Citation Numbers: 447 Mass. 828, 857 N.E.2d 1061, 2006 Mass. LEXIS 692
Judges: Marshall
Filed Date: 12/8/2006
Status: Precedential
Modified Date: 10/19/2024
This case raises two questions of first im
The plaintiff, A.H., appeals from the judgment of the Probate and Family Court dismissing her verified complaint in equity, see G. L. c. 215, § 6, against the defendant, M.P., her former same-sex partner, for parental rights to the child they agreed during their relationship to have and coparent. The parties separated when the child was eighteen months old. The plaintiff claims on appeal that the Probate and Family Court judge applied erroneously narrow standards for determining de facto parent status, that the defendant is estopped by her behavior during the relationship and her statements during the litigation from asserting that the plaintiff is not the child’s de facto parent, that the plaintiff is entitled to “full parental rights” as the child’s de facto parent, that the judge erred in not considering the child’s best interests, and that the judge’s legal conclusions and ultimate findings are not supported by the evidence. We affirm.
At the outset, we note the plaintiff’s assertion that this case, the operative facts of which took place before our decision in Goodridge v. Department of Pub. Health, 440 Mass. 309 (2003), is about ensuring that families in which parents are of the same gender are provided with the same “stabilizing structures” that our laws provide to families with married heterosexual parents. It is not. As the detailed findings, conclusions, and rationale of the judge make clear, this case is about the best interests of the child in circumstances in which one of the parties, in this case the plaintiff, agreed that the major share of the child’s caretaking would be undertaken by the other party during their relationship, declined during the course of the relationship to move
The plaintiff’s claims implicate the intimate, private right of competent adults to choose, or not to choose, the full responsibilities and obligations of legal parents when they have the means and opportunity to do so, and to do so free from government intrusion. See, e.g., A.Z. v. B.Z., 431 Mass. 150, 160, 162 (2000) (private agreement compelling party to become parent against the party’s will unenforceable to protect freedom of choice in realm of family life). The record demonstrates that the plaintiff loves the child, and, as the judge found, the child “may very well . . . derive benefits” from his contact with the plaintiff. But these facts are insufficient, in themselves, to accord the plaintiff parental benefits. For the reasons we discuss below, we decline the plaintiffs invitation to erase the distinctions between biological and adoptive parents, on the one hand, and de facto parents, on the other, and to apply estoppel principles to intrude into the private realm of an autonomous, if nonintact, family in which the child’s best interests are appropriately taken into consideration.
1. Background, a. Facts. We summarize the judge’s findings, supplemented as appropriate by uncontested evidence of record. We postpone the recitation of some facts to latter portions of this opinion.
The parties began their relationship in 1995, and jointly purchased a home in 1998. After investigating the options for gay and lesbian couples to become parents, they decided that each party should bear a child using the same anonymous sperm donor, with the defendant being the first to conceive. In 2000,
The parties contacted an attorney to discuss the plaintiff’s adopting the child. The attorney explained the importance of adoption for securing the parental rights of lesbian and gay parents, and the plaintiff understood and appreciated these concerns.
After the child’s birth, the defendant stopped working entirely to take full-time care of the child, an arrangement the parties expected to continue for about one year. The plaintiff took a three-month maternity leave from her job as the coexecutive director of a nonprofit agency, but returned to work after two months. During those two months the plaintiff’s contributions to the child’s caretaking were at their maximum. She soothed him in the evening when, as frequently happened, he awoke colicky, and she walked him, bathed him, diapered him, and otherwise attended to his well-being. Except for diapering, which was a special routine between the plaintiff and the child, the defendant also performed these caretaking tasks, as well as breast feeding and directing his daily routine and was, in the judge’s words, the “final arbiter” in respect to the child’s care.
In March, 2002, the plaintiffs employer lost major funding, plunging the organization into crisis and forcing the plaintiff to lay off employees and to reduce her own pay. The plaintiff testified that, during the subsequent twelve months, she was forced to jettison all nonessential activities, and to devote her full attention and energy to keeping the organization afloat, in the hopes that rescuing the organization would lead to an increase in salary. The plaintiff also testified that during the time when the demands of her job increased, she participated in two biathlons and one half-marathon. The judge did not credit the plaintiff’s testimony that, during the same time period, she ran only once a week, and often with the child.
