Parentage ofJ.A.B., 146 Wn.
    App. at 426.
    In In re Custody ofR.R.B., 
    108 Wn. App. 602
    , 
    31 P.3d 1212
     (2001), the court
    granted a nonparental custody petition when a suicidal child required extensive therapy
    and stability at a level the parents could not provide. The parents may have abused the
    child by beatings with a leather belt, a wooden paddle, and a wire hanger. Doctors
    diagnosed the girl as suffering from bipolar disorder and post-traumatic stress disorder.
    In In re Custody ofStell, 
    56 Wn. App. 356
    , 
    783 P.2d 615
     (1989), this court reversed the
    superior court and granted the petition when a child, who had been physically and
    sexually abused, required extensive therapy and stability at a level the parent could not
    provide.
    In In re Interest ofMahaney, 
    146 Wn.2d 878
    ,
    51 P.3d 776
     (2001), the trial court
    33
    No. 3244l-9-III
    In re Custody ofALD
    granted the grandmother her petition under RCW 26.10. The Supreme Court affirmed
    the award of residential custody to the grandparent but remanded for proceedings
    necessary to satisfY the Indian Child Welfare Act of 1978, 25 U.S.c. § 1901 et. seg. The
    children had lived with their grandmother for ten years. The mother abused alcohol and
    illegal drugs that the trial court found impacted her parenting functions. The mother
    admitted to observing her brother engaging in inappropriate sexual games with the
    children. The daughter claimed her mother also sexually abused her.
    The Moehlmanns argue that a decision overturning the trial court's decision would
    conflict with principles of deference during appellate review. This court reviews a trial
    court's findings of fact to determine whether they are supported by substantial evidence.
    In re Marriage ofMcDole, 
    122 Wn.2d 604
    ,610,
    859 P.2d 1239
     (1993). A trial court's
    custody disposition will not be disturbed on appeal absent a manifest abuse of discretion.
    Schuster v. Schuster, 
    90 Wn.2d 626
    , 632, 585 P.2d l30 (1978).
    In the face of these principles, we still reverse. In the context of a nonparental
    custody petition, Washington appellate courts have not shied from reversing trial courts
    when evidence is insufficient. The record does not show the trial court applied the
    correct burden of proof to Kimberly and Rod Moehlmann's claims. The facts fail to
    show Kelly Lambert is currently an unfit parent and fall short of establishing that
    placement with Lambert would result in detriment to Betty Sue's growth and
    development. No independent or expert testimony shows any detriment to Betty Sue.
    34
    No. 32441-9-111
    In re Custody ofALD
    Much of the evidence concerned Lambert's past, not current condition. This case is not
    the extraordinary case that merits denying a parent's constitutional right to the care and
    companionship of her daughter.
    The trial court found Kelly Lambert unfit to parent or her parenting likely to harm
    Betty Sue's growth and development because of Lambert's mental health issues, her
    lifestyle of instability, her careless granting of Betty Sue to Jeri Ann Cozza, and her
    consistent failure to protect Betty Sue from a convicted sex offender. The trial court also
    faulted Kelly Lambert with not taking advantage of the visitation afforded under the
    temporary orders.
    The scant evidence in the record shows that Kelly Lambert principally struggled
    with her mental health in 2007. The only information concerning Lambert's mental
    health since 2007 shows Lambert to consistently participate in counseling. No counselor
    or psychologist testified to the severity of Lambert's current mental health issues or how
    those issues might impact her parenting of Betty Sue. Kelly Lambert's earlier mental
    health illness did not reach the difficulties encountered by parents, from whom children
    were taken, in reported decisions. Any mental health problems predated Lambert
    becoming a parent in 2009.
    Kimberly and Rod Moehlmann testified to Lambert being lazy and quick to leave
    Betty Sue in others' care. The trial court found that Lambert lacks motivation and spends
    a great deal of time sleeping. These characteristics alone do not amount to a mental
    35
    No. 32441-9-III
    In re Custody ofALD
    health defect that renders Lambert unfit. A parent is permitted to leave a child in the care
    of another and not have the child's custody granted to a third party. In short, there is no
    evidence of any mental health issues that interfere with Kelly Lambert's ability to parent
    Betty Sue.
    Kelly Lambert should not be imputed with mental illnesses suffered in past years.
    In a marital dissolution custody dispute, this court noted that the test for fitness of
    custody is the present condition of the mother and not any future or past conduct. In re
    Marriage ofNordby, 
    41 Wn. App. 531
    , 534, 
    705 P.2d 277
     (1985), This same principle
    should apply in a third-party custody case.
    The trial court also supported its finding of unfitness by stressing Kelly Lambert's
    unstable lifestyle. Lambert moved frequently prior to the initiation of these proceedings.
    Military families often move frequently and hopefully do so without fear of losing their
    children due to an unstable lifestyle. Although the moves were in the same city, Ira and
    George Gershwin moved twenty-one times as children. No social worker, guardian ad
    litem, parenting expert, or any other person testified to how Kelly Lambert's lifestyle
    interfered with her ability to parent, or might cause Betty Sue actual detriment. No facts
    showed that the moves impacted Betty Sue's growth and development.
