Palmer v. Palmer

Maxwell, J:

This is a suit for divorce, the wife being the complainant. Her grounds of complaint are, extreme cruelty and habitual indulgence of violent and ungovernable temper towards her on the part of the husband. The original bill having been deficient in specifying the acts on which these charges were predicated, an amended bill was filed, to \vhich there was a demurrer, afterwards waived, as it was succeeded by an answer without any disposal of the demurrer, so far as shown by the record. Issue was made, proofs taken, and on the final hearing a decree was rendered for the complainant, and from that the husband brings this appeal.

In support of its general charges, the amended bill alleges that the defendant failed to provide complainant sufficient food and clothing, so that she and her children frequently suffered for the common necessaries of life; that during her first and second pregnancy, he would force her to perform manual labor far beyond the strength of even a woman in good health, and when she would fail to perform the labor demanded he would fi-y into violent passion and abuse her, using the most indecent, harsh and profane language; that at one timé not more than fifteen minutes before her confinement he compelled her to run after his mule, which he hqd negligently allowed to escape, and becoming very angry cursed and abused her because she could not catch or round up the mule, although she did all she could, and from her exertions and the abuse she was seized with labor pains, and soon after was delivered of a child, suffering intensely at the time and for several days thereafter, and this nearly resulted in the death of both herself and child, which was caused by this unkindness and cruel treatment he scarcely ever speaking a kind word to her during the suffering. That while they lived together he would often for nothing or for the most trivial causes fly into paroxysms of uncontrollable passion towards her, and would curse and abuse her, telling her he wished she was dead, and that he and the children would be better off if she were dead. Sometimes he would become angry with his team wheñ plowing or driving, and would come home and vent his anger upon her. That beginning almost immediately after their marriage, and down to their separation he was constantly quarreling at her and abusing her. Once she returned in the night from a neighbor’s house, where she had been attending a musical entertainment, and found that he had locked her out, and it was with great difficulty that she effected an entrance; and he became angry with her because she had entered, and refused during the succeeding week to furnish her with food for herself and children, causing them great suffering. That about four months ago he became violently angry with her for allowing her mother to visit her, and threatened to kick her out of the house if she did not keep her mother away, and his treatment of her father’s family had been such that she has been entirely deprived of their pleasant social intercourse. That she is both by nature and by sickness and long suffering, brought on by his unkindness and ill-treatment, of a highly nervous and excitable temperament, and he, well knowing this, has often, with intention of worrying, annoying and injuring her both bodily and mentally, said unkind and cruel things to her, which had the intended effect. At one time, because she would not make a deed to him of the place on which they lived, the title of which was in her, he became very angry and told her that but for the fact that the title was in her name he would kick her from it. She refused to make the deed then, but sometime afterwards discovered that in making a deed to one Randall at defendant’s request, he had, without her knowledge, fraudulently inserted therein the numbers of the land of their home place, and that through several conveyances the same had been deeded to him. Whereupon, “unable longer to endure,” etc., she separated from him.

There are other charges in the bill with a view to having the custody of the children awarded to complainant, but these need not be set out, as this becomes unnecessary under our view of the merits of the case upon the evidence.

The answer of defendant to the original and amended bills give a categorical denial of every material allegation therein, adding explanation as to some of the charges, and vindication of conduct in some matters not deemed material by us; but it is unnecessary to recite details, since all through the case the complainant and defendant are in direct antagonism in their allegations and testimony, and thus apparently neutralize each other, leaving us to determine between them by rules of evidence, and by other testimony as these may dictate.

In the attempt to sustain by evidence the charges of extreme cruelty, and of the habitual indulgence of violent and ungovernable temper, the facts are so intermingled as to leave it uncertain, for the most part, to which of those grounds of divorce respectively they are intended to be applied; many facts being common to each ground, we will apply them indiscriminately, distinguishing others as occasion may require.