About six or seven months after the child’s birth, the plaintiff asked the defendant to return to work. Although this was not what the couple had agreed to, the defendant acquiesced, interviewed and hired a nanny, and returned to work part time from home, beginning in April, 2002. At around this time, the relationship between the parties began to deteriorate markedly. The defendant became increasingly troubled by the plaintiff’s long work hours, her failure to complete the adoption papers, and what she saw as the plaintiff’s lack of interest in assuming equal responsibility for the child’s care, even as she continued to go out with friends and pursue outside hobbies. The defendant reported to one of the guardians ad litem that she “felt that [the plaintiff] took a different view of parenting, beating the child as a ‘show-thing’ while T was raising this kid — we weren’t doing this together.’ ”
b. Procedural history. On July 18, 2003, the plaintiff filed a verified complaint in equity for joint legal and physical custody and visitation, seeking to establish her status as a de facto parent, the establishment of custodial rights in accordance with the child’s best interests, and an order that she, the plaintiff, pay child support.
The plaintiff filed her complaint in equity on July 18, 2003, and the defendant subsequently moved for child support and to resume the visitation schedule that the parties had agreed to
On June 17, 2004, the defendant moved to vacate the child support order. The defendant’s amended motion to vacate the support order, a decision which was originally deferred, was allowed on February 2, 2005, following our decision in T.F. v. B.L., 442 Mass. 522 (2004) (declining to impose child support obligation on former same-sex partner who was not the biological or adoptive mother of child in question). The defendant subsequently paid back approximately $9,000 to the plaintiff for child support received. Meanwhile, on July 14, 2004, the plaintiff moved for increased visitation, which was denied.
Also on July 14, 2004, the judge entered an order prohibiting
On July 3, 2006, following the trial, the judge entered a judgment dismissing all of the plaintiffs claims and awarding sole legal and physical custody to the defendant, with any visitation between her and the child left to the defendant’s discretion. The judge concluded that, among other things, the plaintiff had failed to meet her burden of proving de facto status. Specifically, she found that the plaintiff’s efforts during the relationship toward the child’s care were not equal either in quantity or quality to those of the defendant, that the plaintiff had failed to prove that continued contact between the plaintiff and the child was in his best interests, that visitation would not be in the child’s best interests because the plaintiff, “in direct contravention of both the parties’ previous practices and common sense . . . selectively ignored [the defendant’s] directives regarding the child’s care and custody,” and that the child would not suffer irreparable harm from the severing of his contact with the plaintiff. She also concluded that the plaintiff had no standing to bring claims for either visitation or a support order under any other theory.
We turn now to our discussion of the legal claims.
The plaintiff maintains that, in assessing whether the plaintiff met her burden of proving that she was the child’s de facto parent, see Care & Protection of Sharlene, supra, the judge erred by failing to consider the plaintiff’s financial contributions to the family, by adopting a quantitative rather than a qualitative analysis in assessing the parties’ respective contributions to the child’s care, and by ignoring the parent-by-estoppel principles set forth in the ALI Principles, supra at § 2.03 (l)(b). We examine each claim in turn.
The judge found that the plaintiff was the primary “breadwinner” of the family, and that the defendant was the primary caretaker. The plaintiff ascribes error to the fact that the judge
We begin with the definition of a de facto parent found in ALI Principles, supra at § 2.03, from which our own de facto parent principles derive. See, e.g., note 13, supra. The ALI Principles distinguish between general “[p]arenting functions,” which are “tasks that serve the needs of the child or the child’s residential family,” ALI Principles, supra at § 2.03 (6), and “[c]aretaking functions,” the subset of parenting functions that focuses on “tasks that involve interaction with the child or that direct, arrange, and supervise the interaction and care provided by others.” Id. at § 2.03 (5). “Parenting functions” that are not “caretaking functions” include, for example, providing financial support and maintaining the home. See id. at § 2.03 (6) & comment g, at 125. Caretaking functions “involve the direct delivery of day-to-day care and supervision of the child,” including grooming, feeding, medical care, and physical supervision. Id. at § 2.03 (5) & comment g.