    Even if the Moehlmanns presented evidence of the many moves impacting the
    development of Betty Sue, the relevance of the evidence to Kelly Lambert's current
    parental fitness at the time of trial would be questionable, For the two years preceding
    36
    No. 32441-9-III
    In re Custody ofALD
    trial, Lambert lived in two residences within Bremerton. When and if a legal parent
    becomes fit to care for the child, the nonparent has no right to continue a relationship
    with the child. In re Parentage ofJ.A.B., 146 Wn. App. at 426 (2008). In other words,
    Lambert's current stability controls. The test for fitness of custody is the present
    condition of the mother and not any future or past conduct. In re Marriage ofNordby, 
    41 Wn. App. at 534
     (1985). In the last two years, Lambert moved from one residence to the
    other because she was pregnant and anxious about the presence of lead paint. This move
    illustrated her concern for her children rather than a lack of stability.
    The trial court also underlined Kelly Lambert's granting of custody of Betty Sue
    to Jeri Ann Cozza. The trial court voiced concern over Lambert's not knowing Cozza's
    criminal history or the criminal history of Cozza's boyfriend. Nevertheless, no one
    investigated or testified to how Cozza cared for Betty Sue. No evidence addressed
    whether Cozza's home was safe and clean. No one presented any percipient testimony of
    Cozza's or her boyfriend's criminal history actually harming Betty Sue. Washington
    does not remove children from felons on the basis that the custodian has a criminal
    history. The only evidence regarding Jeri Cozza's interaction with Betty Sue comes from
    a medical record. In the record, the physician described Cozza as "extremely good" with
    Betty Sue and wrote, "[Cozza] is doing a good job of caring for [Betty Sue] and
    demonstrates affection and appropriate actions." CP at 75, 78.
    The trial court also supported its finding of unfitness by mentioning Kelly
    37
    No. 32441-9-III
    In re Custody ofALD
    Lambert's failure to exercise the visitations afforded her under the temporary orders
    preceding trial. Nevertheless, the fact that a parent does not have physical custody of the
    child, standing alone, does not show that the parent is unfit or that actual detriment would
    result from placing the child with the parent. In re Custody ofE.A. T.    w., 
    168 Wn.2d at 344-45
     (2010). In CustodyofCCM, 
    149 Wn. App. 184
     (2009), this court affirmed the
    trial court's denial of the grandparents' petition for custody and award of placement to
    the father, despite the father visiting the child only once before filing of the petition.
    The pending action was not a dependency action under chapter 13.34 RCW, in
    which visitation was ordered by the court as a means of correcting parental defects. As
    her relationship with her parents became increasingly strained, Kelly Lambert chose not
    to exercise visitation. Lambert lived in Bremerton and was pregnant for some of the
    time. She expected Kimberly and Rod Moehlmann to seek an order removing the new
    child from her if the Moehlmanns knew of her pregnancy. Lambert provided the daily
    care for Betty Sue for three years before the Moehlmanns filed their petition and appears
    ready to assume parental responsibilities again. To repeat, when a legal parent becomes
    fit to care for the child, the nonparent has no right to continue a relationship with the
    child. Parentage ofJ.A.B., 146 Wn. App. at 426. The parent awarded temporary
    residential placement of the child should not be given any advantage when the permanent
    parenting plan is entered. In re Marriage ofKovacs, 
    121 Wn.2d 795
    , 808, 
    854 P.2d 629
    (1993).
    38
    No. 3244l-9-III
    In re Custody ofALD
    Kelly Lambert pled in her 2012 nonparental custody petition to appoint Jeri Ann
    Cozza that she was unfit to parent. Assuming we take this pleading at face value, the
    confession did not render Lambert unfit at the February 2014 trial.
    The presence of Joe Favazza loomed as the principal trepidation of Kimberly and
    Rod Moehlmann. The trial court underscored Kelly Lambert's failure to protect Betty
    Sue from a convicted sex offender. This court concurs with the trial court's worry about
    Lambert's relationship with Joe Favazza, Lambert's denial of the validity of Favazza's
    conviction, and the lack of concern of mothering another child with Favazza. Sixteen
    years ago Joseph Favazza was convicted of first degree child molestation. Betty Sue
    exhibited concerning behaviors, such as humping stuffed animals and night terrors.
    Despite this court's apprehension, no evidence connects Betty Sue's behaviors to
    Favazza. No one testified to observing Favazza behave inappropriately around Betty
    Sue. No physician found physical signs of trauma or abuse. No one testified to the
    likelihood of Favazza reoffending nine years after his release. CPS conducted the only
    investigation and found the Moehlmanns' allegation of molestation unfounded. CPS
    approved Favazza being with his and Lambert's daughter, Sharon.
    Betty Sue first exhibited the sexual behavior after she and Kelly Lambert returned
    to Washington in early 2012, after having spent the previous year in Utah with Jeffrey
    Pollard. No expert, or any of the five lay witnesses, testified to the importance or
    unimportance of this timing. Kimberly and Rod Moehlmann repeatedly and vociferously
    39
    No. 32441-9-III
    In re Custody ofALD
    voiced their anxiety regarding Joseph Favazza and their granddaughter. These concerns
    are commendable and understandable, but they are not evidence.