The case is one in which there is no allegation of actual violence to the person of complainant, nor any testimony that in the slightest degree pqinfs. to violence. It must, therefore, be governed, in respect to cruelty, by the rules of law which relate to divorce for injury inflicted through the mental and emotional nature. In this State it has been held that such injury, when in effect on health and happiness it is no less damaging than the effect of blows on the body, sufficient to amount to legal cruelty, is good cause for divorce. Donald vs. Donald, 21 Fla., 571. But the treatment, or abuse, or neglect, or conduct, whatever it may be, short of bodily violence, that will authorize divorce, must be of a character to damage health, or to render cohabitation intolerable and unsafe. The Donald case goes no further than this; and its doctrine on the subject is approved in Williams vs. Williams, 23 Fla., 324. ut it may be said further, that in the absence of bodily violence, if threatening, or the abuse or mistreatment is of a flagrant kind to cause reasonable apprehension of such violence, so as to render it impracticable to discharge marital duties because of this apprehension, relief should be granted. Under the authorities cited in the Williams case, this rule is held to apply in the instance of a single act of violence, and we think it no less applicable, even if there has been no act of violence, where the conduct complained of has given equally strong and reasonable ground for abiding apprehension.

Giving the wife in the case at bar the benefit, of this rule, and also of the rule which takes into consideration the effecj: on her health of the mistreatment charged against her husband, there having been no actual violence, we do not find in the evidence satisfactory proof to sustain the complainj; for divorce on the ground of extreme cruelty. Apart from her own testimony on material points, which is directly contradicted by the testimony of the husband, there is little j:o support the charges of the bill- There is enough, if general assertions by witnesses of extreme cruelty could be of any avail, but when they come to specify the acts which constitute the cruelty, the evidence is altogether insufficient. For instance, as to neglect in supplying food and clothing for the wife and children, which is the most serious ground of complaint, much of the evidence for complainant consists of statements made by her to neighbors. Fanny Robles sa)/s “she came to our house once saying she was hungry and wanted some fresh meat, that she had none at home, that she had’nt anything to eat. She only came this once for something to eat.” But she says also, “ I have been there (house of the parties) when he had plenty, and still I have been there at other times when he had scarcely anything at all in his house to eat. One time he had only a barrel of flour in his house. If he had anything else there it was certainly not in his cupboard, store room or kitchen. * * * I have known this to occur after.” Then she tells how the children would run to the cupboard for something to eat when they were brought to her house.' As to clothing, this witness says, “I can’t tell very well” how Mr. Palmer provided for his family. “On one occasion, I spent the night with Mrs. Palmer, and she had neither nightgown for herself, or to offer her company.” ' But further on she says, Mrs. Palmer always appeared to be comfortably clad, and to have enough, but not as much as the other ladies.” All another witness says is, “that according to their circumstances, Mrs. Palmer did not have plenty of clothing, or what they ought to have had.” The mother of complainant says, her daughter sometimes came to her house for something to eat, and has told her she did not have enough to eat at home; but says also, “ I don’t know that I can say that I ever visited her house when she was out of provisions,” adding, “I went there very seldom, and my stays were very short; don’t know whether there were provisions, or not.”

This testimony for complainant on the charge under consideration, which is all the record shows of any consequence, except that of complainant herself, wholly fails to prove that she or her children at any time suffered for the want of food or clothes. Indeed, one of the circumstances stated by one of more of the witnesses and relied on to show that they did—the running of the children to the cupboard of neighbors when their mother took them visiting— produces on the mind of the writer a contrary impression. The little fellows must have learned from their experience at home where to find something to eat, and that experience led them to expect the same elsewhere. The manners of such conduct was more involved than hunger. But the other testimony is scarcely of more force. As a matter to be noted as significant is, that the only witness of complainant who had boarded in the house at different times had nothing to say about deficiency of food or clothing.

On the other hand a number of witnesses for defendant, whose opportunities for observation as near neighbors, visitors, and some of them boarders, were good, testify that the family was well provided with provisions and clothing. Some of this testimony, to the effect that the witnesses, though near neighbors to the parties, and being with them from time to time, never heard or saw anything to justify the complaints of the wife, being of a negative character, is of little weight, but that of those who boarded in the house for months, one of them a boarder for four or five months just preceding the separation, is positive to the effect that there was no deficiency of supplies; and as to clothing of wife and children, a list of what was in the house when complainant left her husband, taken by two neighboring ladies at his request soon after she left, shows ample supply for the famify, and they say it was sufficient, and that there was also sufficient comfortable furniture in the house. We do not give the evidence of the several witnesses in detail, but its substance is as we have stated it, and its preponderence over that in behalf of complainant is very manifest in the record.