The distinction between general parenting functions and care-taking is not meant to disparage or discount the role of breadwinners in providing for a child’s welfare, as the plaintiff suggests. Rather, the distinction proceeds from the presumption that the parent-child bond grows from the myriad hands-on activities of an adult in tending to a child’s needs. Unlike other parenting activities, such as serving on a committee at the child’s school or remunerative employment — both of which benefit the child but are not performed directly for him or, usually, in his presence — caretaking tasks “are likely to have a special bearing on the strength and quality of the adult’s relationship with the child.” ALI Principles, supra at § 2.03 comment g. See id. at Introduction at 8 (“How caretaking was divided in the past provides a relatively concrete point of reference which is likely to reflect various qualitative factors that are otherwise very hard to measure, including the strength of the emotional ties between the child and each parent, relative parental competencies, and the willingness of each parent to put the child’s interests first”). The focus on caretaking in the ALI
Our use of the term “caretaking” in cases concerning alleged de facto parent accords with the use of the term in the ALI Principles. See, e.g., Custody of Kali, 439 Mass. 834, 842 (2003) (“stability and continuity with the child’s primary caregiver is itself an important factor in a child’s successful upbringing”); and id. at 844, quoting ALI Principles, supra at § 2.08 (1) (“custody decisions should reflect each parent’s performance of caretaking functions ‘before the filing of the action’ ”); E.N.O. v. L.M.M., supra at 829; Youmans v. Ramos, supra at 776. The notion of “caretaking” as the particular subset of parenting tasks having most directly to do with interacting with and on behalf of the child serves as a valuable tool for assessing the
Next, the plaintiff alleges that, “[rjather than focusing on the quality of the relationship” between the plaintiff and the child,
One of the factors that the ALI Principles set out for courts to consider when a nonlegal parent seeks to prove de facto parent status is that the individual “perform[s] a share of caretaking functions at least as great as that of the parent with whom the child primarily lives.” ALI Principles, supra at § 2.03 (1) (c) (ii) (B). The judge thus quite properly considered the amount of time that the child was in each party’s care. To say that the judge then applied this information in a mechanistic fashion, however, is incorrect. In her rationale for the judgment, the judge noted that, in assessing the child’s attachment to each party, she considered the “quantity [and] quality” of the parties’ caretaking of the child during the relationship. Even a cursory review of the judge’s findings reveals that she considered qualitative factors, such as which party deferred to the other in making major decisions concerning the child’s care, and which party was able, when interacting with the child, to set the appropriate boundaries. In any event, the focus on the caretaking factor in determining de facto parent status does not preclude a judge from considering, within her broad discretion, any other factor of relevance to determining the child’s best interests. There was no error.
3. Parent by estoppel. In addition to the arguments raised above, the plaintiff contends that the judge erred in not viewing the evidence through the lens of the parent by estoppel theory. While recognizing biological and adoptive legal parents and de facto parents within the definition of “parents,” the ALI Principles also recognize “parent by estoppel.” Into this category of parents falls an individual who, in relevant part, although not a legal parent, “(i) is obligated to pay child support . . . or . . . (in) lived with the child since the child’s birth, holding out and accepting full and permanent responsibilities as parent, as part of a prior co-parenting agreement with the child’s legal parent... to raise a child together each with full parental rights and responsibilities, when the court finds that recognition
The ALI Principles make clear that it is not the third party’s reliance on the words or deeds of the legal parent but the best interests of the child that is the paramount consideration in the parent by estoppel analysis. Id. at § 2.03 & comment b (iii), at 115. Unlike a de facto parent, a parent by estoppel “is afforded all of the privileges of a legal parent.” Id. at § 2.03 comment b. Thus, the parent by estoppel principle is a most dramatic intrusion into the rights of fit parents to care for their child as they see fit. See, e.g., Troxel v. Granville, 530 U.S. 59, 65 (2000). It is perhaps for this reason that the ALI Principles contemplate that parent by estoppel status is most appropriate where “adoption is not legally available or possible.” Id. at § 2.03 comment b (iii), at 114.
We decline in this case to accept the plaintiff’s invitation to adopt the parent by estoppel theory. As noted above, a coparent agreement is the foundation of a parent by estoppel claim. Private agreement alone does not suffice to create parental
In sum, we find no merit in the plaintiff’s assertions that the judge took an erroneously narrow view of the criteria by which to assess the plaintiff’s de facto parent claims. We now consider the issue of judicial estoppel.
4. Judicial estoppel. In addition to de facto parent and parent by estoppel theories, the plaintiff relies on general principles of waiver and estoppel to establish her claims to be the child’s
“ ‘Judicial estoppel’ . . . precludes a party from asserting a position in one legal proceeding that is contrary to a position it had previously asserted in another proceeding” (emphasis added). Otis v. Arbella Mut. Ins. Co., 443 Mass. 634, 639-640 (2005), quoting Blanchette v. School Comm. of Westwood, 427 Mass. 176, 184 (1998). See Larson v. Larson, 30 Mass. App. Ct. 418, 427-428 (1991). Judicial estoppel is not a principle that automatically prohibits a party from the rather unexceptional practice of assuming inconsistent positions in the same litigation as the facts and the state of the law evolve or as a party changes counsel; Brown v. Quinn, 406 Mass. 641, 646 (1991), a case on which the plaintiff relies, is not to the contrary. See Larson v. Larson, supra at 427-428.