    Even if specific facts or testimony supported the Moehlmanns' concern that
    Joseph Favazza presents a risk of actual detriment or harm to Betty Sue, finding Kelly
    Lambert unfit as a parent is not narrowly tailored to serve the State's interest in
    protecting Betty Sue. The scant record shows that once the trial court entered a
    temporary protective order against Favazza in favor of Betty Sue, Favazza and Lambert
    respected that court order.
    A decision of relevance is In re Dependency ofMS.D., 
    144 Wn. App. 468
    , 
    182 P.3d 978
     (2008). The trial court ordered a dependency based on the State's concern that
    the mother failed to protect her daughter from her boyfriend, Seth Poirer. Poirer had a
    ten-year-old conviction for assault and criminal mistreatment of his two-month-old baby.
    The mother's brother also reported to police that Poirer sexually abused M.S.D.
    Nevertheless, a physician, who examined M.S.D., ruled out sexual abuse. This court
    reversed the dependency, even after recognizing the appellate principle that this court
    must affirm the trial court if substantial evidence supports the findings of fact. This court
    observed that a poor choice of a partner is not a reason for the State to interfere in the life
    ofa family.
    Kelly Lambert currently parents another child, Sharon. CPS investigated the
    home environment of Lambert for purposes of parenting Sharon. CPS returned Sharon to
    40
    No. 32441-9-III
    In re Custody ofALD
    the home. Sharon is younger than Betty Sue and needs more care than Betty Sue. An
    anomaly would follow if the State concluded that Lambert can parent a two-year old, but
    a five-year old is taken from Lambert.
    Kimberly Moehlmann claimed that Kelly Lambert allowed Betty Sue to lapse in
    immunizations. The medical records both confirm and contradict this claim. Lambert
    testified she kept Betty Sue current on immunizations. No physician resolved the
    conflicting records. Kimberly Moehlmann testified that Betty Sue needed speech
    therapy. The evidence shows that, although Moehlmann assisted with ferrying Betty Sue
    to therapy, Kelly Lambert initially arranged for the therapy.
    No evidence supports a conclusion that Kelly Lambert's care for Betty Sue stunted
    the infant's growth and development. No evidence supports Betty Sue currently having
    special needs to which Lambert is unable to attend. This appeal's facts do not constitute
    extraordinary circumstances warranting breaching Kelly Lambert's fundamental right to
    parent her child.
    Kelly Lambert filed a reply brief captioned "Appellant's Reply Brief and Renewed
    Motion to Strike." In the brief, Lambert complained of factual inaccuracies in the
    Moehlmanns' respondent brief. Because the motion violates the strictures of Title 17 of
    the Rules of Appellate Procedure, we refuse to address it.
    CONCLUSION
    We reverse the granting of Kimberly and Rod Moehlmann's nonparental custody
    41
    No. 32441-9-111
    In re Custody ofALD
    petition. We dismiss the petition with prejudice.
    3-~ s
    Fearing, 1.   8-= (
    WE CONCUR:
    57~w~C~
    Siddoway, C.J.               V
    42
    No. 32441-9-111
    BROWN, J. (dissenting) -    Trial judges in third party custody cases, like this one
    concerning A.L.D., resolve agonizing competing facts after trial and apply the relevant
    law to the facts found. Trial judges exclusively decide close, difficult questions of
    evidence weight and witness credibility because they see the evidence presented and see
    the witnesses testify. Trial judges should not be lectured on moral imperatives and need
    I
    not be reminded of how excruciating this process is when acting under law as impartial,
    secular decision makers.
    Appellate judges on review do not determine who should have custody. We do
    not decide anew evidence weight and witness credibility. In re Sego, 
    82 Wn.2d 736
    , 739­
    40, 
    513 P.2d 831
     (1973). Our role here is to decide if sufficient evidence supports the
    trial court's findings of fact, and if those findings support the conclusions oflaw; this is
    true even if we would have decided the facts differently, or would prefer to believe one
    witness over another, or would prefer a different result. 
    Id. at 740
    .
    In my view, sufficient evidence supports the trial court's findings of fact; the
    findings of fact support its conclusions oflaw. Generally, the trial court found Ms.
    No. 32441-9-111
    Moehlmann v. Lambert - Dissent
    Lambert (1) chose to infrequently visit A.L.D., (2) moved frequently causing
    inconsistency and instability, (3) was impaired in her ability to parent by mental health
    problems, (4) willfully and consistently failed to protect A.L.D., (5) disregarded A.L.D.'s
    welfare by carelessly abandoning A.L.D; with Ms. Cozza and Mr. Hoffman, and (6)
    endangered A.L.D.'s safety by denying Mr. Favazza's child molestation conviction. The
    trial court specified it reconsidered the factual allegations concerning Mr. Favazza that
    were first considered by CPS. Because I would affirm, I respectfully dissent.
    Brown, J.
    2