There is no evidence but her own as to the husband’s foreing complainant to do manual labor fat beyond her strength, and his violent passion and abuse when she would fail to perform the labor demanded; or as to compulsion to run after a mule no more than fifteen minutes before her confinement, and his cursing and abuse because she could not catch or round up the mule, and the consequent injurious effects upon her; or as to her being locked out one night when she returned from a musical entertainment, and his anger on the occasion, and his refusal during the succeeding week to furnish food for herself and children; and her evidence on these complaints is denied by defendant.

In regard to the complaint against the husband respecting his conduct towards her father, mother and family of complainant, there is nothing shown that could seriously affect the life of complainant. There was some interruption of intercourse between them, because the father and mother seem to have found it disagreeable to visit the house of complainant often, and there was unpleasantness because defendant objected to what he considered too much sponging of the family upon him. There is really some evidence to show an active and kindly interest of defendant in members of complainant’s family, but the complaint to the contrary is so unwarranted, so far as appears from the evidence, that we deem it unnecessary to discuss the matter further. Dislikes that so frequently occur under similar circumstances, if they lead to nothing worse than intemperate language, do not furnish sufficient occasion to break the marriage tie.

Another complaint much relied on is the alleged fraudulent conduct of the husband in procuring the title of the home lands which he had deeded to the wife to be transferred back -to himself. This transaction .could not have been consummated except by the joining of the wife therein, but she charges that the numbers of the lands of the home place were fraudulently inserted by defendant in the deed she signed, and without her knowledge. The defendant denies this, asserting that he practiced no deceit and that she knew she rvas deeding the whole property. In their testimony they are in direct conflict as to what occurred between them then, touching her knowledge of the contents of the deed, and there is no testimony but hers to support her charge. So far as she implicates the brother-in-law of her husband, Charles Gay, in the alleged scheme to deprive her of her lands, he admits that he had a conversation with the husband about the effect upon his credit of having the title to the lands in the name of his wife, but denies that he ever “advised him to get the title out of his wife’s hands, or anything of the kind;” and says that when he received the trust deed under which he conveyed the lands to the husband, it was a surprise to him. We do not find the proof in regard to this land transaction sufficient to make it the basis for a divorce; and we are not prepared to say that even if the alleged fraud were satisfactorily proven, it is such cruelty as under the law would authorize so grave a remedy as divorce.

We come now to the evidence that may be applied alike to both the .grounds on which the divorce is sought— extreme cruelty, and the habitual indulgence of violent and ungovernable temper. We have seen that where there has been no real violence, the acts or conduct which will authorize divorce on the first of these grounds, must be such as affect health, or such as give reasonable apprehension of violence not yet committed. *The evidence entirely fails, in our judgment, to show that complainant has suffered in health from any treatment of her husband, or that her health has been at all affected, except in such a way as results from child-bearing, and this is not shown to have extended beyond the ordinary course of nature.1 She had three children within less than six years, and is not shown to have been in a worse state for bearing the third than for bearing the first, though in the meantime she had the burden of nursing, in addition to the labor and household duties devolving on her as the wife of an ordinary workingman. If she had toothache, backache during pregnancy and at other times, nervous depressions that sometimes send a wife and mother to the lounge, these are not such unusual conditions in early married life as to drive one to the conclusion that there must have been other than natural causes to produce them; and such conclusion will not be adopted in the absence of stronger evidence than appears in this case that the ailments were caused by maltreatment. The evidence also fails to show that there was any reasonable ground on which the wife could entertain apprehension of bodily violence. For a man of such violent temper as she and some of her witnesses impute to the husband, it is remarkable that not a single instance of actual violence on his part against her or any other human being is produced; while on the other hand it is stated, and not denied, that he was never known to strike or engage in bodily conflict with anyone. Nothing in his past conduct, therefore, could justify any fear of violence from him. So, neither as to health, nor as to reasonable apprehension of future violence, do we find proof sufficient to authorize divoixe .on the ground of cruelty.

