Judges: Cartwright
Filed Date: 12/12/1892
Status: Precedential
Modified Date: 10/18/2024
The parties to this suit were married in February, 1877. It was a second experience in the marital relation for each of them. Both were of mature years and had children of their previous marriages, and there was a child born of this marriage. Soon after this marriage, difficulties arose between them, and continued with such frequency, that their home was very often a scene of dissension and strife. On three different occasions the wife left her husband, intending to remain away from him, but through the intervention of friends, she twice returned. The last time that fehe left him was in January, 1890; soon after which time she filed the bill in this case for separate maintenance, alleging that he had used personal violence toward her on several occasions, and that by abusive epithets and aggravating conduct, her life was rendered so miserable that she was obliged to leave him. An answer was filed, denying all charges of misconduct contained in the bill. Keplication being filed, the cause was heard and the witnesses were examined orally before the court, and the bill was dismissed at her cost for want of equity.
The evidence shows that during the time they lived together they were quarreling pretty continuously for several years before the final separation. Almost any subject seems to have been sufficient to afford a theme, and almost any remark a pretest for dispute. They seem to have been disposed to annoy 'each other. He was determined that all the household affairs should be regulated by him. lie testified that he knew how to run the kitchen, how to make the coffee and fry the meat, and that he wanted things done according to his plan. He wanted to manage and give directions concerning the churning, cooking and other domestic affairs, and claimed that right of control and dictatorship which is characteristic of the petty tyrant. The first occasion of her leaving him was when she had gone from home to spend the fourth of July, and as he testified he “ gave her orders to come home early.” His orders were not carefully observed, and there was much trouble in consequence. He took a petty revenge by selling their buggy, on account of something that he claimed that she had said about him.
While the husband was tyrannical, the wife was quarrelsome, and took part with much vigor in the domestic warfare. He was a wealthy farmer, and sent a wagon to bring her twelve miles, without a suitable seat, so that she was compelled to ride that distance on a board. She reproached him and he said that his first wife would go to church on a board and it was good enough, whereupon she threw hot coffee on him. He allowed pigs and calves to run in the front yard and destroy the sod and flowers, to her annoyance; and when he finally built a fence he made it without a gate to reach the wood pile, so as to compel her and her assistant to climb the fence to get wood. She took an axe and made kindling wood of his fence in short order. She had an ungoverned tongue, which she used with great freedom. She was given, to much scolding and thereby provoked quarrels. She Avould indulge in uncalled-for and unbecoming contradiction, as on one occasion Avhen he Avas saying that he had some evidence that angels communicated AAÚth human beings, and stated that his dying daughter called attention to the appearance of angels in the room, when his Avife contradicted him and said that he lied about Avliat the dying daughter said. The final separation occurred at a time Avhen he had invited a minister to the house, Avhereat she was very angry without any justifiable cause, and her conduct Avas very discourteous. In the morning after the minister had spent the night there, she proAroked a quarrel by a remark concerning him, and she testified that her husband then slapped her face. The husband "testified that she Avas assaulting him with a broomstick draAvn over his head, and that he SAVung her away Avith his hand in self-defense. The minister arose and dressed himself, partly out of doors, and left, and she also left the premises. The above occurrences are fair samples of the difficulties of these parties. She testified to other acts of personal violence occurring long before the separation, but they Avere specifically denied, and, in our judgment, are not proven.
It is contended on the part of plaintiff in error that the separation which resulted from these causes was Avithout her fault, and that she is therefore entitled to separate maintenance. The law did not require perfection on her part, nor that she should be so entirely blameless that her conduct under irritating and aggravating conditions should be wholly free from just criticism, but if she Avas guilty of misconduct which materially contributed to produce the conditions that she complains of as justifying the separation, then she was not without fault Avithin the meaning of the statute.' We think the evidence fully justified the Circuit Court in the conclusion that she did, by continuous scolding and quarreling, materially contribute to the unhappy condition existing in her home, Avhich she relies upon to justify her in leaving it. The conduct of defendant in error Avould doubtless be very trying to any Avoman, hoAArever reasonable and Avelldisposed she might he, and it would excuse much irritation and justify much resistance on the part of plaintiff in error, hut the evidence shows that she was unreasonably contentions and often provoked him to quarrels which would not otherwise have occurred. We think that under these circumstances she could have no decree for separate maintenance.
A motion was made by plaintiff in error in the Circuit Court for an allowance to enable her to prosecute an appeal to this court. The motion was denied, and this is assigned as error. She had the judgment of that court upon the evidence produced, that her bill was without equity. We concur in that conclusion. The motion for an allowance to enable her to prosecute an appeal was properly denied.
The decree will be affirmed.
Decree affirmed.