The judge had good reason to reject the plaintiff’s judicial estoppel argument. First, as we said above, our courts are loath to create parental status based solely on the parties’ use of the operative “magic words.” Second, the judge found that the plaintiff’s early invocation of the de facto parent theory was made in the course of negotiations with the defendant and that the defendant “is not an authority on the legal significance and/or import of the actions taken by her counsel nor the terms employed.” Cf. Rogel v. Collinson, 54 Mass. App. Ct. 304, 312 (2002) (litigant’s “artless[ ]” and “unschooled” use of legal terminology did not constitute a judicial admission). We agree with the judge that, in an evolving area of law, where the significance and legal effect of de facto parentage “remain subject to both debate and further consideration by our higher courts,”
5. Conclusion. For the foregoing reasons, the judgment is affirmed.
So ordered.
At a hearing early in the three-year course of this case, a judge allowed the plaintiff’s motion for an order of temporary visitation with the child.
We acknowledge the amicus briefs filed on behalf of Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders and Fathers and Families, Inc.
The judge noted that whether the child ever referred to the plaintiff as “Mama” during the parties’ relationship was disputed at trial, but she made no specific finding on that point.
Others concerned for the parties also advised them that the plaintiff should adopt the child. A mutual friend of the parties, an attorney, testified that she strongly encouraged the couple to proceed with the adoption, as she was aware of a same-sex custody case that became “very ugly.”
The attorney simultaneously advised the parties to execute other documents, including wills, healthcare proxies, and powers of attorney. Both parties executed healthcare proxies and powers of attorney, naming each other as primary decision makers. The defendant executed a will naming the plaintiff “as the guardian ... of any child of mine” in the event of the defendant’s death, but the plaintiff did not execute her will until five months after the litigation was commenced, a delay she attributed to the adoption attorney’s advice to seek independent legal advice concerning her estate. The plaintiff did, however, designate the defendant as the beneficiary of life insurance policies worth $600,000. The judge found that the plaintiff “acknowledged that the parties’ situation as a same-sex couple had significant legal implications, noting that they changed the title to the house because ‘the law is so unclear with respect to gay families that I wanted to make sure that should I die, no
The plaintiff stated that she had no sense of urgency to formalize the relationship to the child because she never imagined a possible threat to her parental status.
The defendant testified that visitation resumed within approximately one week.
On August 7, 2003, the defendant filed an answer and counterclaim in which she sought, among other things, visitation as commensurate with the child’s physical and emotional needs, full legal and physical custody, and child support. On May 5, 2004, the plaintiff, with leave, filed an amended complaint in which she described in greater detail the background of the case. On July 22, 2005, the defendant, with leave, filed a late amended answer and a counterclaim for full legal and physical custody, with no child support obligation. It is the amended verified complaint, amended answer, and counterclaim that we consider here.
The order, among other things, gave the plaintiff visitation with the child on Mondays and Wednesdays from 9 a.m. until 5 p.m., ordered the plaintiff to pay the mortgage on the joint home and permitted her to use $900 a month from rental income as partial payment of child support, with an additional $285 to be paid each week. The order noted that the parties had represented a willingness for an order of child support to enter.
Specifically, the judge ordered the GAL to address the following issues: “1. Do the health and happiness of the minor child require ongoing contact with [the plaintiff]? 2. In the event that the answer to number 1 . . . is in the affirmative, what contact would promote the child’s best interest? 3. As the current state of the law in the Commonwealth does not recognize rights of custody in de facto parents, the Guardians ad litem shall not investigate any issues related to custody.”
In an attempt to keep the temporary visitation order first entered in August, 2003, in effect while the appeal was pending, the plaintiff moved in the Appeals Court to stay the judgment of the Probate and Family Court pending appeal. A single justice issued a stay pending appeal; she stated in her order “that a substantial case has been presented for viewing the challenged judgment as legally erroneous, an abuse of discretion, and contrary to the child's best interests.” While the case was still pending in the Appeals Court,
It is axiomatic that the touchstone of our child welfare laws is the best interests of the child. The best interests of the child standard, however, is not a catch-all vessel into which any assertion of rights to the care and custody of a child is entitled to flow. In the context of a de facto parent claim, the best interests standard comes into play only after a judge has determined that a “significant preexisting relationship” has created the requisite parent-child attachment that argues for visitation. See, e.g., E.N.O. v. L.M.M., 429 Mass. 824, 829 (1999).