As to the “habitual indulgence of violent and ungovernable temper,” it must be temper displayed towards the complainant. (Johnson vs. Johnson, 23 Fla., 413.) Further than this there is no decision in this State, or elsewhere, so far as we can discover, which defines the meaning and scope of this language of the statute; and the difficulty of giving any satisfactory general definition beyond that inherent in the words themselves is apparent. So that the circumstances and facts'of each case must be the guide by which to determine whether a party is obnoxious to the charge. And it is not enough that these should merely show the temper as one exhibited in a general way, as one characteristic of the party, nor enough that when exhibited towards a complainant it is only calculated to render the relations betwen the parties unpleasant and disagreeable, or even unhappy. This state of feeling may be produced by but occasional outbursts of the temper described, or by indulgence of a lesser degree of passion, by constant petulence, readiness to anger, a spirit prompting to frequent and unreasonable complaints, and other like causes inimical to domestic happiness. But these do not make a case for divorce under this statute; and to make a case on the temper described, that temper must have been indulged against the complainant habitually, and with the effect of rendering life an oppressive and intolerable burden, and making it impracticable to discharge the duties of the marriage state under such burden.

Looking to the evidence in support of the charge in the present case, we find that of the complainant offset by that of the defendant in all material matters. While she says in general terms that his temper towards her was violent and ungovernable, the instances she gives to show this, either as to language or conduct, are for the most part insufficient to show more than crossness, or sulkiness, or anger. Her own expressions in regard to those instances are not stronger than “cross,” “unkind,” “harsh,” “angry,” “cruel;” and altogether this sort of display of his temper, so far as gathered from her evidence, occurred in domestic disputes, or family complaints, that took the usual course of such disputes and complaints, and in which at times he may have been offensive and too censorious, but not to the extent of displaying a violent and ungovernable temper. But the defendant, admitting that he was sometimes in bad temper with his wife, and spoke to her angrily, says that he was ordinarily kind and indulgent to her; and his evidence amounts to a denial, or reasonable explanation, of all the specific charges appearing in the testimony of his wife that are of any serious consequence.

Of other witnesses called for complainant, Fanny Robles seems to have been most relied on to support the charge. She seems to have been a specially intimate friend of complainant, and was often at her house. The most she says, instancing different occasions, is that defendant acted “rude and ungentlemanly,” “his manner was very insulting,” “spoke to his wife as though she was a brute,” called her a “liar,” and a “good for nothing lazy lout,” “noticed his ill-treatment of his wife,” etc., there being in.her’ testimony nothing stronger to show violent and ungovernable temper of defendant towards his wife. F. M. Robles, another witness for complainant, being asked if he knew the character of defendant in the community in which he lives “for being a man of ungovernable temper,” replied, “I think he has a very high temper, and exhibits it very often, but whether it is governable or ungovernable, I cannot say;” and he says afterwards, “I have known Mr. Palmer on several occasions to exhibit his temper, acting very badly towards his team, towards his children, and towards his wife, and in speaking about his neighbors,” and then gives instances of “unkind” action that are simply trivial. The Chamberlains, husband and wife, witnesses for complainant, give little testimony on the subject, except as to the high passion defendant was in the day his wife left him, (which is not at all pertinent,) and a confession of defendant to Mr. Chamberlain at that time, that when he got mad : “I rave and storm around, and then it is all over, but when my wife gets mad she never says any^ thing. If she would say something, would quarrel with me, and be over with it, it would be better.” S. J. Lyon, a witness for complainant, and a near neighbor, who has known the parties for eight years, says : “I never heard anything of Mr. Palmer’s being a high-tempered man before this case commenced. * * * I have never regarded him as being a man of ungovernable temper.” A. Thompson says : “the defendant was habitually quarrelsome, domineering, and abusive in his language. He was generally so in his neighborhood. He was cruel to animals,” etc,, but he says nothing of defendant’s conduct towards his wife. Mr. and Mrs. Jagger, father and mother of complainant, say, the first, that he “dosen’t know much about what temper Mr. Palmer .exhibited at his house, for I was not there. I have seen him exhibit his temper with his team and parties outside.” The latter, when asked as to her knowledge of defendant’s unkindness to his wife, said : “when I would be there he was always finding fault with her, she could never do anything right, and in such a way that he was very unkind and cruel.” White, who lived two months with the parties, says : “defendant’s treatment towards his wife * * * was unkind. * * * He frequently appeared to be mad and cursed and abused his wife and threatened to kick her off the place.”

