Lindsey v. Lindsey

By the Court.

Starnes, J.

delivering the opinion.

[1.] It is questionable, from the testimony, whether or not Sarah Lindsey was near enough to the witness, Downs, Perry and her mother, to hear the conversation which Downs says occurred between himself and these persons. If she did not hear it, she was not bound by it. The witness says she was sitting about twenty feet from where the conversation took place; if so, it was possible for her to hear what was said, and so the Court may have thought, when the testimony was admitted.

But if this be not so, it occurs to us that what was thqp said, if at all material, was rather in favor of plaintiff in error.— The statements amounted to declarations, that Perry called plaintiff in error his wife, and that Mrs. Jeffries, the mother, said he was her son-in-law. As the record shows, it was proven by another witness, that subsequently to her separation from the defendant in error, he had seen the plaintiff in error with a child not twelve months old, which she called “ her baby” ; and this child, it seems, must have been begotten and born since that separation. In asserting the relationship of wife with Perry, she was* at all events, claiming to live in a position with the probable father of this child, somewhat more respectable than shameless concubinage,

[2.] In a proceeding like this before us, the question, as to which parent is entitled to the custody of the child, is to be determined with reference to the welfare of that child, and is properly lodged in the discretion of the Circuit Judge, before whom the habeas corpus is made returnable. Unless there appears to be some flagrant abuse of that discretion, this Court will not interfere with the exercise of it. There is an obvious propriety in this. The Judge, in such case, is more of the vicinage, as it were, than this Court, has probably better opportunity of knowing the parties — their means, &c. He has them before him, and has the benefit of their demeanor and appearance, in aid of his judgment. So, of witnesses. He may be familiar with their reputations — looks them in the face when they speak —has the benefit of their conduct and appearance, and pronounces his judgment accordingly. For these reasons, a case of glaring error should he required, to authorize an interference, by us, with a judgment thus formed. Such, this cáse is not.

It is insisted, that by the return of the plaintiff in error, it appears, that this defendant in error had treated her badly, while they lived together — had himself committed adultery — that Ids character was no better than it should be, and that, consequently, he was a very unfit person to have the custody of this infant daughter.

His return is the statement of the plaintiff in error, and is entitled to very little weight in the consideration of this question. But if its statements be admitted, we are not prepared to say that the decision Avas wrong.

Upon principles of abstract ethics, there may be no difference in the sin of the man and the AVoman, who violate the laws of chastity. In the eye of an omniscient God, the Avealc and erring Avornan may not be, (to say the least,) the more sinful and degraded of the íavo. But we do knoAV, that in the opinion of society, it is otherwise. The man may notoriously sin in this regard; and yet, sometimes, retain a position of respectability, or quasi respectability, by means of Avhich his relations and those of his family, Avith decent people, are maintained ; his children may associate with such persons, and be educated to become good and useful members of society. But otherwise is it with the frail female; for Ayhon once she sins after this sort, she sins against society. Easy is the descent, Avith her, then, to an Avernus of utter and irremediable ruin, Avhere her associations are Avith the vulgar, the vile and the depraved. If her children be with her, their characters must be, more or less, influenced and formed by the circumstances Avhich surround them.

Even if it be admitted that there Avas proof before the Court, shoAving this father to have committed adultery, and to have been, himself, of habits more or less profligate, yet, the above considerations enable us to see, very clearly, hoAV, compelled as the Judge Avas, to award this child to one of two exceptionable parents; and looking, alone, to its interests, lie dioso the father, as the least objectionable.

[3.] The Court committed no error which Ave can correct, Avhen he refused to suspend his judgment, at the instance off the counsel for the plaintiff, in error. His Honor was not compelled to direct a supersedeas, until the bill of exceptions was filed; for the provision of the law is, that “the bill of exceptions shall operate as a supersedeas to the judgment, &c. in all cases where bond may be given, or affidavit filed,” &c. No bill of exceptions was filed, and the judgment was not necessarily to be superceded until this was done.

Nevertheless, we think that the best q,nd proper practice is, to suspend the judgment for the reasonable time which may be required to file the bill of exceptions, when notice is given by counsel that a bill will be filed, in all those cases where, if the judgment be instantly pronounced and carried into effect, the’ person in whose favor it is rendered, may put it out of the power of the other party, who is suing out his writ of error without delay, to be placed in the situation in which he was at the time of the judgment. It is said tha.t this has been done in this case, by the removal of the child beyond the jurisdiction of the Court. Where it is possible that such a result may ensue, it is better that the short delay asked for should be granted. From this course, but slight injury can result, when serious and irreparable wrong may ensue from a different practice.

Let the judgment be affirmed.