The ALI Principles define a “de facto parent” as “an individual other than a legal parent or a parent by estoppel who, for a significant period of time not less than two years, (i) lived with the child, and (ii) for reasons other than financial compensation, and with the agreement of a legal parent to form a parent-child relationship, or as a result of a complete failure or inability of any legal parent to perform caretaking functions, (A) regularly performed a majority of the caretaking functions for the child, or (B) regularly performed a share of caretaking functions at least as great as that of the parent with whom the child primarily lived.” ALI Principles, supra at § 2.03 (1) (c). In Blixt v.
The defendant asks that we adopt the two-year requirement for a finding of de facto parent status. In light of our conclusion that the plaintiff has not met her burden on other grounds of proving that she is the child’s de facto parent, we express no opinion on the two-year requirement.
Several times during the proceedings, although not in her findings of fact or rationale, the judge expressed concern that the prolonged course of temporary visitation and a GAL investigation, in addition to the parties’ litigiousness, could itself become a tool of litigation strategy. We express no opinion on this matter. It need hardly be emphasized that the attorney’s ethical duty zealously to represent the client in a custody or visitation matter is not a license to adopt strategies and tactics reasonably likely to create a situation of prolonged destabilization and uncertainty in contravention of the child’s best interests. See, e.g., Care & Protection of Georgette, 439 Mass. 28, 30 (2003) (noting that vulnerable children “incur harm as the result of unnecessarily waiting for a final determination of status”). Cf. Youmans v. Ramos, 429 Mass. 774, 786 n.22 (1999) (incumbent on adults to work together to ensure child “not be pulled in different directions or otherwise suffer trauma” because the parties hold different views).
From what we have said, it should be clear that the separation of parenting and caretaking functions is not appropriate in the context of a custody dispute between two legal parents. See, e.g., G. L. c. 208, § 28.
Although the plaintiff claims that the temporary order to pay child support is sufficient to establish her status as a parent by estoppel, and although we decline to recognize parentage by estoppel, we emphasize that child support does not create parental rights but rather stems from them. As we discuss below, the judge who issued the temporary order of child support expressly declined the plaintiffs request to make a finding that she was a de facto parent.
ALI Principles, supra at § 2.03 (1) (b) (iii), the most relevant definition of parent by estoppel here, “contemplates the situation of two cohabiting adults who undertake to raise a child together, with equal rights and responsibilities as parents. Adoption is the clearer, and thus preferred, legal avenue for recognition of such parent-child relationships, but adoption is sometimes not legally available or possible, especially if one of the adults is still married to another, or if the adults are both women, or both men. Neither the unavailability of adoption nor the failure to adopt when adoption would have been available forecloses parent-by-estoppel status. However, the failure to adopt when adoption was available may be relevant to whether an agreement was intended.” ALI Principles, § 2.03 comment b (iii), at 114.
When asked at oral argument to provide a case from any jurisdiction in which “full blown status of parent” was granted under a parent by estoppel theory, the plaintiff’s counsel cited to Matter of the Parentage of L.B., 155 Wash. 2d 679 (2005), cert. denied sub nom. Britain v. Carvin, 126 S. Ct. 2021 (2006), a case that does not grant such rights. We have not been able to locate an appellate case to support such a proposition.
To the extent that the plaintiff relies on the defendant’s actions and statements out of court to prove the existence of a binding agreement to coparent, we have considered and rejected those claims.
In both her original answer and counterclaim and in her amended answer and counterclaim the defendant admitted that it is in the child’s best interests to have visitation with the plaintiff “commensurate with the [cjhild’s physical and emotional development.”
For her part, the defendant points out, correctly, that at the same emergency hearing, the plaintiff’s attorney told the judge that the plaintiff “is not coming in looking for significance of a parental role.”
The plaintiff does not argue that the statements at issue constitute judicial admissions, see, e.g., Rogel v. Collinson, 54 Mass. App. Ct. 304, 312 (2002),
At both the initial emergency hearing in August, 2003, and on the plaintiff’s subsequent motion to clarify that order, the motion judge rejected the plaintiffs request to rule, based on the statements of the defendant’s then-attorney, that the plaintiff was the child’s de facto parent. A single justice of the Appeals Court also denied the plaintiff’s request to draw from the defendant’s counsel’s statements a conclusion of law, prior to trial, that the plaintiff was the child’s de facto parent. Throughout much of the litigation, however, the defendant took the position that visitation was detrimental to the child, a conclusion the judge arrived at after trial.