There is nothing in the evidence of greater force against defendant than what we have quoted. Considering the case, then, upon the evidence for complainant alone, it shows the defendant to be a man of irascible disposition, of querulous habit, and prone to use harsh and improper language; but it does not show the higher temper which. the statute contemplates, and so far as it has any tendency in that direction, it fails to show the habitual indulgence of it towards his wife, which is a necessary ingredient of the complaint.

But on the part of defendant there are several witnesses, some of the(m near neighbors, and others inmates of the household for weeks and months, who testify to the kindly conduct of defendant towards his wife, so far as their observations extended, and to the absence of any such exhibitions of temper as are charged against him, while in their presence.. This is somewhat negative evidence, but it is hardly conceivable that if the defendant had the outrageous temper ascribed to him, he would not sometimes have displayed it before some one or more of the eleven witnesses who testify in his favor on this subject, and who had such opportunities to observe his conduct. The immense volume of testimony has forbidden any attempt to give much of it in even the briefest condensation, and hence we limit ourselves mainly to the conclusions we have drawn from it, after the most careful study of the whole of it. Of the evidence for defendant as to temper, we copy only that 01 one witness who worked and boarded with him five or six months immediately preceding the separation, He says; “All I saw of Mr. Palmer’s conduct towards his wife while I was there was nice and kind. Never knew there was any difficulty between them. Mr. Palmer acted towards his children just as a nice father could, and they did so towards him. When Mr. Palmer would come in with his wagon at qny tirpe of day botji of the children would run out witl} their hands up to meet their father, and he would take them up into the wagon very kindly and set one of them on his knee and the other beside him, and drive to the barn, where he would take them down very kindly and gently. When Mr. Palmer was at home he would bring in wood and water, make fires, and start to cooking the breakfast. I have seen him wash and dress his children, and sometimes put them to bed. When I was boarding there I had always plenty to eat, and everybody else had. Of different things too. During the whole time I was there I never heard Mr. Palmer use an unkind word towards his wife and children.”

We omit comment on a great deal of evidence in regard to quarrels of defendant with his neighbors, as it has no pertinency, but even if it had there is nothing in it that shows more than occurs in ordinary disputes between neighbors. We think much of what is said against defendant arises from his habit of loud and vehement talking—several witnesses testifying that this is his habit in ordinary conversation.

Reviewing the whole case upon the law and evidence, as we understand both-, it appears to us that neither the charge of extreme cruelty nor that of the habitual indulgence of violent and ungovernable temper is sustained by the proofs. As to the former, we think there can be no doubt of the failure of proof, and as to the latter, if complainant’s evidence does not fail, as we think it does, to sustain her case, certainly the record shows a preponderence of evidence largely in favor of the defendant. And when it is seen that these charges are made against a man, who, notwithstanding all his loud and boisterous talking, and his petulent and angry complainings, never committed an act of violence upon any one, who is a sober, industrious, hard working laborer, who strove to place his wife on a plane with cultivated society, expending his hard earned means in providing a home in which comfortable furniture and a piano for her were evidences of his family pride and devotion, whose children showed their eagerness to run to him when he returned home from his work, thus evincing that they found in him a kindness of nature inconsistent with the character this suit seeks to stamp upon him, who, when his character for veracity is attacked, produced abundant evidence to put the attack to shame, and who has shown a conciliatory spirit in this controversy ill marked contrast to that of complainant—when all this is seen, we cannot but think that such a man should not be condemned except upon better and stronger evidence than has been produced against him in this cace.

The decree is reversed and the bill will be dismissed.